A Genuine Dream Come True Love Story

Hey people, I wanted to share this story with you about a dear friend of mine. What a way to start the year!

If you have time, please leave a comment below with your ideas of what you want to achieve this year. Writing something down and stating it makes it all the more real.

Matthew x

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  3. Summer says:

    I’ve been following your work on youtube not even for a month now :D I think advice you give is amazing!! I hope, I would be another person building a family :D
    I met a great guy so handsome that I will forget anyone before in my life but he insists on having just sex without relationshp.. at first i was shocked to his openness, but then thought and replied him back as “no i see you as just a friend now, but we can really do the activities together weve talked about before”.. I listed the activities etc :D I feel like I already won, from now on if he calls he calls if he wont i have another personality with loose hair abd confident even now :D i hope i will get a guy, a great guy and tell you my sucess story !

    • Summer says:

      I’ve been following your work on youtube not even for a month now :D I think advice you give is amazing!! I hope, I would be another person building a family :D I met a great guy so handsome that I will forget anyone before in my life but he insists on having just sex without relationshp.. at first i was shocked to his openness, but then thought and replied him back as “no i see you as just a friend now, but we can really do the activities together weve talked about before”.. I listed the activities etc :D I feel like I already won, from now on if he calls he calls if he wont i have another personality with loose hair and more confident even now :D i hope i will get a guy, a great guy and tell you my sucess story ! –
      I have edited my previous comment :D



    “Don’t Find Another Love”

    “Don’t Find Another Love”

    Won’t you tell me what you want from me
    Don’t you know I’d walk across the sea
    Just to be with you
    Just to see it through

    You can find me on the edge tonight
    You could talk me off the ledge tonight
    If you wanted to
    Don’t you want me to

    Please don’t find another love
    Please don’t find another love
    Please don’t find another love when I’m away
    Now our signals breaking up
    A satellite is not enough
    Please don’t find another love when I’m away

    I could promise you’re the only one
    We could walk into the setting sun
    If you wanted to
    I’ll follow you

    Take a little and you turn away
    Such a wicked little game to play
    And I’m just a fool
    How could you be so cruel

    Please don’t find another love
    Please don’t find another love
    Please don’t find another love when I’m away
    Now our signals breaking up
    A satellite is not enough
    Please don’t find another love when I’m away

    I’m losing my senses
    I’m falling apart for us
    Now I’m defenseless
    I’m falling in endless love

    So please don’t find another love
    Please don’t find another love
    Please don’t find another love when I’m away
    Now our signals breaking up
    A satellite is not enough
    Please don’t find another love when I’m away

  5. Emily Shepard says:

    This is adorable. Why does this video not appear on youtube? I’m sure a lot of women out there are Siobhans-in-waiting.

  6. Mariam Maged says:

    Please please. Matt come to middle east women here need you
    I am from Egypt and I really want to join this amazing dream

  7. Faith Melendres says:

    Hi Matt,

    Siobhan crossed my path (virtually) today as I was sending an email to your team about VIP tickets to your event on Saturday. Here’s the story:

    I’ve only just discovered about your exitence 48 hours ago but ever since I watched that first video of you on YouTube, you have become the voice that wakes me up in the morning and lulls me to sleep at night. You are literally buzzing in my ear most of the time when I am not at work and it has been an amazing 48 hours for me to find someone who understands what I am going through.

    I was scrolling through Facebook today and your post came up about a live event and I just had to be there and see you in person. I went through the purchase page and was disappointed that the VIP tickets had sold out already. I learned from you that you either have to wait or create in every situation you come across and so I “created” the opportunity to speak with one of your team by contacting them.

    I wasn’t really expecting much but to my surprise, Siobhan sent me a reply to say that the event manager has just handed over her VIP ticket so she has a spare. And because I had already paid for a non VIP ticket, Siobhan said not to worry about the extra payment and that it would be her treat as long as I pass on the kindness to someone else soon.

    I was over the moon! I had to thank her in some way. I had to find her and meet her and so I came across this page.

    And I realise that her story is absolutely inspiring. I am on the verge of giving up too because of some health issues but knowing her story is inspiration to me. Our paths crossed for a reason.

    And to think it’s Ethan’s birthday month as well? Or it might be his birthday today? How coincidental and connected does everything seem right now?!

    Anyway, I shall see you both on Saturday and rest assured it will be an incredible and magical moment for me.

    Take care!

    Faith xx

  8. Aimee says:

    Great information. Lucky me I came across your blog by chance (stumbleupon).
    I’ve bookmarked it for later!

