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Why You Shouldn’t Gossip

In this week’s episode of LOVELife, I cover the topic of gossip, 3 practical reasons why we shouldn’t gossip, and getting more of what we want by being a better person. Enjoy!

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11 Replies to “Why You Shouldn’t Gossip”

  • This is one of the best that is not just about dating. I constantly have that conversation with my 11 yr old granddaughter when she tells me about ‘the he said she said ‘ banter at school .
    I think I will have her listen to this one.
    Again, great job Matthew

  • I don’t think it helps anyone. Thinking back on times where someone came and told me something someone else told me made me think less of that person because who’s to say they weren’t right in with all the “trash talking.” I definitely have made more of an effort to seek out the good but I’m not gonna lie there’s those occasional people that just drive me up the wall and I have to get it out but to dwell and constantly talk about it isn’t cool.
    For us as humans to judge others is to say we are perfect and that my friends is just crazy talk.

  • Like the alternative point of view and the positives that come out of that. Esp like the ‘not being nice for the sake of it’, bit – am guilty of that when trying to be ‘in’ with a group.

  • I agree 100%!! I’ve been saying the same for years. Especially the part about how gossip creates a false sense of connection. So many people don’t want like to hear it and might even attack you or try to sabotage the one who tries to bring that message. The most interesting thing is that this video only has 3 comments.
    It says a lot about people and how much people like to and rely on gossip fed by the reality show culture.

  • Great talk Matthew! I hate gossip, but (as almost everyone) I occasionally indulge in it too. I always feel bad about myself afterwards. Some harsh comments that I made a long time ago stick with me and I still regret them to this day. I’ll try to eradicate gossiping completely. Thank you for this inspirational video! ;)

  • Hey Matthew,
    I’ve been following your blog/videos for about 2 years now. I’ve also been to two of your live events in Dallas and have even gotten to volunteer with you on stage. So it’s safe to say I’m pretty familiar with your work. I think this is one of the best videos you’ve made. It really hit home for me. Recently my friend group (which is fairly large) has taken to being very “chatty” about others in the group. It’s left me with a low feeling after hanging out with friends. Like you said in the video, why bother talking about them if they don’t deserved to be talked about or can be talked about in a good way? This has encouraged me to avoid the gossiping and further myself and hopefully my friend group. Thanks so much for this video and all your other work. You make push myself and so many others to better ourselves and our lives! Again and always thank you!

  • Speaking of compliments, can you make another video on compliments guys never get tired of? (I already used the ones in the first vid.) Thank you.

  • This seemed to be something you feel passionate about, but I would like to hope that most ”gossiping” is done out of concern or caring. If your discussing someone negatively it’s hopefully out of seeking some kind of resolution…and that may mean talking to a third party or consulting a mutual friend. That is the only natural way that human relations can work if you think about it.. People who intentionally ”gossip” just to hurt someone for no real reason other than it making them feel better are probably pretty unkind to begin with. There are better ways to feel better about yourself. Go to the gym, ffs. Why bother creating the drama if it’s not for a good reason?

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