Overcome Jealousy In 3 Minutes (iHeartRadio Preview)

I really shouldn’t be doing this, but I had to give you a sneak-preview of my new show ‘Love Life’ with iHeartRadio…

I had Jameson come along to the studio with me and film an entire episode so you can see exactly what the show’s going to be like (and why it’s so important to listen).

I’m so proud of what we’ve been able to do.

The show is going to be called ‘Love Life’ – not because it’s just about relationships, but about Loving Life in EVERY area.

The first show is going to be released THIS TUESDAY (October 1st). Be sure to check it out and sign up here:

http://www.iheart.com/talk/show/Love-Life-with-Matt-Hussey/

(Right now the show is only available in the US. It’s not in our power to change, but I will continue to get these videos posted from the show where possible for everyone to see them.)

Question Of The Day:

What unique combination of character traits do you have that sets you apart and makes you the package you are?

Let me know in the comments below!

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  2. Sophia says:

    What about this ? I would be grateful for some advice…

    I think my jelousy doesn’t stem from a low self-esteem, and I belive, that like any person, im one of a kind so if the person i’m with will choose somebody else he may leave, he is not for me than. but I’m really afraid of somebody having it both ways and this thought creates crazy jelousy in me.
    My boyfriend on the other side is a very attractive men with a lot of values and is crazily in love with me. Even though he lives abroad he comes to see me in my city every 5 days, is always attentive to all my needs, says he wants to spend his life with me. But- i see has a nature of WOMANZIER. And i’ve always hated men with this nature, he makes me crazily jelous and i’m thinking of breaking up with him cuz i think it’s a clear red flag and i should protect myself from enetring this visibly ‘dangerous’ ground.
    Red flages include mostly him keeping a gallery of his ex girlfriend on his phone year after a breakup(toxic relationship but very intense), accepting gift from her which she sent him recently to his home address! (he sad they r not in touch but she called him cuz she said bought it long time ago and prefers to give it than throw it out…) mentioning in a flattering way about one his favourite celebrity crash every time we meet, texting all the time his female friend which i dont know, and once saying something flirtatious to my cousin on a family meeting! It makes me wanna break up with him, but on the other side it’s not a real cheating and in every other matter he is really lovely, ready to sacrify his comfort and genuinely in love with me. I’m just afraid that a womanizer type doesnt have a problem to love one girl, but at the same time filrt/hit on others, it’s like it doesnt exclude itself.

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  6. July says:

    I usually find it hard to promote myself and to find words to describe myself, but currently I’m learning how important it is to just do it. Regardless of any feared consequences, because what matters most is that I’m true to myself and am proud of who I am as it leads to a certain carelessness about what others think about me. Don’t get me wrong, it is, of course, pleasurable to be complimented and liked by others, but I gave way too much power to it during the last years and have during that time never felt as happy and “at peace” with myself as I feel now.
    So, to get to the point:

    I think I am a unique combination of humor and fun, sprinkled with silliness and coloured with light-heartedness.
    I am good at listening and I can give advice individually, meaning that I try to take into account the individual person and situation and trying to understand it and find the best advice for that person in that moment.
    I am charismatic and I like to make people smile and laugh and enjoy themselves.
    Another character trait of mine, which I adore, is to see magic in the “little things”.
    To enjoy fresh air, the sights of the landscape, a walk, a smile from a stranger, a kid playing in the streets, busking musicians and many more.
    I can find happiness wherever I want.
    I’m smart and intelligent, I like to read and listen to music.
    I love dancing, especially barefoot, in the sands or when it’s raining.
    I like to let myself go and I think it is important or even essential to do so in a regular manner.
    I don’t take myself too serious.
    I am very emotional, I cry easily and for a whole bunch of different reasons. I am very sensitive and compassionate. I think this is where I need to take better care of myself sometimes, so I won’t suffer from other peoples bad experiences too much. But still I wouldn’t want to become half-hearted or indifferent.
    I like to feel. The good, the bad, the in-betweens…
    I like to compliment people and make small gifts to make others happy. Not so they would love me, but to give something to another, because I am happy with what I have and want to share my happiness.
    I love to love. I love love itself. It’s one of the most beautiful and disturbing “things” in this world.
    Physical contacts are substantial to me.
    This may be cuddling with a loved one throughout the night, hugging my best friends or simply touching a stranger on the shoulder in impulse when the situation is giving it away, not to be flirty, but to be human.
    I relish kissing a lot. Well, good kissing, obviously.
    With lots of emotion in it, that releases endorphins, which dance all through my body and leave me a bit dizzy, but also genuinely happy and calm.
    I am brilliant with children. Spending time with children can be the most funny and meditative thing you can do. They are so pure and direct in all their ways and actions. And I want to keep a part of this mindset to me until I stop breathing one day…
    I am outgoing and adventurous and my curiosity seems to have no end. And I love that.
    I am into being a woman and I embrace my femininity. I wouldn’t want to change it.
    And I am proud of who I am, I can stand my ground, fight for what I believe and burn for things I love.
    I can take other opinions into account and play with them in my mind, seeking for what I may learn from them to improve myself and my life, continuously.

