Would You Date Yourself?

This is an important question to ask yourself. Check out this week’s video episode of LOVELife to find out why, and what your answer should mean to you…

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  1. Jess says:

    Matt,

    This is such good advice. It really kind of hit me and humbled me and made me want to be a better outwardly person, wow! Wait to go. I would say I look for someone who seems kind and smart and has a sense of humour a great smile really helps too!

    Jessica

    • Jess says:

      In addition:
      To be respected on a level where I feel safe enough to open up to another person, experiencing that joy of life together without fear would be the ultimate goal for a relationship

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  3. Olivia says:

    Confidence – It’s super sexy when a guy shows confidence in who he is and what he has to offer. You can see confidence in the way he moves, the way he holds himself, and how he communicates.

    Although what they look like may be the first thing – because without a visual attraction you may not give the guy the time of day. ;o)

  4. Julie says:

    Love the videos Matt. I do think I’m a decent catch. My problem is that I don’t really like very many guys… I guess I find I don’t click with a lot of them. Dating is difficult because of this and also because I’m from a very small town where everyone knows everyone and all of my friends are engaged/married. There are only a few eligable guys in my town and all the single girls are after them and sort of compete with each other, and these few eligable guys know this so they just draw out the process of picking one to date. I find a lot of your advice is for people who live in a city. Any suggestions to either of these problems (not being attracted to many ppl, having a very small dating pool with a lot of competition).

  5. Kim McMaster says:

    Excellent insight Matt!
    Thank you!

  6. Jenny says:

    Hi Matt,

    Again, your advice is invaluable. This was excellent. It validates my own life experiences. For example, in every serious relationship I have been in, the man in my life has invariably asked of me things he admitted he would never do himself for the sake of the relationship. The men in my life always have wanted me to make all the sacrifices and they make none. I have been asked to take all the risks while they risk nothing. I think the better way is to compromise and meet them half way with shared risk / sacrifice, but they never would agree to that so I left.

    So, I make it a point never to ask of a man something I would not do myself as I have found that it is a terrible thing to do to someone. It really erodes a relationship and is hypocritical.

    Jenny, NYC

  7. Rhea says:

    Thank you so much Matt! This is a very insightful topic. I truly appreciate hearing this message as I continue to strive to be the person that I want to be.

  8. Emilie says:

    Thank you Matt, another great piece of advice x

  9. Google Eye says:

    … Not sure why I cannot put on some emoji in my comment – so it appears to be incomplete. :( … To complete it, I was going to say: If I write down the whole list, I will kiss myself in the mirror! Lol

  10. Google Eye says:

    Matthew,

    After I write the full list of what I expect my

  11. Mari says:

    A weird sense of humor, muscle tone, and talent.

    Good thing I only gotta get to work on the muscle tone ;)

    I love it when you lecture us, Matt. Don’t be afraid to give us a little bit of tough love from time to time.

  12. Susanne says:

    I looooooooooooooooooooove it when a man is 100% man <3<3<3<3<3

    So incredibly amazingly oh truly masculine <3<3<3<3<3

    After all, God created men with so so so so much LOVE. Isn't masculinity incredibly beautiful? :)
    Oh yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees it is :)
    Thank God for creating such incredible beauty :)
    I'll always be thankful that God created men :)
    It's so so so so heart-touching that men exist :))))))))) &

    When I'm with Mr.Right I believe my heart will beat in the most beautiful ways
    <3<3<3<3<3

    If I'm with Mr.Right I'd looooooooove to see all the incredible beauty in him: HEART, MIND, SOUL & everything that is so incredibly amazingly oh truly masculine…everthing God gave him :)

    I wanna discover everything wonderful each moment :)

    Every moment I wanna discover the beautiful creation of God he is : A man <3<3<3<3<3

    If a man is 100% man as God created him I believe that is TRUE LOVE :)

    <3&<3

    In Jesus name may I always be the woman God created: So incredibly amazingly oh truly feminine :)

    All the best masculinity and femininity to all men and women on this planet :)
    + all the best standards :)

    Men, enjoy being a man and as masculine as you can be :)
    As I enjoy being a woman too :)
    Thank God for creating men & women & that
    men can be so so so so masculine :) and women can be so so so so feminine :)

