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  1. Esther says:

    Awesome video.

    To answer what you have asked in your video:

    I believe I am a naturally feminine woman who can be take on men’s tasks just as efficiently as them. I am deeply emotional, nurturing and loving at the core of my being and am not afraid to reveal bits and pieces of that part of me when I want to.

    I am intelligent, have a great depth of personality and am able to debate intellectually on many areas, especially areas I have a deep interest in (e.g. life, love and my beliefs). I think and feel deeply about things that concern myself and the world and am able to introspect frequently and have moments of epiphany that enriches my inner world.

    I am passionate and able to produce results in whatever I do, not failing to chip in insightful ideas now and then. I value teamwork and like to communicate with people and have good working relationships in the myriad projects that I work on. People value me for the value I bring and they know I am not just the demure and silent woman I often appear to be.

    I believe that when I am at my most genuine and relaxed self I have a pretty attractive aura (not to say I do believe I am pretty and have a good body) just with the smile I have on my face. I do always seem to have guys hitting on me whether its at work or at school even though I never did anything special and might have been not at my best state.

    So in a nutshell, I have an attractive personality, aura and pretty decent looks and figure. Mixed in with all these are high intelligence, insight, passion and determination to live a purposeful life. Don’t I sound like a well-rounded woman? ;)

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  4. Lachelle says:

    Well said…I already feel better. The thing is- when I look in the mirror, I like what I see most of the time;i am no beauty queen, but I’m satisfied. The problem comes in when men and other people look at me wiered or make oppressive comments about my looks- this is when I begin to feel down and unatrractive.

  5. Joanne says:

    Feeling confident and in control- that makes anyone stand out beautifully! Many supermodels,if we actually look at them, are not really that gorgeous in terms of features etc. But, it is mainly confidence that makes them shine on that runway.

  6. Jill says:

    I have had the privilege of watching Matthew while filming a show here in the US and love this video. Too many women don’t think they’re pretty:( If you would please look at yourself in the mirror and find at least one thing you like about yourself physically and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
    A few things I like about myself are my legs and my booty:) I also like that I have a huge heart and would do almost anything to lift someones spirit and confidence.

  7. Rebekah says:

    Hi Matthew! Thank you so much for this video. You took my night from terrible to wonderful in ten minutes. I’m so glad you took the time to do that.
    The funny thing is, it wasn’t my looks I was feeling insecure about. I feel beautiful and my bf tells me I am the most beautiful woman in the world. LOL. :P But I was feeling like a victim and insecure about other things. You reminded me to focus on what I have control of and to make the very best of all that I have going for me. You reminded me that I have so much to work with (on so many levels) and not to feel like a victim in my own life.
    Thank you for everything. My love life and so much of my whole life has changed a lot from implementing the principles you bring to light here.
    Safe trip and God bless.

  8. Joan says:

    I love my never ending thirst for knowledge and my optimism. Another thing I love about myself is that I’ve come a very long way on the path of spiritual development despite my very young age and I did it all by myself.. Many times I’ve proven myself to be unusually mature and wise for my age. I can reach subjects that most people never have the balls to even think about. I can’t stand not to look beyond appearances and not to learn as much as I can about everything. Sometimes I wish I had infinite memory so I could accumulate all the knowledge in the world.

  9. Korrin says:

    I’m a writer, I love my words. Sometimes I push people away because I have such a large vocabulary, but I love them. They are part of what makes me me. If I didn’t have my words… I would be a walking zombie. I love the way characters will walk into my head and start telling me their stories. I love my gift!

  10. Melissa says:

    Hi matthew is always refreshing and informative watching your videos.
    now on to the question, one thing i usually don’t appreciate is how smart and creative i am.
    physically: i think i have nice eyes they’re big and expressive. i also like the contrast of my fair skin and my dark hair.

    x Mel

  11. leah says:

    I enjoy your videos just thought you should know :)

  12. Nicole says:

    Yay. This video made me smile and feel so much better about myself and the fact that I haven’t worked out today. (: Thank you, Matthew Hussey!

