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Dear Trolls, Get A Life

You’ve heard me talk about the two types of people in life: Waiters and Creators.

Well… there’s also a third type of person…

There’s a guy I’ve been following for a while, George Watsky – a rapper who become a big Youtube name, and who has been in the news recently for jumping off of a very high lighting rig at a show where he injured two people.

He wrote a very sincere apology for his actions which he posted on Facebook:

“The jump was not awesome, it was not badass, and it was not ballsy. It turned what should have been a great day for the people who got hurt into a nightmare. It was stupid and wildly irresponsible, plain and simple.

“Today I let down my supporters, I let down the Warped Tour and I let down my band and the people who work their asses off behind the scenes to make these shows happen. My #1 priority right now is to somehow make this right for the folks who were hurt.

“I am deeply sorry and I promise to learn from this mistake.”

(See full apology here.)

The apology, despite its sincerity, provoked a HUGE number of comments berating the guy, abusing him, and saying all sorts of nasty things.

What I find more sickening than the newspapers who spread these kinds of stories is the way that they indoctrinate people in general.

At any time you can go onto a newspaper’s website and see people commenting on stories like this in just this way.

I’m always in favour of people disagreeing with me and giving a constructive lesson with an idea that conflicts with mine, but that’s very different from what people typically do.

The way people leave these comments is not designed to be productive. Their comments are left with the intention of being sinister and malicious.

The interesting question is: Why do people do this?

Why is it that we live in a culture where people have to take 5-10 minutes out of their day to maliciously abuse someone else, when that person has already heard it twenty or more times from other people telling them how stupid they’ve been?

Why is it that people feel it necessary to be sinister in this way?

The obvious answer is because these people are lacking something in their own lives.

The same people who leave these comments are distracting themselves from their own productive endeavours.

Do you think each of them doesn’t have something they want to do in their life? Something they want to build or create that they haven’t got the courage to do.

Maybe they haven’t got the drive or strategy. Maybe they have a whole list of excuses as to why they can’t do what they want to do. Whatever it is holding them back, the end result is them leaving malicious comments about other people they don’t even know, instead of spending their time doing things that would actually benefit their own lives.

I want to speak to these people:

There is a reason why you took the time to say something and didn’t choose to use that time to do something that was actually important to you.

You could have learnt a new word in that time, watched another video that could have educated you on something, or sent a loving text message to someone you do know.

Instead you left a nasty comment.

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There are people who wait and people who create in life.

The people I’m talking about don’t fall into either one of those categories in a way. They don’t wait, they don’t create, they destroy.

If from this video one such person is turned to doing something constructive instead of writing a nasty comment next time the opportunity presents itself, then this video and article will at least have done something.

Questions Of The Day:

You may not be a ‘troll’, but there may be ways you know you waste energy that you know you would rather spend on productive endeavours – even if for 5 minutes.

If you had an extra 5 minutes today, what would you use it for that’s important to your life?

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87 Replies to “Dear Trolls, Get A Life”

        1. Funny different opinions, I think swearing is highly funny, it’s not like he’s using it in a rude harsh way. I say this is a nice way by the way not attacking because you both seem lovely and polite.

          I think when it’s not used to hurt or insult there an amusing irony especially in Matthews Essex accent – me, I just sound like a common northerner! ^_^

  • Matthew, you’re helping people, and this is what matters most! You create something incredible, and it would be hard to disagree with what you teach because your level of knowledge is immense! You inspire people to be the best they could be, and the happiest they ever were! And this is again what matters most. The rest is junk.

    Your thoughts bring more thoughts, and I as your follower, shared mine in a previous comment as well, which was the only time when my thought was slightly different from yours :), other than that all your videos blew my mind… I had nothing to say :) But those who tries to put you down are just unhappy people or worse, and their attempt to earn competence in a wrong way will do them no good. All achievers have to partake of the poison of viciousness but they survive because of antidote, and you, as the achiever, have it! You’re great, Matthew, and admired by many! I wish you the greatest, marvelous Sunday and the week!!!

    Much love x
    Vi

  • Hi Matthew,
    I haven’t posted on your blog for quite a while, been very bizzy. However, I have been quite poorly the last few days and still recovering, so thought I would post here seeing as I got some spare time.
    To be honest, I don’t usually read any newspaper articles, magazine articles etc, and I’m certainly not interested in any celebrities, though I do know what you mean about people making nasty comments.

    I do, though, have one criticism of your blog today, why do you call them trolls ? I would call them scum and decay of society, but then, I’m feeling rough right now !!!!

    Angela K xxxx

  • I know people who consistantly prowl on other peoples lives , in an extreme negative forms…point blank..these are people whom do NOT LIKE THEMSELVES..AND have notbing better to do in life.

  • i really like your caracther, personality! damn….my hero….! :) some people need to have a life, and need to be happy…by the things they achieve not by putting down other people…AGREED!!!
    Kiss**** love ya matt!!!

  • Writing. I’ve just published my second book on amazon, but I need to pull my finger out and finish the second book of my series.

    I really liked what you said Matt. I’ve noticed that people who are trolls tend to also be nasty in person too and like you said, it’s because they’re lacking something in their own live.

