The Attraction Formula

Attraction is something that can be learned; it’s not something set in stone.

There’s a myth that we’re either attractive or we’re not – or that someone can either be attracted to us or not.

In reality, I’ve found that life’s not so simple. It’s not that black and white.

Have you ever become attracted to someone who wasn’t your type?

That’s because attraction has a formula. There’s a science to it, which is what I want to go through with you today. I want you to come to believe that attraction is possible to influence.

You can have someone who is constantly attractive in one environment, and you can put them in another environment and they’re not.

Have you ever gone out and felt that you were getting so much attention one night, but the next you didn’t get any?

This didn’t happen because you looked so different on each of the two nights. There are things you can do to change and improve your appearance of course, but there are other factors at play.

(Photo: Eriwst)

Here is the formula you need to know for creating deep and lasting attraction…

1) Visual Chemistry

People think this is just about how you look, and it’s not true. It’s about how you’re perceived.

It’s about how you walk, talk, move, what your body language conveys – and there’s a lot we can do in each of these to influence how attractive we are perceived to be.

2) Perceived Challenge

This is what people are really talking about when they talk about the idea of ‘playing hard to get’.

Men want to feel that they are earning you every step of the way. They want to feel that you’re attainable, but there are steps they have to go through to earn your attraction.

3) Perceived Value

Perceived value is what you have about you that is really worth something. This might be to do with personality traits that you have, the lifestyle you have – something that makes a guy think to himself, ‘this woman has value to add to my life’.

4) Connection

Connection is when the two of you truly feel like you relate. This comes mostly from understanding.

–’Do I feel understood by this person? And do I understand them?’
–’Do our beliefs, ideas and ways of thinking relate?’

This is what creates connection. And notice that you can have all of the first three components without any connection. That’s why connection is such a vital piece in the formula.


What did you think!? Intrigued by this idea?

The book is where I’ve really attempted to give a lot of detail on this, and where I’ve been able to talk about this at length. If you’re interested in learning more about this, the book is your chance to do so.

>>Pre-order your copy of Get The Guy now…

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  4. Rebecca Hope says:

    Hi Matt.
    I’m having a bit of trouble getting in sync with this guy that I’m really into.
    We have been “friendly-acquaintance” type friends for a few years, and have been mingling in the same circle a lot more recently.
    We have always had great chemistry, and I’ve always loved being in his company because we got along great.
    But since I’ve realized that I have major feelings for him now, we have no chemistry at all! I know that things have changed because my feelings have changed, but I don’t know what to do about it. And I have no idea what he thinks, but it’s obvious that we don’t get on like a house on fire anymore.
    I’m pretty inexperienced when it comes to men and dating, I’m 20 and I’ve never been in a relationship! Maybe that’s factoring into this equation.
    What should I do?
    By the way, thanks so much for everything you’ve done for me and my friends, you’re the best xx

  5. Gia says:

    Yep, i see i’ve reallyyy screwed up the perceived challenge part wayyy to many tmes. not because i didn’t have a life of my own because i was always too willing to readjust and reschedule my own things for the other person!

    i definitely see now the error of my ways!!
    trying to change that IMMEDIATLY!:)

    Keep up the good work

  6. Rachel says:

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  7. Mandira Halder says:

    Hi Matthew,
    The formula works very well indeed. However, could you go a bit more into details into how to sell oneself without talking too much about oneself ? I think you did say in your blog ” five ways that are killing his attraction for you” that it’s not a good idea to talk much about oneself.
    Now, thanks to your advice, I’m getting to near perfection about avoiding generic questions as much as possible and try to get to know who the person is. However, I’m either tongue-tied or get carried away by passion when I talk about myself. How can i remedy that and find a balance ?

    Thanks for your advice


  8. Clair De Lune says:

    I wish I knew this formula sooner! I just realized I’ve screwed up the perceived challenge part of the formula too many times in my life! Now I know and promise myself not to repeat my old mistakes. Can’t wait to start reading the book! Almost April 9! Yay!

  9. Ginvile says:

    Brilliant as always.I think I’m in love.

  10. Barbara says:

    wow, this video is so good!