  9. nicloe wiles says:

    this life is what you make it. no matter what pure going to mess up somthing, its a universal truth, but the good part is you get to decide how your going to mess it up girls will be your friend- theyll act like tit anyway. but just remember, some came, some go, the ones that stay with you though everything- theyre your true best friend dont let go of them. also remember , sisters make the best friends in the world. as for lovers, well , they come and go too and baby,i hate to say it, most of them, actually prettty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you cant give up because if you give up, youll never find your soulmate. youll never that half that make you hole and that goes for everything , just because you fail ones, dosint mean your gonna fail at everything. keep trying , hold on, and always, always, always belive in yourself , because if you dont, then who will, sweety? so keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because lifes a beautiful thing and theres so much to smile blouit day 1 what you give is priceless day 2 there are more ways to be happy than anyone can imagine day 3 why settle for good when your life can be grat day 4 a wish is a powerful thing day 5 say yes to less stress day 6 you dont have to be perfect too be beautiful day 7 give yourself a compliment its true . marilyn monroe

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  11. christina says:

    Hi Matty,
    I m christina, i want to know whether a boy still in love after putting the word “i don’t want to continue the relation with you” thus,one guy proposed me and few month goes some misunderstanding came between us and he stated the quote which i have mentioned above afterthat i never spoke to him ,never called him,never messaged him too,but we both woking in same concern…. hence i asked him will it possible to leave me and have a relation with other girl? while he said the above quote dont want to continue the relation with you …. i think he may said that word in tension but after this we really not talk each other but i feel to talk,call,message him at the same tim i was fear to do all this because i have the fear whether he really dont want to contine the relation but i love him a lot i m waiting, thinking him each and every second now he is talking with all of my friends,i wont bother about that i feel atleast he is happy with talking to my friends than me………
    while in office he see me without my knowlegde me too do the same.. if he is not in my office for a second illl keep on searching him until i see him i love him lot matty, i m waiting for him kindly tel me whether he is still in love with me? pls

  12. Tessa says:

    hi matt!, im tessa, im 12 years old and i live on your emails!
    so i know I’m young but… I’m hopelessly in love with this guy who doesn’t even know i exist. well he does, we talk but i don’t think i ever cross his mind. i try everything. I’m so frustrated! i would buy your books videos,etc but I’m 12…i don’t have a credit card or pay pal. please help me out.
    tessa from new york

  13. Nadya says:

    Hey Matthew,
    First of all I want to THANK YOU for all your huge amazing work, for your amazing knowledge, energy and pushing forward optimism!!!
    I’m keeping watching your video’s, reading your books and advices, I’m only in the beginning of my way, but I’m gonna keep going and see the results I have dream about all my life!
    I have a question…
    I have been hesitating if ask you or not, because, of course, the first thing I must do is to become a HIGH-QUALITY WOMAN. And I gonna do this! :-)
    But I have some circumstances in my situation, that it would be good to know how to act properly, because I’m really deeply in love and want to USE this chance of my life!!
    So, officially I have a boyfriend. Well, not anymore. I was and will be brave enough to become independent and self-sufficient and not want to be beloved more than TO LOVE. Because through the wonder I got to know the GUY I WANT TO GET now, and understood, what the real love is, when you want and need to become yourself to GIVE your love to your beloved.
    So, I believe, that we are attracted to each other. When we were just friends he asked me as a joke if I have a sister to be with (he knows about my boyfriend and knows him personally). Accidentally with New Year we fell in love. From that time we saw each other few times, last time was provoked by me after the digesting of the sparkling information of Matt. It was the most amazing time in my life… Oh my God, dreams can become true! I wish all my life to be like that. But… I can become panicked very fast about… why is he not calling me, not making attempts to see me… Even he is so extremely happy when we meet as it was few days ago and is so eager to find and have a girlfriend, as he said many times before. And here is it: he doesn’t know and cannot know that I DON’T HAVE A BOYFRIEND ANYMORE! I don’t know of it might be the reason, and I would really like to know it… I don’t want to start the “serious conversation” with him, it’s for sure not a way. And, of course, it might be something else, and I also yearn to know what… I don’t even want to commit him as it is, I want to see him, to spend time with him, to discover him (and myself) (and life), to make love with him, to find our way together, to make and see him constantly happy, doesn’t matter if than I have to become and be independent in my own life, because I’m ready for it.
    I JUST MISS HIM!!!!! And I want clarity. Not from him, because it may be pushing, but to know how and what to do, how to behave, and how to let him know that I’m already single, and IF it is necessary. Of course, if he likes me enough he can “struggle with my boyfriend”, but he doesn’t seem to be that kind of a person, he is maybe too good.
    So Matt, if you will have time, I will grandiosely appreciate if you can say few words about it. THANK YOU one more time SO MUCH, I happy that I met you in my life!!!!!
    And, as you say at the end of your great video’s,
    TAKE CARE!!!
    Nadya xxx

  14. rutuja says:

    I was wondering if there is any diffence in the ways to get teenage guys to you as compared to ‘elderly’ men??? are there different techniques???

  15. rutuja says:

    Well, I have been following you from Canada.I am not exactly like the women you coach, I don’t even think that i am of age (i am 15) but i think that most of the advises you give the rather ‘elderly’ women work the same for me as well.Though i am not exactly the ‘i-have-no-dates’ type, it is still better to improvise in what you are doing. Don’t you think???

