Today I want to give you a mindset shift.
If you’re like most of the women I coach, you’re looking at attraction (and my advice) the wrong way.
You’re asking a question that is forcing you to make compromises and that can lead guys to lose their respect for you.
I see so many women who are hung up on “one guy”, and if that’s you, you need to see this video…
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opps cut me off!! as i was saying…. why do we do that to ourselves? i always focus on only one guy, maybe thats why im still single!
Hey Matt,
there is this one guy….hahaha…just kidding.
I think this was one of the best advices so far. The fact that you are so angry about this “one guy” BS all the time really gave me a big WARNING message.
So…this is what I’m doing for ME, to become a better person: Triathlon Training. It’s been an amazing journey, and I’m meeting very humble people from all over the world. The fact that they are all good looking is just a detail, ok? !
I’ll be in Boulder, Colorado for the second time to participate in a Triathlon Camp. It’s an amazing group of people and we would be training like real athletes for 1 week. I love to increase my performance in training through this. I work 8 hours a day, so taking a week off to go on vacation, meet people and exercise is fun and puts me in another level of training.
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my friends?? what will they be doing instead??
They will go to Sweden to get wasted and meet guys in a bar. They are looking for this “ONE GUY” like the holy grail swedish good looking guy.
Can you imagine, 5 single girls kind of racing to find this one perfect guy??
Thanks for the video. Let’s be attractive to our own lifestyle.
OMG Matt I really needed to hear this right now! You really hit the nail. Thanks so much for sharing!
You are so right, I really needed to hear this today. I seem to attract attention, but the ones who talk to me or flirt with me don’t turn out that great, think I need to attract a different type of guy, or have better filters! I dress like a tom boy most of the time so don’t quite get it. There is someone out there for me, just got to keep moving forward.
Your Mum is fab by the way. :)
I think you’re brilliant, a little cheeky, charming, etc. and I do agree with you about shifting focus off of That One Guy but I find it silly to tell women that if you start to give your attention to a different man THAT will attract the crush. I find it ridiculous that people walk around believing that EVERYONE has someone that is attracted to them, they fall in love, get married and have children. I Thought that would be my life but that’s not my reality at ALL!
Haha i know ive made this mistake before very good video Matthew :)
shut up already! Why are you talking about me in your video! Okay…okay…guilty as charged…
Ha! Ha! Sums it up nicely in one sentence. Me too! :)
Genius!Thanks
Great video! I agree with you 100%! It is all about creating more opportunities!
So true what we women do. Fabulous video and one to make sure we watch quite a few times; when we meet someone we’re interested in.
As always, you’re information is exceptional!!!! Thank you always!
This is awesome advice not just for relationships between men and women, but for any kind of relationship.
Hi Matt,
There’s this one guy…only joking!!
Have you had your hair highlighted?!
Where’s the funny bit at the end?! :-(
See you in June!! :-)
Love
Hols x
That was a fab ass chewing. Much needed. Thanks!
Natasha
Will u help me understand , when u talk about scarcity, why is it that of millions and billions people around us , that we connect to that ‘ the one ‘…? Iam the same person , that why one brings the best out of me and the other can bring the worst ? Can there be a master key solutons to all diff problems and scenarios
Thank you Matt! This was the kick up the bum I needed! I wrote to you a couple of months ago about ‘this one guy’ and it was very cathartic, just writing the longest War and Peace email to you about what I should do about this guy showed me that I needed to move on and broaden my horizons and this has just re-affirmed it :)
Thank you!!!!!
Thanks for this humerous approach to the subject. I think having “that one guy” for a bit can be good, just to see if it works out. However I think many of us are exaggerating and getting overly obsessed with them, without “making a move”. So THANK YOU for opening our eyes. You’re so right – once again. :)
I think there’s a few different ways to look at this. First you might be older and know what you want and can only find it in a few men, unless you’re able to travel all over then maybe you could find more then just a few men who have those wonderful qualities or Second you just can’t seem to face the fact he’s just not that into you.
That, Matt is my 2 cents at least for this week.
I know what your saying is right, Matt but it’s so hard to actually act on it. It just hit me yesterday that I might have missed out on what could have been the love of my life. I was to afraid to be in a relationship and pushed him away ( this was a few years ago). it wasn’t until yesterday that I realized I haven’t met anyone as special as him that pursued me. Most of the guys I meet are only interested in hooking up. Also unfortunately, the city where I live in doesn’t have enough attractive single guys. I get hit on all the time by guys that aren’t good-looking and are very needy. So it’s very, very hard to keep the abundance mentality. All I can do is grab my car & drive and check out other places! hah!
I want to add, I know a lot of girls that settled because they weren’t meeting enough great guys. If they had gone out more and traveled more places this wouldn’t have happened. This scared me to death.
SO TRUE. PERIOD!