  11. Ovie says:

    Another great video. Thanks for sharing, Matthew. I took notes :D

  12. novalee truesdell says:

    this guy i like is really nice to me in person but by text he seems cold, and very matter-of-fact. to the point that it hurts my feelings because he wont joke or be playful or even send a smiey face there. it always leaves me feeling like he must be mad at me about something. should i flat out ell him that his txting mannerism is bothering me or will he find this annoying, weak or needy
    (we are not in a relationship)
    novalee truesdell

    • Lynn says:

      Some people see texting as a chore, not something pleasurable. I have a friend that I adore, but her emails and texts are always short and to the point, not at all the way she is in person. So, if he is nice in person, I wouldn’t take his to the point texts too seriously. And, I definitely wouldn’t tell him that it bothers you.

  13. Veronica says:

    This is such a good advice and so true. I did realize when some guys told me they wanted to get to know me it was for more than just my looks (which I don’t feel so sure about most of the time).
    It’s also true that people like to earn things, even after being in a relationship, if things go wrong and you give in as soon as he says something nice or tries to make up it might work the first time. But if he screws up big time again and you give in just as easily at some point it’s not gonna work so well, some also want to earn that chance. However it’s not easy to be challenging when you are dying to fix things, still it’s necessary sometimes.

    I can’t wait to get your book because you give such true and useful advices for any aspect of life. Hopefully you get to transalate your books to other languages.

    A fellow translator.

  14. Kimberly says:

    This is so, very true. There’s this guy who is so good looking, but he’s very boring and that makes me just not interested. Then there’s this other guy who is not as good looking, but just the way his personality is and his confidence and how he walks and talks, makes me so much more attracted. I’d rather date the second guy I decribed. When you’re genuinely interested in someone, it’s not just about looks. It matters more about how you carry yourself. I agree with you 100 percent.

  15. Wijdane says:

    Hi Matt
    This is exactly what I need in my life I often go confused about what guys think about me! And how to make them attrected to me ! Now that i watched ur video i am ready to go out and test it ! Thank u so much dear !
    Big hug from Morocco !!

  16. Vinita Hemachandra says:

    Hi Matt,

    Thanks sooo much for your video – just what I needed to hear on a Friday!

    Looking forwards reading your book! Sure it’ll be a best seller!

    Best wishes,

  17. N. H says:

    Hey, thx for your Video. I am learning so much from you. I bet you have written a great book but since I am student, I can`t afford it. :((((
    I will follow your news. And thx again.

  18. Dea says:

    I read your book when it first came out, and I am now reading it again!
    Little changes are starting to happen, and it is all thanks to me (and you ;)!). Inspiring book in every way!

    Thank you for sharing your enthusiasm, your advice and your precious time with us puzzled ladies (!) The guy puzzle is starting to take a nice shape. Then again there will always be room for many more pieces as I take the driver seat and love learn and live at full!

    All the best from London!

  19. Millie H says:

    I love this. Attraction is a formulae, not something that just happens; after watching this video, I can see how I have previously created attraction both intentionally and unintentionally as well as moments where I got it wrong.

    As always, your advice has been invaluable.

    Thank u
    Millie x

    Ps. Your book is going to do well in the US. It’s so different to everything else.

  20. yuetching says:

    I am not adept at the perceived challenge thing if I like a guy a it critical to change that?and how do you go about doing the perceived challenge thing if it’s not your personality? ~ x

  21. Andrea says:

    Hi! I really like your videos and would like to read anything you publish :D Will your book be available in Europe?

  22. Emma says:

    Part 2 “perceived challenge” really made me think (and regret, haha!) Thanks again, Matt!!

    Early in this current relationship of mine I made a decision not to “play games” (incl. playing hard to get), but now I feel like it might be a problem – that perhaps I’m being too available and that’s what’s turning him off.

    I wonder, is it too late to create “perceived challenge” after 6 months?? (Is this relationship doomed?) All the other 3 steps seem to be more or less in order…

  23. Rebecca says:

    Matt, I love how you’ve been cranking out video after video lately!

  24. Lisa says:

    Hi Matthew!
    Thank you for that wonderful video! I agree with you 100% many times I find I get 1-3 but 4 is missing, and obviously the relationship goes no where.

    Looking forward to the 9th for the book release and the 13th in NYC!!
    Best of luck on this amazing time in your life!

  25. novalee truesdell says:

    you make me feel like i could be amazing!

  26. Mayela says:

    So cool… I’m totally buying the book…

  27. Linda says:

    Matt, your ability to take hours of (female) dwelling on a topic and extrapolate them to concise universal concepts (theories, perhaps?) is what sets you apart as a professional from mere opinionators.