  16. dina says:

    it’s a long story anyway i knew guy since 17/2/2011 through net..and we met we liked each other soo much..1st our relation was just friendship ..then after 2 month we get through relation then we broke up but still friends then after other 2 monthes again we become in relation again for a month then we broke up again we broke up by shifting from being bf and gf to just friends..but it was the happiest month i have ever spend . we broke up because i told him that there’s someone proposed to me and my mother wants me to meet him ..his reply was :ok go ahead and do what u want i won’t ruin your life i don’t know my future in my job and my life is not stable.then after time i opened the subject again that i can’t bare being just friend and he told me that’s better…i dunno what he really wants or what he really feels he act like my bf and the same time without commitment he is great man and stand by me in all troubles and trust me sooo much…last week we were with each other out and when we were talking he told me that he trust me sooo much because i’m like his sister ..i get shocked and i quarelled with himand 4 days he called me and we start to act there’s nothing happened i stop calling him but he calles me every day talking in general subjects.. i love him soooooo much but i don’t know what to do..what do you think

  17. Nicole says:

    Congratulations to your friend and her beautiful child. Thank you for putting this information out there. I dont know if its just me or not but I really didnt come to your site to “get the guy” I actually came and read, and listened for me. I appreciate some of your confidence builders and that you believe there is someone for each of one of us. It is nice to know optimsm isn’t dead. Thank you for pursuing your dreams and helping others along the way. Maybe one day we will meet and I can say thank you personally to you instead of impersonally on a comment board. Thanks again and have a great day!

  18. Julia says:

    Hi Matt, I’m really looking forward to your secrets of attraction event on Saturday:). I don’t want to keep doing the same mistakes and I know your event will help me change the things I did wrong in the past. My goal this year is to find someone who doesn’t play with my feelings and takes me the way I am. I will not lose hope in finding the right guy:-). Love from Brighton. x

  19. N says:

    Beautiful! fascinating testimony! One thing I cannot understand is: why some women can be successful in many areas like career, extra curricular activities, friends, harmony with parents and siblings… yet we loose all our confidence when we face the love area? Why many of us can make a flawless intellectual lecture in front of many people or an excellent presentation for an important client or just to present a project to the office team, and yet we LITERALLY PANIC with the idea of flirting with a guy or keeping him interested? Is not that we don’t feel fear in a work presentation isn’t? because rejection possibility is there as well, but usually in the career area many professional women just swallow the nervousness and do the damn presentation, lecture and so on. Why the same confidence or courage we use at work doesn’t apply for love? … Yes, I suppose one thing is somebody rejecting your ideas and another is somebody rejecting YOU and is very hard not to take it personally… Also can be that dating and having a relationship seem for some of us like a second job, when for other women comes naturally… Personally, I was courageous once some years ago but I came out so burnt that I took more than couple of years of total detox of guys, I just wanted to be alone, no guys around please, quit. In the meantime I changed my life, moved to another country, made a degree, I engaged in projects that inspired me, I am looking for a new job and new life, I’m trying to be healthier and loosing weight, all sounds good… but by the other hand I became coward and disoriented with men because I wanted to fix myself first, I isolated myself socially so much from guys keeping just friends that I don’t know how to start again, not just to get a date that seems feasible just going out more but dealing with relationships and rejection better, I don’t want to reinforce the bad things over and over or get bitter (is my euphemistic way to say that I am totally clueless and scared as hell)… I want to re-wire my brain and my reflects to avoid negative feelings that I associate with myself and men, romantic love / relationships… sorry for the long, long writing :)…

  20. Sharon says:

    2012 is My Year!! I’m ready; my heart & mind are open! No more inconsistent, immature relationships with unavailable men!

    Come back to Boston, Massachusetts please :)


  21. eva says:

    Am truly happy for Siobhan, saw her pregnant in Manchester and loved reading all this, just let me add that I have taken your advice Matt and yes, if they don’t appreciate who you are, whoever they might be, better to be free. Life is out there, waiting, for the taking. Thanks, wish I could see you guys more often!

  22. Danica says:

    Hey Matt,
    That was a lovely video. Thank you for sharing it with all of us. Congratulations, Siobhan! What a change! Actually that story reminded of me a little bit. I was on the verge of giving up meeting people until I started taking up your advices. They were great! I could now always have enthusiasm to meet new people and get to know them more. There is one part where I’m not entirely sure about though. I can’t always be that confident person on the outside and at some points, I would have down moments of insecurities. Like the other day when I lost a friendship with my dear friend who was like a sister to me. I was very insecure, not at all what I am proud of. Still trying to stay strong from the incident. The annoying bit is that the people around me go under shock and start to move away from me when I have those down moments. I could understand their feelings but I surely I can’t always be that confident independent happy woman and need the right support to move on right? I couldn’t find the right person in those moments though… What should I do?

