Maybe it’s happened to you before: you knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him.
How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction…
The day I had to do some check up tests ..,he had to go to his village for a job the day befor. Although I told him I was doing fin because it is not something serious,he drove four hours befor down to be by my side for my blood tests. This was very thoughtful very carryingvery tender very committed very loving very…everything!!!
Hiking a track to see a waterfall with my good male friend once and he kept walking off the track into the bushes, eventually I figured out what he was doing, he was picking up litter and putting it in his back pack for when we would finally find a rubbish bin. The respect he showed for his surroundings was strangely a big turn on…
And I have another one (u might find this odd)
I had a boyfriend of 9years whom I lived with and was ALWAYS scolded by him when I’d pee with the door open or if he would walk in on me by accident, but then we split up and I eventually met someone new (my now boyfriend) and the first time we had slept together I’d spent the night at his, morning came. I needed to use the bathroom, he followed me in some minutes later to brush his teeth. When he walked in on me my automatic response was to apologise he shrugged his shoulders and said “for what?”, and while I sat there on the toilet he bent down and kissed my forehead and that’s when I decided he was THE ONE for me!! Pure acceptance for me being human like everyone else who needs the loo in the morning :)
Leaving a comment about “Everytjung you know about attraction is wrong”: the moment I felt huge attraction to the guy I started dating was when he told me that he planned in advance for his roommate to come upstairs at a certain time when I was visiting his apartment to meet me. This was hugely attractive to me because it was a sign of respect to both his roommate and me. Respect to his roommates time and space and respect to me as who I represented in his life—important enough to have a prearranged introduction.
I was just getting to know a guy. We were texting back and forth a lot and most of it was very light-hearted, joking around, picking on each other, etc. One day, I was having a bad day. He immediately recognized that I wasn’t myself over text and asked me what was wrong. I was so impressed by the fact that he recognized that something was off over a text message – without even seeing me face to face – that it made my attraction toward him sky-rocket.
Stopped by to see a guy I’d been dating for a couple of weeks and his six year old daughter was there. She had a boogie and he just went after it ( with a tissue of course) I don’t know what it was about that moment but it changed the way I saw him. I am immensely attracted to him now more than ever!
Absolutely right! My husband told me he felt for all those little things when weve been dating. Like when the lad in front of us in the bus had forgotten his wallet but needed to take the bus, I paid for it or while he was staying over the first night (was like an emergency), he looked at me with that “I want to kiss you” look but I told him, I would not kiss him
unless its the right, special moment. He said he admired me for being so brave and ‘exclusive’.
Hey Matt,
Thanks for a brilliant and such an accurate consept of attraction!
I was seeing this one man mainly for fun and sexual benefits as I was leaving the country in a couple of months.
I tried hard to not develop any romantic feelings towards him but he made it very difficult for me, here’s one example:
After having a night together, he suggested he could show me around the surroundings of the city by his car so I could visit places which I hadnt yet seen. I had already promised to do some last explorations with my friends so could not go with him on that weekends. He then suggested that what if I take his car and go with my friends instead.
For me it was a very kind, genuine and selfless gesture! Especially when we werent openly dating or anything. That was one of the moments when I started to see him more than just a ”sex buddy” as he charmed me by his kindness and generosity.
I recently met a guy online and we haven’t met in person yet. The first time we spoke on the phone he was in the middle of a conversation with his young daughter. I felt myself becoming more attracted to him while listening to the amazing relationship he has with his daughter. Now if I could get him to make time for us to meet, that would be great! I’m about to see if you have any videos with tips on that!
I got attracted when he was on the bus and texted me at 5:40am.
I recently met a guy online and we haven’t met in person yet. The first time we spoke on the phone he was in the middle of a conversation with his young daughter when he answered the phone. I felt myself becoming more attracted to him while listening to the amazing relationship he has with his daughter. Now if I could get him to make time for us to meet, that would be great! I’m about to see if you have any videos with tips on that!
The best value post you have published.
A micro moment of attraction I experienced was when the man I am interested in opened up to me and shared a painful experience in his life that he hadn’t told anyone else about. He’s trusted me with things that he didn’t even have to tell me. Trust and transparency mean a lot to me, especially since my marriage ended due to a lack of it, and it makes him gorgeous in my eyes.
The micro attraction i had on him is when I walk pass his office, door is half open and I saw him lean back on chair, man way cross leg, so focus reading his book.. I just Love watching him do so..
My Ex- i had one of emotional collapse days and had therapy for it ,he was waching me all the night and didn’t fall a sleep
During our conversation over a call even before we met I was coughing n he asked me to drink water. I told him I will take it later but he was too stern about it and many such incidence where is strict to me about my career.
unbelievable! thanks for sharing ;)
I was on a tinder date with this guy and wasn´t too sure about him at first, maybe a bit arrogant and sort of a player but to be fair, it was only the first date. I was telling the guy a story about my sister and asked him whether he had any siblings. He said no, no dad either, “just me and my mum”. On another date he was texting and then explaining to me that he just checked on his mum cause he got her a flight with his extra miles when she wanted to visit her mum who lived on the other side of the country. I thought that was very sweet and it showed that he was caring and close with his family and I was instantly more attracted to him. So I guess it´s true what you are saying in this video :) Moments like that where you can actually see the person, not their job, their money or status, that´s what gets you hooked.
he is not a calm and patient kind od guy but he’s always there to listen to my problems,maybe over and over again. he talks to me about his insecurity like his height his shape
I was already physically attracted to this guy, who was a client of mine. I took him to see a house that I was as trying to sell. While we were there I took some plants from the the front of the house to put them out back in the shade. There were 4 plants and I picked up 2. Without asking or being asked he pick up the other 2 and followed me
I met this guy during a rough spot in my life. After chatting quite a bit for a couple weeks, he called on a particular difficult evening. He sensed something was wrong and asked me if I was safe. I will never forget that.