Women often ask me, “Matt, you give all this great advice for women to be high-value, but how do I tell if HE’S an incredible man worthy of a relationship with ME?”
Ok, I’ll bite.
80% of a happy relationship is choosing the right person in the first place, so this issue couldn’t be more important for women who want to find lasting love.
In this week’s video, I join forces with my brother Stephen Hussey (co-author of Get The Guy) to talk about the 6 SURE SIGNS you’re dating a high value guy, so that you can spot when he’s truly someone worth investing in.
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Thanks a lot for this, this was excellent! Both looking good ;) loved both of your energy!
He shows patience when he tries to teach you something. Someone who gets frustrated easily and gets angry is not going to be pleasant to be around or a good father and will end up causing arguments because your a team and will always find things you need to do together . bleeding brakes for example. This transfers to the bedroom as well.
He puts you first and you him.
make sure he knows he is safe, respected.
Don’t use words to be each ther on the defense in a disagreement. Use I feel like this when this happens it keeps the blame off each other and on the issue instead.
In addition to the points mentioned in the video I would like to add a lack of jealousy. For me that means he’s secure enough in his own skin that he doesn’t have the need to measure himself up to other people, be it your friends, colleagues or your ex boyfriends. That he knows that if you’re in a relationship with him, it’s because that’s where you want to be.
Also in my books, very important: That the man says what he means, and means what he says. This means two things: 1) that there’s a consistency between actions and words, and 2) he’s willing to communicate – with words – when he has a problem.
To follow through with whatever he says he is going to do.
Someone who is empathetic
He knows why he does the things he do or if not, searching for their reasons.
He is honest and agrees with me when I say I should not (and I am not) going to wait for him to make up his mind (due to he is “not ready for a relationship”). Instead of lying or persuading in order to keep what he has had for a little while longer. “Hat off” for that at least!
Here’s 4
1. He actually phones instead of texting
2. He compliments other attributes other than your beauty
3. He isn’t surgically attached to his phone and living his life through social media.
4. He lets you touch his thang on a first date to see what you’re getting! …. Joking!
I would add that a high value man respects his mother, you can always tell a lot about a man by the way he treats his mother!
He should not lose control of his judgement when he gets angry.he should stay sane when he gets angry. He should also accept the woman for what she is, and not expect her to work towards his idea of what she should be. He should be her support system and comfort her she he senses tense vibes from her. He should be empathetic to how she is feeling.
This was a fabulous video and I am impressed by the loving and collaborative dynamics between you two brothers. Please do more videos together!
One thing I would add regarding a high quality man (from my own personal experience) is a man who has healthy self awareness and excellent communication skills. He isn’t afraid to open up, express his feelings and actively listens to what his partner has to say.
Thats brilliant! Thank you! Yet to confirm my guy is a high value man
When you calmly ask for either an explanation or a reason or even want to know how he feels about something, he says he needs time to think about it. He says he will get back to you when he has time to ” wrap his head around it”. He then never gets back to you. You don’t ask because it’s taken X amount of tries just to get him to have a discussion in the first place. So….. does he not care, or care about your feelings or just forgot. So your left hanging….again!
He helps me in building up my dreams too…is a trait that I would live to see in my partner.
He is secure. He can be himself however he is and not fear that every other man around is trying to steal his girlfriend. Once I dated someone who I thought was amazing in every way, but the second another guy was within a 5m radius he would be all over me (not from desire but just desiring to show ownership). I ended that ASAP.
Also, a high value man sets reasonable boundaries. Guys always say ‘nice guys finish last’, but it’s not true- guys with no boundaries finish last. When we push and test to see where the line is (and we will!) – there is a line. And it is firmly drawn, not mutable. I always thought I wanted a man who would grant my every wish, but now I know that I needed a man who is strong enough to kindly and firmly say no when I’m being deliberately ridiculous.
Also, great post! I like the interactions between you brothers.
I would add that he does what he says he will do. Talk is often cheap! If a man promises high and delivers low, it shows a lack of integrity, which is never good.
A high value man challenges, supports and expects you to be your best self.
This dawned on me when I told a guy that my work wrote an article about me and he said I was bragging. I realized if he doesn’t want me to feel good about myself he is not the guy for me.
He doesn’t text me. He calls me.
He should be responsible and dependable and true to his word. If he says he is going to do a certain thing, he will. What comes out of his mouth should mean something. Thank you Matt and Steve x