Life is about peaks and troughs…

So good to be back after all of the craziness of the GetTheGuy book and my show Ready For Love!

(Note: The rest of Ready For Love can be viewed on Hulu and Not in the US? Try downloading Hotspot Shield…)

No winning streak lasts forever. That’s part of life.

When you’re in a trough, that’s when your core confidence is really tested.

We will come back bigger and stronger than ever, because that’s what we do.

Life is just beginning again. It’s a new era.

I want to thank you for all of your love and support along the way! You have been incredible to me. We’re going to keep rocking this together. I can’t wait to get started!

Good to be back!


If right now you’re in a trough in your love life, turn things around with my online homestudy course The Man Myth. This is a crash course in the A–Z of attraction, understanding men, and instant chemistry. Check it out here.

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  1. Jacqueline says:

    My last year was a year of troughs:

    – my ex and i separated
    – a lot of job rejections

    The good thing is, that somehow I manage to survive. Somehow I trust more although a lot things, that are important to me, seem to be going wrong.

    But some other really good things came along. I went to china for half a year to do an internship there.
    I met there some real friends. I grew, because of this. I gained so many experiences. I have put myself into situations to learn how people tick. Why they do what they do. Learned again.

    Although I am still looking for the right job and have lots of interviews, I am thankful for every rejection that I got. It was sometimes really hard. But looking back I see that it wouldn’t have been the right path for me. (e. g. Got an opportunity to stay in China to work there permanently but I want to work and live in europe)

    Now…I had an interview last week for a job that seems to be the right thing for me. It is exactly what I specialized on and I know that I could deliver something to that company. I would really enjoy working in that field. I really hope that I get the chance to show what I can do. This week I will get the response and I hope it is a positive one.

    If I won’t get a positive answer, I have some questions to help me in the future. While being at a job interview it is hard for me to balance the male and female characteristics. My profession is highly male dominated. Being a woman and feeling like a woman is important to me. Therefore I (and other girls) have the impression that man tend to test us more. We have to show more what we have done and have to prove it, which is sometimes difficult because you cant know everything before you actually start the job. Therefore it is difficult to prove everything. Whilst men can talk themselves through an interview and get the job right away, without even showing what they have done. Men have the ability to talk about things they only have little knowledge about but communicate it in such a way that you have the impression they build a whole company on their own. (My ex is such a character. If he gets to the point to be interviewed, he nails it)

    How man see woman in a job interview? Are their looks (having a very curvy body shape or looking very young) have an impact on how the job interview will develop? (Sounds stupid but I sometimes have the impression) How can women present themselves in job interviews without losing the female-qualities in them?

    Regardless of the stuff I have written above, I want to thank you Matthew for your support. When feeling nervous or insecure I always watched your videos or read your book. This backed me up in so many situations. Some advice you gave on getting the guy helped me a lot and I could somehow transfer also to other fields. Now I talk to guys more openly. I can even see now how difficult some situations are for guys and I can see how they try to give us women their support. I could go on. I have learned so much. A BIG THANK YOU FOR THAT.

  2. Sydney says:

    You were good on the show.

    I saw…


  3. Sydney says:


    Ahoy matey!


    # end of message #

    (Take that, computer! )

  4. Sydney says:

    But I will read this so called “man myth”

    is it about a mythical man-creature who will somehow cure me of all my ANGER ?

    Is it a suffed animal :)

  5. Sydney says:

    i’m not buying it unless it’s autographed.

  6. LTH13A says:

    Dear Michael,

    You are, most assuredly, what I call a “Life Enhancer!” Your messages are a gift to society: giving people the tools and by being an example of how to positively engage in life’s multiple contexts, comprehensively, is teaching the ultimate lessons of thriving and resilience.

    Kudos and BRAVO to you, Michael Hussey!

    Warmest Regards,

    Laura Tanny Huang

  7. Preet K says:

    I really love this video!! It’s actually probably one of my favorite videos you’ve made so far yet. You accept life as it comes and adjust to all of the uncertainties and unplanned out of your control things that happen in life..Not everyone has such a positive outlook as you..That’s what admire about you most–the ability to make a negative into a positive no matter what happens..If only all people were that strong within themselves and could see how setbacks and drawbacks aren’t the be all and end all of someone’s life. These things I am learning from you..Thank You for Your Blog, your videos, your book, and your selfless service (even though you made it into a business I know you’re still genuine and care about people and you have a good heart)..You can’t fake that..I can see how passionate you truly are about your life and your goals/ambitions!!! Destined for Great Things..Please take care of yourself :) Love Always, Preet!

  8. Ang says:

    One word, Matthew ~ L-O-V-E ~ … Many are upset about the show, they didn’t even give it a real chance. Congratulations on the book, I’ve read it and its amazing! Much love from the Midwest

  9. Ildiko says:

    The Matthew we love :) The true-heart-to-heart-and-sincere coach :) It is nice to see!!
    I am sorry that show didn’t work out but as you said.. this is life.. and I guess that may have brought back some reality during this crazily exciting time of your life. I am certain it will not through you back at all and will achieve great things.. whatever you do next. You are just made for grateness.. and this is not to be cheesy , but I sincerely believe you are.
    ps: I am not a cheesy, soppy person just appreciate great people and I do think that what you do is great. I’m into coaching myself as well.. so you are my kind of a person :)
    Good luck in your next adventures!
    I x

    Ildiko x

  10. Trace says:

    POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE ! you’re simply infectious.

  11. T says:


    I’m not convinced that your efforts with Ready for Love ‘didn’t pay off’, as you say. All that you put in will come back to you! I know it! You’ll see.
    Rock on, Matthew!


  12. Kerly says:

    aaw Matthew!!
    You are just such an amazing person.. To stay so confident and positive when something like that happens is just so so inspirational!!!
    You are truly a legend!!!!!!
    I wish you all the best and know that all ur fans including me,..we are here for you..and we know that you will come out from this:)) love you!!!!xxxx

  13. D says:

    Matt, you were SO inspirational – I can’t tell you how much admiration I have for you especially when you started talking about the troughs! You both made me want to cry and fall in love with you at the same time! Your positive attitude, your energy, and hearing those words “we’re in it together…we’ve got so many places to go, we’re going to kick @ss together” made me feel so touched and felt like a warm hug through the computer screen. You are such a blessing – am sure you will be a great success! xxx

  14. robin says:

    Matt..first I want to say I love your book and am learning so much about mistakes I’ve made and how to make the changes in myself to be confident and aware for my future. This video came at the perfect time for me and “was an ah ha moment” for me..big time! Im in a trough in my live life right now. My future was forever changed when the relionship I’ve been in came to a surprising end. Now my future is uncertain…my daily life is completely changed and I am alone and single…agaiI still love this person so much and he truly loves me but it will never be what we had planned for and hoped for. I’m truly devastated by this but..your video has made me realize I can learn so much from this experience and come out of it stronger and better prepared for future relationships. I am so sorry about your show. I was learning so much and was eager to continue to learn more. I want you to know what your are doing is helping women be the best they can be and take what you are teaching and know they are going to be ok no matter how painful the troughs in our lives. Thank you Matt for all you do!

  15. B says:

    Mâthiew… You go! You are an authentic, sensitive and positive man… and er, did I mention sexy AND confident! :) You have already achieved so much. Everything happens for a reason. Enjoy this new chapter in your life!
    Love listening to you. Alwasys so upbeat, we need more of this in the world! Life is tough, but when the going gets tough… Cheers!

  16. lorna says:

    Matthew, I keep it simple. I believe in you :-) Keep going :-)! I love your work and am taking part about 1 year!