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Danica,
      Noone feels confident ALL the time, we all have moments of weakness. The key is whether we are brave enough to bounce back from those moments, and YOU CAN BE. It takes practice, but I promise if you want a better quality of life then it is possible and you won’t have to suffer because of these feelings. Don’t beat yourself up, you are human. We all have to strive to be strong, ESPECIALLY in the difficult moments.
      With you all the way, keep giving life your all.
      Matthew x

      • Danica says:

        Hey Matt,
        Thanks a lot, that makes me feel a lot better :) I have another slight dilemma though. I’m very much attracted to this guy, who is my best friend. I tell him pretty much everything and he knows I have feelings for him. The period where I was insecure, i wrote him messages about how I felt at the time, I was very emotional and vunerable. Somehow he is not into helping and being there for me much this time. Have I done something wrong? have I turned him off? I would be grateful and very much appreciate for this small thing that’s bothering me for days now.

  23. Adeline says:

    Love this story. It’s sweet and amazing and inspiring. :)
    @Matt, your confidence seminars and your videos have helped me with my anorexia, bulimia, and PTSD (something that no amount of therapy, or treatment could do.) (I’m 17) but I still have a question; I like this guy but he ignores me completely. He’s like a cross between a dark haired young Brad Pitt and an ice cube- he doesn’t just ignore me, he almost avoids me, when s few months ago he stared at me often and said hi, etc. His best friend on the other hand, teases me about my affections for him on a regular basis. I don’t want to settle for just any guy- I get a lot of offers but never from him or his friend. My friends say that everyone who knows me Loves me and suggests that I get to know him and his friend but how? I’m shy.

    Thank you for spreading your awesomeness!
    ~ Adeline

  24. Lola says:

    Hey Matthew, you’re amazing!! I hope the best for you this year!!

    I’ve a little problem:
    There’s a guy that I know for 2 years now. In the beginning he liked me I think (he was always flirting with me), but I took distance from him and I act like I didn’t care and never mention it. Then he blew hot and cold for some reasons that I don’t know.
    Still whenever he sees me, he’s always flirting with me and keeps his eyes on me (also when he’s in a relationship with someone else or not). And when I ignore that, he blow hot and cold once again.

    It’s kind of a routine..

    What does this mean?

    Sincerly Lola

  25. Julia says:

    Great inspirational story, great happy end :)Matthew, I’ve just “discovered” you by the end of 2011 but I may say you simply impressed me!

    For the New Year I prayed to find out and still hope to make it clear for myself what I really want. So far I realized I should fulfill my dream and do as a job what I would like: first step I’ve decided I will study Psychology (I always was interested in this field but thought I couldn’t do much of a profession with this). Now I know there are endless possibilities.

    In my love life I want to make a change. I always wanted to find a guy who can commit but now that I found him I discovered I’m the one who can’t commit in this relation… (he would do almost anything for me, I know, but I realized/fell he’s not the one). What shall I do, how can I tell that to him now, after he let everything and came in UK for me..? I just don’t know how to make him (or myself?!) ready for that. I don’t want to make him suffer although I know there is not any easy way…

    I would like to find out more about the programme you were talking in the video…

    Thank you for inspiring us Matthew! Have a great year!

  26. Grace says:

    This year I really need to boost confidence as 2012 is the year I’m going alone and I am so scared! I leaving uni and for the first time,truely being independent and i am so scared of getting a job ( or rather not getting the one i want) at the age of 20! I am also scared because I have never had a boyfriend which is somthing i though i would have had by now and this is also playing on my mind! I feel silly worrying about it as I am still young but this must be the year I suceed! Please if you offer me any advice it would be fantastic! I have ready many of your articles and think they are great!

  27. Teresa says:

    I used to like this guy 7 years ago, and while we flirted with each other a bit, nothing happened as he barely initiated and I ended up dating his friend. A few years down the road, I asked him if he knew I used to like him, to which he said that he knew (but left it at that).

    We’ve kept in contact these 7 years, and last year I moved to London. Since then, we have been texting each other every week or so (usually him initiating) and we flirt with each other every now and then, and he asked me to go on holiday with him a few months ago. I said yes, of course, but when I asked him for dates to go on holiday, he always says, “I can’t plan that far ahead yet”, or “I don’t know my schedule”. I also once told him I missed him, but he didn’t acknowledge what I’d said.

    Matthew, I’d greatly appreciate if you can provide me with some insight on what’s going on inside his mind! As he’s the one who asked to go on holiday with me (and mentioned it a few times), I had assumed he was interested. When I went back home over Christmas, I met up with him and got a vibe from him that he liked me as well.

    This is not the first case of “I feel like he’s interested but he doesn’t act like it” – I’d previously gone on a couple of holidays with another guy (alone), thought he was interested, but nothing came out of it. When I told that guy I had feelings for him, he changed the subject on me.

    Am I interpreting signals from these guys incorrectly, or is there anything (more) I can do to get them to acknowledge their feelings for me?

    PS – I went to your Secrets of Attraction Event a couple of months ago and now have some pretty funny (but still unsuccessful) stories from trying to chat up random guys. Thanks for the tips though!

  28. Amanda says:

    Hey Matt,
    That was a truly inspiring story, so great to hear!
    My goals for this year are to be more open to love and finding the right guy. I’m (almost) 23 years and have never been in a relationship. I’m an attractive girl but around men I tend to be extremely shy and have avoided even friendship with them. Sometimes it’s hard to imagine that i’ll ever be in relationship because i never have been and the longer i’m single, the worse my fears become. Last year I started working on conquering my fears and believe I have come out my shell quite a bit. Still I am unsure how to change my thinking that for so long has to told me to stay in the background and to fear too much attention. Are there any tips you can give me to help me achieve my 2012 goals? Thanks!

