Does Life Get Any Easier?

Here’s a quick video on the hardships of life, why you need to find what you love, stick it out and keep going.

In the interview mentioned, Jerry was asked if his work was still difficult, to which he replied, “your blessing in life is when you find the torture you’re comfortable with.”

We can take this one of two ways; to be either depressing or empowering.

One of the great myths of our society is that things get easier.

–Get rich quick and your life will be easy…
–Find a relationship and your life will be easy…
–Six-pack abs and your life will be easy…

But life doesn’t work like that! It’s not that simple.

Life stays difficult.

I see my job as a coach not as helping make people’s lives easier, but helping people graduate from doing hard things they hate, to doing hard things they really enjoy.

For me, running GetTheGuy is no easier than it was 5 years ago. More opportunity can mean more work, but I enjoy it more, and that’s the difference.

The aim isn’t to make an easy life…

It’s to find something you love doing – a torture you can endure, and something that energises you.

With that said, sometimes you’ll be doing something hard that you don’t find fun, but just because it’s not ‘fun’, doesn’t mean it can’t be fulfilling.

As another personal example, I love boxing – not because while I’m doing it I’m having so much ‘fun’ – but because at the end of it I feel amazing and I get excited about going the next day.

Find a form of ‘torture’ you can enjoy.

Find something that can become part of your DNA and give it everything you’ve got.

Don’t stop because it’s hard work or because it’s not paying off right now. Keep doing it because you know it’s something that drives you at your core.


You’ll have noticed by now that GetTheGuy is bigger than just love life and dating advice. It’s about creating a life you love.

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97 Replies to “Does Life Get Any Easier?”

  1. Thanks for this post! Love the blog. A few random thoughts:

    I like this. :-) This isn’t dissimilar to some thoughts I had when making the decision to pursue filmmaking instead of staying along a more traditional career path. It’s one of those decisions I think about a lot, because it’s really NOT a straightforward path, and so I have to renew it over and over. I think it relates to the quote you hear about doing something you love and never having to work a day in your life. It’s not that you DON’T have to work or do difficult things, but what you’re doing isn’t “work” in that drudgery, hating-one’s-life sense.

    I also think Seinfeld is right–and I think that’s one reason his comedy and observations about life are so funny, because he says things that we recognize on some level as true.

    Lastly, I like the idea of our “Sunday gatherings,” too. “See” you next Sunday!


  2. Thank you so much for this video Matthew! You’ve made me feel so much better about the choices I’ve made over the last couple of years. I chose to work a lot of hours in my part time job while I was at university, pouring my soul into my job so that I got promotions and huge amounts of extra responsibility, to the point where I was the only person in my role allowed to be part time because I was more valuable part time to my company than the full time employees. That combined with uni meant that I had very little free time to spend with people. But it paid off! Now that I’ve finished my degree, I will use it in a creative way to move forward with my career in this company. Even with uni out of the way, it will never get easy– now I have so many opportunities and I intend to exercise as many as possible. I am excited to move forward, even though things will be difficult. I am happier now because I know I have purpose, though the workload will actually increase. It’s good to know that life doesn’t get easier for anyone, it means I’m doing it right.

    1. Wow, congratulations for all the things you have accomplished! As you have written, you totally deserved it.

      1. Thanks Rumors!
        I seriously questioned what I was doing for a while. At one point it was so intense, I was working 57 hours a week on the shop floor plus uni. 5 hours sleep a night was driving me insane. Not that bad now and it makes me appreciate every second I have spare. I also got to afford the holiday I’m on right now. X

        1. You are a really hard work women. I was one year in the situation you have describe and it almost made me insane so little hours with out sleep. For me it was not woth it at all but I´m glad to hear that it´s not your case.

  3. Brilliant, Matthew. Lots of people are gonna fight you on this one! Maybe I’m wrong. But whenever I talk about something like this, everyone has this initial sense of wanting to say, “no! You’re wrong!” But thanks for this. Everyone needs to hear it. Keep preachin’ brotha.

    1. Hey Kim!

      Yeh people often misunderstand the point of this type of lesson, thinking that it’s not true (and depressing) to think that things don’t get easier. They often associate it with not being relaxed or not enjoying life.

      I actually look at it the opposite way. When you are doing hard things you love you feel completely at peace. Not only are you enjoying life but you’re getting the sense of fulfilment and satisfaction that can only come from doing hard things.

      Thanks for being an early commenter! x

      1. I really liked that one – getting peace from doing hard things. I never thought about it in that way, but that’s so true!

  4. Hi Matthew im sorry that ive post a comment the few times i was on vacation.
    And i really appreciate that i can because nothing is for granted in life.

    And i think not life gets any easier you can make it so hard as you want.
    I think if you work hard in life and think about your future your ginna achieve something. But life goes about peeks and troughfs learned from you :)
    But if you stay positife in the things you wanf achieve it gonna be alright.
    I know life is sometimes hard and onfair at sometimes.
    Because ive been bullied my grandpa is past away and is stolen into our house .
    And my parents gonna devorce maybe.
    But i always be strong wathever happens.

    Have a great day. Stay yourself always.

    Grtz Thirza from the netherlands ;)

    1. Hey Thirza, thanks for being the first to comment! Love your attitude in staying strong no matter what. That’s what really matters.

      Thanks for being a regular follower of my blog, it means a lot.

      Matthew x

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