Dating Tips For Women Of All Ages

I can’t tell you how many women have asked me the same question: “Why do I only seem to EVER meet guys that are completely the wrong age for me?”

Or to put it more simply (as one client asked me): “Where are all the great, single, 40-year old men hiding??”

Like it or not, we all know that age is a factor in dating. But so many people waste years moaning about where they are in life (I’m too old, I’m too young…) instead of doing something about it.


Often it’s not about age at all. We use that as our crutch, when really, if we’re truly honest with ourselves, maybe we just aren’t being pro-active enough right now and investing in the CRUCIAL STRATEGIES that would bring us closer to finding love.

So in this video, I’m sharing some down-to-earth, PRACTICAL tips for finding a guy no matter what age you are.

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  1. Dennis says:

    Hey,
    Thanks so much for these dating tips! It can be hard to join the dating scene, but these tips were very helpful! Low self-confidence is a trademark symbol that many people want to avoid in a partner.
    Best,
    Dennis

  2. Toni says:

    Hi Matt
    I just wanted to let you know that I absolutely adore that color shirt on you – looking good!

  3. Misa says:

    Hi Matthew,

    thank you very much for what you are doing! You tick all: not only love guru, but also life advisor, confidence advisor etc.

    Love this advice especially, it brings joy and also depth to the whole process. In fact, it happened to me already and quiet unexpectedly. I joined a self-defense class with mixed feelings of what I am even doing there because I never was into fights and boxing and kicking (all was included), and in the end I found there great people as one of my current best friends or very interesting guys that made this whole experience unforgettable.

    So girls and women, lets go and put ourselves out there to new experiences and amazing people :)

  4. Janis says:

    Thank you for the wonderful advice. I am 55 and totally relate to all you said. So practical to do more of what I already do and make it more social. I am going to try out for senior Olympic event here in NM. This is one of my dreams and I am going for it. Thanks so much for sharing your ideas in such a natural refreshing way!

  5. Lori Wigsten says:

    Matt, I like your advice and I have done this in my life, but I still have to agree with this woman.I think that for my age group it is much more difficult. I f you look at meetup groups often have more woman who sign up then men. So although I think your give get advice, I still think that some of this is a numbers game.

  6. Feebee says:

    Hi Matt

    I’m currently dating a guy who doesn’t have Permanent residence, and it will be hard for him to get PR. How do I know if he is genuine and sincere with me, and not have the sole agenda of being with me to get PR later down the track????

  7. Anonym says:

    Hey matt.
    I am on a School, in Denmark there is a type of School where a lot of People at my age there come to get away from home and live with other Young People.
    There is a lot of activities on my School, both brainy, and creative class. It Called, højskole, or direct translation High School, but it isn’t a hughs School like in England.
    Anyways i am on a School like that, there Are 130 students. And my point is, i still dont meet the right men, or og i Think i do they Are taken.
    So i Can meet a lot of guys with same interrest AS you, there Are so Many diffrent activities so there is allways something new and exiting things to talk about, i just don’t find and attract guys for some reason right now. Maby its because i reasentley was in love with one of my Best friends, who i thought maybe could be the guy in my live, even though he wasn’t interested in a relationships with me, i still Think he flirts, and that makes me have to get over him a bit after i have seen him, but i am good at that because i am in a place now where i Can Think and stat away from him in a While so my feelings dissapear. But i dont now what i am doing wrong, i do my things i never drop everything i have to be with a guy, the guys Like spending time with me, they Are Having fun and we have interesting convestations, but how come i cant Seem to make it work?? I have Been single for 5 years, i am not the boys buddy, like, i act like a lady. But Maybe i am to afraid to flirt, and thats the problem. Dont know, hope you Will make a video to US who Are in this situation

  8. Loraine says:

    Thanks Matt for that video and all your other videos !! I enjoyed listening to it and the others but I have tried sime of your suggestions and found they work . Very excited about all that is happening!!
    Loraine

  9. Laurel Arnold says:

    Matthew, that has got to be some of the most sensible advice you’ve given out in regards to dating. Bringing realization that you should enjoy life the way you wish and do the things that fulfill your own heart’s desires, and at the same time, will broaden your social network which offers more opportunity and a possible chance of meeting someone that even has common interest. I myself am in my 50s and in a college town. Knowing that the bar scene is not for me, I have been following this advice on my own, feeling it ‘s that or be miserable, hoping things will eventually take course. It is refreshing to hear you speak of this advice & reassuring I’m on the right track. Thanks for all you do.

  10. Ha says:

    Thanks again Matt :)

  11. Louise says:

    I have always been fully aware that you should go to places and do things of interest which will lead to meeting someone. Only I dont have the finances to be able to do anything especially after paying out rent, food and fuel for the month. Leaves me nothing to go and do things that interest me…like going to the theatre.