  17. Lisa Shaw says:

    hey Matthew sorry to hear about the show not working out how you’d hoped but WOW! your so positive & inspiring. It’s meant to be that there’s something even better out there for YOU! which is exciting if a little scary Thanks for all you have achieved & shared you should be proud and no doubt you’ll continue to inspire and guide! If life kicks me down I remember this lil poem
    do what you can
    be who you are
    shine like a glowbug
    if you cant be a star! :-)

  18. Frith the Div says:

    Hey Matthew
    TV/film is so unreliable. You can film for days and end up with just a shot of your left ankle on the screen for half a second! I was filmed dancing for the C4 Gok Wan show a few months ago and none of the dancing made the final cut.
    You have turned a negative into a positive by using it to help us all deal with these shitty set backs… and it is very helpful, so thank you.
    As someone else has mentioned, I am sure you will get your own show. (Just remember to give me a call for the dancing :-)

    • Frith the Div says:

      Actually, scrap that. I am sure I will have MY own show soon, so I’ll give YOU a call to do the coaching ;-) ha ha

  19. yuetching says:

    Hi Matt,hugs and thanks for being here for us.You can bounce back coz you are a capable, caring and talented person. Love.x

  20. Kelly says:

    Hi Matt,

    Just saw you in Atlanta today! Thank you for the amazing and high energy seminar! Your information is invaluable and I can’t wait to start putting it into use!

    Congrats on the NYT best seller! I am sure that you are now freed up to keep dreaming bigger and accomplishing even more incredible goals! After seeing you live there is no doubt you will be anything less than ultra successful!

    Thank you again!

  21. Andrea says:

    I am sorry to hear that the show got cancelled. I have not been able to see the show myself as I am from Germany. it of others say here that the show was not your style and that you can do much better things, I am sure they are right.

    Your attitude is very impressive. The way you handle this is a brilliant example for core confidence.

    Meanwhile I have received your book and have started reading it. I am really excited, and I wish you all the best. It is always interesting to hear from you.

  22. Shaz Maraqa says:


    thank you so much. :'(

    I can’t thank you enough, you helped me to no limits in everything in my life.

    Your video literally drove me to tears. being coached by your vidoes and reading your articles and following you the past two years, I was changed enormously and I really became stronger. Right now it even felt like I was listening to my brother. I have been under stress too and you were there to support by sharing your own experience. I can’t thank you enough for having this high spirit even in such a hard time, because seeing you doing your best, I want to keep fighting too :) . I’m so thankful to you for everything really. Thank you for being so strong and encouraging us to do the same.

    I can’t wait to get my copy of the new book. Having purchased and read the e-book “Secrets of the Male Mind” before, I’m so excited now waiting to read your new book. so thank you so much for all the great work and efforts you do.

    Please continue to take care of us.
    Sending you lots of love and support and the best warmest wishes for a brighter future.
    yours truly,

  23. Reena says:

    Hey Matt….well done for all your successes! In a way, the show being cancelled doesn’t change any of the success you’ve already had. In my personal opinion, I don’t feel the show was your style and I am glad the UK gets you back. :) I like your attitude. I feel you can do much better things than that show. Thanks for everything.

    • andrea says:

      I agree with you, Reena. I would rather see a reality show with just Matthew coaching women, than the other people. Yes, Matthew, I’m a big fan of your work and because I totally understand your style, I got the guy! LOL I still follow your blog because I just started my own direct selling business and your advice still applies! Keep up the great work!

  24. nabila says:

    thats ok matt :) maybe whats coming is much better, thats what i believe in when you don’t get something you really want it usually means that something else better is waiting for you :) just keep up the good work
    and thank you for being you :)

  25. Dee says:

    When I read on sidereel that you’re show had been cancelled I was sad and shocked. I know you worked had for it. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be. Keep doing what you do and maybe, you’ll give it another shot in a cable TV or maybe online. Don’t fall down, Matt. You have us.

  26. Dee says:

    When I saw on sidereel that you’

  27. Audrey says:

    Go Matthew! I sunk into a bit of a trough myself today, so I empathize

  28. Mermaid says:

    Your a mountain mathew
    And mountains wont move move by a breeze…

    Love you, your the best

  29. Sandy says:

    Hey Matt,

    Hope you are ok…am going through a trough in my work life currently and totally understand what you must be going through. After literally years of working towards a goal, it is devastating when it doesn’t work out.
    But…like you said, we are winners and we are going to make our goals happen. You are inspirational, and I wish you all the best in your life! We will get through these troughs together!


  30. Jill says:

    I was so shocked when I found out it was cancelled but my thoughts are the editing was awful plus watching ya’ll live was so different then watching on tv. Also, I believe everything happens for a reason. It may take a while to understand why but there is a reason. Without the pain we wouldn’t have joy. I love the little saying on Batman when Bruce’s father asks why do we fall and the answer is so we can learn to pick ourselves up. It’s never gonna be easy but it will be worth it :)

  31. Alene says:

    Hi Matthew!

    I’m so sorry this happened, as I was so looking forward to watching it. Your video message was so on time, because I’m dealing with a bump in the road as well. As you said, when one door closes another one much better opens. You are just tipping the surface of your blessing Matt. :)

  32. Glenna says:

    So sorry to hear about the show. But as others have said and you yourself said, another opportunity is waiting.

    What stunned me more is that you got the news in Philly and then did our event. You gave us all of you and then some I haven’t jumped around that much since I taught aerobics in the 80’s! God Gawd,that was fun! And you seemed to really have a blast, yet you carried this disappointing news with you. What grace…Had I known I would have hugged you harder!

    By the way, it took me days to come down from that event and John has been awesome in working with me on the retreat. That is an experience I can’t wait for! (My 52nd B’day present to myself!) Just need a money fairy… who I think was mugged by the tax man… :-( But it’ll work out as
    it’s supposed to.

    Hugs to you! Looking forward to your next blog.

  33. Leona Lovequest says:

    Sorry to hear the show has been cancelled! You were amazing on it. I downloaded the audiobook version of Get the Guy and it’s really changed my attitude about finding love. I had just about given up hope and you brought me back! I’m in the trough now too. I’ve been under employed for two years and I thought I had a good chance at a position in a department where several of my freelance colleagues work, but I didn’t even get an interview! I’m coming back stronger and better for it though. No one can keep me down. I’m making lemonade and spiking it with vodka!

  34. shelley says:

    what is your tours like, i didn’t get to go.. im from Maine.

  35. Agostinha Jacinto says:

    Hi Matt,

    Its been a really good journey reading your book and viewing your videos! :) all began when one of your videos was suggested and randomly i saw it…and love it! ^_^ i was like, what? wow, he has an amazing smile, and his eyes are smilling 2…wait, what?OMG thats a really good he is YODA! :)
    Then, i bought your book, and have been, like i said a relly good jorney..! ^_^ so, please make lemonade and lets drink and have the best time ever, and start all over again!
    And my opinion is that u should have your own show…coaching live, or help married couples…(not an entertaining show), but a life changing program! ^_^
    *******wish u the best!

  36. Jenna says:

    I f’ed up!!!!!! I was testing the book out and then I started talking about myself
    And said is be away for summer

    He said right away I’m away in winter and got up and left

    I made the ready for love mistake !

    I should have shown compromise !!!!

  37. Jackie says:

    You’re awesome Matt!
    Things will keep going great for you because you mean well.
    Keep in mind that even a mountain doesn’t ascend in a single steep step. It goes up and then there’s a trough and then some more gaining in height. We keep praying for you! You’ll do great. If you’re ever in Kenya hit me up, I’ll buy you coffee :)
    Thank you for your guidance and may God bless you.

  38. Sonja says:

    thanks so much for sharing these thoughts. i can understand you very well. going through a big trough myself for the last two years. i just think it had to happen because i learned so much about myself and life. and i get stronger every friends wonder how i can be so happy and positive after everything i am going through. its exactly what you said: we are winners! its all about the inner attitude.
    keep going. thanks for the book and the blog.

  39. annie says:

    So sorry to hear! Let’s take those lemons, make lemon punch and get wasted together :) xx

  40. Steph says:

    Hey Matt,

    As a wise man once said… I believe when life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade…and try to find someone whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.