  29. leila says:

    hi matt im in a relationship and this is my first time being in a relationsip . i wanted to know the goods and bad

  30. Barbara says:

    Hi Matt, I’m an Irish girl who is a tad on the picky side and even though I get offers there never seems to be chemistry(on my side at least).
    I’m in my mid thirties and would love to meet my soul mate, I get bored of it just being me.
    People are always saying that they can’t believe I’m single but from my side I can’t seem to attract the kind of guy I want.
    P.s. love your videos

    • Matthew says:

      Thanks Barbara!
      I completely understand, sharing life with someone you care about is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Attracting the guy you want is a three step process: 1. Define what you want 2. Find out where those people are 3. Become the type of person that would attract men like that.
      I’d love to go through this process with you in person sometime. Int he meantime, take care and keep watching. Thanks for the support!
      Matthew x

    • Erika says:

      Quit smoking and that loser. You confuse a relationship with a narcotics buddy. The cirgaretes and whatever else toxic (always is combiined with something else bad you won’t know about)will always come first. Get out and stay away before does long-term damage to your children and you.

  31. Liz says:

    That was one awesome story! Thanks for sharing it. This year I want to focus more on improving myself. I want to be more confident and less awkward. I want to be more productive by focusing more on my degree and volunteering for my community more. I feel I need to take a break from chasing ‘love’, and reflect on myself a bit before I try again. Maybe after I improve who I am I’ll be able to look at things differently and start believing in the whole love idea once more. Maybe then I’ll be able to welcome the right people into my life properly. Maybe then it’ll all fall into place.

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Liz!
      You make an amazing point! Improving our life is a whole is one of the greatest ways to find an amazing relationship! This has been termed by some as “obliquity” i.e. sometimes our goals are best realised indirectly. This is actually the logic of the “High Value Woman” retreats I run in Florida – it’s about creating strength in every area of your life which naturally makes this area click into place.
      All the best for 2012!
      Matthew x

  32. Amanda says:

    Well i could go into a long drawn out story about things but i wouldn’t. What i hope for this year is for things to turn around more then they have. I’m still with the same guy. He’s a tough nut to crack though. I do want to thank you for helping me get my confidence back and helping me gain some new confidence. I look forward to more of your e-mails so i can learn how to maybe turn this relationship around and become 100% confident. I am doing very well though and even my friend says she’s seen a change in me. It does seems though that at times it’s one step forward two steps back. I’m looking forward to just enjoying my life and a lifetime friendship with my guy. Whether or not things work out.

    • Matthew says:

      Great attitude Amanda! It’s all about the person YOU become. When you become great, the only question that remains is “is he willing to meet my standard?”. If he can’t, you will find something better in your life, even if you do remain friends.
      Thanks for your support, I’ll keep giving you as much as I can to help!
      Matthew x

  33. maria says:

    Hi Matt & Team
    Beautiful story Matt :) like Serena’s story too … very similar situation at present for me, good timing!. Sadly i’m going to find it a struggle to attend the Januarys meet that i was looking forward too that i’v paid for & NO i am soooo cool that although i’v already purchased & not looking good to attend i’m so happy to read & have the bits of info available now as its all been very helpful which to me is £20 spent WELL already! … BIG THANKYOU :)
    Ps: The travel from Cornwall to London has proved the challenge so hope you will have a meet availiable nearer southwest sometime X

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Maria! Thanks for your support, and for attending my event!
      Unfortunately it’s difficult to travel around to all different places since I still personally deliver all of the events myself! Maybe at some point in the future I’ll have coaches delivering them without me, but for now I’m committed to doing it myself for as long as I possibly can!
      I look forward to seeing you again in 2012!

      Matthew x

  34. Ruth says:

    So, is she with a guy or did she just want to have a baby. The story is kind of incomplete.

    • Matthew says:

      Yes she’s with him, they are very happy together! : ). She just sent me a picture from the hospital of all three of them together, so lovely!

      Matthew x

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  36. Irina Ricchi says:

    Dear Matt, happy new year.

    My wish is that I will stop liking men who don’t like me. I’m very susceptible to this phenomenon and it’s driving me crazy. I have a crush on a guy now for about 3 months and yet nothing has happened yet but he does like to flirt with me, and I know that he’s dating other women. But for some reason I feel it in my heart that he is the man I always wanted. My friends say that I should approach him, but I’m too selfish and I fear rejection. And I know that the only thing he is willing to offer me now is only sex, but I don’t want just that. And even if he wanted to sleep with me, I wont give him the satisfaction of also sleeping with me. Plus I feel stupid telling him how I feel since he hasn’t shown a big interest in me.

    Finally I need to be less romantic and emotional and understand when men just want to flirt for the sake of being and that they didn’t mean anything by it. Hope in a year from now I will be in a happy and loving relationship!