    I wish everybody an amazing day :)
    & may everybody enjoy everything beautiful here :)
    Looking forward to the next episode of LOVELIFE and all the amazing blogs and videos and everything beautiful by wonderful Matthew and Stephen Hussey :))))))))))

    • Susanne says:

      I looooooooooooove it when men protect women :)
      After all, this is earth and not heaven :)

      So when I’m in danger may I say:
      RESCUE ME :)
      & Mr.Superman Lovely will bring me to safety :)

      If a man rescues a woman, that’s true LOVE :)

  13. Susanne says:

    ♥♥♥ :) HEART BEATS ON A SPECIAL DATE :) ♥♥♥

    With all my heart I thank you dear wonderful lovely strong hero of LOVELIFE :)

    I loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove everything you said :)

    May I answer your beautiful questions with heart beats :

    My heart beats for true LOVE ♥&♥ PEACE :)
    So my standard for everything in LIFE is TRUE LOVE ♥&♥ PEACE :)

    If Mr. Right ♥&♥ I loooooooooooooooooooove TRUE LOVE and PEACE with all heart I believe our heart will always beat in a romantic way ♥&♥ I believe we’d always enjoy all the
    looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooving
    ♥&♥ peeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeace
    together :)

    If I meet Mr.Right God knows every moment I’d loooooooooooooooooooooove to kiss his heart ♥&♥ mind ♥&♥ everything wonderful…♥&♥ I believe he’d … (something incredibly romantic that only God knows :))

    Oh hallelujah I loooooooooooooove romance :) ♥&♥ God knows what Mr.Right loooooooooooooooooooooves ♥&♥ my every HEART BEAT :)

    Today I had my very first date with myself and it was one of the best dates I had in my life :)

    Why? :)

    Because I looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove TRUE LOVE ♥&♥ PEACE :)

    ♥&♥

    Since I’m God’s creation I’m so so so so so so so so so so so so incredibly attractive :)
    I loooooooooooooooooooooooove my heart, mind and everything God created with so so so so so so so much LOVE :)

    ♥&♥ I have everything in life: TRUE LOVE ♥&♥ PEACE ♥&♥ God knows one day I will meet Mr. Right :) Hope to meet him in the most romantic way :)God bless Mr. Right and me in the most romantic way :)

    ♥&♥ Because I looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove the TRUE LOVE ♥&♥ PEACE ♥&♥ FREEDOM in Jesus name :)
    Thank God there is endless LOVE ♥&♥ PEACE in heaven ♥&♥ that we human beings can sense this on earth too :)

    Wow :) Today it was possible to date myself :)
    A beautiful Thank you to you wonderful lovely Matthew Hussey :)

    It was very romantic :) I realized it’s possibe to kiss my own heart ♥&♥ mind too :) Hihi :)
    It was a very heart-touching ♥&♥ interesting experience :)
    Hope everybody enjoyed this experience too :)

    Looking forward to Mr.Right ♥&♥ to write something beautiful about him too :)
    Oh dear lovely Hosana in heaven: connect our hearts :)

    :) HEART KISSING :)

    Susanne

    • Susanne says:

      ♥&♥ again : I loooooooooooooooooooooooooooove this topic :)
      Very very very oh very beautiful :)

      Finally a human being who speaks with heart :)
      Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy :)

      • Susanne says:

        Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine.

        (Song of Solomon 1:2)

        And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

        (1 Corinthians 13:13)

    • Susanne says:

      ♥ “The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. ” (Psalm 23:1)

      • Susanne says:

        Since Jesus Christ saved my life so many times,
        May I say my standard is true LOVE and PEACE and I am truly used to protection :)
        Jesus Christ always protects me and God knows who loooooooooves to protect me too and I thank God with all my heart for all th true LOVE and PEACE and RESCUE :) May I be Always safe when Jesus is here and lovely human beings who looooooooove to protect :)

  14. Sara says:

    Integrity, deep friendship and mutual respect.

  15. Q. says:

    Matt,

    this is simply brilliant. It takes _everything_ into account. This one is by far my favourite blog post and video so far as it helped me get instant knowledge about both what I want and what I can bring to the table.

    I actually sat down and wrote down 12 qualities I want in a man (yes there are many more, they just didn’t come to my mind and I can always update my list).

    So after this exercise I gotta say: no, I would probably not date myself. I’m a great person but I do not communicate when there’s a problem because I’m afraid of the other person’s reaction. This is a trait my partner has to have, so of course I need to have it too. I’m working in it.