    Go find your vodka & keep the smile on your face :)

    S xx

  41. Aliska says:

    Mat, you’re great. Keep it up, love your blog.

  42. Pris says:

    YES! We shall make lemonade using the lemons we’ve got!

    Thank you for making use of your setback and turn it into an inspiring and motivating advice for all of us.

    Really appreciate you sharing how you feel.

    The best things are yet to come! Be prepared!

  43. Michelle says:

    I prayed for your tour but not for your show I thought it was in the bag

  44. Karma Neff says:

    I’m with you Matt and cannot believe the show was cancelled! To me it was such a hit and changed my life in the 1st episode. All of the matchmakers are so great and it led me to you and your teachings which is changing not just my love life but my life every single day. I cannot thank you enough for continuing to shine your light on us all. I hope the show gets picked up by another network because I applied to be on it!
    Many thanks,

  45. Michelle says:

    I might protest

  46. Lo says:

    Hi Matt,

    Thx for the video, but honestly if you think carefully, the thing that depended on you went successful, reaching your dreamed goal of becoming a NY times best seller. That reflects that people that know your work support you and appreciates the good job that you’ve doing. On the other hand, the show didn’t depend on you or your decision, you were part of a group o people following a format. So this “failure” is not on you. Even more, because of this show, people that didn´t know you before always said to me that you were the wiser advisor (and their favorite one tho). So dont feel bad, everything that was on your hands went great, and now you are more famous in the US than before. And with this show opportunity you dare to go abroad and make your seminaries, that didnt happen before!! So, be good, we love you and support you, and even better things are about to come for you!!


  47. Michelle says:

    Your so right. Im pissed!!!! But Your Right your always right

  48. hazeul says:

    hi math thank you so much !!

  49. Arabella says:

    Hi Matthew, thank you for such inspiring advice! It is amazing you are a best selling author! I am really disappointed that the show has been cancelled. I live in the UK but have watched 2 episodes so far on Hulu using hotspotshield.. It is a good show! America is a really tough market. You are the best matchmaker on the that show. it is 90 minutes so a long show and don’t always have the time to watch but enjoy it when I do! There was a comment on hulu by someone saying that you should have your own show,& I definitely agree! You should come back to London & approach channel 4. They had success with that gok wan dating show & I think you are miles better than him. With all the experience you’ve had they would be interested for sure! Thanks again, Arabella

  50. Kat says:

    Hi Matt, It’s so good to see you looking great as always.. Thank you for your wonderful, incredible message (with the beautiful lemon tree in the background.) I just wanted to say that I’m so inspired by your experience and the way you handle your own setbacks, as it clearly has helped others and definately helped me, this week of all weeks: my own changes are quite painful at times. Matt, you’ve done so much for so many – keep putting it out there and the wider world will continue to embrace you. You are in our hearts and minds and that’s amazing, as is your book reaching the NY Times best seller list – CONGRATULATIONS!

  51. Shivani says:

    Hey..thanks for this beautiful video! Your candour is endearing. This is a temporary setback. I’m sure you will achieve all that you want, and much more in future. Stay in touch !

  52. Adria says:

    We LOVE you! And this is just the start of a new chapter! A very smart friend and intuitive just told me… to take a chance with a certain guy and I was panicked at first then she told me “Rejection is Protection”. I truly believe this with all my heart. So you were protected from one thing only to be nudged toward something better!
    Love you love you love you!
    Gave “Get the Guy” to my mom and have a few more copies to give to special friends. It is my new favourite book!
    Thank you for all you do… your passion, your love and your smiles!

  53. Susanne Love says:

    :) ☀☆☀ It’s YOU Matthew Hussey ☀☆☀ :)
    ☀☆☀ :) It’s YOU ♥&♥ YOU are back ☀☆☀ :)

    How incredibly kind-hearted of YOU to be back ♥&♥ loooooooooooooooooooooooving :) Truly love & enjoy being here again too :) Because YOU are here ♥&♥ I believe YOU love everybody here :)

    YOU will always be in my heart Matthew Hussey :)
    ♥&♥ If your show has been canceled I hope YOU know your show is in my heart: a place where all the best shows are always welcome :)
    After all, I believe lovely Hosana knows the best shows on this planet :)
    ♥&♥ If your show is one of the best shows on this planet but human beings cannot see it yet I hope one day they will :)
    But I am incredibly happy that lovely Hosana can see all your shows :)
    YOU know, I compose classical music :) and God is always my audience :) And I love the fact that he knows ♥&♥ understands everything :)

    I love the possibility for everybody being here ♥&♥ loooooooooooooooooooooooving YOU too :)

    I kiss lovely Hosana for everybody who loves YOU ♥&♥ for all the best that happened to YOU and your family ♥&♥ friends :)

    I read GET THE GUY ♥&♥ I kiss lovely Hosana for all the loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove:)

    Always all the best for YOU, your family ♥&♥ everybody who loves YOU :)

    Susanne :)

    • Susanne Love says:

      Your loving attitude made my day ♥&♥ I wish YOU always all the best days too :)
      Love the way YOU reacted in your moments of life :)

      I believe in YOU Matthew Hussey I believe in YOU :)
      Keep up all the best :)

    • Susanne Love says:

      Wow I love the possibility to make lemonade :)
      To make lemonade for Matthew Hussey until he feels much much much much……BETTER :) Oh that is an amazing idea :)
      After all that happened, I hope it is possible for YOU to
      hihihihihihahahahahahahahahahaha and smile in the best ways :)

      I remember YOU laughing in your videos :) One of the best videos on this planet is when Matthew Hussey is smiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiling :)

      Truly appreciate everything wonderful YOU did for everybody here :)

      ♥&♥ Wow YOU give us so incredibly special possibilties::: the possibility to make lemonde for Matthew Hussey is :))))))))))

      Enjoy your day wonderful warm-hearted amazing human being :))))))))))

      Susanne :)

  54. fima says:

    with such energy , good spirit and positivity, things will certainly go better and of course we’ll keep rocking together you are such a wonderful person love so much mathew keep fighting :)

  55. lizzy says:

    Your energy and positivity is inspiring! You are so good at what you do. Needed this today :) All good things to come for you!

  56. Clara says:

    Hi Matt!
    I love how positive you are! You made my day happier! You’re an amazing guy!Good luck with the next events! Take care :)

  57. Anya says:

    You’re so right. Your positive attitude is what has got you to become bestselling author of your recent book and will continue to bring you success!

  58. sabrina steed says:

    just going through a trough right now of my own. You inspire me to follow my dreams or make new goals. Keep it up!! you are amazing!!

  59. Jasmine says:

    Hey Matt!
    I’m really sorry to hear about your show! I’m going through a partial trough at school at the moment, really working hard and on the grind as they call it :P
    I’m glad we all have your support and you have everyone else’s and mine!

    I’ve been living by this quote for the past 3 years: “Everything always gets better, believe it.”
    And it’s true, literally during the hardest times, trying to hold on to this small glimpse of hope has helped me to pull through. I’m so proud of you for being able to bounce back!! STAY STRONG ;D

    Have a lovely day and take care! :D

  60. Som says:

    Hi Matt,

    I’ve been in touch with you since I was in London and now that i’m back to THailand I still your big fans. I don’t comment that much but when you are a trough I would like to be here to show some love and support. and thank you so much for sharing this with us! you’re awesome Matt. Keep doing what you are doing and we will win this together ;)

  61. Virginia says:

    Hello Matt!