    I ordered your book yesterday after having watched your video. Looking forward to go through it and gain back the confidence I seem to have lost recently.

    Much respect, and all that jazz, from Canada

  28. Mona says:

    Matt, thank you so much…….I so look forward to your videos. Your questions allow me to learn more about myself. Hugs!

  29. Martina says:

    ..its amazing, inspireing, i feel in my soul that youre on the good track, so keep going…and thanks!!

  30. Nofyah says:

    Another great video, thanks so much!

  31. Anna says:

    attraction is definitely just not about the physical. i get the most attention from men when i am walking to meet a guy on a 3rd or later date — when i have the confidence that the guy likes me and i’m feeling hopeful about it. i have a different walk and a smile when i’m in that state and it definitely attracts more people and is more approachable. But, how can I be like that all the time and when i’m totally single?

    also, good point on asking questions that go more in depth about motivations and hopes. i’m going to try that on my next date.

  32. Sabina says:

    Hi Matt,

    I really liked your video (I am always re-watching them, when I forget a good clue from u), and I think these components are the clearest for me now. I need to buy your book, to go into them further, as I am very shy when it comes to men whom I am attracted to, which is a shame, because I know from myself, that normally I am a cheerful, even person… I love to hear every bit of advice what you give, am trying them, and because of u I’m slowly becoming more and more confident to get my guy. I used to go for the looks and now somehow the first thing what really reaches out to me is the personality! I want to know as much as I can and put everything in practice, so thank you for all your encouragements!!
    Congrats to your book, and thank you for everything, I’ll keep listening to you!


    • Sabina says:

      And I’ll try and wake up earlier every day… at least an hour earlier. You gave me some good on that one as well :)

  33. Susanne Love says:

    ★⁀ ‿ ⁀♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ Very very very nice & interesting Matthew :)

    Great thanks to YOU for sharing all the best about
    1)visual chemistry, 2)perceived challenge, 3)perceived value & 4) connection :)

    1) To see a persons love (positive energy) in body language :)
    2) To spread love (positive energy): touch hearts (which can be a big challenge for human beings) :)
    3) To add value :): bring special love to somebody’s life :)
    4) To connect: when you understand each other very very very well :)

    Yes, I agree :) 1-4 leads to deep & lasting attraction :)

    One of the best topics & video again :)
    ★⁀ ‿ ⁀♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ Fantactic Matthew :)

    • Susanne Love says:

      Ps. This reminds me of school exams :)
      I read 1-4 & tried to explain it in my own words so that YOU can see if I understood everything :)

      I hope everybody understood everything :)
      After all, deep & lasting relationships are very good & I hope it is possible for everybody to have deep & lasting relationships after watching your video & reading the amazing GET THE GUY :)

  34. nabila says:

    great advices matt, thanks alot :)

  35. Maria says:

    Hi there, I’m glad that I found u, it was actually very random, 2 days ago I have been in a disagreement with my significant other regarding commitment, we have been together going on 6 years in June, we decided to take a break to have clarity within our relationship. I found you on you tube and I’ve watched all videos I could find and then on google as well after that . It helps me a lot to know there is hope. Thank you! Ill be ordering your book when I get home from work tonight. God Bless,


  36. Holly says:

    Mat hello :-D

    For most of my life i’ve had a selth image problem, berlieving that i wasn’t good enough as a person, because i’m not a super model in my apperance. I felt so bad for so long that i really let it effect me to no end.

    After discovering yourself and renee wade (the feminine women blog), i realised thst i’ve been putting way to much pressure on myself.

    I’m reading your book at the moment and do research on the internet to look for answer’s, because i want to educate myself as much as possible, to become a better person and eventually (although i’m not ready yet) find a good man/compatability.

    This video has come at perfect timining!! :). I went out today and a man stopped me and said that i have a sexy walk. He then started to chat me up and asked to take me for a drink but i smiled to him and told him no. Lol i just said that i’m with someone to cut things short.

    About ten minuets later, another man came up beside me and started to chat me up. He said i have beautiful eyes and he called me beautful but i told him the same thing, that i was in a relationship. Lol, he said, your boyfriend might go off and talk to/hang with other people so i said yeh that’s fine, he’s his own person he can do what he want’s to do. After all he’s mr nobody so it’s nobody else’s buissness :D

    I’m not really but i think it’s a good way to cut peoole short as i’m just continously studying men, whilst i take a 2-4 year break whilst i better myself as a person, i have so many things i want to learn before i tie myself down.