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Irina!
      I have a rule in my life “If they don’t adore me they’re not right for me”. You might benefit from reminding yourself of that rule. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put yourself out there and take risks on guys (otherwise you’ll never know if they could like you), but it also means you don’t tolerate people who don’t give you their all.
      It’s going to be an exciting 2012 for you, I can feel it!
      Matthew x

  37. Aslı Tümerkan says:

    Matt, -this is not about my love life- what if we are not sure of what we want? All I want from 2012 is to find my calling and make money from it, but have no idea how to do it.

    • Matthew says:

      Come see me and we’ll work it out together lol! It’s all about working out your criteria for what makes you happy, then finding a lifestyle that meets your criteria. I.e. I love people, i love variety, and I love human psychology, so I find something that allows me to indulge in all of these things. Sometimes you have to get it wrong a few times to find it, but don’t be disheartened with that. As long as your out there trying something you’re getting closer. The only failure is stagnation!
      Matthew x

  38. sharrollene crow says:

    o.k. i’m ready lets do this i’m excited i’m ready to do this o.k. thank you.

  39. Lorena Pahovic says:

    thank you for these beautiful and inspiring story. I am so happy for Siobhan,she must be an amazing, loving and kind person. What a great mum, I can see.
    I wish that every person on this planet could hear about high value, creating, impact, confidence…. WHAT A WONDEREFUL WORLD:)))))
    See you on next Women’s weekend in January 2012,

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Lorena!
      You’re right, she’s an amazing person, and a very dear friend. Now let’s working on getting you everything you want this year! Can’t wait to see you on the programme this month!

      Matthew x

  40. Trudy says:

    Hi Matt,

    I met a man online last December we had a few dates and the connection was amazing for both of us. Then he disconnected and called or facebooked me and would ask what I was doing the following week-end. If I was free he would never commit to getting to gether, but if I was busy he would really want to see me. Now he is calling again and he made tentative plans for tonight but once again hasn’t followed through. I feel he is not living up to my standards, but don’t know how to tell him. Also after losing contact with me for months he’ll call me once and then not call again for 10 to 11 days. The cycle will then continue. I want what I can’t have and I’m really not sure what he wants.

    • Matthew says:

      Hi Trudy!
      You have to communicate what you’re not happy about. It can be done seriously or with a hint of playfulness (my personal favourite) but either way it should be done firmly and with certainty. When this happens he’ll respect your time far more and will also be more attracted. Double win!
      You’re already high value, you just have to realise it!
      Matt x

  41. Someone says:

    I usually sense interest in me from a guy but because I’m shy he moves on without even talking to me or pursuing me and it’s making me feel so insecure and hopeless. I want to change this habit and meet someone lovely this year. HELP.

    • Matthew says:

      You are right to use the word habit, shyness is just that. This year make a new habit of being confidence. Start with the small stuff and work your way up. You’ll find over time this has a truly compounding effect on your life.
      Thanks for commenting!
      Matt x

  42. Yuna says:

    I fell in love for the first time last year…He showed me the beauty of life and everything was so much more enchanting with him by my side…And then 3 months later, he totally withdrew himself….broke up with me over an sms..The next days were miserable and I had a tough time facing every new day. I still do…

    Though I am unaware of what went wrong, my new year resolution is to get my life back on track, make the best of the opportunities given to me, and anticipate that a great person will definitely come in my life, who will help me get over my hurt and pain.

    I think I may find this journey a bit tough…but no one has the right to mess up my life and my heart..

    P.S: Hope u have a great year ahead Matt! You are doing awesome work by trying to mend all the broken hearts…

    • Matthew says:

      “but no one has the right to mess up my life and my heart..” AND none has that POWER either if we don’t let them!

      I wish you all the love and happiness you deserve in 2012.

      matthew x

  43. Vanni says:

    Great story! This year, I chose to just BELIEVE. Believe that I will find my dream job, believe that I will find my dream guy and build a future with. I believe when we make up our minds about something, the universe conspires to make it happen. And it will!:)

  44. Emzi says:

    I have been in an intimate relationship with a guy for nearly 10 years and he is my best friend. I really feel he is my soulmate and I love him to pieces…only thing is we have never been a couple…..he has his girlfriends and cheats on them with me and I don’t want anyone but him. He always calls me if he has a problem (he broke his ankle one night and called me for help, rather than his girlfriend!) and when we are together it’s amazing, we lay there relaxing and watching tv and it feels natural and we fit together perfectly, there’s no uncomfortable positions to lay or sit or cuddle, he always strokes my hair and asks if I’m ok and kisses and cuddles me and he says really sweet things to me.
    He won’t tell me how he feels about me though and I’ve asked him several times.he knows how I feel and he gets jealous if other guys flirt with me or if I hang out with his mate he gets funny with me and wants to come with. People say he’s just using me but it doesn’t feel that way when I’m with him it feels genuine…..it’s hard to spend time with him though as he has a gf but wen I do see him my stomach sinks and I feel sick and nervous and my heart races.