    So what I like about myself is my straightforward-ness and also my desire to be different. As in, sometimes I don’t like some things because it is way too popular and I’m kind of okay with that. Honestly though.

  13. stephanie says:

    hey matt a while ago i wrote you about a subject like this, being a big woman how can you attract the right guy …fromthe indights your team send me i was able to recognize how low my self steem was, i truly believed that my weight was everything about me and that it cotrolled my life. and it is still hard for me to find that love for myself each day , and put myself outthere without expecting to be rejected, it is really hard but i guess it is just the road we all have to go through when it comes to loving ourselves…yesterday my best friend told me that 90% of me was a lack of self steem…it hurt me so deply, because i dont want to be like that but i have no idea how not to be…i try honest to god and your help has been divine…but i still have a long long way to go

  14. Nawreen says:

    Hey Matt
    First of all, catch a flight to Toronto, Canada sometimes and let me know? :P
    I love how you’ve explained the perceived beauty and objective beauty, I’ve noticed it before but I could never put it in sentence properly but just learned the right explanation from you :).
    I like a few things about me, but most of all I like how I stick to my understandings of morals and ethics no matter what happens. I have felt down sometimes but I bounce back up pretty quick and jump to the next level with the lesson of previous fall.

    Oh and the best thing I love about your blog, is hear you talk.

  15. Haley says:

    Matthew, thanks so much for this. You truly have a talent to motivate others!!

    I like that I’m learning to make boundaries for myself. I’m learning that I’m not allowed to tell myself degrading things, and I’ve begun to not allow others to do the same. I’ve realized that simply allowing people to say negative comments about you will let THEM believe it. Telling them that they are wrong actually changes both their and YOUR perception of yourself. So I like that I’m making steps forward. :) And physically, I like that I look like a girl, that you could never mistake me for a man. I like how thick my hair is.

  16. Natasha Anisio says:

    Thanks a lot for the video. I’m often feeling that I’m not enough and it’s good to hear someone that thinks that being skinny isn’t everything.
    well… for the question of the day, i’d say my happiness and my ability to stay who i am, no matter where. I know u sad only one thing, but it’s kinda 2 in 1 . I move a lot, and being a happy person, i was capable to stay the same, no matter how people see me.
    thanks again for the vlog, it helps me a lot
    have a nice trip

  17. Dorthea says:

    Also what you say totally make sense, even though I can be superficial about my own looks, when I look at a guy, looks don’t matter. Maybe you’ll think, that is just something she’s saying, but of cause I can se if he is good looking or not I just don’t care that much if he’s open and charming and my type I don’t care if he’s not that good looking, I’ll fall for him any way

  18. Dorthea says:

    hmm.. your question was hard, because since I have a great deal of insecurities, I make sure to remind my self of the things I like about my self, so I’ll write a list just to make an extra reminder since I’m feeling pretty bad about my self at the moment.

    I appriciate that I like to help other people, that my waist is pretty small and my boobs pretty big (even though they can be pretty annoying finding cloths that fit nicely and stuff). I appreciate my face, the relationships I have to family and friend and especially my wonderful little brother. I appreciate the ability to find beauty in most things and most people and the openness I bring to those people.

  19. natasha says:

    im gonna be on this website for the next 2 hours. i need this so bad. 1 thing i don’t usually appreciate: how intelligent and driven I am. 2- Physical- I have a nice booty.

    thanks Matt

  20. Rogenna says:

    My most underappreciate quality is that I do unto & treat them the way I like to be treated. I always come from a position of respect, openness/neutrality, and just trying to be helpful and cool

  21. Astrid says:

    Hi Matthew :) Your video is very refreshing and informative. Thank you for taking time out to creating this video even though you’re scheduled to fly out to New York soon. I do agree about the objective beauty and perceived beauty. As a petite woman, I used to be very self-conscious. Now, to answer your question of the day, I do love my height now. I’m a firm believer that beautiful things come in small packages ^_^ Also my most cherished features would be my mouth, my expressive eyes and last but not least, my youthful looks.
    In terms of personality, I’m sweet, family oriented, determined and out spoken (I feel that the last one is underappreciated by most people). Good luck in New York and thank you for sharing :)

  22. Amy says:

    I like the outtakes the best :D

    And the answer to the question of the day is my eyes. They rock!