    Their was also a lorry driver that waved at me on my walk to dunelm and then whilst shopping in the asda, i bummed into a man (not literaly) he laughted and said something . He then said is the inside as good as the out :-D, so i told him even better. He laugthed and said good answer. It’s true because i have integrity, i’m kind hearted, compassionate and understaning in nature, just to say the least so i’m very proud of that :).

    Seeing this video today has put a whole lot into perspective. It’s now clarified, whilst i’ve been worrying about my apperance many time in the past, it’s clear to see that everything else is what really matters.

    I’m not perfect but i don’t need to worry the way i have done in the past. Actually i once had an escort agency that messaged me on facebook asking me to work for them. That carn’t be all bad considering men are visual beings so needless to say, they obviously saw something within my apperance. They told me thst they thought i look very attractive in their opinion.

    Thanks to this video, i now have something to work on as a person and will no longer be so hard on myself.

    Also i read, masculine energy attracts feminine energy (polar oposites attract), so i would guess that counts for more. That’s given me a’lot of confidence.

    Great video matt :), i trust in you

  37. Rene says:

    What happens when you meet people, they ask you out but you just don’t connect with them??Because I do meet the ones that I want to meet, we go on a date, but I can’t see myself going on a third date with them. Am I too picky? (I like being picky though..) I wont settle for someone or anything that I don’t want!

  38. Rosy says:

    Hi Matt,

    I really in love with the video. You’re video is 110% right.

    Awesome video
    Thanks very much!!!!

  39. Joanna says:

    Very helpful video! I believe selling ourselves is a very important and big chapter, I hope in the future you could make a video about it!

    Thank you Matt!

  40. Hawraa says:

    That was amazing Mathew, thanks…
    But then the question is:
    If its a formula, then those who know the formula and they really know how to apply it… They will never be rejected by anyone!!

    But i thought that everyone has to go through rejection somehow, if you know what i mean.

  41. Lo says:

    Hi Matt!

    I haven’t seen the video yet because its blocked at my office, but what you wrote is so very true. For example, sometimes I smile while I’m walking on the street because I rememberd something funny, and guys smile at me. That’s funny for me.

    On the other hand, I think an interesting post could be on how to act/talk when you first meet someone you feel attracted to. Because what happens to me more than often (and I believe most women) is that when I’m in a group of people (friends and friends of my friends) I act naturally, always making jokes, maybe looking friendly and approachable, but that is because in that group I didn’t felt attrated to anyone. And then I am told that a guy of the group liked me.

    But, and here comes the big but, when I’m with a group of people and there’s this new guy I found attractive, I absolutely don’t act “naturally”. So I think that a coach from you on how to deal with this nerves, or what to think in order to be relaxed and cool, could be a good one, so we make them to know the real “us”. Because I believe this is an issue most of the women have to deal with.

    Hugs and thanks for your wise lessons

  42. Michelle says:

    Hey Matt!
    yeah, I believe this is true. Coz I have a friend of mine that is very good of this, she really gets all the guys and all the attention. And I really have a hard time to make the right impression of people. I usually show the best of me when i can trust someone..My best friends for example. So when I’m out it’s hard for me to impress guys or even get them to think of me in a attractive way. There are guys that really stare at me and think I’m attractive. BUT they never come up and talk to me. My body language I think says :”Stay away… Even though I would like to talk to some people..

    It’s hard coz my body language does not agree with my head sometimes. That makes me a bad product seller of my personality right? How can I stop this, and start thinking and changing things so that my life will get better in this area?

    XX /Michelle

  43. Jennifer Halasz says:

    Thank goodness for you Matthew, honestly what all us women would do without your advice and tips. Thank you for doing what you do and always learning from you. A heart felt thank you.


  44. Lena says:

    Great Video! This video had me thinking… oh my…he looks so hot… :$

  45. Katarina says:

    Dear Matthew,

    Thank you for all the great advice you give! :)
    I bought your book a while ago (still haven’t finished reading it though, sigh), but I would like to say it was amazing when I read you are an introvert too and still manage to be very sociable and open to meeting people. I’m still a bit scared when I think about that, but if you could do it, I guess the least I could do is try my best. :)
    I know how being bullied in school sucks. :( It gets to you and no matter how smart or beautiful you are, you feel that you’re not.