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  8. Kim says:

    That was magical* Great advice. It’s difficult to find a guy who you can learn from these days so that’s a golden characteristic to possess; such a turn-on! lol

  9. Christina says:

    Your thought processes and ability to explain concepts are fantastic. Do you have a similar teaching program for men. I would love to share this information with my college aged son.

  10. Alexandra says:

    Thank you so much for that awesome video Matt! You always have the right advice in the right time and it’s precious. My unique combination of traits, I think is my softness and sweetness that goes together with some sarcasm and humor. I think I always make people feel great, loved and important. But I can always put people back to their place if they are being rude or mean.

  11. Megan says:

    Matt! It seems you always have a way of offering the exact advice I need to hear at the exact moment I need to hear it! Thank you soooo much for this one. I think it’s truly going to help my little neurotic brain that has a quick propensity to rush into the green area of jealousy and comparisons. Bless you!

  12. Jen says:

    Matt!!

    Absolutely love the radio show… i am an avid podcast listener and very excited to listen to you on the Radio! It was much needed!

  13. Laura says:

    I’m practical and have carpentry skills. When out, I can be a kid doing cartwheels, finding animals in the clouds and smelling the flowers. I love creating fun, exciting romantic adventures yet love being pampered in return. I’m very positive and love to dance, travel and meet new people and enjoy supporting my partner in his passions. Helping people get healthy in a fun way is a passion. I live up to my Gemini sign by enjoying work in the garden,sweating and being rather scruffy yet love to be dressed to the nines in glitz and glitter looking sexy and classy as we go to a play on Broadway.

  14. Annabelle says:

    im really disappointed because i tried signing up for the radio station but its not available in Canada :'( I hope you can still give us some inside scoops like these for the ones who cant access the iheart radio :D

  15. Luska says:

    This was a good video with lots of great points. Sometimes jealousy in a relationship is our intuition telling us that something is not right in the relationship. Sure, people can be irrationally jealous, but sometimes it is a signal that(as Matt mentions)this might not be the right person for you.

  16. Holly (the one that made everyone laugh) says:

    My friend just emailed me this link. It’s about how other people see you, which is a perfect follow-up to your video Matt!
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpaOjMXyJGk

  17. Princess says:

    Thanks for the clip – I have been really struggling with this issue lately and your advice was VERY timely. I don’t know if it will be a miracle cure for all my jealousy BUT it is certainly good food for thought, so thanks for that.
    Princess

  18. Nana says:

    Hi!

    This is a good advice for jealous moments, but not for cronically jealous people.

    It makes a lot of sense on a rational level, but I found the headline overpromising….3 minutes after and – althoug in agreement with what you said – I haven’t overcome jealousy.

    Fellings of insecurity seem to me not based on reality and self-analysis of features…but I don’t know also where they start, otherwise I could have resolved mine ;)

  19. Jill says:

    I totally missed the question of the day. I have to say I really like who I am :) There’s so many things that make me, well me. I have a great gift for being empathetic even as a child I could always feel others pain. I’ve never been one to back down from something I want and I’m extremely passionate about making my dreams a reality. Lately I’ve noticed that people tend to open up very easy around me and they also seem to follow even when I don’t want them to. I’m confident yet humble but I would have to say my love for others is what really makes me who I am. More then anything I want to leave this world a better place then I found it. Oh yeah I almost forgot, I don’t give up.