  23. Jenny says:

    Yes, guys can fall for you when they know you well, and this has happened to me a couple of times with long-term friends. So while I agree that men fall in love with a whole person not a ‘look’, if you’re out in public if a guy doesn’t immediately find you physically attractive you won’t get past stage 1 – talking to them! I have literally had guys step in front of me to talk to my very attractive friend as if I wasn’t even there! The problem is opening up situations to allow people to get to know your personality when they immediately dismiss you for not being Claudia Schiffer. Bet your gf is a bit of a looker isn’t she Matt?

  24. Elena says:

    Very well said Matthew! I have a friend (guy) who is nothing special in the looks department but he has such personality that is very attractive (hard to point out anything specific, just the way he carries himself I guess).

    What I like about myself the most is my hair. Whenever I feel like nothing else works, I do my hair and put on a smile. I always get compliments throughout the day. It brightens up my day and helps the initial sadness or dissatisfaction with my looks at the beginning of the day fade away.

    Welcome to New York!

  25. Stefanie says:

    Hey there Matt,

    I really liked this vid-blog of yours. I work with special ed kids who ALWAYS feel that they aren’t good enough, not pretty enough, not tall/smart/funny (…) enough and I try to basically give them the same message you gave us here.

    I even talk to my friends about it when they feel down, when they feel un-loveable (and who doesn’t from time to time) – however, I find it soooo much harder to TAKE this advice than to give it. Don’t get me wrong – I actually believe in it (otherwise I’d be a phony for giving advice I don’t believe in) – but it is hard for me sometimes to not just see or focus on my (perceived) flaws. But you ARE right and I have decided to keep up those positive thoughts when unwanted bad ones creep in… So thanks for that :-)!

  26. Alex says:

    Wow so many truths that we just don’t see.

    My under appreciated feature is my responsibility and being so punctual.
    You always give us food for thought!
    Have a safe trip
    X

  27. Alice says:

    I totally love your video. You’re speaking truth into our hearts, Matthew. Maybe we’ve heard this before or somehow it seems logic, but the way you put it is really powerful. Thank you.

  28. angie says:

    Hi Matt!
    great video! It makes me really angry when I hear people saying that just because they are average, or less than that, they can’t get a handsome man/woman! I have a flatmate (woman) who is really concerned with that and speaks nonsense for hours about the matter and it drives me nuts! And no matter how hard I try to convince her she’s wrong, also by using evidence (I am average, but I really like myself, and I could get also hansome guys, same as my other average friends……), she won’t believe me! SHe thinks looks are TOO important…But in real life noone who isn’t terribly stupid would go out with someone just based on their looks!
    In any case, I won’t listen to her moans anymore, it just draws negativity on me!;-)

    As for the homework……appearence: as odd as it may sound…..I love my nose!
    personality: I love the fact that I always say what I think in a very direct way.

  29. s. says:

    Hi Matt!
    I just love your vlogs, I always feel better after watching them! :)
    Well, I love everything on me! :) Because that’s unique! I love my looong fingers, my small waist, my eyes, nose, smile, etc. I love being short, because I can always wear very high heels! I love my sense of humor, I’m always for having a great time, and I love that I’m so confident, because I’ve come a long way to be like that!