    I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong as he won’t commit to me…..I’ve tried being distant and tried being there alot, I’ve played it cool, I’ve tried getting him to open up and he won’t……I don’t know wat to do…..I know he is the one for me but I can’t get him to see that he is and that he should give me a chance.

    Everyone keeps saying I should get rid of him but I can’t and It feels wrong to even think about it…….I’m so lost and don’t know what to do or to try…..

    ….I know I sound like a horrible person who is obsessed but I’m not I promise, I need advise……

    • Love&Peace says:

      Spontaneously, I just want to say that I had a similar relationship. At the end he finally told me that he is enjoying his power to hurt other people’s feelings. I would have never thought that he is like this, I loved him so deeply and I felt deeply loved by him. Now, I told him to go out of my life and I’ve got rid of all the e-mails and stuff connected to him. It feels so amazing finally to look forward for a fresh, wonderful and committed relationship with a man I will love and who will give me the love I deserve. We all deserve the Best!

    • Julie says:

      time to move on girlfriend. You’ve made it too easy for him. I’m not being harsh, I have just gone through the same thing. Can’t tell you what a blast it is to meet new guys who don’t treat women like they’re yesterday’s trash.

    • Sheena says:

      Emzi, you need to get rid of that guy whom you have been seeing for 10 years. Ok,it will be hard because it sounds like you are in love with him. However, that guy is just pushing the boundaries on how far he can go without making a commitment. There are other guys out there whom you will get on as well with, fall in love with and will also show you the love and respect that every woman needs. Go girl!

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Emzi,

      Ultimately you have to decide what you want. If it is a committed relationship with someone truly special then you have to realise that this situation is not making you happy, and that no amount of staying in it will ever make you truly happy. If you’re willing to settle for something that feels comfortable in the short term then by all means stay where you are. The problem is as time goes on this situation is likely to become less and less satisfactory for you, and could well end up wishing you had spent that time searching for someone who is willing to give 100% to you and only you.

      It’s always easy for people on the outside to say that you should get rid of him, and I understand that when your heart is in something it’s not that easy in practice. But I would encourage you to think about what is really going to make you happy in the long term, not just what feels comfortable today.

      Congratulations on having the courage to be so open and honest about the situation. I hope to support you more as the year goes on.

      Matthew x

      • Indi says:

        Hi Ezmi,
        When I started reading your post, I thought maybe I had written it and forgotten! It sounds so similar to an experience in my life. We’ve been best friends for 10 years also! he was ‘the one’ we spent all our time together, we just fit, best friends, he made everything in my life light up even when we weren’t together…blah blah .. and all that other soppy stuff ;)
        But Matthew’s right (I’m starting to think he always is ;) ..it does get less and less satisfactory, well it did for me, I’m pretty sure that it is inevitable given the realities of the situation.
        Anyway I hope you don’t mind if I share my experience, it’s a bit long ! Mid last year I began to take more notice of my feelings, how did the actual situation with him really make me feel: nauseous, angry, upset, unattractive! I slowly started to connect with how unhappy it was making me. And after 10 years it’s not like I hadn’t tried a ton of things change it!
        I’m quite stubborn and I know I wouldn’t change just because someone else really wanted me too so why should he change for me? No matter how lovely I am ;) I realised that IS what I’m asking him to do if after so long he has not made that decision for himself. Without realising it I guess I was trying to control him / that situation, this just made me desperately unhappy! When I actually stopped to take notice, spending time thinking / dreaming about it him was actually making me unhappy overall!
        It very slowly started to occur to me that I wanted more than these feelings for myself. Why not, being happy feels better!!
        I started to replace calling him with not calling him! Going to his with going to meet other people! Thinking about him and how to change our relationship with doing things I haven’t done for ages like drawing again! Even if I didn’t want to do the other things at first, I just kept remembering my own advice of ‘it has to change sometime, I’m not happy’.
        I think knowing and expecting it to be hard and feel unpleasant helps! It was really difficult. This was my best friend, work partner, confidant, and pretty much everything to me in my life. I also felt that he needed me too and guilty if I wasn’t there for him, so getting distance was the hardest thing. But being with him, though still desirable is a delusion that I recognise now and so can choose differently. Night times are the worst but I just allowed myself to feel sad. Its a short term discomfort but like someone told me once “you know at some point you have to move on!”
        The alternative was staying in a situation that no matter how I tried to spin to myself was attacking my confidence in myself and was making me angry, passive aggressive, jealous and stagnant! Yeuk!
        I really believe that the subconscious will believe anything you tell it, and by putting yourself in a situation that makes you feel devalued you’re constantly reiterating to your subconscious that that’s how you deserve to be feel and that it’s ok! It’s a complete misconception! It’s not true!!!! But with all that reinforcement it becomes a really strong belief you’re creating over time and it’s hard to climb out of that so I tell myself: Just do it! (put myself in more positive situations) before it gets stronger.
        So it was not just the best option, It was the only option in the long run. I had to let go sometime. It had to happen sometime! There’s far too many other things I want to achieve this year now to waste more time upset.