  20. Judy says:

    Matt, you are really, really cute! :D

  21. Mel says:

    Jameson went with you to the studio? The name rings a bell, have you maybe mentioned him before? :D

    Only kidding, it’s only cause I’m jealous – why can’t I establish myself as a legend without ever haven spoken a word? :P

  22. Kamilla says:

    Very interesting Matt! I totally agree. One tends to zoom in on one thing about another person (sometimes there are many).

    But I have to tell you something. Jealousy is a natural feeling. Its impossible to extinguish (we cant all be Dalai Lama!) and shouldnt be either. Handled properly on the other hand – yes. A small dose of jealosuy shows we care about our partner (no jealosuy at all wouldnt be that good) enough to want to keep them by our side. It protect our relationship boundaries. A healthy operating jealousy in our emotional makeup helps us find and keep trustworthy partners. And it also shows areas in wich we lack. Where we can improve! Insecurities that needs to be overcome. Nothing bad without some good in it Matt! :)

    Cheers!

    Love the radioshow idea!

    /Kami

  23. Stephanie says:

    Hi Matthew,

    Thanks to you I just had my first real boyfriend at the age of 21. Unfortunately, 3 months later he just dumped me through text message. Could you please make a video about relationships ending and getting over someone. I want to move on but I need a little guidance.

    Thanks!

    • Kamilla says:

      Allow yourself all the feelings you’re having. Dont feel guilty about any of it. Youre not the first person in history to have its heart broken and not the last! So it has all happened before. There are lots of music to choose from to really emerge into and let it all out.

      Cry a lot. Be angry at him! Wallow. Think through what happened. Dont put any pink shade on him or his behaviour but remember that he is a human being with both good and bad sides. Dont make him into just a total jerk (even tho he was one when he ended it!) Dont think about what you could have done differently, maybe you could have, maybe not. Who knows and it doesnt matter now anyway. Remember that it takes two for a relationship to break. Try to accept that it was not meant to be and its for the best. Cause your best days are ahead of you. Learn from it as much as you can. And move forward. One step at the time.

      Go out with your friends a lot. Even tho you just feel like sitting home in your comfy pants. Just do it. See people, be social. Ask for support. See people that makes you feel good. If only to take your mind of things for a while.

      See this as a chance of a new start in your life. Try something new. Maybe a haircut? Haircolor? Or something else thats way different. Of course it doesnt have to be about your appearance. It could be anything that you desire. Make a change!

      Allow yourself to do something stupid, if you want to. If only for the fact that you can excuse it with just haven gotten out of a relationship.

      Give yourself a time frame. Put a date when you shall be over him. It might not work exactly as planned. But atleast you give yourself a limit for how much youre gonna let this keep you from moving forward.

      Remember you are not alone in this.

      /Fellow sister – six months since the break-up with my ex of six years.

    • Kira says:

      Don’t think of it as getting over him, that makes it sound like it’s not okay to feel sad, upset and lonely. Instead, be okay with it. Be okay with how you feel, how upset you are. Remember, there is absolutely nothing wrong with how you feel. Just like there isn’t anything wrong with wanting something (or someone in this case). Appreciate that feeling because it means that for a time, you were blessed with something that meant something good to you. Doesn’t that feel good?

      Now, after you think through this, imagine what it is that you want. Think of him and think of what it is you want to do with him. Do you feel yourself wanting to grab him? Wanting to wind yourself around him? Wanting to hold him tightly in place? This is okay. It is okay to feel this way. Now feel the fear that is connected with this, feel the longing behind it. It’s still okay. Now practice empathy, reverse the roles. Imagine being restricted. Imagine that you can not move your limbs, that you’re tightly bound by ropes of emotion. Imagine the struggle to get away.

      Now I’m not saying that you’re trying to restrict him on a conscious level but subconsciously it’s happening and he can feel this. This is the energy that you’re bringing him. Now go back into yourself and really feel how that makes you feel. Do you want him to feel this way? Of course you don’t. You love him just the way he is. You don’t want to bind him, not really. That’s only taking away from the very thing you find precious. And if you do this, you’re love will still linger (this is a good thing, I promise) but the desperation and fear attached to it will slowly ebb away and you’ll be able to appreciate him for what he’s worth. And don’t worry, there’s a whole world of love out there waiting to happen. He isn’t your one and only experience.