  16. A says:

    Number one: Can he communicate clearly with me when things get difficult? Most men really, really can’t.

    But there’s someone out there somewhere who will be able to!

  17. emilie says:

    The first I wrote was “inspirational”.

    Thank you Matthew, this is very important – and inspirational – what you’re doing. You give us access to things we’ve never ever heard or had the idea to ask ourselves for most of us. We’ve been so surrounded by stupid ideas that keep us from changing and freeing ourselves. This is so helpful.

    I have a serious problem with boundaries and this is very helpful. I’m searching for answers everywhere, and you give one of the most helpful answers I found to free myself from a victim status which is so hard to change, because I’ve been so blinded by so many wrong ideas I’ve been hearing all my life.

    I feel very grateful for your work. Thanks a lot.

  18. Leila says:

    LOVED THIS!! :)

    I’d say the most important thing for me, at the top of my head, would be for him to be tolerant (not mean for example).

    xx

  19. Cat says:

    This is certainly a healthy exercise. However, I think you need to take into account that women and men tend to value very different features in a potential partner. I want to date a man who takes charge, initiates and likes to lead. However, I’m pretty sure this kind of man would not be attraced to me if I also liked to lead and initiate in a relationship. Also, people who are more inclined to introversion are generally more attracted to extroverts and vice versa.

    So yes, even if things like being kind, attentive and having boundaries is important in both sexes, I don’t think you should strive to behave in the exact same manner as you’d want the person you’d like to attract to behave.

    • Jenny says:

      Excellent points you brought up here. There are qualities you are looking for in another person precisely because you might not have then yourself. That person can make you a better person because they have the qualities you do not have and visa versa.

      Jenny, NYC

  20. Hidz says:

    Did you just list out your criteria Matt? Hahhahhaa yep a 27…amazing in the bedroom bla bla…sexy and good looking…a billionaire who spanks people (not in public)…hahhhaa you are funny. Truly funny!

  21. kerly says:

    and yes I would date myself any time because im so awesome and have developed myself in so many ways that im the best version of myself and fun to be around:))

  22. kerly says:

    Love u Matthew!
    I agree!!!
    I wrote a letter about the type of guy i want two months ago… and put the letter in my cupboard..

    I read it yesterday together with the man I am with today.. just to see how much he is what i wanted.. and i was in shock…

    he is everything!!! and i mean everything i wrote out…
    and you know how you always talk about unique combinations..
    how its rare,,,,
    and i know its rare as ive been dating around for a while now looking for the guy who would have it all.. not just some things i like.. bat has it all.. no point settling…
    and now i finally found him…

    and i have been following your stuff for ages!!
    yo are liretally my biggest inspiration!!!

    ii know most things about men and relationships and myself from your material.. man myth and how to get the guy plus ur youtube videos and articles and radio shows….
    without ur stuff i would be lost and making the same mistakes with men that i did few years ago..

    Now i would say the main key points taken from you and experience that I’ve had so far of finding, getting and keeping the guy.. i would say:

    Have self-worth as know what u are worth
    set standards of what you want in a guy
    be social and approachable
    start conversations/ meet new people!
    dont lose hope and keep going no matter what
    never settle.. if it doest feel right from beginning its usually not right..
    oh and drive to be the best version of yourself!

    btw i was in your London live event, remember the one on stage with u… and now i finally found him.. im so happy…
    and i thank you for it, its me who made it happen but with your help, knowledge and bit of luck:))

    xxxx

  23. Yesenia Esmeralda says:

    Yes I would. I am an interesting fun happy person. I am also a great mom. I am independent and don’t ask for too much.

  24. Barbara says:

    Thanks for that. It really sums up what this game is all about, and what mistakes we make.
    I’ve still got ways to go, but I can honestly answer this one with “yes”

    As for the charactaristic:

    #1 would go to supportive as well.
    He needn’t have the same belief-system, interests or hobbys as long as long as he can still understand and support me on the way

  25. TC says:

    I wasn’t expecting this to be a hard question to answer! If I had to choose, it would be a supportive man. I would rather my hot teammate who’s going to have my back and help me keep our spirits lifted in the fight. That’s the kind of guy I’d want to come home to.

    Btw, I made that list! I may have to detail it a little further once I watched the video again. Great advice as always, sir.

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