3 Big Love Lessons from American Hustle

You asked for it, and I delivered…

It’s time for another episode of “Sexy Potatoes!”

This week we’re talking about “American Hustle.”

Now I realize that a movie about con men and the mafia doesn’t sound romantic, but there are actually 3 big love lessons in this film that I’m really excited to share with you.

Pay special attention to lesson #3 – it’s an important one about how much you should invest of yourself in a relationship…

I know you’re going to get a lot out of this week’s video, including a good laugh (yes, that’s me doing my best attempt at an American gangster accent).

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    Great post! I liked it very much!

  4. Di says:

    Great Vidéo post! Thank you so much. I’m suggesting Spy and Far From the Madding Crowd next. Great examples of your rare combination idea.

  5. Aashiqui says:

    This is so true and appt.Especially in long distance relationships that started online,met physically a few times,relationship blossomed but still in an ldr and investment is a big thing in LDR.

    Do you have anything for these kinds of relationship?I hope you have something for us in these kind of relationships.

    Always the best for u Matt!!

  6. nichole says:

    Matt! You crack me up! Love your amazing outlook and extremely helpful advice. Thank you for being you.


  7. Isabel says:

    Matthew, I love this film! Brillant idea!

    “You are nothing to me until you are everything” – last year, watching the film, this line hit me and helped me to understand a situation where I was receiving far less than 100%.

    thank you and next time like you did with 50 shades, dress the part!!! ;)

    thanks for making me laugh!!!!

  8. anna says:

    Love this especially being every thing or nothing . It has helped me a lot and why put my evrything into someone if I am nothing . Knowing I am better than that and if someone should pursue me to get to the core of me. Fine wine isn’t sold in a dive bar so to speak ;) ty ty

  9. Vavavoom says:

    I have to say I love the quote about being nothing to someone unless you’re everything. It describes really well why I left my best friend. She had a full life without me, I didn’t see what she needed me for, felt very replaced all the time… thank you for the quote and video, this is a painful area of my private life and that video helped put into words what I feel.

  10. Helen says:

    Epic video Matthew!
    I watch every week and always get something out of it but this one has moved me to leave a comment. Maybe because I enjoyed the movie myself and could sympathize with the struggles of all the main characters. Yes even (/ especially) Jennifer Lawrence’s character! I have written these quotes down in my notebook as they have helped me to understand some recent/ past situations on an even deeper level. You are helping to keep me on track via this weird medium of online video mentoring. Thank you for the pieces of happiness you bring into my life! :D

  11. Noelie C. says:

    Great video! Absolutely LOVED and agree with everything you shared in here! If you can’t be yourself without being ashamed or embarrassed with your partner then it may be time to reassess your relationship… Relationships are meant to be nurturing and loving and a place where we can grow and evolve and if we can’t be ourselves in them then I don’t see how this can happen… Much love xx

  12. Patricia Grube says:

    Hi Matt,

    LOVE that you picked those quotes out! Those exact quotes jumped out at me too lazy year and they reminded me at how much I was “conning” myself when my husband admitted only giving me 10%!! I almost would have satisfied at 60% but 10?! WTF?

    Come to Los Angeles, please. I watch your YouTube channel and feel you are right on target with your advice. Thank you. You are lovely and HOT!

  13. emily shepard says:

    I Love Sexy Potatoes! Especially the fact that Matt has to wear glasses to introduce them. Or Christian, as we now must call him.

    Would y’all consider doing an offshoot of Potatoes with a foray into television? I’d love to hear a GTG breakdown of Mad Men (especially now that it’s finished!–fitting?).

    The thing about dancing at home, that’s a great image to convey this idea of being unembarrassed and intimate with someone. My best friends are people I can dance with, drink with, go swimming with, wake up with, laze around with, vent with and cry with, and never feel like I have to hide anything for fear of judgment, because they know everything and still love me. I’ve had moments like that only rarely with a romantic partner, but it’s brilliant to have them at all.

    Now I have this sudden desire to watch American Hustle again, for some reason…

  14. neethuz says:

    Hey matt……
    i loved the potatoes..and u must work to make it a bit more sexier hehheheh;) anyways its a 8 on 10…and Thank you for the great line…”your nothing unless ur everything for me”…sounds very simple n straight n Powerful too !

