The #1 Way To Respond to His Sexual Texts

Picture this. A guy sends you a sexual text.

It’s a bit too dirty and inappropriate considering you haven’t known him very long. Maybe you could ignore it. Or you could get mad. You think of the best way to write down your thoughts in a text message. But you never seem to get the right tone. You want to tell him it’s not cool, but you don’t want to seem too bothered by it.

Basically, you just want to tell him to slooww down.

Check out this ONE ridiculously simple but powerful text to deal with the situation.

Once you send him this, he’ll not only stop what he’s doing but he’ll want to be more of the kind of man who pleases you and be begging to be back in your good books. Keep watching all the way through, because at the end of the video, I’m going to show you even more of my favourite texting secrets that seduce and attract men every single time. Think of this as a very early Christmas present you can use whenever you need to know what to do next to keep him hooked.

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  1. Aya says:

    Hi Matt. I tried this with a guy I was talking to on a dating app. He didn’t ask for a picture but was a bit inappropriate and the reply I got from him was “I don’t think there will be a difference between you tomorrow and you after few more dates. It’s not about the number of dates.If we click with each other we may feel doing something from the first 5 mins”. What does one respond to that? I decided to just drop it.

    • Vinnie K says:

      I am also interested in a response to that. Maybe if you started your standards text with, fwiw, or fyi.
      Otoh, men test you…as is the case from your guy. He seemed confident that you’ll both know if you click. Which is true. In which case you’ll be doing yourself no harm by seeing if you do. Get him to open up. Find out about him, what you have in common and what you enjoy together. Be present,see where it takes you. Good luck!

    • Yulia says:

      I think he showed disrespect, you said kinda”I don’t feel comfortable ” but that’s doesn’t bother him, he pushes you regardless.

  2. Jane says:

    Thank you soooooooo much for this. This is literally the issue I’ve been having recently and even having watched many of your other videos I couldn’t work out the best way to respond – especially as even when I have thought I crafted one well (i.e. If I were to send anyone a pic tonight it would be you but unfortunately you’ve not quite earned it yet) I just end up getting more pressure still way before I’m ready. This is a much better way and will keep the pressure off longer. Thanks so much!!!!!

  3. Emma says:

    I would have sent a picture of my shower, and ask why he is interested. Making it a joke on him it’s a way to tease and make him persue me without being a prude or saying I think its okay to send a picture of me naked. His respond will tell me if his a guy I want to date or not

  4. Heckmannjojo@gmail.com says:

    Thank u

  5. Marina says:

    Matt, you are perfect, as usual!

    But honestly, if a guy asks me for naked pics just that soon, I would not want to be with that guy. I would go cold and then stop talking to him.

    Am I wrong?

    • Aleda says:

      It’s never wrong. Why? Coz how you act around a guy is all about what YOU want, not the other way round. You get turned off, so why bother to continue, right? :)

      xoxo
      Aleda

  6. Savannah S. says:

    How would you alter that text if you are waiting until marriage? Would “I think you’re confusing me with your future wife” be too prudish as well? Haha… But seriously. ;)
    I think sending them a picture of something funny would be flirty as well, like finding a picture of a fat lady in a bikini or something. Shows your fun side, but also gives the message that you aren’t going to be sending a picture of yourself.

  7. Yulia says:

    Matt, somehow you look different in this video.. new hairstyle, maybe.. looks good anyway:)

    And thank you for the video, it’s interesting, how all those words sound for men, very interesting.

  8. anon says:

    Matt,I know I’d typically be the “PASSIVE” person here that you describe – cause I’d react by texting him back that, I’m not sending him that picture & move on to talk about something else. The reason I would react like that would be because I know I wouldn’t send a guy a semi-nude or nude picture because that would be out of character for me & because he could show it to anyone, or accidently someone could see it, or if he wasn’t a nice guy it might end up on the internet or facebook! Does anyone agree?

  9. muri says:

    i have answered to this request with the marge simpson playboy spread. he loved it

  10. Emma says:

    That is absolutely brilliant. Previously I would have allowed this sort of text from a man to make my blood boil. Matt you turn it into a wonderful opportunity with that fantastic punchy response where it could easily have been a punching reaction…

  11. Kristina says:

    Love the “I have to be earned”, “intimacy with me has to be earned ? ” I had a phase in my life where I did not see “the testing my boundaries” and I was either on autopilot happily escaping “all the evil” or a doormat who got fooled by a jerky guy. Then, I had a phase to be the aggressive woman in such situations…and it depletes my energy again. Time to step into my “best middle, non-reaactive- high standard woman”. I can make my response about being more playful and fun ( I am usually soo serious :-) ) It feels way much better. Thank you for this great teaching, Matthew !

  12. Stephanie Barinka says:

    I don’t really think I agree that not sending nude photos, even in the future of a relationship makes you a prude. That’s what your video implies, but I think it makes you smart not to send those because someone can ruin your life with nude photos if used maliciously.

    It doesn’t really matter how well you know them either. People do things that are out of character when they are angry.

  13. "Michelle" says:

    Just had an instance to use this response and it worked! Not regarding the shower, but he was being too forward too early.

    He apologized and said, “You’re right, I am.” Then we moved forward in our conversation still playful, but respectful as well. Thank you, Mathew!

    How can I get more direct coaching on some specific questions that I have? I’ve read your book over and over, get the emails, watch you on YouTube, and listen to you on Elvis Duran, but still have some outstanding inquiries that remain unaddressed. All the Best, “Michelle”

  14. Stella says:

    The 9texts guide doesn’t work. I don’t receive an e-mail to access the guide.

  15. Tigress866 says:

    … So there’s this guy.

    He doesn’t just send me pics.
    He sends me weekly videos.
    Quite forward without even a date!!

    He is such a Hussey!! …
    lol

  16. London mh disciple says:

    An ex did this to me and i sent him a photo of the shower ☺

  17. Fiona says:

    I love that you’re showing us that we have a choise of paths and that instead of there being just two to chose from, you’re showing us the one that feels respectful and exciting at the same time. Thank you Matthew. You are my guide.

  18. Wendy says:

    Matt, this is great advice, and it covers all the bases for sure, but I think I’ve evolved past it. The thought of spending time sending out titillating photos is just depressing. When there are beautiful things to do and inspiration to be found is this all I’ve got to look forward to?

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