jQuery.validator.addMethod("inf_field_Phone1", function(value, element) { // no phone number is a good phone number (the field is optional) if (value.length == 0) { return true; } // if the phone number field is not empty, it has to follow the fixed format if(!/^33 \(0\)\d \d\d \d\d \d\d \d\d$/i.test(value)) { // ten digits starting with zero if (/^0(\d)(\d\d)(\d\d)(\d\d)(\d\d)$/.test(value)) { value = value.replace(/^0(\d)(\d\d)(\d\d)(\d\d)(\d\d)$/, "33 (0)$1 $2 $3 $4 $5"); $(element).val(value); // also update the form element return true; } } return /^33 \(0\)\d \d\d \d\d \d\d \d\d$/i.test(value); }, 'Please enter your phone number in the following format: 33 (0)1 23 45 67 89'); Stephen Hussey, Author at Get The Guy

Learning From The 3 Biggest Regrets Of My 20’s…

Stephen Hussey

I’m not one for endlessly looking back at the past. 

Of the mixed grab-bag of traits I inherited from my Dad, one ability I’m happy to possess is a tendency to quickly move on from what can’t be changed and instinctively look ahead.

I’m much more interested in where I am now, not where I’ve been.  

And yet, I do find it instructive to learn from what I’ve gotten right and wrong over the years. Looking at one’s habits and mistakes from a decade ago gives you perspective on (a) how far you’ve come, and (b) things you might still need to work on. 

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If You Feel “There Aren’t Enough Great People” For A Relationship…

Stephen Hussey

In a new video this week, Matt and I spoke about our top 5 dating myths.

And one of them was, “there aren’t enough great people out there”. 

It was fascinating the read the comments in response to this point. Both men and women replied with the same accusations towards the other.

The specific comments I won’t quote verbatim, but the general tenor goes along the lines of:

  • “You’re wrong. Men don’t try anymore.” 
  • “Women want only perfection and won’t settle for anything less. It’s impossible.”
  •  “You should see some of the crappy dates/rejections I’ve had. Where are all the good people?” 

I don’t doubt the sincerity of these comments. I have been through the treadmill of single life. I’ve seen behind the curtain of the ugly dating world too. 

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Why Losing Respect Kills Relationships

Stephen Hussey

Do you know any couples who appear to be just coasting in their relationship?

Or, more alarmingly, a couple that appear to be riding down a steadily declining slope of romance and passion towards thinly veiled indifference (or even contempt?)

What you’ll probably notice is that, even if on some level these couples love one another, they show signs of constant disrespect.

Why? Because respect isn’t the same as love.

Love is, “I need you. I want what’s best for you.”

Respect is something like, “I admire what you do and value what you say”. 

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“Dating Burnout” Is OK…If You Don’t Let It Define You

Stephen Hussey


Here are the two most common causes of dating burnout:

(a) You go into dating with unrealistic expectations (“the next guy I like better be THE ONE”)

(b) You keep choosing the wrong things (going on dates with guys you’re only 50% interested in, spending too much time messaging on Tinder, not enjoying other parts of your life)

I hear from women all the time who have lost hope. They complain about how men can’t grow up. They get cynical and tarnish everyone with the same brush. 

And yet, we know these things can’t be true:

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Annoying Verbal Habits + How To Lose Them

Stephen Hussey

Have you ever been forced yourself listened to a recording of your own voice in conversation? Or watched a video of yourself public speaking?

If you have, it’s equivalent to peering under your skin through a microscope for the first time and cringing in horror at the bacteria festering inside.

You’ll see awkward gestures, verbal ticks, and annoyingly frequent habits you have that make you wonder for a moment how no-one has ever mentioned them before. ‘Have people been aware of this my entire life?’Is that how they see me??’

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Don’t Let Your “Fatal Flaw” Ruin Your Relationships

Stephen Hussey

worried woman

You won’t struggle in 2018 to find lots of insecurity porn.

Scroll through Instagram and you’ll see we live in a bizarre age of both ever-inflating narcissism, yet also a growing movement of people exposing their worst, most unpleasant flaws and saying, “this is who I am, broken and messed up. Accept me”.

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Lust vs. Love: What’s the Difference?

couple kissing in bedroom

You want to grab and kiss him every second you’re walking down the street. He can’t help but sneak a touch whenever you’re walking up a flight of stairs front of him.

Even though you’re out with friends, all you can think about is ripping each other’s clothes off when you get home.

But how do you know if it’s lust vs. love?

In this article, we’ll take a look at the definitions of both, so that you can tell whether it’s purely a physical connection or something deeper…

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7 Signs You’re In A One Sided Relationship

couple bored at lunch

You ask your friends, “Is this normal?”

It’s not that he’s necessarily a bad guy. But you feel deep in your gut that something is wrong. Like he’s just a passenger along for the ride, and you’re always the one driving the car.

You keep wondering if you’re being over-dramatic, but you can’t help but feel something isn’t right.

Is he being unreasonable? Or are you expecting too much?

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4 Things You Can ACTUALLY Learn To Be Better At Dating and Relationships…

Stephen Hussey

One of the harsh truths about getting older is realizing that so many things in life can’t be learned.

No amount of grinding will summon up a sublime talent for poetry or a gift for music. You can’t study enough physics and be capable of the insights of Albert Einstein, or swim enough lengths and evolve into whatever land-sea hybrid creature Michael Phelps is.

But that’s ok. Life is better when you bet on your natural strengths anyway.

What about love though?

People often ask me: “Do you really think that attraction and being good at relationships can be taught to everyone?”

(This is their polite way of asking: “Does the stuff you teach actually help anyone?”)

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Do You Have Any Of These Annoying Girlfriend Habits?

Even if a guy is crazy about a woman (in a good way), it doesn’t mean there aren’t things she does that also drive him insane (in a bad way).

Ok, it’s one thing to have a few bad habits.

But some behaviors are deadly kryptonite that KILL men’s attraction for you and make him want to hit the “ignore” button whenever he sees your name on his caller ID.

So let’s look at the top 7 annoying girlfriend habits that make him pull away so that you don’t fall into these traps…

1. Judging him constantly

woman annoyed with her boyfriend

He dresses wrong. He watches too many movies. He has the wrong opinions on politics, art, and life in general (i.e. not yours).

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