  • My short and simple answer to:
    Why do they do it?
    Is lack of awareness.
    The ones that understand that all human beings are imperfect
    ussualy are working towards perfection: better health, greater relationship,
    education, personal growth.etc..there are so many fields to be improved.
    The ones that simply don’t get that everything starts from them…normally has a tendency to blame others and complain…because they are the most insecure and imperfect. .but simply they are not aware of it..or hiding from it…

  • I think the destroyers as you call them are still waiters, just a different type of waiter. Like maybe there’s a passive waiter and an aggressive waiter. And maybe passive waiters turn into aggressive waiters because after a while of waiting you do tend to become bitter. And I think that all of us has a little bit of each in us. It just depends on which one is more prominent (the waiting or creating). I mean, I’ve said and done a few things that I’m not proud of. At the time, it felt good to say them but I’d think on it later and realize I was only being an ass because I was upset about something. Then I’d feel bad. I think aggressive waiting is a sign that something needs to change. Passive waiting is usually done out of fear, aggressive waiting is just trying to show you that you cannot tolerate it anymore, screw fear and go do it.

  • This is something I get really furious about… To me, trolls aren’t necessarily just people who make it a point of criticising others to their faces (or by leaving a youtube comment) but also people who do it behind their backs. They want to know what we’re doing, how we’re doing it, and they want what we have, even though sometimes they hardly know us and our lives have no bearing on theirs… but word gets around! And sooner or later we find out and, for me it’s been shocking… what has this person got against me? What have I ever done to her? (in my case I’ve usually found it to be a woman)… They want to put us down and if our confidence isn’t what it should be (especially at a vulnerable time), it might affects us… They are, as Matthew said, envious, that’s my conclusion, and yes, they should get a life, but they might never get one, and what is the best way for us to deal with these people while they don’t?… We’re supposed to keep our friends close and our enemies closer… but I don’t really find that particularly pleasant… A friend of mine suggested that I internally thank these people for helping me evolve into a better human being. That is to say, instead dwelling on the negativity of this situation, making it into something positive. I know this sounds quite zen but, to be quite honest, it’s been helping me.

  • I totally agree with you, people who do not make constructive criticism generally reflect his insecurity and often feel envy against that person´s work. I always thought it’s good to have constructive criticism because we can always learn something, the bad comments are unnecessary.

    About your question after writing this comment I will spend the remaining minutes sending a message to a friend ;)

    Have a nice week.

  • I do not usually comment on blogs, but I just wanted to say thank you for speaking on this subject. I agree with what you said. Keep up the good work.

  • Matthew,
    I really enjoy your thoughts/lessons. It’s really something how you educate. I love how I learn to see and understand my life more objectively. I don’t think I as m a troll, but I took a lot from this. Instead of shipping my son off to bed like I routinely do, I stopped and had him cuddle by me and I told him the story of how he came into my life and how blessed I am because of it. Blessings to you Matthew.

    Natasha

  • BTW, I’ve noticed a lot of people bitching about your mouth……well, I adore your foul mouth. Be real, be you, because I relate to it and quite fankly don’t people have something better to do than get bat shit crazy over that. Muah handsome!

  • Hey Matthew,

    Your lessons helped me in my life so though I have not ready the book not be able to attend any of live shows as being overseas but you emails helped me so much that I start helping people. Dont care for others. Your word- Logic-Logic- does not make any logic. You are out of this world – who is here to help/teach/educate us.

    love!

  • I respectfully disagree with you, not on your opinion that internet trolls should find something better and more productive to do and stop being assholes, but on the idea that there are “three different types of people” in the world. I suppose, being in the self-help business, it’s probably easier for you to put people in boxes, but there are always ranges of people. Sometimes people create things, then lose motivation and just sit around for a while. Sometimes, in the middle of creating something, someone will take a break and go post a nasty comment just because they can. In order to put one person in a box, you have to put everyone else in their own, personal, individual box. Humans are infinite shades of grey, and there will always be someone who wishes we were black and white.

  • Hey Matt, I agree with you, as I do most of the times. Great minds think alike. What’s that saying? “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
    The world would be much more evolved and feel less resistance if people would spend more time tending to their own gardens and less time trying to manage other’s. I mean, how exhausting is it when you are spending so much time critiquing, judging and managing other’s when you should be mastering your own dominion and being responsible for your own behaviors. I think it’s about avoidance. Avoidance of accountability of playing their best game in life. I also think it’s jealousy and hate. Some people just don’t have a very loving bones in their bodies and they like to pass judgment on others as a way to uplift themselves and make themselves superior. Dim others down so that they can shine brighter because without doing so they may not feel so accomplished on their own. It doesn’t come from love. It stems from judgement and insecurity. I feel bad for those whose world is colored so dark that they only way they can thrive is to take away from others. I suppose you can’t blame them right? They are probably unconscious people who are just trying to make themselves feel better. Some people are strictly about survival Matt. I think you are about thriving. BTW, your passion in this video was incredibly sexy. You’re also a cutie. I love your passionate, intelligence, and playfulness. You sexy biatch you.

  • I concur entirely. It shows deep insecurities to be attacking other people. In the ideal world everyone would be encouraging each other not bringing others down.

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