  24. Jill says:

    It’s so incredibly important to take a step back and say, Why am I jealous? More often then not I have found in my relationships it was because we weren’t right for each other. Too often we say Well relationships take work and I will absolutely agree with that but at some point you have to know when to say, This just isn’t working or We aren’t a good fit.

  25. Yesenya says:

    I think that there is many way to see jealousy. Sometimes jealousy is good, it keeps relationships alive by showing that your still interested. But it’s a tricky subject cuz you don’t want to seem insecure or crazy, but if you do it right it’s kind of sexy:)

  26. Kira says:

    I want to make people feel good no matter where they are in their life. I want them to know that they’re worth something, that they’re valuable. Meaningful. I want to put an end to low self worth and esteem because I have seen many, including myself struggle with this concept of “not good enough”.

    I have raged against my perceived lack of intelligence, cut deeply into my perceived lack of attractiveness and I’ve hated myself to the very core. Could not stand the thought of me. I’ve cried bitter tears, and screamed angry insults upon myself so much so that I wanted to die. But more than that, wished I never existed. A wasted breath, a broken tool. Not too long ago, I viewed myself as thus.

    Oh, it has taken years and lots of patience to get to where I’m at now. To get to a place where I didn’t collapse at every mistake made, didn’t punish myself for every short-coming. And I have people like you to thank for that. Even now I have moments but they’re short-lived. Mostly because I now have something, I did not then. I have people, so many people who are waiting for me to touch their lives, waiting for me to give them something that only I can. Waiting for me to give them me, my resonance and my energy and that is what drives me. That is what gets me out of bed in the morning, that is what breaks me out of my funks and that is what fulfills me to the very core. I’m in too deep to give up now because if I give up, I’m not just taking away from me anymore, I’m taking away from them. I have found something more important than my short-comings, more important than my mistakes, I have found life.

  27. Ashleigh says:

    I’m liking this radio concept!!!
    Hearing ur amazing voice daily;) and all the good wisdom it delivers, yeah, I think my life just got better! Lol:)

  28. Ting Zhang says:

    thank you so much Matt! you are so inspiring!
    Please come to Australia, come to Brisbane for a talk!!
    Women here need you!

  29. Emily says:

    Can I just give you a giant bear hug right now? Thank you for your video post, it was more relevant to my life than I care to admit, but incredibly enlightening.

  30. Alena says:

    Hello Matthew!

    Loved this video! Definitely needed the reminder that what I try to bring to every person I meet/know is a high energy, compassion, humor, fun, and genuine interest in who that person is, their goals, dreams and struggles. I love meeting people and am confident, kind and well put together UNLESS I’m smitten with the person then I’m a complete, idiot.
    I’ve followed your techniques and met tons of guys and recently met one that I really really liked. Alot. Suddenly I’ve turned into a conflicted, unsure basketcase who views any girl he meets as better than me. I even conpromised my standards because if it. (Obviously I should have paid more attention to a couple of jet chapters in your book. But i had figured it wasnt something I would need to worry about). He is significantly younger and I had been imagining every girl he met as prettier, younger, hotter, trendier than me. I had forgotten what I bring to the table. I had forgotten what I add to his life which is a significantly more than what most girls bring regardless of age, beauty or firm abs :)
    Thank you for reminding me!
    Keep well!
    ~Alena xo

    • Alena says:

      Omg. “Jet chapters” autocorrect! I meant “the” Apparently I missed reading what you wrote about planes… :P
      …but thank you. I am no longer jealous and can rock the awesome around him again….. xo

  31. Erin says:

    For me trying to find something unique is still comparing (albeit in a different way), because you don’t know what’s different/unique if you’re not looking at what other people are/have.

    One of the best compliments I’ve ever received was that I’m a “sweet, pretty, smart, well-rounded girl”. I don’t know if what I have is completely unique but here is what I think is interesting about myself:

    I’m a girl who doesn’t like jewelry (lucky guy who proposes is going to get off easy-no pun intended); I’m mostly vegan, without telling people it’s right (I don’t know if it is); I’ve done an ultramarathon yet am not addicted to running (sometimes I like it, sometimes I don’t); I’m very moral, but not religious (I explore it and have friends of different religions); I’m loyal, a great listener, a quick learner, ambidextrous, and can talk and sing like a cartoon mouse. I also have my “Hey guys, Matthew Hussey here” impression down :)

  32. Carla says:

    Four traits come to mind: I’ve been told I have a calming effect on people. I always find this somewhat amusing and think “If you only knew the hurricane I am on the inside”. The other trait I have is great intuition. Also, I’ve been able to bring order out of chaos in many of my jobs. Finally, I believe in the power of connectedness – that we are all connected to each other and thus can have an effect on changing the lives of others for the better.

