In this week’s video, I’m about to show you a huge mistake 99% of people make in dating.
Make sure you don’t fall into this common trap…
The Dumbest Dating Mistake Everyone Makes…
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Oh my gosh that was captivating!! Loved it!!
Right? Of course right!
Brilliant, of course! But Matt, for those of us who are always, perhaps, too kind in our tone and actions, will you please give an example of how to be ruthless in action???
Thanks a million!
Does this ever backfire? The guy says. Sorry, I do know what I want and I’ve been meaning to break it off. And what would the response be then?
This is perhaps the most masterful, life-changing video of yours to date. If we could grasp this one concept, it has the potential to completely transform male-female relationships. It resolves the problem of how easily men feel overwhelmed by a woman’s intense emotion, and replaces it with a vehicle for impact – the calm , clear communication of standards – that can bring a woman what she truly longs for from a man.
So, Matthew, please give us some examples of how to be ruthless in our actions.
If he’s flaky on the date, does not confirm or does not reply to your remind, you simply go on with your own plan. This is not your fault but might be his loss for not knowing how interesting you can be. Therefore, you don’t need to be angry. You might either text him first or reply to his message the next day, saying:
“It was a pity you did not join me yesterday, I had so much fun at…(or with…). Next time, I’ll save a seat for you BUT remember to confirm at least 4-5 hours prior to the appointment ;) ”
And you don’t just mean by words, be clear with following actions when meeting him in person.
A calm whisper is always scarier than a scream, don’t you think? :)
Been there, done that. Though I’m not ashamed to accept my mistakes. Yeah, I did that. But eventually thought, “this stuff is too much and too complicated for me”. Damn heavy stuff! Stopped dating altogether.
Still, don’t. But I watch your videos, most of them. Though I have no idea why. Because I’m scared to death. Last time I tried, I was told I am ugly. The worst nightmare come true for any girl.
I have put myself together again. I have confidence that I am beautiful. Things are looking good for me. years of hard-work is fruitful. I don’t need someone to tell me I am beautiful anymore. You videos hit a mark.
THanks, Mr. Hussey.
Hi Matthew, I was listening to one of your videos the other day and you mentioned something. That has really resonated with me that I was hoping you would follow up with maybe another video. You spoke about two things 1 regarding women that continue to hang onto men that they want to change that will never change. Having been single for some time. I really struggle with meeting guys that are in unhappy relationships. I’d like to to discuss more about the concept of throwing these guys back into the mix so they can actually find someone that better meets their needs/personality and type.
Secondly you spoke about men leaving breadcrumbs for us to keep us interested. I’m in a very similar situation that is quite complex and what you said really resonated with me. Many thanks
This video was the most helpful so far.
Not letting anyone in too close in the beginning, without massive expectations of mere strangers, seems key to keeping your cool and doing several phases of healthy screening. I had never -ever- thought of this before. I’ve been diving into the pool without checking to see if there’s water first! A thousand thanks!
Wow, well-put!! :)
Thank you Matt! I am in a committed wonderful relationship for the last year and half now. We met before I discovered you so is Not a result of your help but because of pure luck. BUT What you helped ME with is understanding my own insecurities where there was no reason for me to be insecure. You helped me understand ME and HIM and you continue to help me work on my internal battles. I was on the path of sabotaging US because of those insecurities but every week you post a video and every week I learn more. Probably not yet but someday maybe he will think about cohabitation but if not I will have my standards to let him go. Thank you for all you do! sweetandsalty Krisztina
Hi Matthew,
I loved this video but,,, He stood me up in a way that said leave me alone I’m not interested anymore. So I still really like this guy right but I don’t want to sweat him with phone calls or text messages so what do I do now because I’m thinking to just leave him alone, move on that sort of thing? What should I do Matthew because I would love to have him but I refuse to become a stalker.
Spot on… Excellent video!
But how do you come back from being ruthless in your tone?
How must one be ‘ruthless in one’s actions’?
Please elaborate with examples.
Does that mean no further contact face to face?
When does the communication all stop?
I don’t get it.
Wow, I’ve made this mistake several times. Thanks for opening up my eyes! Loved it.
It’s true, you don’t show strong emotion unless you’re affected by something to an extreme. Passive aggression only hurts yourself. Kindness & Gratitude makes the world go round. Love it x
“You don’t have to be ruthless in your tone, if you are ruthless in your actions”….absolutely brilliant, Matthew!
Whewwwwwwwwww, goood one, gooooood one, Matt!!!
Yezzzzzzzzzz.
Not only this very fine video, Matthew, but all of these comments!! They’re powerful and so strong. I’m very very very glad you’ve given all these women a platform upon which to make their stand!
A tremendous lot, even in the precious few I took the time to read, are asking that big question, though, that isn’t apparently obvious to any of us: “So…how do you be ruthless in your actions???”