What could possibly be more painful than rejection? Turns out, there’s one feeling that IS.
In this week’s LOVELife I reveal what it is and share the one mindset that will get you over your fear of rejection once and for all so you can finally put yourself “out there” without worrying about getting hurt again…
Hi Mathew,
I just wanted to say thank you for spreading your knowledge and kindness in the world. As I know how difficult it can be to overcome rejection after being with someone for so long to only be left. Time one must take to just be with ones self again to replenish and take time for self care loving needs to bypass the “stuck” phrase. I’ve been there many times and never stop bouncing back, since I know to go through the motions and unstand the situation and realize I’m one step closer now to finding a match for me. Never stop being awesome!:D
Ps- website launch will be in October.
Love more, Fear less.
Veronica Chase
Co-founder of The Intimate Lifestyle
Dear Matthew,
I was inspired by your powerful “rejection” video to write this message. Just this morning I also listened to your Elvis Durand interview and read Steve’s pointers on how to command the first five minutes. I am incredibly or I should say even more so impressed by the every day advice you’re now giving.
I am especially touched though by your projection video because your words were extremely powerful. Your ideology that “no rejection is as painful regret is profound. Your advice to go out and take small risks every day so there’s no regrets when you go to sleep each night is a simple concept for all to follow. And in its simplicity, it makes it easy for everyone and anyone to begin being a small risk taker to start with.
So, I want to thank you and tell you you have solidified myself as a fan (even more so than before). Additionally, you are helping many more people because I post your messages on my Facebook page called, “Old Fashion Dating”.
With much admiration & appreciation,
P.S. I also watched your video where you were challenged by a female audience member. I used your approach in a text this morning to a gentleman who I was somewhat disappointed in by simply texting him ” but you can make it up to me”. Shortly thereafter, he sent a text wishing me a good morning, something I had not been receiving on a daily basis. so thank you again!
Rosie
Hi Matthew! This was amazing!!! Thank-you for putting it out there like this. Almost a year after my heart break and this was exactly the way that I had been feeling. I would go out with guys on occasion but had vowed I wouldn’t let anyone hurt me like that again. Now I will be having a totally different mindset.
Wow,Fear Of rejection, versus regret was a powerful message and one that will continue to resonate with me.
Thank you, that was a game changing messsge.
I wish you had been around 30 yrs ago for me to hear this. I was one of those that was hurt deeply by rejection. I vowed to myself that no man would ever hurt me again. So when a man would start to care I would run the other way. I have no doubt that I “ran away” from some amazing guys.
I am now 65. Of course, I don’t look as good as I did back then but I closed the chapter several years ago on the man I loved but fearing rejection I would pretty much announce to a man when I would go out all the things he might not like about me. I would cut myself down at the knees before beginning to walk .
I am lacking the confidence I once had because I am 39 pounds over weight and fear no one will want me because I’m now chubby . I am ready to take the step again. I don’t have all the time in the world. I just don’t know how to build confidence when I have a weight problem
Hi Matt, thanks for putting this recording on the website. I’m divorced and was devastated when my marriage didn’t work out. I had the courage after five years to call it a day and two years on, I am ready to start again and no doubt I will be rejected but it is much better than living in a cave!
OMW…the caller is just 25 years old. wait till shes 51 and feels this way. I have not been rejected, but walked away from a 18 year relationship and with a son. But i have actively been looking to meet someone for a year and nothing has happened. So i have resigned myself that i am not meant to have someone in my life or that i am not attractive enough to be attracted. I know someone for 3 years plus, who wants me in his life but wont commit to a relationship because he feels he will be compromising his 8 year old daughter. So i stopped see him when i travel to the city he lives. Thats
Ihave beem divorced for 8 years, and have many health and neurological issues (one of which is Segmental Dystonia, unpredictable and nfffë.ot curable), of which Doctors put me on Disability. Hard on my self esteem, friend list is shrinking because they won’t educate themselves and even mock me (not friends really, right?) and want to isolate as many do… but I neeeed to be social. I have had no good luck in person or online because 95% jist want to push about sex conversation. I want a genuine man who will accept me for the fum loving, silly,smart and creative pesron I really am… but wpnder when is the best time to divulge the medical and $$ situation in order to keep their interest, and for them to accept and support?