How To Get A Guy To Like You: Learn these 2 simple words…

You wouldn’t believe how many women read every blog, watch every YouTube video, and follow every Facebook post I put out, and yet still say:

“Yeah, Matt… I get it. But there’s this one guy that I really like…”

And because they’re so head-over-heels for this man, all of the advice goes out of the window.

In this week’s video, I’m about to reveal 2 simple words that will tell you everything you need to know about men and how to get the love you really deserve…



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  1. Erika says:

    I agree 100% with you. Since I follow your advices, my love life is better. I met someone that I’m keeping and doing my best to not lose.

    Last night he knew I was upset with him and I left my phone turned off in my bag. Away from me. I went dancing with friends. He knew where I was and he showed up there just to see me.

    I will always try to not adapt myself for anyone. I don’t want to lose my self respect and I know that there are billions of people in the world…

  2. Tinka says:

    Good advice as usual

  3. Syd says:

    Sex is not a dirty act. It is love.

    Fucking is love too.

    Just don’t do it with the wrong person.

    Oxytocin. Matthew we shalst care when we have “sex” with a person. My friend taught me well.

  4. Syd says:

    Of course the video is about sex.

    It is ALL interconnected, dumbass.

  5. asal says:

    good video matt
    but I can 100% bet you “some guys only look for TV and candy”
    I had a boyfriend.he never wanted to be with me.he wasn’t monogamous

    after a few month he left me looking for TV and candy in other girls(my religion didn’t allow me to give him TV and candy before marriage)

    and his friend told me : he wants TV and candy.if you wait, he’ll marry you in future

    but he doesn’t want to be with you right now(he doesn’t like you to see him with other girls until marriage)

    answer me matthew or anybody please.what do you think about these kind of men.he loved me but he was not least until age of 30 or 40.that’s very sad

    • Syd says:

      His friend sounds like an amazing person. Count your blessings and use sex to bond with the right man. Meantime, TV and candy with any man until your figure him out but don’t give him any candy. Just watch.

      Observation is always good prior to approaching the bench.

      • Syd says:

        Don’t give up anything really delicious to a guy that you may regret in 30 years time… Like a career, your heart, your happiness, your virginity. And kissing is dangerous. That’s why most kids do it in middle school or make out in high school. It’s like a game for them. At 29 or 30, with the ticking biological clock, attraction is insane. It is best to respect the clock and have a healthy fear of oxytocin bonding with the wrong man.

        Who is the wrong man? It’s the man who impresses you and has won you over with his love and flirtation and advances but he may be demonstrating in his personal life that his character is not up to par. :( it’s always sad and disappointing when that happens but you have to do the right thing. Always.

        Do a right thing. :)

        Have a happy Sunday everyone :-)

  6. Mia says:

    “Respect is, ‘I don’t just like you, I want to BE like you.'”
    Preach! lol very on point with this message, about people pleasing, and hearing what someone (anyone really) wants in the moment versus knowing what they/we need for long-term relational health. And of course with romance most of us smh, just get struck dumb and blind.
    But you don’t lie! Love it. Amen, brother, keep it coming.

  7. M says:

    Wow! That was so insightful.

  8. Julie MacKenzie says:

    I love this video! Thanks Matthew! Certainly a different angle to look at it…Hugs! Looking forward to the next video….;) <3

  9. Wendy says:

    Fantastic advice, Matthew! Well said, I think. I love when you delve into psychological aspect of a man’s psyche.

  10. kobbs says:

    Great video. Thanks for helping to raise the bar in relationships – both for men and for women.

  11. A. says:

    Ah, Matthew. So true, so true.

    Sometimes *I’m* the one who wants the TV and candy. I’ll be straight up. And he knows that. So a lot of it is reigning in my own excitement. (Not talking about sex, btw, but just the excitement of meeting a great person.)

    It’s been interesting with this latest guy. I’ll let you know how it goes. :-)

    • Syd says:

      I hope to feel like that about someone, someday but I can’t allow myself to love anyone who conflicts with my goals

  12. Marita says:

    Oh this is really so true! I see now the name of the game with a guy i’m dating. Thank you Matt!

  13. Ijeoma Okere says:

    Absolutely great video,Matt!Eye-opening and very well explained.Thank you for that!

  14. Cindy says:

    I like the message as it leaves is something to think about. However, I can answer the question but it leaves me with more questions such as how I am I suppose to make sure I still give the person I’m with what he wants and still meet the what he needs. For example you brought up sex – well if I think that is all he wants and one holds back knowing you want to be what he needs not just what he wants. I hope I made sense. Looking forward to hearing more to peel the onion back

    • Emma says:

      Hi Cindy!