    I am a follower since the beginning of your journey! I always wanted to comment but didn’t have the time…I have bought your book and I find it amazing and very helpful as everything you do! You are very special and have a great personality! I really admire you for maintaining a positive atittude all the time (at least this is what I get from your videos)! I am sorry that the show has been cancelled :( But as Conan O’ Brien says: ”Work hard, be kind and amazing things will happen”

    I am waiting for your next great achievements! I believe in you! We all do :)

    Sending lots of love from Surrey <3

  62. mirabelle says:

    I love how you are so positive. Thank you for being such a cool guy. Loved the Philly seminar. :-)

  63. Alisha says:


  64. Catherine says:

    Hello Matt,

    Watching your video, there were only two things on my mind, one that you look extremely tired, and also that I found it really amazing that you were able to completely turn around a personal bad experience and be able to present it in a way that sends a positive message our way. And THAT is one of a few things that makes you an amazing coach. I know that things will look up for you (karma definitely owes you big time for all the work, time, and heart that you put into what you do), perhaps eventually leading to your very own show! As long as you are an amazing person that is willing to put so much of himself into helping others, there will be thousands who are here for you. But even the most amazing people need breaks, so don’t be afraid to take it easy!


  65. Johanne says:

    Dear Matthew ! Is it always so nice to hear you talk about life. I love your honesty and the way you are able to translate your emotions (which is not what ALL the guys can do as you know ! ha ha ha). You are such a beautiful person and I love your spirit ! There is an expression in French that says “Reculer pour mieux sauter” which means “You have to take a step back to jump better”. I know you’ll be the best because you already are ! Take care ! xoxo

  66. Mel says:

    Lemonade??! Take out the salt and tequila! We’re having some shots! Bottoms up! :)
    Jokes aside I’m super bummed about Ready for love, I really enjoyed watching it. Anyways… As long as u helped Tim, Ben and Ernesto find love it’s all good… Mission accomplished! And for sure there r many other great things coming ur way Matt! :)

  67. alexia says:

    You are Special and i’m Honoured to have YOU as my Life Coach.

  68. Louise says:

    My mother died very suddenly there d end of Feb. It was 3 days before my 21st birthday and now I am also getting kicked out of my home as the house went with my mothers job. U might imagine d hole that I feel I am in now. Hearing how u are going to turn this bad experience into something good gives me some hope that I am in control as to how I react to this and that there can be good come out of bad. I look forward to making lemonade with you along d way :)

    • Glenna says:

      Louise -my condolences. You mother is always with you. She taught you lessons you didn’t even know you were learning! Stay strong sweetheart and ask for help if you need it.

      If you ever want to talk, just reply.

  69. Fadzillah says:

    Thank you very much. You have such an inspiration for me and I am sure you will make things work better for you. A BIG thank you.

  70. Tina says:

    *Welcome Home* Matt*
    I’m just really happy!
    you’re here

  71. Stef says:

    Matt, that lemonade is going to be the most refreshing, delicious and rewarding thing EVER!

    I had unfortunately heard rumours about the show going to be cancelled after just a few episodes (even though I never got to see it since I live in Norway) so I was kind of waiting for you to confirm it, as frustrating as it is. I’m so certain you’re not leaving this empty-handed – every experience is a new chance to learn more about the world!

    I think Oprah Winfrey put it quite well: “I do not believe in failure. It is not failure if you enjoyed the process.” You obviously enjoyed every second of it!

    Lots of love and good thoughts <3

  72. Marie-antonine Woutaz says:

    Thank you for sharing Matthew.
    I can imagine it’s tough for you but you have the right attitude & state of mind!!!
    Take good care of you!
    Big hug from Switzerland

  73. Linda says:


    Sorry to hear about your show. That must be a crushing disappointment. Hollywood isn’t exactly a hotbed of authenticity. Your authentic desire to help people in a real and useful way shines through and is maybe better suited elsewhere. Congrats on the book. Thank you for this video. I am going through a similar disappointment in my work life and this was helpful. I’m sorry I wasn’t able to make your event in Toronto, I had really wanted to.


  74. Vikki says:

    Loveliest of Matts,

    Yippee and argh and wow and darnit and oh my gosh and “bl**dy h^ll!!!” and thank the universe for absolutely fantastic fabulous marvelous friends!

    At least – that is what I imagine some of the last few weeks have been like for you and the team.

    I have a liking for freshly made lemonade … a reflection of my strength through tough times. Even in the worst I look for beauty and learning. Allowing my good times to truly glow!

    I know that you are creating a cocktail from that lemonade and that the next chapter/ the new era will be ever more inspirational and exceptional! A reflection of your core.

    Keeping shining, Love, xx

  75. Amrit says:

    Hi Matt,

    I just want to thank you for keepin’ it real. It’s honestly what I appreciate most about you. Your no “sugarcoating” approach is just my style and this video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m sure we’ll both be back with a vengeance in no time. Just keep making that lemonade…:)

  76. Petra says:

    Hi Matt,

    this is great message coming at the right time. I wanna share my approach.
    I’m just going through some ugly struggles with my landlord, who just wants to kick me out ilegally from my newly purchased flat. His behavior is just awful – he cut me from internet and I have home office, so I could not work…but you know what, I kept my positive attitute and focus on solution, not moaning about the situation. And you Matt helped me here, because this is what you teach us – don’t wait, create. And suddenly I saw how many people support me in this situation – my mum as lawyer and mental support, my friends bringing me positive vibes, my co-workers offering me relocation to a new office closer to my flat…and my salary just got significantly raised (so I can buy own internet:)!
    So what is the message behind this experience – never give up and let negative situation or people to hunt you, never build up your confidence around them, stick to principles like ‘don’t wait, create’ and you can achieve amazing things;)

    I hope this is inspiring, btw I want to tell you Matt, that I like the show, I will keep following. What is suprising for me is how you appear there. It kind of seems to me that comparing to other 2 matchmakers and thanks to final editing of the show, you turned out a bit as a villain, which is wierd, because this is not how I know you:). I have been following you for 3 years now, so I thought I would tell you what is my impresion. But you know what, I like that villain look – always honest, always straight, some of these ladies need it sooo badly :))

    Take care!


  77. chandrakanthi says:

    dear mr matthew,

    great video message!
    I can well imagine that if you are in a “peak” is successful, that unexpected depth point comes your way.
    That’s right, it’s hard to get back to find the right balance.
    I do believe in this: “If your dreams a fighter for you, then you push yourself back to that one peak moment. And certainly comes next dream out again. ”
    Things did not give up but continue right is important in life.
    To pursue your dreams!
    Sometimes life against.
    Just what you say: so we are all strong people and we grow through experiences as a person.
    believe in new things and experiences we become stronger from that.
    Believe in yourself mr matthew!
    you do a great job ,keep believe in work !!

    greetings chandrakanthi

  78. Linda says:

    Ah Matt, at one point in the video while you were saying something really inspiring, I had the strongest urge to just reach over and give you a big big long hug. Too bad you didnt say that to me in real life or I would’ve just done it there and then.
    You are such a lovely person and what you said- and i was cheering you on as you said it cos boy, do I f**king agree with you!!

    You are a winner always. Things work out and sometimes they dont but it will only be a blessing in disguise it if you MAKE it a blessing in disguise, I LOVED that you said that in that video.
    Be strong, whatever it is, you will have your next win soon! I’m rooting for you! Haha.

    Take care x

  79. Clara says:

    hi Matt
    love watching your videos, you are always so honest. ‘Peaks and troughs’ is a good life lesson for all; I’m also experiencing a trough, but it’s an ideal time to reach for the next peak!
    I never saw the show but if the initial ratings weren’t good, then take it as a sign that it wouldn’t have done much for your credibility, when I know you are an excellent coach with so much good advice! (saw you in UK a few years ago)
    Take some of my advice ;) you look knackered, you need a proper holiday!

  80. Caitlin Jean says:

    Words that got me through my April emotional roller coaster was “When life gives you lemonade… You might as well drink it!”

  81. Sandra says:

    Bitter Sweet message, thank you for your sincerity. Ups and downs are part of life and we must learn from them and move forward. I was happy you were experiencing all these things at once but it felt as if you were slicing yourself too thin. My wise mother always says to me, “things happen for a reason. There is a timing for everything. Bigger and better times will come, get ready for it.”