    I remember when I was younger, I was so insecure in myself, but today, when someone says to me that I’m not skinny enough, tall enough, not pretty enough.. , I just say to them – If you think that, that’s YOUR problem, not mine. Especially when someone says to me that I’m not skinny enough, I just love to say to them – if you think that, you should visit ophthalmologists! ;)

    Big kiss from Croatia, handsome! ;)

  30. Laura says:

    To answer the question of the day…I think I under appreciate my height, usually i think on it as a bad thing, most guys being shorter than me, but I think it gives me an interesting way of viewing the world…literally lol

  31. michelle rv says:

    I Really like your music – the part I apprciate about me is my lips and my facial transitions (Funny eh) and I apprciate the way you move your lips and your eye movments which seem to indicate such a genuiness (Funny again?) Enjoy THE BIG APPLE dont bite it too hard

  32. Anna says:

    i love my ability to think positively:) i love my smile and my eyes. i love that i keep trying and don’t give up and i love that each day there are new possibilities!

  33. Elizabeth says:

    Hey Matt! Once again you’ve managed to hit the head of the nail dead on! Beauty – inner beauty albeit – is something I struggle with quite a bit. It’s difficult to acknowledge, I think, that we are all beautiful in our own, special way. I mean, in the pack of poised, posh, prim, “plastic” (and I mean that in the nicest way possible) women, it’s difficult to find yourself as a straggler on the outskirts beautiful. And that is just the predicament between societies elite women, and women of normal stature. It is an entirely different slice of bread when it comes to the way a man merits a woman’s beauty. It’s downright nerve wracking to contemplate on what a man’s first impression of a woman’s appearance is. I used to hide under my unshapely clothes because I was conscious about being viewed as a sexual object by men. I want a man to look past my physical appearance and look into my soul and my true self. Although, I do have faith in the male population and believe that my knight in shining tin foil is out there! In any case, I’ll cut my little rant here that I’ve voiced short and end with this: I believe that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, but I guess now I just have to wait for the right “beholder” to come along on his merry way.

    PS. As for the answer to the Question of the day: as far as physical characteristics, my sky-high cheek bones and my tiny lips. And for my personality, it would definitely be my honesty; I’m always beating myself up for how honest I am.

    PPS. I liked the song of the day, it definitely lifts the spirit! :)

  34. Wendy says:

    Please don’t use the words shit/bitch. Be classy and talk politely. You are young…but it makes a difference. Thanks for being a good model. I don’t think you need to discuss your words on the videos… please just edit your videos if needed. I appreciate it.
    Thanks for your help in dating and your insights. I agree beauty is the whole package. Actors/actresses may not be pretty…but take care of themselves/smile/have personality/thin. Beauty is on the inside more than outside which changes as you get older. If a guy judges by looks…he may end up with someone he can’t relate to but is pretty on the outside.

  35. Rebecca says:

    Thanks for making all these videos. Sorry about the negative comments you were getting on the last two. Don’t stop!

  36. S says:

    The consistency in my behavior towards people i am in a relationship with and even otherwise, i would not want to confuse this with predictability. I just know what I want and am not scared to go all the way to make it happen.
    Learning a lot in the course of manifesting love in my life :)

  37. Rogenna says:

    Matthew,

    I don’t think you need to apologize for using the word bitch. Some women just need to get over it. I didn’t feel slighted and I COMPLETELY UNDERSTOOD YOUR POINT! I look at people’s faces and many women carry themselves in this manner – in public – or they just looks unhappy or sad. People forget there internal selves is sometimes so readily displayed on the surface. Great video and thanks for addressing this most critical issue that affect us and men, too.

  38. Amy says:

    Hi Matt,
    This was a great blog! Thank u!
    I have soo many insecurities! Never been confident with my looks despite my friends telling me often that I am pretty!
    Even when I date, guys tell me I am cute or hot but I don’t seem to really believe it! It’s weird!
    After your weekend though I definitly felt more confident, and im smiling more, people have noticed and I ‘feel’ more attractive for the first time just because I am happier in myself :) and that’s thanks to you!
    It also goes both ways, as I’ve dated some pretty amazing ‘looking’ guys recently! But something changed after your weekend! These ‘hot’ men don’t seem soo attractive and their company isn’t so exciting! I think I have learned finally that real attraction really is on the inside…and it’s not enough to just be ‘cute’ or ‘hot’, I want a good heart and and amazing spirit! I guess I am a ‘fussy b****’ lol, and i am proud!
    Luv ya… Have a great time in NY! Come back soon xx

  39. Carine says:

    Matt,

    Great video and straight to the point..