    Wow! I didn’t realize what an awesome person I am until I answered your question – thank you :)

    Carla

  33. Diana says:

    Matthew, I thought what you said was ‘spot on’, and that your advice was great. Thank you, Diana

  34. Hala says:

    Amaaaaaaazing .. I loved this video, it showed me things I didn’t know & I din’t know how to deal with this problem .. and you tought me how … really thanks Matt ^_^

  35. Monica says:

    Matthew,
    I love what you say. I have to question, however, the ubiquitous “you are special, you are unique, you are amazing’ coaching that (sorry to say) there is so much of these days. People get used to a surfeit of praise. Parents over-praise their kids who are then even more frustrated and upset when the praise doesn’t seem to be working as other people don’t admire them as much as their parents do – and thinking how great and unique they are doesn’t wash when it comes to getting a job.

    I have worked in the field of diet and nutrition as a food scientist for 2 decades; I was the longest-serving weekly columnist and health editor of a major national Sunday newpaper, plus GQ magazine, Woman’s Own and more. I’m not showing-off, just stating my credentials for this comment!

    I understand women, at least in terms of their looks and weight. Very often this was linked to their ability to ‘Get A Guy’. Overweight women are often fobbed off with excess praise for their uniqueness and beauty and a host of other qualities – no doubt true and deserved – but at the end of the day the problems of being overweight remain and that woman will be even more depressed when she realises her friends’ positive reinforcement didn’t get her anywhere. I’m not saying, by the way, that everyone should be a certain size, but if size of your problem, doing something about size is your solution – not deciding to feel good about your other qualities.

    What you say is true Matt. I guess only you know how to Get The Guy and I have read every word of your book. I admire everything about your positive approach. but when it comes to ‘Getting the Guy’ most mature women will know that in the final analysis, we will all face rejection on some level – and the problem with the positive approach is that it makes things worse when we see that the problems don’t go away. Mature, midle-aged women will always find it harder to get a great guy. Theore time we spend on ourselves and reinforcing how special we are, the worse it feels when it doesn’t seem to be working – because guys just want younger women. I appreciate I’m making a laboured point here which is more suited to a conversation! But I hope you know where I’m coming from.

    Often we aren’t ‘Getting the Guy’ because we aren’t fun, we’re boring, we’re hard work, our voices are terrible, we could do with losing a few pounds, our teeth could do with fixing, our breath is bad. ….. we write long comment emails!!! Whatever. Facing up to ourselves and our downsides, and realising not just what is good about us but what is wrong with us – maybe from some honest friends, is often the only positive way forward.
    Monica.

    • Trish says:

      Hm. Interesting viewpoint. Go to Europe: Older women are sexy, fun, gorgeous, alluring AND getting guys of all ages. Perhaps they know something N.American women don’t. It could also be that European men love ALL women…not just the supermodels, as it seems N.American men only desire. Perhaps European men have more confidence and so they don’t need the ego boost of the supermodel-only-mentality. Just a thought…

  36. Plamena says:

    You are amazing! full package! :) xx

  37. Cathy says:

    Phenomenal, Matthew!!! Really clear, powerful message. I was reading one of your posts yesterday on “neediness”, and this fits well with that topic. When I am comparing and feeling insecure about whether what I have to offer is “good enough”, I get “needy” for the man in my life to tell me/show me/reassure me that I am good enough. By letting go of the comparing and working instead on being my best self, I lose the need for the constant reassurance, which frees us both up to have more fun together.

  38. Christina says:

    Hey Matthew..
    When are we going to be apel to hear Iheart in Denmark?? I dont wanna mis out on your tips and trix :-)

    Hugs

  39. anna says:

    First thing for most.. I wanna give you a big hug from cyprus!!

    God gave you everything, handsome clever and amazing.

    thanks for coaching,, xx

  40. Sara says:

    Brilliant, as always.