  15. Paula says:

    Not bad at the accent! lol

  16. Kate says:

    Cracking up as I write this!! Very nice gangster accent, and some very nice points as well. Liked the quote about how we con ourselves each day, and how human brains are basically one big scam artist. For you, or against you… Also liked the flower of life mirror Matt!
    Keep them Sexy Potatoes coming

  17. Aidet says:

    Great talk Matt. Especially on number 3. I was recently dating a guy who talked about ” giving 100%” when he was only 25% invested in the relationship. At first I gave it go because he “met all the checkboxes” if you know what I mean. And he wanted exclusivity right off the bat. 4 weeks later I’m really unhappy and have tried talking to him about what my expectations were. I realized I should have made him earn exclusivity not just say yes to his request, and I’m worth more than 25%, I bid him so long farewell. Better single than in a pretend relationship!

  18. Janna says:

    Absolutely fantastic vid/blog.
    So very very true. Thanks for the reminder!
    Fabulous American accent darling….Just fabulous!
    Sexy Potatoes FTW!

  19. Raquel says:

    You are incredibly cute and sexy!
    Just want to cuddle your genuinity….pretty hard those days:)
    Well done you Sir

  20. Sarah says:

    Hey Matthew

    Whilst I’m married (so have essentially “Got the Guy”) I find your blogs so valuable in helping me find ways I can continue to be the best me that my husband deserves… that i’m not to con myself into accepting things as they are and that I should expect 100% of him, and him from me in return. He became my everything and that I should never forget this.

    Today’s was such a valuable blog…. thank u. Lessons learnt. x x x

  21. Sarah says:

    Hey Matthew

    Whilst I’m married I still

  22. Trish says:

    Great video, Matt! As I saw that American Hustle was part of the subject, I thought, *he’s going to use that brilliant quote of the Amy Adams character!* I loved that line, too! But what’s rather cool about all this is that when I saw the movie in the theater for the first time, I thought of you and your book. It made me think of all your advice about investing. I love it when things come full circle! Just what I needed to see today. Nice Jersey accent on the outtake, by the way. Cracked me up! ;)

  23. Kasandra says:

    I really liked the quotes you shared from the movie..especially the first one..thanks for it…and u looked good in grey…

  24. Deborah says:

    With #1, they’d have to actually try to be themselves first. There are so many guys that if there is even a hint of possible criticism, they run and hide without even finding out whether there actually was any or not. Then there are the others that take anything but absolutely positive feedback as criticism.

    #2 kind of solves that. They talk themselves out of it and reject themselves before they can possibly be rejected. They self criticize. Now, me, I’ve talked myself into relationships.

    With #3, yeah, I totally agree.

  25. Elle says:

    Hi, Matthew,


    I agree, it’s your best SP yet. It’s fun and playful but has tight, extremely valuable “love spuds”.

    It’s no wonder you’re doing so well.

    I can’t wait till the next release! :0

  26. Lauren says:

    Fantastic video Matthew! Beautiful and relatable analysis- plus, you made excellent, applicable points! With just the right touch of humor lol. I’m making notes from this one for sure! Btw keep honing your acting skills and maybe one day Rotten Tomatoes will do a review on you ;)

  27. Saskia says:

    Hi Matt,
    LOVED your accent. This was the perfect video, and I so agree with the “baring your soul” part…
    Can I just ask – is there any way for a guy to regain interest? Is there a video on this that I’ve missed?
    I’m thinking in the very early stages. He asks you out, you flake, he leaves you alone.
    The flaking was actually just nerves, but he can’t know that.

    Thanks in advance. :)

  28. Pat says:

    Loved this! Helped so much!

  29. A. says:

    Thanks, Matt. My man of six months (which your techniques helped me get) is only giving 60%. Then I started giving 60%. And I asked myself, what is this really?

    What is it really? Time for me to let him go.

  30. Agnes says:

    Matt, I’ve got a question for You.
    Should I show people that I like them and how much should I invest in them?
    I’m kind of person that if I like sb this person knows it. Because of it feels good with me but when we don’t see eath other I don’t hear from them and if I don’t ask them aut we won’t see eath other. So isn’t it like people know that I like them so that they don’t have to invest in me? (mean all relationships)
    I hope hearing from you soon

  31. Goldberry says:

    Not bad with the accent! I probably won’t watch the movie, so thanks for distilling the important points for us.

  32. Denia Hood says:

    Feeling like a con artist for not giving you my number again!….you should stop doing this while you are so far away….you shoud also meet up with me next time you are in London!….hit me up you sexy potato!!! xx

  33. Kathryn says:

    Very true, insightful as ever Matt. We love movies as much as you and this series is great. But it does conjure up a funny picture of you reaching for your notepad. I have to write this down! I always have a notepad, of varying lovely designs, and carry it round to note down thoughts, designs, inspirations. I can’t even sleep sometimes with all the thoughts going round my head. No wonder you need your after-retreat breaks or you would go stir crazy.

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