    As for the question of the day, well I think my whole body and personality are amazing so I can’t really choose!

  40. Sandy says:

    If objective looks aren’t important then why do you have a make up artist on your women’s weekend to teach women how to make themselves look more beautiful?

  41. Brittney says:

    I wish hearing beauty is objective would help, but not feeling attractive can be ingrained by constant reinforcement. I believe a guy can think a girl is pretty, but because she isn’t, ” Hott” they will ignore her because they see having attractive women as a sign of status. One of my friends was invited to go clubing, but the guys in the group actually told her that the friend she invited was not attractive enough to go with them. Sometimes even when you are feeling confident being treated differently or ignored by men can just beat that out of you, desipte trying not to let it get to you. Sometimes this treatment comes from closer sources too. I have an older sister who is , ” model” attractive , and I have always noticed when my parents talk to her they tell her how nice she looks; when I get a compliment it is usually something to do with being smart. Sorry for the rant… lol

  42. Rebekah says:

    Hey Matthew, great video :D It really got me thinking. My features would have to be my eyes, eyebrows, and eyelashes. Everyone tells me that they are beautiful. Personally I think that the old saying “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” holds true to your video. What may look pretty to one guy might not look pretty to another. Keep the vlogs coming!

  43. Consuela says:

    Hi Matt !

    Today a plastic surgeon (I’m a med student so I meet a lot of them) told me that my mouth was perfect and gorgeous ! It’s so funny, I’d never paid any attention to my mouth… now the more I look at it the more I like it, and I think I’ll start wearing some lipstick now :)

    Thank you for all the greats videos et bon voyage !

  44. Aline says:

    I asked my ex once what he liked about me the most. He answered me that I was pretty and there was really nothing else he could come up with. During the awkward silence :), I realized that this was the most hurtful thing anyone had ever said to me.
    Anyhow, my point is that the ‘objective beauty’ is highly overrated. Ask yourself this: would you rather be an objectively beautiful retard, or be subjectivly beautifull and smart? For me, it is a no-brainer. And don’t tell yourself you have neither, because that’s bullsh*t.
    Gifted people are everywhere, most people just don’t know what their talent is that could make them shine. No matter what your talent is, if you have one and you are passioned about it I could talk to you for hours. This is what attracts me in people (along with a good sence of humor of course..) and I am sure I am not the only one and there must be some men that feel the same way.

    Oh and Matthew,

    Since I have just recently became acquainted with youre blog, I don’t know which topics you already discussed in this blog or somewhere else. I would really like your view on ‘when to sleep with a guy’. Does all the waiting and letting him chase really make a difference? Or are we waisting our time :).

  45. Jennifer says:

    Hi Matt,
    Brilliant video again. I really appreciate my singing voice. Don’t get to use it very often unless singing in the car counts.
    Enjoy New York, amazing city, especially Brooklyn Heights.
    Love,
    Jennifer

  46. Barbara says:

    I have fabulous ears, nice hands and a nicely warped sense of humour. Plus I usually get on with people.

    Have a lovely time in NY!

  47. Amanda says:

    i appreciate that my eyes change colors from day to day. they vary between brown and green and gold and every shade in between. i like that! i feel your pain with the packing, i’m going on a long trip in a few days and the packing is driving me nuts! have a good trip
    -Amanda

  48. Amy says:

    Hi Matt :)

    I really like to listen to your videos, but unfortunately none of the advice is rubbing off on me yet. I don’t know why, but I just can’t attract guys as more than friends. The majority of my friends are male, but I can never seem to interest a guy as a romantic partner. I asked my closest friend for tips, but he just shrugged and said he didn’t know any, he just said that I was probably just a “one of the boys” kind of girl, which is sort of true I suppose because instead of makeovers, I do camo paint in the air cadets, and instead of shopping, I go paintballing. I asked a girl that I speak to in class sometimes too, and she says it’s because my standards are too high. They aren’t high at all though- I’m only looking for someone I get along with, they don’t have to be superman. I can’t exactly help it if I’m decent enough not to sleep with over 2 thirds of my year group like some people I know. Any advice for a confused 17 year old? I’m on the verge of giving up xD