        Anyway the thing is now I know it was worth it, I still miss him at the moment but I’m on the upcurve. I feel so much more alive, productive and excited about life. I can actually begin to imagine I could be attracted to other people! I didn’t think it was possible I really didn’t but it is. I’m actually starting to think of me first for a change and it feels good because you know what I can actually control that! (I don’t know if he was ‘the one’ or not but in any case there’s no option to think about that in the here and now I can only get on with focusing on my own life)
        Thank you soo much for sharing I hope you find your happiness. Lots of love, Indi

        Ps Watching tons of Matthew’s videos on YouTube really helped me turn it around too ….thanks Matt :) xx

        (The ones about core confidence, being high value. Oh and this sounds corny but loving yourself.. I started to think how would things be different if I loved myself as much as I love him!!)

  45. Katherine Whale says:

    Hi Matt,

    Great message.

    Im good friends with the gorgeous Robinson sisters and love them dearly. i’ve spoken with Siobhan numerous times about what you do and have been to one of your seminars and seen your DVD’s.

    I think your FAB and a huge bright star of the future.

    Massive love to Siobhan and baby Ethan and all the best for you in the future, ill be following your journey and see you at a seminar soon no doubt!



  46. Betty says:

    New Year’s Eve was my first date after 3 yr separation and nasty divorce. The night was such a disaster and I just have to laugh! I think he was more nervous than I was – a 46 year old batchelor (military) and just didn’t know what to do with this dynamic lady on his arm! Honestly, if I had been wearing army uniform he would’ve been fine! For 2012 I’m being true to myself first, and am going to have alot of fun along the way!!

  47. KT says:

    Hey Fantastic message to start the New Year. Congratulations and good luck to you Siobhan. Is it a baby girl or boy? All the best.

    Moving forwards I have been visualising my ideals for life through meditation on a daily basis, this aids me to keep in mind my desires (which often fall by the wayside due to demands of life) and manifest them for 2012. This is my year and it will be fantastic.


    • Matthew says:

      I’ll speak for Siobhan in telling you it’s a boy : ).

      I’m sure it will be your year KT. All the best, Matthew x

  48. Vikki says:

    hey matt,

    i agree with serena’s post. i’ve found a similar state of mind for myself. since i started talking to everyone and feeling fine by myself, life has become so much more enjoyable. finally even old friends of mine who lost contact with me find much more time to spend with me. we go out and have fun. and even though i had a few crushes on unavailable guys, i am glad that i managed to put myself first and get over the fact that they simply won’t step up (which used to make me feel terribly down in the past). right now i keep flirting, and even though nothing serious is in sight i am (for the first time in my life!) finally content with being single and enjoying my freedom! :))

    all the best to all of you for 2012, keep loving yourselves!

    • Matthew says:

      Love it Vikki, congrats on all of your progress, it’s so great to hear about it. PLease keep me updated! Matthew x

  49. Bucci says:

    My goal this year to meet my soul mate- the man of my dreams with whom I will be married to and have children with

  50. serena says:

    Hi Matt

    I attended quite a few of your courses a few years ago and although I resisted a lot of what you said at the time it seems to have sunk in.

    I made myself just talk to people randomly (I hated this bit – SOOO hard) – whoever they were – people in the check out queue, families on the tube, people at the post office – one of these randoms who I chatted to a propos nothing at all, was a new bloke rejoining my music group. 18 months later he is now living with me.

    There were a few challenges when we got together as he had come out of a long relationship and had a young family, he wasnt keen on anything serious. for the first time in my life I focussed on what I wanted for myself and told him that “friends with benefits” would just get in the way of me finding someone who would commit to me. I wasnt maipulating him, as far as I knew, that would be the end to our flirtation, but it wasnt. He hated watching me being open to meeting other guys and eventually stepped up. Im very happy.

    Thanks for your persistence. I let go of holding on to second best and just relaxed and had a nice time meeting great new people. My bloke chose me and wasnt chased by me. I focussed on what I really want and didnt let my old mantra of “something is better than nothing” sidetrack me.

    Thanks for all of your help. Keep up the good work.


    • Matthew says:

      Serena, that’s sooo great!!!

      Congratulations! I’m so happy for you. I’m so happy you have really been following those principles of being the high value woman that you are. So proud of you. Please keep me in the loop on all the amazing things that are coming your way, it makes me so happy to read them.

      Your fan, Matthew ; )

      M x

  51. deliwe says:

    I’ve been seeing this guy for almost nine month now, the problem is that he has never told me he loves me even though I feel it when I’m around him, he always jumps when I talk about relationships. I’m confused whether we are in a relationship or not coz he has introduced me to his family and friends. Does this guy love me or is he playing games with me ? Please help me

    • Matthew says:

      Hi there Deliwe,

      You have to at some point be up front about the situation, never just assume you are exclusive, as many guys will use this as an excuse to do whatever they want on the side. Say to him that you aren’t with anyone else, and don’t plan to be whilst you are still seeing him, and ask him what he thinks about that. You’ll soon find out whether he’s really willing to commit on that level at this stage.

      All the best!

      Matthew x

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