    Your “warrior” spirit inspired me.

  82. Saye says:

    Hi Matt,

    Thank you for the video, I really needed to hear it. Not because of what has happened to you, of course not! But the message in it to keep strong.
    I admire your honesty and confidence and wish you best of success in the next stages.

  83. Meri says:

    Matt your words and presence make life so much sweeter! Your helping me transform into the woman I want to be and Im so greatful for all that you do. Also, is there a specific age you have to be to attend your tours or seminars? (Im almost legal!)

  84. Beanie says:

    Hi Matt,

    Can I say that this is my favorite video of you? Please don’t take it the wrong way as I know this one is the bitter sweet message you have. I felt your pain when you said the show got canceled and I cried when you said that you were with me if I’m in trough at the moment. Somehow that’s so encouraging to know that you and I are on the same path. My life is stuck at the moment, both love and work. Luck never seems on my side though I have made a lot efforts.

    All I want to say now is love and love ands love for you my dear! You make me feel much stronger now and I thank you for that!

    Much love, as always,

    Beanie. xoxo

  85. Lana says:

    Hi Matt,

    I just wanted to let you know that I first heard about you on Ready for Love and am amazed with how bang on you are about dating advice! I would not have heard about you if it weren’t for the show. I KNOW that your hard work was for a higher purpose and will help to get your message out.It always pays off. Sending love your way…

  86. tanya says:

    I am going to send you what my Father has promised; but stay in the city until you have been clothed with power from on high.”luke: 24: 49
    all the best matt move ahead with double power God bless.

  87. Marina says:

    Matt!!!You are great man and amazing coach!!!!

  88. Jessica S.B. says:


    You are an incredible beacon of light to so many people, illuminating brilliant aspects of life and ourselves that were otherwise dark, hidden, unknown. Emanating from you is such love and power that every person can discern when they see you, hear you, and experience you.

    Thank you for being such a blessing to me, and thank you for giving your gifts, talents, knowledge, and love… thank you for giving people what so few can give.

  89. Rivka says:

    All those little smiles from 5:00 on… make me want to smile.

  90. Etha says:

    I wanted to like the show, I did but I think the whole reality thing has played out. I would love to see you have a talk show with women and you doing what you do best. Sending them out on dates per your instructions. Kind of a “What not to do on dates” kind of thing. I am a devout fan, just bought your book and I so look forward to your next project.

    Love to you!


    • Pauline says:

      I totally agree. It was to drama queen style instead of advise driven. You were the only good thing about the show. The other matchmakers didn’t give advice only told them what to say. Like we encourage each other already as women.

  91. Karen says:

    Hi, Matt!

    I feel that you are the angle in our life!! You have been so encouraging and given me sooooo much inspiration when I feel down and get stressed out! Don’t worry about the cancellation of the show, we all think it s a great show and it will definitely come back some time!! Good luck for everything! YOU ARE ALWAYS THE BEST!

    P.S. I am so regret that I couldnt get your signiture in New York last time! Next time when I see you I would definitely ask you for it!!! :)

  92. Rebecca says:

    You are in good company. Tony Robbins’ show did not work out either. That particular genre of show is quite difficult to succeed with as a prime-time thing. Don’t worry, though. Television, as television, isn’t far from death. ;-)

    I don’t agree with the “blessing in disguise” thing. It’s simply a blessing. How could it not have been a blessing for you to get to do a Hollywood show? Even if it didn’t succeed in the end? What about that was not a blessing?

    My dear friend, you wake up every morning doing the work you love, the work you were made to do, the work that makes a difference in people’s lives, and the work that fulfills your mission. You are blessed. That is all. No disguises.

    Much love,

  93. Monique says:

    Hello Matthew,

    – We went to Brighton to your event. Unfortunately, you are busy with doing the tour.
    – We hope in the near future to hear you personally speaking, because you have a very inspirational energy and expertise, what we need to learn from you.
    – We have learned about Love, Life and the costs of Success & being confident in life all the time.
    – Not everything pays off in life.

  94. Olga says:

    Very sorry to hear about your show but thank you for your courage and inpirational words. I know better things will come to you and to all of us who “create”.
    I have been following you for a few years now and THANK YOU!

  95. Olga says:

    sorry to hear this, but thank you for sharing with us and showing us your courage.

  96. Olga says:

    I am very sorry to hear it but it is nice to see your strength and your courage to share this with all of us.

  97. Shelly says:

    Oh Mathew: What a lovely response to your disappointment. And, I can’t help but notice how external it really is … part of the great game of life. A thing … not a soul. Perspective …
    I’m already tasting the lemonade with you …
    ROCK on!

  98. Melissa Smith says:


    I actually went to the bookstore to purchase a different guy/dating advice book…and somehow ended up buying yours instead after skimming through it! I am reading it slowly and being thoughtful in what I need to change.

    This video is divine timing for me…I am in a trough…and while teary when you spoke, I felt strong and hopeful. THANK YOU!

    Best wishes to you,
    Melissa Smith

  99. Karla says:

    Hello Matt,

    Watching your video literally made my eyes water. Your positive attitude is amazing. Today you touched a part of me and you made me feel better. I am going through a tough time in which the guy I was seeing decided to go the other way. Thank you for those inspirational words. I am definitely making lemonade with my lemons. =)

    I am sooo disappointed that your show got cancelled. I was waiting to watch the next episode this week! But I know great things will come your way because you deserve it. I am reading your book as well and I love it! Congrats on making it to the Best Seller list!


  100. Lisa says:

    Hey Matt: I am so sorry the show didn’t work out. I really
    liked it. Thank you once again for such an
    inspiring video. Getting your email today could
    not have come at a more perfect time for me. I can
    really relate to Barbara above on a work situation. I am definitely
    in the work trough but it’s all good. I have poured
    10 yrs in this company given the blood, sweat, and at times
    tears of frustration & something happened last week that
    made me sit up & think I really don’t need to keep
    beating a dead horse, it all came to a head yesterday that
    made me stomping mad but it was the Confidence
    I have in myself & believing in myself that spurred me
    into action of finding a way out of my misery of staying any
    longer at a company I no longer care to work for. I recently had
    a conversation with a friend of a company in
    Boston that I never considered due to traffic but honestly
    with the sheer volume of traffic in MA I will always
    have traffic to contend with. It’s no longer holding
    me back. Yesterday I contacted a headhunter & that Boston
    company has an opening for a position that I would absolutely
    love & he felt I was the best candidate for it. They want to immediately
    see me. And I was like, Hey I was just talking about them. I had a
    Meeting today that upset me more than the other day but they
    never saw it because I held onto my own confidence &
    held my head up. When one door shuts one definitely
    opens. The timing is so perfect. So this is my time to be all
    that I can be. I can’t wait to see their faces when I hand
    in my resignation as they will be the ones that
    never saw it coming. I have had my stompfest like a 2 yr old but I feel
    great. Your videos always inspire me. I am so happy
    I found you & I can’t thank you enough for all
    you give to me & everyone out here. You will go
    on to big & better things. This is a minor blip and
    in the big picture not much at all. You will dust yourself off
    & bounce back up & go on to so much more. And it’s not a I think you
    will, it’s a I know you will. Have fun on your tour, laugh alot,
    dance a lot and enjoy every minute of it, you deserve it.

    • Barbara says:

      Wow. I couldn’t help not to reply to this one. You have made such a huge decision with such confidence, that I’m sure you’ll be very successfull at your new job. I’m sooo proud of you (if that is even relevant). You’re definitely a winner (just like Matthew said to me). Hope everything turns out the way you want it to. ;)

  101. Ada says:

    You are spot on in this video – just want to say – show cancellation is hard news to take… however, it means another door of opportunity is opening!
    Keep on keeping on!

