I’ve had so much to tell you in the last couple of weeks that I forgot to send you this clip from The Today Show…
This is a chance to see me in one of my less composed moments where a guest says something rather unexpected…
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From the video..
“Different parenting styles is our biggest problem. I’m the stern one and always the bad guy. How can we meet in the middle?”
Your child is looking up to both of you as parents. You’re only as strong as your weakest link, and so you both need to step up and be strong.
As parents, if one of you is being stern and the other is not, the distinction you have to make is between tone and message. It’s okay for tone to be different, but not for message to be different. You have to be united in what you’re communication to stand strong together.
Two parents have to come together to form a vision for what they want with their child. You can do this before a baby is even born – but if you haven’t, now is the time to have it.
Ask questions like…
–What’s the vision for our child’s growth?
–What’s the vision for the environment of love we want to create?
–How easy is it going to be for our child to be who they want to be?
This is what’s important. Once you have the vision, every action then follows that.
“My husband and I argue about his lack of grooming. He refuses to cut his hair, it’s very long, he wears it in ponytails, and I hate it. What should I do?”
Your job as someone’s partner is to be their sexual pleasure and the person they’re attracted to. If you’re not providing that for them, who’s going to?
If Susan is not attracted to the long hair, she better be bold in telling him. You don’t have to be critical in what you say, as you can instead be positive in your reinforcement by being bold in what you would like.
Decide what are the deal-breakers, and then be firm with them.
The caveat to this is that if you’re going to be bold about what you want, you have to be okay with it the other way around too. That’s the way it has to be. If he wants you to look a certain way or to do something differently, you have to be open to that too.
Question Of The Day…
Can you remember a moment when you had to deal with something kind of embarrassing under pressure like I did here? : )
Let me know below!