    And thanx a looot for the picture you posted up on fb: “DO SOMETHING TODAY THAT YOUR FUTURE SELF WILL THANK YOU FOR.” I put it as a wallpaper on my phone, and it’s got me a bit more productve when I need to read all those big med school books.

    I wish you all the luck in the world with your new book. :)

  46. Sara says:

    Matthew, my boyfrend did the “perceived challege” to me today :s. What is the correct way to handle it? Thank you so much for your help!

  47. Catherine says:

    Happy Thursday! I thought that this video made for an amazing warm-up to the book coming out soon and I am now seriously considering getting it, so thank you :). I’ve found it amazing that you are able to get away from everything that really divides not just the genders, but people within the genders as well, and explain our make-up in a way where not only are people able to understand this information, but use it as well

  48. Mandi says:

    I absolutely loved this. I have watched some of your videos, but this was outstanding. I have been using some of your techniques, and I have guys coming up to me and starting conversations. Its amazing, that never happened before. I plan on buying your book and using it like its a new religion. Thank you Matt!!

  49. SKY says:

    I don’t know why, but when I watch your videos, you remind me of Anthony Robbins. The way you talk and body language. I love both of you! The video’s & books! Keep doing the great job!

  50. Hopeful says:

    Matt I pre-ordered already, I think is a very affordable price. Is there hope if I have 3 of the 4 elements? How easy is to get all of them?. I am in love with a guy that cannot feel sexual chemistry for me, he Loves me but is not In-Love with me (his words). He recognizes I am “irreplaceable” (his words) in his life, but I expressed I cannot be around because is not fair for me. I cannot settle for a friend when I want him in other ways, and he knows I have feelings for him. However we have a connection, we had overcome fights and challenges together that in one year made our relationship (friendship, work, dreams) stronger and we are sad and we feel devastated for being apart but I decided I must pull-away from him because I need to move on. If I relate with your formula with this guy I can say objectively I already have 3 of this 4 elements: Perceived Value=he considers I am brilliant, engaging and creative for his vision (he is entrepreneur) with a lot of value for him in his life, his dreams, his work, he actually says we complete each other in many areas. Connection=he says he could trust me his life to me and that I am maybe the only person who can deal with him and his emotions, his explosive bad temper for example, he said to a friend (in my presence)”If I am angry and she is around I know she can deal and take care of me, is one of her strengths”. Challenging= maybe him knowing I have feelings for him is not “hard-to-get” enough, but I don’t chase him and I am demonstrating to him that just because I love him that doesn’t mean I cannot leave him or get away from him for my own sake. The BIG PROBLEM is NON existing visual or physical chemistry, for him is not there. I am desperately trying to loose weigh because I am chubby and in the process he got a girlfriend which is thin and has a lot of money to dress well and plenty of time to be there for him, and be a mom and housewife, she is not professionally achieved nor brilliant, is just cute, available and knows how to flirt… I am devastated feeling ugly and sad for my lost battle, is there a chance for women like me to learn how to get that piece of the jigsaw that I cannot get naturally like other women?

    • Rebecca says:

      Maybe you fell into the traps described in Matt’s youtube video “What Does it Mean When a Guy Just Wants to be Friends.” ?
      You’ve got three out of four…Don’t lose hope!
      And maybe you can appreciate the amazing friendship you DO (did)have with this guy. Were he and you coworkers?
      Similarly, a man I know and I now have established a deep genuine friendship after our relationship (not boyfriend-girlfriend relationship-just human relationship)amazingly survived great difficulties. We are now very close. But he still has a girlfriend. That’s okay. I realized the friendship and connection I DO have with him makes me so happy, that I’m just grateful for what I do have with him. He would never cheat on her, and I would never want him to. I respect him.

      Started talking about you, and ended up talking about myself. Sorry :) But yeah, you’ll be able to learn all four.