  102. sara says:

    sorry to hear the show is cancelled. On the other hand, great news about the book and I am reading it and I love it! thanks so much for your advised and support. Your attitude and confidence is inspiring. I saw you in NY and had the most amazing time. You are a very special and better things will come.

  103. Ronda says:

    Hi Matthew,

    I think the show is at least playing out up here in Canada. You’re the only reason (after attending your seminar) that I became interested in the show. I thought it would be like Bachelor/Bachelorette and I’ve never watched either of those. I don’t like the notion of all those ladies fighting over one guy. But I finally tuned in and got hooked. That Tim seems very genuine (only watched the first episode so far) and I think all you matchmakers used good criteria in finding potential matches for him. My heart broke a little for his old flame, but I knew he would send her home. Anyway, sorry that the show wasn’t given a chance, but when I heard, I immediately thought it would be a blessing in disguise for you. So many more people know who you are and what you do and you will be crazy busy. Good things often come from “bad” and I know that will be the case for you! ;)

    I’ve found you surprisingly inspiring! And (to reciprocate what you said to me in Toronto, though I’m sure you don’t remember! ;p) I love your energy! ;)


  104. Raimee says:

    Hey Matthew!

    I watched Ready For Love and totally fell in LOVE with YOU! and I really did enjoy the show, and I am soooo sad that it won’t be continued. I understand your frustration with the turn out, but it is definitely a lesson and you have gained so much recognition.

    I’m going to see you in CHICAGO this Saturday! I cannot wait to meet you! Thank you so much for all of your amazing advice.

  105. Stacy says:

    I saw you in San Diego and this vlog post further cements what a leader and inspiration you are. I’m so looking forward to your brand and message exploding and reaching gazillions of people. You are a blessing.
    See you in Palm Springs!
    :-) Stacy

  106. Jules Wallis says:

    Matthew, I adore you. Thank you for your brilliant book. I watched your show too, but I think you should have your own show instead. I am an English 41 year old living here in the USA, going through a divorce. So to hear you, with your excellent advice is heart warming for me in so many ways. I know you will find something bigger and better. I’m here with you all the way.

  107. vanessa says:

    I love the attitude….. you did great!!! I will be wqlking in your foot steps…. look out! something BIG!! is coming.

  108. Helen says:

    Love the attitude and way of looking at things. Thank you so much Matt! This video really helped me. I want to keep working on my core confidence. I would love to come to a retreat that you do, however at the moment that wouldn’t be possible due to living on the other side of the world.
    What are some ways that I could work on my core confidence?

  109. Noura Bashshur says:

    I am so sorry to hear your TV show got canceled, but please remember that when the Universe slams a door shut that hard, it’s only because the Universe is really trying to get you to look at a different door, one that is much, much better–maybe beyond your wildest dreams. And I agree with the other comments–you need your own show, honestly.

    Keep your head up–better things are just around the corner and we can’t wait to see what is in store! Don’t feel bad it got canceled–you were the best part of the show and the only reason I watched. So, all in all, you can consider it, and your part in it, a success.

    Thank you for all that you do for us. I was supposed to see you in Chicago this weekend, and I’m brokenhearted I cannot make it. Please consider making an MP3 recording available?

  110. Denise says:

    I can’t believe a show with a hot guy like Matt allegedly didn’t get sufficient ratings!

  111. Cate says:

    Hi Matthew! Congratulations for making the best sellers! And thank you for all the difference you’ve made! Sorry that the show didn’t work out the way you hoped for, but I believe that greater opportunities will present themselves and knowing you, you’d latch on to it and do them justice =) Keep the spirits up Matthew!

    My love life is going through a sort of trough/plateau right now, and it’s equally frustrating. Good news is, “Get the Guy” just made the shelf of the my local online bookstore last week! I’m waiting for it to arrive and I must say, I’m really, really excited!

  112. Saph says:

    I was looking forward to the show. Can’t even watch it online from the UK! Something better is around the corner. I have to remind myself of that too. I recently lost out on my dream job to someone who worked in a similar company before. I don’t have any other interesting interviews lined up so I’m back to square one but using the time to catch up with friends/family and to write my book. Which leads me to congratulating you on making the NY best sellers list. It’s inspiring to see you make it. I hope to join you some day soon!

  113. audrey says:

    I really enjoy your videos and I am a baby boomer. I caught the show because of you. You mentioned you are a Gemini and you make me proud to be one, makes up for Donald Trump who is also one.

  114. Sara says:

    Loved ones who pass never really leave our hearts. That’s the positive.

  115. Jules says:

    Hey Matt, thanks for the video and it’s great that you’re so honest about the highs and lows. I always tell myself when life throws me these moments after the disappointment, you just have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and think hey what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and that you can always find a positive out of a negative even if its a lesson learnt. Keep up the good work and keep positive, more amazing opportunities are heading your way I’m sure.
    Thanks for sharing :) xx

  116. Sara says:

    You’re enchanting! Happy to see your smiling face – Rock On!!!!!!!

  117. Ange says:

    Hey Matt! I loved your tour! It was awesome seeing your energy in person. And even after going through your Man Myth program, I still learned a lot of new incites on how to pick up guys! Don’t worry about the show cuz honestly I watch everything online anyways! And I know your loyal fans will keep watching. Keep up the great work! I can’t wait to see what you have coming up!

    Angeline xxoo

  118. Paula says:

    You’re so humble and genuine, I love it! Thank you! Wish you the best of luck, and please go on tour again so I can come see you because I couldn’t make the Philly event which was closest to me! xo

  119. Inggrid says:

    Dear Matt,

    I am also going through a trough at the moment, thank you for the video, came at the right time. You stay strong and keep smiling cause it is infectious and i will too. I really believe The best is yet to come for you. :)

    Xoxo from your fan,

  120. Stephanie says:

    So are you heading back to London or..? What’s the next step? Looking forward to the next “video update”. Take care, Stephanie

  121. Junko says:

    Your talk was touching and encouraging. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I ordered your book for my friend, and it should arrive by today. Can’t wait!

  122. Stephania says:

    well matt my grand mother used to say that if life ever kicks you you just have to turn around and say.“is that the best you have got“ …
    you are a very blessed man and we are all proud of you, so just turn the page over and re start, it is your dream, and as long as that statement remains true it is worth fighting for.

    lots of love

  123. Ugh! This is me too! says:

    *sigh* I was so upset about the show. I feel as though NBC set you up to fail. It wasn’t cool and this all or nothing junk is really sucky. >:( I hope E! or some other network takes it and gives it the love it deserves! I will continue to watch it online and on E! for sure! Perhaps if people see that the base is still faithful they’ll pick it up? I’m hopeful.

    Sadly I found out today that my internship was given to someone else because they couldn’t reach one of my references and instead of asking me for another, they just dismissed me. After leading me to believe that I actually had it in the bag. I won’t lie. Not having a job lined up for the summer really blows and finances are practically dissipating by the second. I’m trying to buy into the frame of mind that they didn’t know what they had lined up. I’ve cried it out, the fear isn’t gone, but all I can do is line up another one and move on. NEXT!

    On the brightside, I’ve got a lot more free time to work on my paintings. BOOM!

  124. Amani says:

    Don’t worry Matthew, you are so great and you are so wise! You have given me so much knowledge and hope, I am now seeing the most amazing guy in the world and i know that it wouldnt have been possible if i hadn’t been for the advise you gave me. I was really looking forward to seeing your show, but the females in the world need you, so this is a big mistake! Good luck in your future and im sure everything will work out okay :)

  125. Carmen says:

    Hi Matt, your video could not have come at a better time for me. Thank you for sharing your great experiences with your book. And I’m so sorry about the show. Stay positive… much love

  126. Tiffany says:


    Sad to hear that they cancelled the show. In your video you talked about making lemonade and creating blessings in disguise. I have already found a positive thing out of it…this show is the first time I have ever heard your name. I instantly became a huge fan of yours. I couldn’t get enough of your tips and that led me to looking you up online and now I am following you on here, on twitter, and I bought your book last night. I am thankful you did the show, even though it didn’t work out the way you had envisioned, because now I have a chance to take your tips and change my love life for good! Thanks, can’t wait to hear more from you!

