The 3 Biggest Secrets For Flirting With Guys
Okay I wrote an article earlier today on flirting with men, and I realised that as good as it was (and it was good!) I did leave out an awful lot of practical advice for flirting with a guy for you to actually take away and put into use… So I felt obliged to write a guide of the do’s and don’ts when it comes to flirting with men.
I’ve talked about flirting tips for women before and said that, flirting with men is an instinctive thing for women; as humans we all know how to do it to a certain degree, but as a dating coach, I know that there are definitely things that some women do that has an insane impact on men, that other women can model.
And it’s these flirting tips that I want to make you aware of, so you can immediately start implementing them to attract guys.
Why are some women so good at flirting?
Why does flirting seem to come so naturally to some people? I know that every woman reading this knows at least one woman that always has options in her love life. She might not be any better looking that you; she might not go out any more often than you, but for whatever reason, whilst you haven’t had a date in 5 years, she has 5 lined up for next week!
And I really think that for a lot of women, the reason that they’re not satisfied with the standard of men that they currently have in their lives, is because they’re not creating opportunities for themselves.
A lot of my advice hinges on the concept of being proactive with your love life and actually acting on your impulses. I speak about this a lot in particular when talking about finding the guy, but I think with every area of your love life, it’s almost a symptom of the same problem.
Thus the secret to flirting; the secret that should have a knock on effect with every area of your love life is being proactive, playful and not caring what anyone else thinks.
“Okay Matt, I want to be more proactive, but what do I do?!
For this article I want to give you 3 things that you can take away, and immediately start doing. And I’m going to set you the challenge of doing all of these things within the next 3 days. Sound ambitious? Good. We’re making progress.
1) Challenging Guys & Breaking Rapport
Why would you ever want to challenge a guy, or object to what a guy says? Surely this is going to end badly for me!
Whilst you might think that we would absolutely love someone who shares all our interests and opinions, the truth is that we hate people that agree with absolutely everything we say. It’s bland, it’s boring, we aren’t forced to learn anything new.
There have been multiple studies done that actually prove that people prefer to be around those who challenge them every now and then. Clearly you don’t want to overdo this, but it’s something to definitely keep in mind, as it’s a great little way of initiating flirting with men, and it’s a great attraction builder.
2) Being Animated
No man finds a poker face attractive, but yet so many women fail to animate their face when flirting with guys.
We have over 80 different muscles in our face alone, and I can’t imagine that most of us get much use out of any of them. To attract guys, and a fundamental part of flirting is communicating everything through your body language and facial expressions.
It was Hitch who said that ‘90% of what you’re saying ain’t coming out of your mouth’ and the man was certainly onto something. If this means practicing in front of the mirror for 5 minutes a day, then just do it: you’re going to feel like an idiot the first few times, but I guarantee that it’s going to pay off.
3) Being More Touchy-Feely
This last one is absolutely huge. When you think you’re flirting with men, if you’re not touching them, if you’re not playfully hitting one another or joking around – you are not flirting.
I really can’t emphasize how important this is, and how much a simple touch from you on the back of his arm, or leg will turn him on. This is what flirting is really all about. It’s an excuse to get more intimate with one another and start building that physical connection.
So there you have it, my 3 best flirting tips.
So hopefully now you know some more ways for flirting with men that will instantly attract men. It’s crucial now to keep him wanting more…
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