      I am not matt for sure but I think I get what you meant. When I started watching Matt’s videos I felt kind of the same : “how can I get that guy to want more and all”. Last year, I met someone who said straight away they didn’t want to be in a relationship. I had just got out of a 6 years relationship myself, so a one night thing sounded great because I didn’t want anything serious either. Thing is, he then called me back saying he wanted to see me again. I had never ever done casual dating before (I am french maybe that’s why ;) ) but thought why not ! Anyways we ended up being stuck in a relationship limbo where he would text me almost everyday to talk about his day and life, asking me for advise and what not, we would meet twice a week talk so much that I got to know him but it was not a real relationship either… I didn’t know this blog at the time but I could feel I was starting to like that guy, but that something was weired… So I asked him what he wanted and if he had change his mind? He said that he liked me a lot but he couldn’t commit right now. So I walked away. I told him I understood but since I was starting to like him and wanted to get to know him better I would rather stop seeing him since we were not on the same page anymore. I told him it had been great and wished him the best. This was in 2016. A month ago I found matthew’s video and it got me thinking about that guy again and wondering where did I went wrong, what could I have done to keep him. It now downs on me that what I did was just right, because the difficulty of this genius concept of Matt is that it also implies to “lose” that guy we like sooo much and be strong enough that we are worth more and that we can meet someone who will love us and respect us as much as we love and respect them. And it is sooo hard to give up and walk away. I stayed with this guy 5 months before I walked away, and if I am being honest a part of me still is damn he was great, but that’s where I am like, Emma you never really got to know that guy so you like the idea of him more than you can say you like him. I keep on dating, I reject people, I get rejected, it’s part of life, it’s not easy but the bottom line is, this guy you are seeing, I don’t know how long it’s been, or anything but if you feel you are in the limbo I will really encourage you to confront him but if you do you also need to be ready to walk way, which is the hard part, and @Matthew, correct me if I am wrong, but I feel that this is the essens of your message, be prepared to walk away, because this is the only way to respect your self and put your self first :) and obviously meet someone better suited for you in the long run. I swear to you it is better in the long run :) And obviously I am not saying it is a game based on tricks and all I sooo don’t believe in strategies and all that bullshit it really just is about respecting yourself and to not accept things when you think this is not ok for you. This is really personnal, it’s listening to yourself and never be afraid to speak to the other person about how you want things to be, but then be sure to respect yourself and if needed walk away. If he comes back then you know the guy really likes you if he doesn’t it’s not the guy for you :) I hope my (very long, sorry) message can help you or guide you in a way. I only have very little context on your story so I don’t know but I am a girl’s girl so I am all about empowering women and being supportive to one another so be assured that this comes from a place of love :) I hope you will get your guy :) Take Care Emma

      • Mia says:

        I second Cindy’s question, but have to say: right on Emma! We mustn’t lose our common sense or self-respect or fail to practice the sound advice we would give a friend. So I wanted to thank you Emma for sharing your personal story, one with a PROPER happy ending lol. But seriously, I applaud you for sticking to your standards and leaving available for a different, better man that space he was taking up (reaping the emotional and sexual rewards of a relationship sounds like, without having to deal with any of the true work required for a functional happy one).
        well. that was wordy, but really, just thanks! I loved what you wrote, in reply to an important question many of us deal with frequently.
        “I’m with HER.” ;)

        • Syd says:


          Close the tap, ladies. Make sure he can pay the tab. And that means commitment and being YOUR man.

          If not, then he’s a fuck boy. :( and so many of them trade intimacy for sex. Sleep with their young vulnerable direct reports at work. And the idiots think they are so powerful for having traded self respect to get ahead in their “career” or outsmarted the wife who is boss, she is queen.

          Sorry to vent

          • Syd says:

            I have a meeting with this moron on Monday I dread I dread I dread

            Abuse of power is sick.

            And that is what a man does when he has you by your emotional balls.

            Make sure he’s your man.

            This is strike three at work of the married men pretending to be single program. I fall too quickly and I don’t gather enough evidence. I am going to make this a great leaning opportunity/lesson for kicking ass Part 3

            Part 1 – he loved me and I guilt tripped him. Oops
            Part 2 – I went to HR and gave him a GOOD scare
            Part 3 – ? TBD


            Stay angry and thirsty but don’t leave hungry.

  15. Mariani says:

    You are always amazing. This video really open my eyes and my mind. Thank you very much Matthew. I really appreciate you and your hard work to help women around the world.

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