    :-)

  41. Viola says:

    A very great idea, Matthew! keep creating ;)

  42. Julie Morey says:

    That really spoke to me because I do look at others and think well they have this or that…but I think my adaptability, intelligence, passion for life, travel experiences, wacky humor and ability to laugh at myself and belief in the good of people make a pretty awesome package. :) Thanks for the inspiration.

  43. Sara says:

    depression and mania.

  44. Chris says:

    We all are special but what really set all of us apart is that we all are ” Unique”, in our own special way ;). When I met people on the street or anywhere, they usually comment…. “We love being around you!!…. There is something about you…” which, I usually respond in a playfull way ” Yes!!, I’m Unique!!”. And everyone loves it! ;)
    Thank you Matt :)

  45. Anya says:

    Well said Matt!

  46. Kelly says:

    Thanks for the sneak peak. It is fantastic hearing your inspiring words as always! Although I cannot say that I have never felt jealous….this is definitely a foreign state of being for me. I don’t really understand it. I think it is because I have always competed against myself in life……does that make sense? I always gauge my performance based on my own standards for myself. If I fall short based on what I expect from myself then I step up my game, work harder, relax more or whatever is needed based on me. I also tell my kids not to compare themselves to others…..if they are happy with how they achieve, how they contribute in the world, that’s all that matters…they may be inspired by others but that is different. Oh btw I am a free spirit, creative, full of positive energy, loyal, making the world a better place and enjoying this great adventure called ‘life’!

  47. Hidz says:

    For the man that is full of magic and practical solutions, I could never thank you enough. You healed me! Thank you coach! God created you for a serious reason- helping humankind.

  48. bonnie rae says:

    Excellent Message ! Thanks for the innovative way to look at our comparisons to others & all the craziness it brings — you are the Man :)

  49. Sarah C says:

    Sending a big thank you from Dubai…where everyone is trying to be more beautiful than everyone else! I really needed to hear that Matt. Thank goodness for YOU :-)

  50. elle says:

    I’m extremely loyal, funny, kind, understanding, gentle, exciting, bi- cultural, bi lingual, honest, kind, with a little spice. never boring, a good cook, excellent lover, learning new languages and artistic skills. fairly well educated. thanks for the challenge!

  51. Wave says:

    *First of all get over here i wanna give you a big hug!* :D

    Moving on to answering your question
    Kind, cute, loyal, bubbly, warm, got a crazy amount of energy, versatile, loving and much more!

    Matt, you are so amazing that just by watching your videos or hear you, you can literally turn my sad-days around!

    Yep i mean every word, keep rocking! ;)

    Much love!
    Wave

  52. Raissa says:

    Thank You !!! Thank You !!! Thank You !!! Thank You !!! Thank You !!! Thank You !!!

  53. Angela K says:

    Just another thought to everyone here, remember you have something about you that someone else is jealous about !!!! so don’t be too hard on yourself if you have insecurities because you can be sure that someone else will want what you have :O)
    Angela x

  54. Angela K says:

    Yesterday at the gym, I saw a girl younger than me (I’m 30), blonder than me and taller than me (I’m 5′ 9”), at one stage I would have been jealous, but since being part of Matthew’s coaching I just smiled to myself and thought “”I’m ok just as I am ”, RESULT :O) Thank you Matt, you rock x

  55. sol says:

    your words are as allways so powerfull,

    thank you

  56. sol says:

    matt if you are not in the us it does nt let you register, is there a way we can access to listen to the show, ? im in south america… or maybe add them to FTTMrR?

  57. Katie says:

    I tried to follow you in iHeart and listen to the rest of your lectures, but guess what? They say (iHeart) it is not available for my country, I am smiling about it because it is on internet and doesn’t make any sense to exclude anyone then. :(

  58. Alexandra says:

    Thank you Matt for Always giving me (and I’m sure many people feel the same way) an amazing advice to culminate the week. This is basically one of my biggest issues I’ve been dealing with for as long as I can remember; insecurity. The way you explained it really helped me understand that I can’t just let my entire value rest on one quality or one attribute I feel I lack or that I’m insecure about. Having value is more than just possessing those things and attributes. As you said it beautifully, it’s about using the entire range of qualities one has to bring and make an impact in other people’s lives. I feel so empowered and as If I just broke the curse that haunted me for the longest time. I know that was kind of a dramatic analogy but that’s exactly how I feel.

    Thank you for making me feel free, you are amazing!!