  49. Julss says:

    You are awesome!! Thanks for all the things you are doing for us “girls”.
    Wish I could marry you ;)
    Kisses from Mauritius

  50. Makenna says:

    Dear Matthew Hussey,
    I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to post these videos. It is nice to hear your words of wisdom as they are much needed. Please continue to stay in touch with all of us :)Stay Beautiful!

    Makenna

    p.s you mentioned in your video that we should leave a comment on something that we find beautiful about ourselves. I would have to say i love my upbeat and happy persona. I also think my hair and eyes are very beautiful too…Thank you for reminding me what true beauty is :)

  51. monica says:

    hi wow u are amazing I love yours tips !!!!!
    come to mexico !!!

  52. Neon says:

    Hello Mathew,
    firstly, you look good with shades on ;P
    and now to the point (and a question too)
    WOW! its like you read my mind. I was just going to ask you the exact same thing. I’ve always thought Im not pretty or beautiful and that why would I guy want to approach me? he is looking at my friend not me… what’s so special in me n bla bla bla. yes insecurities. that’s exactly that and Ive tried to control that and Ive been a little bit successful too. I try and appreciate myself for who I am…. question: I wear braces…. and does that mean its taking away from my beauty? I mean, what if I see someone Im attracted to and I give him a smile and all that. what if he looks Im not worth it? or pretty? think stuff like “ewww, she isnt even pretty… she is overdoing it” or if Im slightly flirty with someone and the guy thinks ‘She thinks too much of herself. she isnt even pretty’ then how do I tackle that? i guess, that’s one thing that scares me alot and has stopped me from taking risks…

    One thing I like about myself: I like my eyes, they are dark, chocolate brown and I like it when I put silver eye shadow on them. people dont really notice them but i personally like them :)

    really appreciate your help! -Neon

  53. Katrina says:

    Others tell me that my attractive traits are: being loyal OR being flexible

    I think my most attractive trait is being very caring and kind to people.

  54. Hulda says:

    Thanks for the video :) Have learned a few things through them… not many chances to try them out through. Totally left alone by men for some reason :D

    Have fun in NY

  55. Brandy says:

    Another nice post with a wonderful message. It can be so intimidating to get out and about sometimes, but really I stop paying attention to the way other people look in about 15 minutes after meeting them. Nice to have a reminder that we are more than the sum of our parts.

    Oh, and I like my smile. :)

  56. Renee says:

    a couple of things i like about myself – that for some reason turns other off is my sense of style (i like the conservative look/elegant/sophisticated (i guess most people would call it the rich look) lol), and one thing i like but don’t like at the same time is that i am a great listener (but not a great talker) – this usually ends up with people telling me that i make the situation awkward (which in turn means i usually end up with no friends…which is what i hate but if they’d hang out with me long enough and give me a chance i break out more and talk more – but they usually never give me that much time) – and i laugh at ridiculous thing lol (like this habit of laughing when something is Not funny – but it makes me laugh – people tend to look at you as if your crazy)…

  57. Sofia says:

    I almost cry seeing this. Last week my actual boyfriend said that he was thinking to break up with me at the very start of our relationship because I wasnt beautiful enough.
    Thanks for doing this

  58. Renee says:

    hey, another great video ;)
    I’d have to say as a couple others did – i am a bit superficial when it comes to looks too – if a guy is more “physically” attractive then he will have a better chance at talking to me than the other “non” attractive guy would – one question i have though “how can i get these so called “good-looking guys to be attracted to me?” it seems i attract all the guys i am NOT attracted to in the least bit – kinda depressing makes you wonder if you are “pretty” – it runs through my mind sometimes (not all the time) that man am i that ugly that i seem to only attract the “ugly” ones (in my preferred taste of men)? for once i would like a guy i am attracted to to be attracted to me as well…

  59. Steph says:

    I like my eyelashes! :)

  60. Heidi says:

    Hi Matt

    Just wanted to say that what you say about beauty was great!! Only yesterday was I sneakily looking at a text message a young school girl sitting next to me on the bus wrote and it went along the lines of “why won’t you go out with me? Is it because I’m ugly and fat?!”

