You decided it’s time to break up.
And now you’re single again. But for some reason you don’t feel at peace.
You’re still haunted by that eternal question: Did I make a HUGE mistake?
Even if it was YOU who decided to call off a relationship, at some point you’re always going to get that horrible feeling inside of you that questions your decision to dump someone. Your friends and family say it’s for the best. But maybe they don’t really know. Plus, there was that one friend who advised you to give things another try with this guy and now you’re even more lost and confused!
You could be stuck forever like this. Frozen in the limbo of wondering whether you’ve made the best decision of your life, or thrown away an incredible relationship. In this week’s video, I’m going to show you an easy way to tell whether you made the right choice, and personally guide you out of this anxiety and indecision with simple but powerful change in mindset, so that you feel confident in your feelings and can let a relationship go in peace.
Believe me, I know myself how easy it is to get stuck in this place for months only to come out of it and wonder why you wasted so much of your precious time worrying.
This was an awesome video and so spot on true. I have been feeling this exact way and your words give me assurance that I am misdirecting fear at this situation. You are awesome Matthew!
I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
I just got divorce by husband and am hurt I don’t know what to do right now can you please tell me.
Thank so much Mathew!
This is important and little heard supportive information that discomfort and missing someone does not mean the wrong decision was made.
I chose to break off with a man I believe I feel in love with however the relationship did not meet my basic needs for healthy relationship which are trust, communication and respect. And those needs are non-negotiable for me.
Oh and I confess it’s confusing and oddly painful. As there remains unanswered crazy-fundamental questions. Such as is he really a single dad of a 16 year old daughter divorced since 2006?… If so, what’s up with his frequent MIA / failure to communicate / disappearing thing and the unexplained drama from his daughter’s mom?…
On the other hand the truth is the vast majority of our interaction was happy, fun and exquisitely beautiful. So I miss him and his voice. Yet I am at peace with release and wish him well.
God, I really needed that right now, Matthew, thank you! Just been through a relationship with someone where we weren’t communicating at all. Felt anxious for a long time until I could take it no longer. I realise I have to work on myself before I even contemplate another intimate relationship with anyone. Love the way you get your point across too; so clear. Thanks again.
Just ended a relationship that does not benefit or add value to my life. thank god it didnt went on that long but it hurts and saddened me coz it wasn’t as real and genuine as i thought it could be. Thank you so much for your video it put me at peace. The last point really got to me and you said it so eloquently that i know deep down inside after all it was something that i truly wanted for myself.
I have been in a relationship with my husband for 15 years. When we initially got together, I was a different person then — had just gotten out of a long-term relationship and felt like I needed someone to nurture and help, and he really seemed like he needed help. He’s been through a lot in his life, and I wanted to make it brighter and help him feel less burdens in life. I needed this so much that I turned a blind eye to many red flags that had I had my head on straight I possibly would have run from.
Fast forward to present day, and we now have a six-year-old son. I have been in therapy for quite some time dealing with my issues and trying to work on myself. Yet my husband seems to still be in the same place — violent behavior and a loose cannon. He doesn’t believe in any sort of religion or that therapists can help him. Frankly, he scares me sometimes, and I’m tired of fixing things, replacing things or coming up with excuses about why something is missing when something irreplaceable is destroyed. Besides, what kind of examples are these behaviors setting for our son?
So, I told him I wanted to separate. He has now started threatening suicide and saying that he actually needed me to do this so that he could set the wheels in motion to change. I do love him, but I don’t know that I could say I’m in love with him. What I am is tired, anxious and not getting any younger. I don’t know how to fix this.
Thank you so much… I cling to your closing that pain is not always a sign that we did something wrong rather it could be a sign that is time for us to grow
I just ended a relationship because he didn’t want any serious relationship. We used to be close friends and now I asked him not to call or to meet him. His birthday is coming up and I don’t know what to do!
Hi Nada, since you mentioned that you used to be close friends, sending him a Happy Birthday note I think won’t hurt. But make sure that it’s the only content of your message, just a birthday wish. Nothing more. It’s just my opinion.
He broke up with me 7mos ago. But for the past 5mos after the break up we really had this like weekly communication and he sometimes gave me confusing mesaages that he still want me until I ended up telling him how much I am hurt and to stop playing with my feelings. We had NC and now,we were again exchanging messages but no sweetness. I am just so confused. I don’t know if he is already seeing someone but why does he have to talk to me thru text still.
We broke up yesterday. He says he loves me a lot and I too feel that he loves me more than anyone has ever loved me, he pampers me plays with me sing with me jumps around with me and we are happy. But this is true only when we are together. We had to move the different universities for higher education since then everything has changed. He keeps saying I have never given him any reason to continue being with me, he says my love was never seen by any one, neither him nor his friends..he thinks I am busy with others but I dont have time for him. But I am always wating for him always pampering him, loving him, making plans to go out..yet he says I never loved him and all the effort was from him. So I broke up with him last night as he never saw what I did for him..he only wanted things to be according to him. But now when I think of the good time I want to forget all his flaws, but then I think is it possible to spend the whole life like this. Was it a right discission