    Alex

  59. Kooky says:

    ” I really shouldn’t be doing this, but I had to give you a sneak-preview of my new show ‘Love Life’ with iHeartRadio ” oh hero . thank you hero for everything that you are doing for us .

    “What unique combination of character traits do you have that sets you apart and makes you the package you are? ”
    I love learning new things , I love travelling , I love to courage people , I love sharing thought about life to people ,I love to listen to the peoples experiences and learn from them , I love Psychology coz it makes me think in different ways (some time in creative ways) . I love to try and to discover new things (of course good things) ,I thank god for making me beautiful ,and I love sky diving (definitely someday I ‘ll do it )
    well in one work i’m KOOKY ;D

    THANK YOU HERO

  60. Paige says:

    This is great advice in any situation. I work, with kids in Juvenile detention, training shelter dogs. One way they keep losing confidence is by comparing themselves to others. They are smart, fun, and great people. Too many people compare to others as an excuse to feel bad about themselves. It is false logic. Everyone stop comparing you have no idea how special you all are.

  61. Alissa says:

    So cool matthew. I’ve just developed this crush on one of my guy friends and have been feeling a little jealous because I know the girl he’s gone on a date with recently… I really want to go on a date with him now, but I’ve never told a guy these things before and I wouldn’t know how to tell him…. Or get to spend time with him alone as we’re usually in a group together. Help? Haha thank you!!!
    Can’t wait for your show!
    Alissa:)

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Find a common point of interest, an event, exhibit, show or place, and ask if he’d want to check it out at some point! : )

      Matt x

  62. chandrakanthi says:

    Hey matthew,
    Great tip about jealousy in relationships and contacts with people.
    It is indeed so that people always have something, like, I had but more beautiful appearance or skin color or beautiful hair, you name it.
    And is not it also a bit of uncertainty?

    Because if you are happy for who you are, that have confidence about yourself, right?
    Or do you think differently about this?
    Because I believe in it, that every person is unique in its own way.
    that makes the world around us interesting:)!
    And just what you say it just be interesting and a challenge to actually observe where that person is derived from.

    But your question: What should you do if you’re a guy come in one way or another.
    I mean, I get back in touch with me every ex boyfriend, who I met a year ago. We have 4 month relationship. and we broke up. And one way or another we meet again, get to talk for a while and then go their separate ways.
    Because it fails agian , after 3 weak he loss the contact with me slowly and disappears agian. he always than looking at other girls.
    When that is finish ,than he contact me agian after 5 month.
    And I’m not sure what I should do about this ?!
    Because he leaves little apart from himself in terms of feel and talk about me.
    I like him BUT that is not enough for me !!
    Some way , i can not trust him enough, you know ?!

    I ask him in persone , why he act like this way to me .
    he give no ansher to me for a weak !!!
    I give him space for 3 weak to think about it.
    and also no ansher from him.
    I’ve tried everything!
    I am not sure about him , because off not trust him !!

    I am a persone how whant’s to fall in love with a charming lovely ,honest persone .
    So that i can give my full heart to a persone and that he loves me back!!

    What do you think I should do with this situation ???
    And can you give me a good tip, matthew ???

    Greeting from chandrakanthi

    • Paige says:

      My little sister had the same problem with a guy. Of course she never listened to my advice because “she loved him”. I kept leaving Mattew’s book where she would find it and quoting him. Put in one sentence – he is not worth your time. Stop letting him treat you like that because he is going to keep doing it because he can. My sister accepted that finally and is now in a wonderful exclusive relationship with a great guy who buys her flowers, and really cares about her. No matter how amazing of a person you are (and you are amazing) some guys are going to be a**holes because you let them.