    Firstly, I shouldn’t have been looking at what she was texting, but secondly I thought it was very sad that such a young person would say something like that about herself.

    I’ve gone through years of thinking the same thing and it’s taken me quite a while to get that notion out of my head.
    I’ve read a lot of stuff about relationships, how to succeed in relationships and the same message keeps coming across….It’s how you feel about yourself.

    We’re all different. We all have something to offer to people, we’re all sexy and beautiful and we should all believe in that!!
    We can’t expect someone else to make us feel good about ourselves (wouldn’t that be giving them too much of a responsibility?) It all comes down to ourselves.
    We’re all just ace!!!

    I used to think that some lovely man would me happy, but happiness comes from within. I am in a relationship, but I’m happy with me and I’m happy in the relationship, but the happiness began with me first.

    At 33, I’ve realised that I am happy with who I am and how I look and the person I am….there’s nothing wrong with me.
    It’s not being big-headed or arrogant, it’s about giving yourself the respect you deserve.

    I just hope that the girl on the bus will realise that quicker than I did!!

    Thanks Matt for bringing this to the attention of all those lovely ladies out there…it’s great to hear :-)
    Heidi
    xxx

  61. Svea says:

    Hello Matthew. I wanna thank you for this video.
    I got my first boyfriend 3 month ago, but the thing I
    haven’t understood was how he could fall for me when it’s so many beautiful girls out there. In my eyes he’s really attractive, so I thought it was weird that he would choose me when he could choose a hotter girl.

    Thank to this video I’ve understood why he chose me, it’s because of the whole package, the same reason to why I chose him and like him. Because of the whole package.

    Thank You so much and keep on being inspiring.
    – Svea from Sweden

  62. Jessica Cha says:

    My eyes.. definitely.

    It’s cheesy to talk about your eyes any other time, but they’re awesome! They’re a dark green with a dark orange around the pupil.. and one has a freckle in it.. :P

  63. Bianca says:

    Hi Matt

    Your such a delight to watch and always insightful!
    This is an area where I always seem to second guess myself but I understand it differently after watching this :)

    One thing I like about myself is that I’m super cheesy! I like to be a hopeless romantic, not only about love but also about life. I’m a bit of a dreamer but I find that sometimes my so cliche and wild views on life make me so much more fun to be around and actually help some people sometimes.

    P.s. I also like my curly hair.

  64. Ximena says:

    Hey Matthew,

    Yes, I can confirm you are right about the info in this video.

    P.S: you look funny with those sunglasses! and good luck in New York ;)

  65. Jasmine says:

    Hi Matt

    Wow that is what I needed to hear today, I have a crush on a guy who I was telling myself was too attractive for me. I feel alot better about myself after hearing this, and also found it insightful as to why I find him so attractive…it’s not his looks it’s his attitude/ mannerisms…I suppose beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. Thanks and by the way I like your honesty and language…PC is for the faint hearted!!

  66. Sara says:

    Hi Matt,
    (I apologize for the bad english, it’s not my native language)
    I wanted to thank you for this video, it gives me hope and make me think about why I’m so insecure about my body. During the first two years of high school there was this guy who told me everyday how hugly I was and how fat I was. I begun to belive this as well. Now I feel better, but this experience really affected me. It’s like, deep inside, I still feel like other people think those things. Nevertheless, I’m still 18 and I think I can’t let this make me feel so bad all the time. I’m trying to make a change because I deserve to feel comfortable with my body and I shouldn’t give a damn about some stupid bully. Thanks again for this video, it was really important to me.

    One thing that I love about myself is the fact that I have uncommon hobbies, like comics and cosplaying. Sometimes my friends don’t understand this side of me, maybe they think it’s stupid or childish but I don’t care. Instead I think this makes me special.