  127. Isa says:

    Hi Matt !

    I know exactly what you are talking about. Last year, I spent all my energy preparing for an oral exam in order to get in a certain university. That oral interview/exam was the final phase, I had already gotten through other “filters” to get admitted. And I didn’t make it. I got the news a few days before my final exams.

    Like you said, it was frustrating at first. And then I thought: “Bite the bullet. You have other projects waiting to be accomplished anyway” :) :)

    I did get accepted in my other “dream college” a few weeks later and I couldn’t be happier now.

    Thank you so much for sharing this experience… It’s inspiring to see how how you handle these situations.

    Congrats for the book, I wish you success in your current projects!


  128. Christa says:

    Bummer that the show got pulled– but life goes on, and you’re making lemonade out of lemons. Why not go a bit further, get a little feisty and make some limoncello? ;) The last time I posted a comment on your blog, I was not focusing on my love life, and everything else in my life was pretty good. Then I realized very quickly that things can go south FAST– balancing my personal physical and mental health (and the issues that came with that) is proving to be difficult with school, work and social life. However, when I least expected it, a guy came into my life. Granted, he went out and made the first move and I inititally rejected him, but I used a lot of your advice to make a “date” happen, got to know him better, built some chemistry, and we hit it off :) Now I’ll just have to use the advice in your book to steer him towards commitment, lol.

    Life is full of highs and lows, but eventually you’re going to have to find a nice equilibrium to settle on. While you can’t just coast, you can try your best to find that balance. :)

    At the very least, you have your tour and the book, and amazing support behind you. See you in Chicago!

  129. GG says:

    I still see you asking for applications on the show. Is there going to be more Ready For Love seasons? I realize NBC isn’t airing it except on so is there a season 2??

  130. Angela Thibodeaux says:

    Thank you for the update; I’m sorry to hear about the show’s cancellation. I think it’s a temporary setback for you though. The book is amazing. One of the best investments in myself I’ve ever made. :) I enjoy the videos so much that when I read (and re-read) the book, I hear your voice in my head. lol. Love the accent! Take care and good job!

  131. Fiona says:

    Sorry to hear the show was cancelled, my mom and I enjoyed watching it. However, your strength and optimism is contagious! All the best!

  132. Kathryn says:

    Truly shocked. What can one say, apart from what you did just say in your video.
    You have been much missed and I am sorry for the circumstances of why you are back. But rather selfishly very pleased as I am definitely in a big trough, not of my own making but something life has thrown at me. So I am with you in turning this into something good.
    Your support is invaluable, which does seem a bit strange saying to someone on a blog I have never met : ) but we understand.
    Lots of love xx

  133. Latoy says:

    Hello Matthew,

    You have earned my admiration…Here’s your ***STAR*** (not that you need it…lol). I admire you more because you are one of the very few people I follow who “walk the talk” and keep it real even when in the trenches. This video clip is truly an inspiration. Thank you for sharing and showing “live” what it means to be confident and remain positive. Here’s to making lemonade…even if you have to cry-then-smile doing it! You rock :)

  134. Nancy says:

    Matthew!! I was so disappointed when I heard the show was canceled :( BUT I’m still watching online! I couldn’t wait for the show last night!

    You really shined on that show… I mean all the matchmakers were good but, you, the guys perspective, was what I valued more, seriously!!

    And starting and ending a show so late?? What was that about! I think too that maybe they should’ve narrowed it down to one or two guys? The difference b/w the Bachelor would’ve been the matchmakers :)

    Matthew, I think you have you’re own show! What I really appreciated about the show was how women behaved on dates, the things that they say!! I cringed so many times! But I’m sure so many women could relate and I hope they learned something :)

  135. Jackie says:

    Hi Matthew,
    I got this in my email this morning after my dissapointing yesterday… it may help you as well…

    “Sometimes, Jackie, when circumstances or disappointments bump you off track, it’s the beginning of an even bigger dream coming true, that could not have come true on the track you were on.”

    Yeah, always.

    Always, always –
    The Universe

  136. Jackie says:

    Matthew…. this is what I got this morning in my email…and I had a disappointment yesterday….. it may bring you a bit of perspective as well…
    Sorry about your frustrations… I feeling them too… but there’s something better coming for us! <3

    "Sometimes, Jackie, when circumstances or disappointments bump you off track, it's the beginning of an even bigger dream coming true, that could not have come true on the track you were on."

    Yeah, always.

    Always, always –
    The Universe

  137. Stephanie says:

    Pretty bummed about what happen but it’s true no matter what comes along in life good or bad we must learn to keep moving forward. Just because one door closed doesn’t mean it is the end. Geesh if only you know how many times life has brought me down to the point where I didn’t want anything in life. But here I am, in love, with my own business and most of all in love with myself and who I have created myself to be. Your book guided me as well as all your videos and I just being able to tell girls about you and your words of wisdom. So never stay down because there is light ahead of your journey. Hope to meet you soon Mat!

  138. Violeta says:

    Hey Matthew :)
    I can totally relate – I’ve been through some tough stuff recently….well… It’s still happening but I am not giving up. My all childhood was very tough too… Life was incredibly difficult for me but I’m not a victim anymore- I’m a surviver ! I’m invincible today and I’m not gonna stop pursuing my dreams. ; )
    Wish you good luck…. Your attitude towards life is amazing. Keep it up :)
    btw… I got your book from Amazon ;) can’t wait to read it all !
    Greetings from Poland !!!!

  139. Abby says:

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It’s honestly comforting to know you are human and that even very successful people have some bumps in the road along the way. That said…chin up…forget about the show because you are a NY Times bestselling author. That is a such a major accomplishment and suggests you have an amazing career ahead of you. Besides…you kind of already have your own online show with these video messages you keep sending out! It’s been fun hearing your perspective and it feels like we get to join you on your journey. Looking forward to hearing about what is next! Cheers!

  140. JoJo says:

    Ahhhh i so needed this video. Dont worry about NBC they have the worst rep on network tv – and are badly mismanaged. Look what they did to Conan O Brien!! Im in Entertainment so i know how this rolls. Trust me u r better off without them. T least it got ur name and face out there. Every show they launch seems to struggle or fail- i liked ur show but u r better off following in conan’s footsteps: launch ur own show on a cable network!
    Trust me that’s where future is (and Internet TV shows too. U have the content and the substance – u just need a better vehicle. Use the successs of ur book to push a cable tv program.
    I myself am going through a deep deep trough :( I’ve been unemployed for a month now… My industry is in major upheaval… Fewer jobs in my area than ever – and on top of that a guy I’d just started to really like and was hoping to get closer too (younger than me) informed me 2 days ago that he got accepted for 4th year medical school at Emory (Atlanta georgia – and I in Los Angeles :( and then a residency job after. So never gonna see him again and I’m carrying alot of disappointment and rejection feelings righ now while he’s excited to be off on his new adventure .. I’m sitting here unemployed, broke, and like “um yay for u” pretending im so happy for him :/ argh like I said deep trough.

  141. Susan says:

    This is wonderful msg, Matthew, I am working on to be that inconvincible person and be strong no matter what happen. It’s so good to see how you cope with your life cause normally people only let you see them when they are on the winning track.

    Wish you the best, yes we will come out stronger and better!!

  142. Gina says:

    Matthew, you and your videos and blogs have been an inspiration to me and taught me many things about life. This could be one of your most rousing videos yet. Thank you for your hope. It gives me hope.

  143. Amelia H says:

    Hi Matt,

    The troughs in life make the peaks worth while but, something amazing will come from this.

    That’s amazing news about the new york times best seller list.

    If you need any help with updating ur blog let me know.