  63. sarah says:

    Interesting view Point. I guess its time for me to diversify. This also connects to the concept of not Feeling like you re good enough. In my opinon jealousy also Comes up when you dont feel confident about yourself. If thats the cause then you have to work on that as well

  64. irena says:

    warm, honest, reliable, friendly, free-minded, loving…

    dear Matthew, you are a true inspiration…thank you…

  65. Myra Martinez says:

    Wow Matthew! This literally was what I needed to hear. I have been struggling with dating online, which I know how much you LOVE those sites haha, kidding. Well with your lovely advice I have come to the realization that dating online there will always be someone out there that may have a better body shape, physical traits, or other characteristics that seem more appealing to guys. I need to not worry about being what someone else wants, but rather aspire on becoming that person that I want to be for myself. This snippet provided me with coming to a realization that I have plenty to offer and I just need to let go of others who do not see that. Thank you Matt for always providing great advice and insight!! I look forward to your show! Cheers and much love!! XXXXX

    Myra

    • Myra Martinez says:

      Oh and the characteristics/traits that I feel that I have and have been told are: that I am playful, funny, intelligent, sexy, loving, generous, and passionate to name a few. Oh and modest, lol, but you did ask for the traits. ;)

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Exactly! Thanks for commenting Myra : )

      Matt x

  66. Jo says:

    Great advice as ever Matt and yet again struck a chord with the things that I’m going through in my life right now in terms of personal development and working on the things in my life that I feel are holding me back.

    It’s a shame that we won’t be able to hear your shows over here in the UK, at least not at the moment but I am looking forward to other little snippets in the coming weeks and months.

    Take care

    Jo x

    (Be the way, I was going to say that you could bring a package to my table but then realised how wrong it sounded so decided not to say it….wait, I just said it…damn lol)

  67. zahra says:

    waaw thats amazing! and so true .I believe also that jealousy is a weakness and lack of confidence and gives a bad reflection to the person being jealous.Maby sometimes we all feel weak and jealous but we can contol it and think like the way you said.You really inspire me !!

  68. Kelly says:

    I love this advice so much and it will help me in my future jealousy moments. You’ve made it about not focusing on what you think you don’t
    Have which is where jealousy stems from
    But in fact what we have that makes us amazing and will help to boost confidence. Bravo Matt! Also Canadians can’t get the iHeartradio app
    Will you be posting your radio topics on here for us?

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hi Kelly,

      We share your frustration, I want it to be available everywhere but unfortunately I can’t control it because down to iHeartRadio, but I hope that soon they’ll open it up to more territories. I’ll try to film some more though so that you have a way of seeing them! : )

      Matt x

  69. Gayle says:

    Hi Matt, this is so exciting and I cannot wait to get snippets of your show when possible as I’m in Scotland. This is going to be huge. All I can say is thank you :) – Gayle x

  70. Iman says:

    This goes past just relationships, just being a good person in general, and wanting to be the best that you can be in whatever that you do. Amazing advice! Thanks for the Share Matthew xo

  71. Yaro says:

    Yea I may not be so pretty and good looking but I have that funny part of me that makes everybody love me :)

  72. Thirza says:

    Hi Matthew right now i’m sitting in a diffucult situation.
    My internship Goes good but i’m tired of the childish boys Who are there -___-
    They not even think with there brains but only with there underside.
    My parents are right now in relationtherapy and my father acting like he dont know anything. I’m angst Scared what’s gonna happen.
    My Mother was Crying what my father did all i can say he just sit on websites “The not normal websites” you know what i mean.
    My question is can i talk to anybody About it on my internship??
    Or must i solve my problem on my own and talk About it with nobody. Execept my family sister and Mother and grandma??
    I have nobody to talk with execept you Matthew i really Would like to have you as my friend in Reality ;)
    Please response otherwise everything runns out off control not to push you or something but really.
    Thanks Greetz Thirza ;)

    • Andrea says:

      I am not Matthew, but I hope it is okay if I respond. If I were you I would not talk about your problems with anybody at work.
      I do not know how old you are but maybe you can talk to a social worker at a Youth club if you are younger or to a pastor at church if you are religious or post in some forum in the internet. There are forums for relationship and family topics.

      It is best to keep the private life and the job life separate. You are an intern now and will need a permanent job lateron. You do not want that someone gets the impression that you are too burdened by problems to be hired.

    • Cathy says:

      Thirza,I feel for what you are going through. It is hard when the adults in our lives are so caught up in their own problems and drama, and we feel so helpless to change things. It would be great if there were a counselor or adult you trust who you could speak to. But if not, there are some good groups online where you can get support for what you are going through. I searched “online support for teens” (if you are in that age group) and a bunch of listings came up. Just be careful about sharing personal contact info. It is hard when people we care about are so unhappy, but it is not our job to fix it. Don’t give up! Take that strength you get from Matthew’s posts and use it to seek out the people, places and activities that nourish and support you.

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