  67. Alida says:

    I LOVE this video Matt. So awesome! I love your description of perceived beauty – very encouraging!
    I guess what I need to look after more is my hands. My mum always says that I have beautiful pianist hands. I need to take care of them more.
    Thanks for the motivation!
    I LOVE the bloopers at the end of the video! Very funny! We get to see more of the ‘behind-the-scenes-Matt’…
    Safe travels to NYC!

  68. Indira says:

    Thank you so much for this video. I have been watching your videos for a couple of months now and they have helped so much. You really are just amazing and I thank you so much for your advice that I try to apply to my life every day.
    Can’t wait for your next blog:)

  69. KatherineK says:

    Hi Matt,
    I can relate to what you say about objective looks and the “package” that we present. Beautiful people are nice to look at, but the personality or conduct may not exude positive energy. When you experience this, the physical beauty quickly loses relevance. I have become disinterested rather quickly in someone who while being very handsome fell short in his personality. On the other hand, I have found that certain guys capture my attention who are not particularly overly handsome in the traditional way. What i realize appreciate is that I they have a “magnetism” about them that i find attractive. The funny thing about this is, that I quite like finding that type of guy attractive and it means that i am not wasting precious time in seeking perfection.
    So about my best features? LOL! Well I am told that my eyes “say alot”. Also that I have killer legs and a killer smile. LOL! Hey that’s what i have been told.
    Keep making videos, Matt and stay true to yourself! Hope to meet you at an event someday.

    Best regards,
    Katherine

  70. Sabrina says:

    I like that I have a big heart, I am a great listener and that I am open-minded.

  71. Laura says:

    I bring light and laughter wherever I go. I am such a positive force full of joy and love. I am integrated and feel so incredible about myself…I am a beautiful girl that magnetizes everyone around. I am joy. I am Love. :)

  72. Natalie says:

    I felt like you were really speaking to me! I’m glad to see that I’m not alone on this journey that seems a bit abnormal at times.

  73. Stefanie says:

    Hmm.. I like how my eyes are shaped.. Never really paid attention to them but now that I notice i DO LIKE THEM :)

  74. Tracy says:

    And then theres the people like Matt who have objective AND subjective beauty, unfair dude, unfair :) seriously though, this vlog comes at a good time for me. Thought you were going to do the usual speel of ‘every guy has a different type / it takes all sorts to make the world go round’ yada yada, but makes you think though…sure everyone has a ‘type’ they go for, but theres more to it than that, and while (objectively) I’m not anyone’s ‘type’ I am very good at being me and that is my answer to your question… what is something I like about me that is unappreciated by everyone else…my ability to just be me

  75. Rosalind T says:

    Thank you, Wise One for such great advice….. it is true that the whole package counts and that we should make the best out of it and to be the mistresses of our own lives. I have been told i am quite charming and hv a happy personality….i realised that it is not how beautiful you are, it is how you look at life that matters. We are all given choices everyday and it is up to us to live life over and above that 100%. Do come by to singapore if you do have the time.

  76. Ashleigh says:

    lol, you look like Johnny Bravo when you wear the sunglasses! But it’s a nice look for you.

    Today I am celebrating my humor! I love laughing and saying outrages or just off quilter statements that make people shocked that I would say it then laugh so hard cause I did!!!

    • Jessica Cha says:

      hahaha! too true! :D

    • Lynn says:

      Heyhou! That reminds me of what I missed in those awesome bloopers: an eyebrows dance with the sunglasses. I’m always fascinated by moving eyebrows, especially with no eyes visible ;D. No offence. Just makes me laugh. Yeah, me and my crazy ideas. I guess I should appreciate them more ;D. What else can I appreciate about me? My sometimes mischievous attitude, the laughter in my eyes. I’m not going on here ;D. I guess my self-confidence was already too big, so I had to learn first how to dim it down…and now how to build it up again to a healthy level. I really appreciate that video and I love the song.

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