    All the best.
    Amelia x

  144. jillian says:

    Hi Matthew,

    So sorry to hear about the show…..NEXT!!!!! When life sends me lemons I make lemon drop martinis…..LOL!!!!! Thrilled about the book……I keep giving it as presents to my girlfriends and family members for birthdays etc. Thanks for sharing your gifts and mentoring with us… is appreciated.

  145. Anya says:

    Haha .. even before you were drawing to a close, I noticed you were sitting under a lemon tree and thinking, ‘time to make lemonade from these lemons, people’!

    Whatever fresh window this closing door’s just opened, we got your back, kiddo. To fresh adventures!


  146. princess says:

    Hey Matt, How refreshing to share your blog on this disappointment. Life really is about peaks and troughs and I guess coasting periods. While circumstances around us change, there is one thing never changing and that is God’s love for us all. I think of Job and his story – he had many blessings; then EXTREME challenges where everything seemed to be pulled from him; and finally he was BLESSED more than before. Although an extreme case, it shows that life can be a journey of ups and downs and that it is crucial to have faith in something unchanging. Wishing you much joy in the nezt season – does this mean we will be blessed to have you back in the UK?!!! lol If so can you do some events in locations outside of London?

  147. Nofyah says:

    Hi Matthew,
    So sorry about the show. You’re still a shining star!

    Looking forward to seeing how you get compensated (and you will) with something even more fantastic.


  148. janz says:

    wooooow your confidence is amazaing . and you dont sugar coat anything and your so genuine mat….your courage will get where you are aiming to go!!

  149. Barbara says:

    I’m so glad you posted this video. I’m going through a trough right now. Something at work didn’t work out for me and I worked really hard for it. When I found out, I was angry and disappointed. Afterwards I even cried like a baby. I cried so much my eyes were red and puffy. But it made me feel better. I haven’t cried in a long time and after I got it out of my system, I felt good. I now have more confidence in myself and think I can still make things work out for me.
    So thank you again and good luck to you too.

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Barbara, you’re a winner : )

      We will come back bigger and stronger than ever, because that’s what we do.

      • Barbara says:

        That’s so sweet of you to say. You’re one too. I’m sure there’s something bigger and better than that show waiting for you. ;)Maybe your own show? :P
        As I like to say great words from a great man.
        I look forward to your next blog entry, which will surely be amazing as always. :D

  150. Amy says:

    I have always enjoyed your positive attitude, Matthew! I am coming to see you in Dallas, so you being in the US has already been a blessing for me.

    Take care,


  151. Yvette says:

    I agree you need your own show like Plain Jane here in the US! Men and woman of all ages, shapes, sizes, backgrounds, and personalities not only bueaty queens. You were the best and absolutely the most AMAZING part of the show. You even had the other matchmakers in awe of you when you were showing examples of what to do. They even learned from you. I can’t wait to see you on the television again!

  152. lindsay says:

    Sorry to here about the show :( , but like you said you guys will definately be coming back bigger & stronger. I have faith in that! :D . and thank you so much for the inspiring words! My week didn’t started as I hoped it would be but your message came as a blessing!

    Good luck @ the next events. Keep it up!


  153. Amelia says:

    Sorry to hear about your show, but great news about the book (I’d always pick a book over TV anyway!). I’m in a trough with you – waiting to come back bigger and better than before. It was just what I needed to hear. Thanks!

  154. Simi says:

    Matt – You ROCK – onwards and upwards. Thank you for this very powerful video – I can imagine how flat you may feel about the TV show…but just remember there IS something BETTER waiting for you around the corner!! From your dear friend and fan! Love Simi xx :)

  155. Francesca says:

    Hi I bought the book after seeing you on the show.
    Just thought you should know there was a reason
    you were there .
    X Francesca

  156. Clemency Gomes says:

    Thank you for that Matt. I really needed to hear all those things…have been experiencing many troughs of late and you comments on core confidence during such times really brought some perspective on my life at the moment. Thank you. I hope you can indeed make this a blessing in disguise! All the best :)

  157. Charissa says:

    I am very impressed and inspired by your attitude.

    Everything I have tried from the booked has worked. I am meeting tons of guys per week. I now don’t spend my days wishing guys would come talk to me, now they do! THANK YOU!!!

    Sorry about the show, HUGS … but I can’t wait to taste your lemonade!! ;)

  158. Michelle says:

    Sad news about the show. You really do need your OWN show.

    On another note, I am still desperately waiting for the book we were promised at the FEB 16th event in Santa Monica :( Very sad….waiting is the hardest part….

  159. Stella says:

    Well done for the book!
    I am really happy for you!
    Sorry about the show but I think for you it’s not gonna be a drawback.
    You will still gain from it even if it didn’t go as planned.

  160. Jen Kelchner says:

    Matt, I was so disappointed in the showing being pulled. FINALLY, a quality show that offers so much value to its viewers and placed an emphasis on self-value and not settling. I know so many amazing things are in your future. Thank you for being so inspirational and transparent. That is what makes you such a great leader! :) In the trough with you!

  161. Jackie says:

    Matthew – you need to have your own show! One that reflects the unique you.

  162. M Leonard says:

    I loved your bits in the show. I liked the basic premise.I think it brought a wisdom to the world of reality matchmaking from the episodes I saw. But it was a weird hybrid of “game show” with bright lights and elevators moving women up and down, MC’s (I did love Giuliana and Bill, though) and trying to find real, sustainable, authentic love.

    An honest show with you and the 2 other matchmakers helping those men find women who would be long term, genuine, healthy, happy, and worthy mates for them would have been awesome. Not sure it would have gotten better ratings or been picked up by a network, but needed and valuable, yes.

    You are intelligent and incredibly loquacious. You have experience with your material and passion for your audience. You are sexy and funny.

    I know you will have no trouble conquering the world in the way that you want.

    You have so much to give. Please make sure you take care of yourself too. Success isn’t so great when you are burned out and have to force out the passion bc you are “cooked”.

    Best to you and your amazing team, Matt.

  163. Magdalena says:

    Hi Matthew
    im in a through with you :),lost my job
    thanks for sharing your experience, we are going to be stronger and come back with tripled power ;)
    your book is amazing ,I went for weekend last year but I wasn’t well during the workshop and you were in USA
    I would love to do it when you in London
    Regards and Don’t change

  164. JJ aka Janise says:

    Sorry to say but to be honest the show was lame and the best part of the show was you and really the only interesting part of the show worth watching. The other match makers I thought gave poor advice and were so superficial. The guys looking for women were not very interesting and the dates were boring. You need a separate show all your own.
    Blessing in disguise for sure!

  165. Sana says:


    I saw the link to this via Twitter just now. So sorry to hear about the show. I was at your Philly event because I missed the NY event and had no idea. You hid the news well and I enjoyed seeing you live, as I knew I would. Wish I had gotten my copy of the book sooner so I could’ve gotten it autographed. Oh well. C’est la vie. The point you made about confidence is spot on. Looking forward to sharing my own theories on confidence via YouTube…soon. I’m still interested in being mentored. If you’re ever in NY and have 30 minutes, coffee’s on me. No worries either way though. AND…that part about the lemon tree was a little cheesy. Did you videotape in front of it, on purpose? HAHAHA. Either way you’re adorable so you pulled it off and I’m still with you ;D All the best, Sana

  166. greta says:

    just a question about how do you feel about death. how is it possible to stay positive

    • Kathryn says:

      I am too dealing with life and death. Yes it is possible to be positive because before death comes life, it just becomes more crucially important what you do in life. How you deal with things.
      I hope this is understandable and you do not mind me chipping in! xxx

    • Sara says:

      Death is just another life – there is no “escaping” life but to live it and enjoy it as best you can in every moment every single day. Suicide is NEVER the answer – been there and seen the devastation it causes in its wake. Choose life, let death come when you are called Home. Don’t force anything in life Everything in its perfect time as God intended and loves you.

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