  12. Allie says:

    Matt you are very wise! I’m one of those women in their 20s and 30s who is getting approached by men old enough to be my Dad (or sometimes grandad!) and can never understand why they aren’t interested in the wonderful women their own age. I also find myself wondering where all the guys in their 30s are.

    It’s true that doing the things you love and perhaps meeting new people along the way is always a good plan. No reason to put off the things you’ve always wanted to do until you’ve got the perfect relationship or friendship group.

    Seeing as you always give such good advice, Matt, I was wondering if you could shed some insight as to why people routinely get left out of their friends plans? I can’t believe I’m an adult and still finding myself in the position of finding out friends have met up and I was the only one not invited. I must be doing something wrong right? I’m not going to lie, it hurts and I often ask myself what is wrong with me that I’m not as valued as the rest of my friendship group. It’s not just this friendship group, it’s others too. If I don’t call, text, make plans etc friends don’t make the effort with me or I get left out. It’s really given me a complex. I’d be so grateful for some insight. Thank you x

  13. anon says:

    Excellent video Matt. You inspire me!

  14. Micky Gianfrancesco says:

    I’m 48 and can totally relate to this problem. Brilliant advice Matt, thank you. Love your words of wisdom – so pleased I stumbled across you :)

  15. Rebecka says:

    Hi Matt,

    I’m a 24 year old girl that is attracted to a man of 42 years old, he happens to be a previous uni-mentor of mine (he is single). I have never felt this way about anyone, and it is not easy for me to get interested- let alone have a crush on someone.

    But I feel that there is something special about this man. I am aware of the huge age gap, but you see, I feel much older than I am and I know that he feels younger than his age, and I have felt some sort of tension between us but since it is some sort of “inappropriate” situation, I haven’t acted on it, and don’t know if I will or should.

    I have caught him staring a couple of times and when I make eye contact he looks away quickly as if he is embarrassed that I caught him, sometimes he even pretends he hasn’t seen me even though we made a quick eye contact. Also, the looks that I have gotten and the way that he is and spoke to me- even when he was a mentor, have been a bit unusual to other students (I got that confirmed). I am a very realistic person so I know that I’m not seeing what I want to see, I usually can determine a guys mind-set since I’ve had a lot of many male friends that I’ve hung with, but this one is pretty hard cause of the position and the age gap.

    So what am I supposed to do, feel or think? It is really distracting. I’m not the type of woman that looks for a fling, I’m more of a serious-long term relationship kind of person. Could it ever be possible that he is a bit interested? He is a very respectable person and kind of shy, very reserved so I know he is not the douchy kind of person.
    I really appreciate you help!

    Sincerely,
    Rebecka

    • Rebecka says:

      Hi Matt,

      I’m a 24 year old girl that is attracted to a man of 42 years old, he happens to be a previous uni-mentor of mine (he is single). I have never felt this way about anyone, and it is not easy for me to get interested- let alone have a crush on someone.

      But I feel that there is something special about this man. I am aware of the huge age gap, but you see, I feel much older than I am and I know that he feels younger than his age, and I have felt some sort of tension between us but since it is some sort of “inappropriate” situation, I haven’t acted on it, and don’t know if I will or should.

      I have caught him staring a couple of times and when I make eye contact he looks away quickly as if he is embarrassed that I caught him, sometimes he even pretends he hasn’t seen me even though we made a quick eye contact. Also, the looks that I have gotten and the way that he is and spoke to me- even when he was a mentor, have been a bit unusual to other students (I got that confirmed). I am a very realistic person so I know that I’m not seeing what I want to see, I usually can determine a guys mind-set since I’ve had a lot of many male friends that I’ve hung with, but this one is pretty hard cause of the position and the age gap.

      So what am I supposed to do, feel or think? It is really distracting. I’m not the type of woman that looks for a fling, I’m more of a serious-long term relationship kind of person. Could it ever be possible that he is a bit interested? He is a very respectable person and kind of shy, very reserved so I know he is not the douchy kind of person.
      I really appreciate you help!

      Sincerely,
      Rebecka

  16. Leona says:

    This is so me. Thanks for the reminder Matt. I’m on Bumble and I’ve been complaining about not getting enough matches with my friends. I’ve taken up writing over the past few years, but that usually means sitting in my room in front of my laptop more than getting out and socializing. I belong to a writing group, but I could also be taking my laptop to a coffee shop or attending some writing workshops. Great advice as always.