      • Hopeful says:

        Thanks :) we are/were business partners, friends & flatmates…

        we shared many things even our psychological problems, there is a high level of trust to share things we don’t tell everybody, we know we are not judgmental and understanding with each others mind, we overcome highly stressing situations together that against all odds instead of break us strengthen our connection, also we spend time talking and understanding how we react to certain situations like anger and how to manage the others anxiety, etc, so in an emotional and intellectual level we have a connection regular friends don’t usually have, but is still not enough for him to see me as a woman… maybe I am not funny enough, maybe he associates me with work and not with pleasure, I don’t know… Maybe I have this strong logic aura that is not feminine enough and turns him off…

        I’ve been pulling away from him since 3 months in the middle of a great project we were finishing and he knows the reason, I tried to be his friend after he got a girlfriend but I feel quite masochistic and not authentic by doing so, is not healthy for me because I do get jealous and ruins my self-confidence, and he knows I decided to leave his company (business and friendship) which is a tragedy for both, because I am actually protecting him and myself from my feelings for him. Is not that we won’t see each other again or talk again because we have some other activities that still tie us, but I want to reduce at minimal the frequency of our interaction because I need to move on… but the sad thing is that I LOVE the man deeply, I miss him a lot, I don’t want this to happen to me again, next time I find the man I want I would like to be successful… Am I using the right strategy here? I am very depressed at times, Sometimes I feel hope, sometimes I get angry and just want to forget him…

        I hope Matt’s book helps me, I am desperate for help in this area, but I live just too faraway to attend to US or UK workshops…

  51. Jacqueline says:

    Great video. Very true.
    Love your shirt :)

  52. Grace says:

    I wish you great success! A lot of things you teach are very crucial and important. So many people are fed by self-pity. Self-pity lures us to more clothes, more make-up or more what-so-ever.
    But the key points are attitude, confidence, passion and compassion.
    I’m so happy that there’s your voice among gossip, soap opera and romances.
    I sincerely wish the messages reach tons of people and enrich their life.

  53. Diane says:

    Hello, Matt !

    I totally agree with you about the fact that attraction is not just about looks. I noticed that I get more attention from men when I’m simple without any makeup. When I’m just enjoying the moment, the guys seem more attracted.

    I take good notes of these advices. They will help me a lot.

    Thanks to you !


  54. Carmen says:

    Great video!! It all makes sense. I feel like I’m back in school!

  55. Ajita says:

    The video was so good it compelled to write! You need to be congratulated on being so insightful and practical on this subject.Hope your book is a success!

  56. Barbara says:

    Love the video. You’re so right. It happened to me quite a lot that I was attracted to someone who wasn’t really my type, but they usually had at least one thing in their appearance, which did match my type. I don’t know why but by me it’s mostly the eyes.
    Hope I can figure out how to present all these components. I think I am slowly getting there though. I recently changed my hairstyle and got lots of attention because of it. But that’s not the most important thing. I feel more confident with it and am actually happier now. So I guess I got the first component almost completed. Now I’m on my way to complete the other three. :P

  57. Julia says:

    Hi Matt,

    All those points are very true, these are the key factors as to why we may more attracted to one more than the other.
    And why we may lean closer towards 1, 3 & 4. # 2 at times feels alien, when your not clear on what your wants are, who you want to be and where you want to end up. I know this helps when having a bad day, having a goal to focus on than bad vibes.

    :) Good Night.

  58. Simi says:

    I honestly love you!!! You are AMAZING!!!

    Yes – I’ve let the “Perceived Value” slip with my boyfriend – this video is a great reminder – thanks Matt once again!!!

  59. Melissa says:


    You really nailed it on your point about Connection.. that one should really be asking what motivates someone in life and not just by asking about what do they do. Sometimes conversations can be so superficial when you are just starting to get to know someone(‘hi, what do you do’, etc.. It can be difficult to figure out what motivates a person’s behaviors. Thanks for bringing this point to the surface and making me more aware of how to dig deeper into those kinds of conversations.

  60. Paula says:

    Love this! It all makes sense, Matt.
    Thank you!

  61. Ruta says:

    Of course it’s great to know these components of attracting people, but the harder question is figuring out how to properly present myself to others using these criteria :) Anyways, thanks for summing it all up!
    Greetings from Lithuania

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Thanks Ruta. Not to hard sell it, but it’s something I’ve really gone into on in the book. It’s a completely practical guide that gives you the full how-to. I think you’ll really enjoy it

  62. Rebecca says:

    This is your best video yet! I just realized after watching it, why I’m not attracted to more guys. Most of those interested in me, do not have all these four things in place.

  63. Marie-antonine Woutaz says:

    Thank you Matthew
    Big hug from Switzerland

  64. Rebecca says:

    The introvert who can talk and talk and talk…always an interesting person to listen to.

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