  17. Wendy says:

    Mathew and team, I am about to give up my boyfriend because he is addicted to talking on the net to his stock friends 24 /7. I only see him twice a week for less then total 6 hours. Stocks are his passion so I respect that I even got him a job connection through my professional network. I have my passions too..I am not sitting around on week days I am very busy. We talk daily on the phone. We were engaged but was on hold for he wasn’t ready
    I never pushed the issue it was his choice. I am not ready for marriage but I want more then a boyfriend pnly giving me few hours on weekend. I have studied your videos ,practiced skills and currently improving myself with your program impact. I am a beautiful, intelligent women with my own passions . I have a great sense humor on life and try to live my life to my best internal levels of my soul. I have my standards but not sure if they are

    realistic for today’s world. Your thoughts…

    • Emily says:

      Ugh. I feel you. If it’s not the stock market then it’s a guy’s tech job, or journalism or football. In our fast-paced world, I feel it’s nearly impossible even to plan time with friends sometimes, let alone give a significant other more than a coffee date once a week or so. But then I turn the question around and realize I don’t have much space in my schedule either.

  18. Susan says:

    Great advice. I am 56 and was widowed 4 years ago. My husband was an alcoholic and the last few years of our marriage left me in a terrible state, not knowing who or what I was any more. I fell into another relationship quickly with an old friend who helped me deal with the bereavement, but was not a good long term prospect as a partner. Like the woman in your video, I also feel that I have a lot of my life left and want to share it with someone.
    For the past couple of years I have done exactly what Matthew recommends – I’ve got out of the house and joined all sorts of groups and met all kinds of new people, including a couple of good new female friends who had also found themselves single in their 50s. I took up cycling and did a 300 mile charity trip from London to Brussels – not only was that a great personal achievement but it gives me a good story to tell and impresses men!
    I did do a bit of online dating which gave me the opportunity to suss out more about the type of man I’m looking for and was god practice. Although I didn’t find anyone special I had no terrible dates, met some interesting men and had some nice coffees/dinners out.
    And guess what? For the past six months I’ve been happily developing a new relationship – with a guy who just happens to be renting the flat downstairs from me!!! If I hadn’t taken the steps to find my true self and keep on living my own life without expecting a man to be the answer to everything, I don’t think I’d have had the confidence to ask him to help me mend a puncture :)
    Thanks for your advice Matthew – your straightforward no-nonsense approach is refreshing!

  19. Elke says:

    Dear Matt
    thank you for your interesting videos and all those ideas you have. I have to confess that most of the time I’m watching the videos because I like the way you’re speaking, your pronounciation and the way of explanation – every time I’m learning from you and use it in my job and in talking to other people – my background is not English :)
    According to your current video I can confirm what you’re saying here. I had the experience that when you’re doing things you’re into or you always wanted to do you are more easy going and in a certain way forget your ‘ big target’ to meet the right people. They simply will be there – no matter what age.
    I hope I will be able to join one of your ‘camps’ once.
    By the way I like the kitchen in the background – best place for communication.
    Elke X

  20. Aggie says:

    Hii Matt,
    Thank you so much for this video post..Being in my late 40’s I do understand and feel this story..The one positive thing that came after watching this video is that I realized that I do have a list of thing that I need to do before I die…Not only the scope of my dating love life but in others areas..It is very real and correct as even in my 40’s, I still have many many more years to live..Even though now I am still single but I still hopefully in finding that just one right man for me..

  21. Jo says:

    As a 48yr old I totally relate to the situation.

    But you’re right, I go to the gym, with my iPod on and don’t do classes.
    I HAVE started working through my bucket list….. I travelled to Australia this year, BUT I have two teenage daughters and they go with me…… I don’t want to go without them, but I’m not sure it’s helping my dating prospects ( although it’s not harming my 17year olds !)

  22. Crystal Winnie says:

    Sad that i couldn’t watch your videos in Shanghai … I used to live in HK and it’s all fine but not in China :(

  23. scotcherlady@hotmail.co.uk says:

    Hi Matt, thank you for your video today, yes i am also in my 50s, with no success in dating, so i have gone back to competitive dog training. bought border collie puppy. and have started living again . if i should meet a man with same interest in dog training i would be very happy. bye for now Julie from Nottingham uk

  24. Kimberly says:

    Just this afternoon I received 2 e mails from members on match who were interested in me. I am 50 years old. One man was 62, the other 45. This seems to be an ongoing scenerio for me, either men much younger ( some as young as 32) and men much older than my posted preferred age span. I am young looking for my age and in great shape and healthy and I am seeking a man with some common interests and also takes care of his health. Perfect irony you released this today, as I was thinking along the same lines as the woman you mentioned. Thank you!!!

  25. Julie MacKenzie says:

    What a wonderful video! Have been approached by men way younger than me??? Want to find men than are closer to my age… ;)

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