I wanted to give you a little something from my tour so far, so that wherever you are in the world you can get a taste of what’s happening all around America right now.
As I’m sure you know by now, in celebration of my new book GetTheGuy, and my new show on NBC ‘Ready For Love’, I’m going to 10 major USA cities to help women across America find love.
This video was taken from a question and answer session at my LA event (the first stop on the tour). I still have 9 more stops to go, and there is still time to get tickets.
I hope you enjoy the video. You’ll see me answering questions asked live by the audience. Amongst the questions I answer are:
–How do I deal with it when a guy is blowing hot and cold?
–What if I shut down with new guys because I’ve been hurt in the past?
–Is it ok to date multiple men at the same time?
–How do I figure out if he has a girlfriend or not when I first meet him?
–What should I do if I keep attracting the wrong men?
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134 Replies to “3 Confident Female Mindsets That Drive Guys Wild (Live USA Tour Footage!)”
OMG, You make a very good point!!! I´ve trying to tell my female friends what you just said in this video but they don´t seem to understand it. The thing is, I think, that I don´t express myself so clear as you do. For God sake, women out there, be aware that you value a lot and that you don´t have to try to be superwoman to be a strong person. Well said, Matt!
Haha loved the video and enjoyed being there for this event. Your one of a kind and I wish you the best. You deserve it! Thank you again for allowing me to take a picture with you. I forgot to tell you at the event that I have been a fan since all of this well deserved fame came to you. Again if it matters, I am most defintely proud of you. Keep it up and always know you have a personal cheerleader!! ;))
Inspirational. I am always trying to do things for my self. Last week a guy (I liked) offered to get me a wine glass the bar had run out down stairs and I said no I can do it myself. Next time I am going to let him help me with something becuase then I will be able to reward him for his kindness. Enlightling Matt thanks. See you in the uk soon.
Haha @ crazys and weirdos … At least they had the balls to talk to me – they just dont get to chat too long ;)
Love your work Matt; bringing us closer x
That’s really helped me Matthew thanks, I’ve been hurt in the past by liking someone and they ended it by just stopping texting me,no explanation and this guy I have been going on dates with for 6 weeks has just stopped texting me as often. It sounds childish saying it outloud but I’m a worried…so after this advice I know not to put my wall up but I’m afraid. This video was perfect timing, thank you :)
Dear Megan :)
Wow :) Matthew Hussey is a lovely hero :)
I hope >>>>>>>>>ALL>>>>>>>>>>> your pain is really oh really really really gone now :) and that nobody ever hurts YOU again :)
After all, YOU are a HUMAN BEING and deserve to be loved in the best way :)
Maybe YOU remember these videos? :) How incredibly heart-touching :)
I wish YOU a pain-free life :)
Hi, Matthew. I always feel energised after watching your videos. I’ve been doing so for half a year and am in a happy relationship for two months now. But I have an issue. My parents are terribly controlling despite the fact that I’m over 25. It’s hard not to consider their feelings though (I know how crazy it sounds). I guess the guy I’m dating with was attracted to my confidence (when I was single). Now, even though he has not said so, I myself am feeling increasingly inadequate in giving my best in this relationship because there’s always the looming spectres of my protective parents. I don’t want to be a tough choice in the future that it will be either them or him. I know there are many people out there with this problem. Yet, communication with them hasn’t worked. Though moving away further from them can minimise their indirect but negative impact on the relationship, still, in the long term, I really don’t know how everyone can be happy in the same place. Well, my parents haven’t met him yet, but my mother is full of imaginative ideas that it won’t work. Anyway, feel better having shared it :)
My parents are super strict and controlling too and im already 22. I cant stand how much they control my life and it’s because of them that im unhappy. Im currently living with them while im finishing my college. Its hard to get a boyfried or even friends because i cant go out a lot because they wont let me. I dont even have a car to be able to drive by myself. I wish i can have freedom..and know how to be free from their over controlling mind
Dear April :)
YOU feel energized after watching Matthew Husseys videos :) Very nice :) I wish YOU always the best energy after watching his heart-touching videos :)
YOU are in a happy relationship since 2 months :) Happy sounds fantastic :)
How lovely Matthew knows how to create wonderful relationship :)
I wish YOU the best relationship on this planet::: with the man who truly loves YOU :) & all the best possibilities for your dear mum to see his true love :)I’m sure it’s possible to see true love & I believe your dear mum would be incredibly happy about a man who truly loves her beautiful daughter :)
Always true love for YOU :) & the always the best mother-daughter love :)
Take care :) & By the way I feel amazing too after watching Matthew’s videos :)
I’m 19, and I’ve never been kissed. However the only reason I haven’t is because I’ve never settled for second best. Now that I’ve developed more as a mature woman I’m getting more and more attention from the RIGHT kind of guys. I feel attractive and capable of one day getting ‘the one.’ Thank you so much for validating my methods! Watching this video has really helped me and I feel that I’ll definitely be able to get a boyfriend, hopefully by the end of this year!
Dear Holly :)
YOU are 19 :)
I hope YOU truly enjoy being 19 & all wonderful years of your life :)
How amazing YOU were born 19 years ago :)
& YOU have never been kissed…
I hope one day YOU meet your lovely sweetheart who truly loves YOU :) & if he truly loves YOU I believe your first kiss will be amazing :)
Best kisses for YOU :)
Matthew is a wonderful person who truly cares about people. He’s a rarity…a successful, talented celebrity who’s authentic and caring.
Yeah, seem to be like you describe. Hope everything is going just as good as he deserves.
I agree :)
The last part of your video was very interesting to me; I have been doing nothing for years, and there is a reason for this. I moved to London and started working in an office where I discovered a strange phenomenon- women were very ‘closed’ to one another and never discussed anything approaching feelings or romance. I felt like I’d landed on a strange world, total culture shock. As it was a large city the sheer size of the place and the people I knew made me clam up and think that to show your feelings about men was bad and ‘common’. Deep down I don’t agree with this attitude, but cities have a strange effect on shy folk, and I’m finding it hard to shrug this feeling off. Some suggestions please?
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I would love you even more if you made a video about shy guys. Please? Pretty please?
You like shy guys too? Sister!
Now I just need the courage to say something to the one day a week guy. I have been thinking about saying I’m going to exercise my options…it’s just so much harder because we have a beautiful girl together. But seriously, I’m lonely, and enough is enough.
get out there and find the one who makes you happy ! not because you’re lonely, or you’ve had it, or any reason other than you deserve it. *you deserve it* – that should give you enough confidence to take that first step.
having a beautiful girl is a treasure, but if the guy is not investing any time at a certain level in you, nothing should hold you back. ‘exercising options’ is just the means – finding the best mate for you is the whole point.
The dating world around here is a bit nuts, especially over 40. The men are still under delusion that they are going to marry Barbie virgins, even they themselves are sleeping around and non-committal. And the step-dad business? With a small one it’s less of an issue, but I have teens, too.
Anyway, thank you, Matt, for another confidence builder, and in less than 15 minutes, too!
If you don’t have courage to say something to the one day a week guy, I really feel for you because really what someone should do is hit you with a pile of books and tell you “What are you thinking ? You are worth so much more than this !!!!
I would never suggest this under normal circumstances but I think you could text “I have enjoyed our time together so far and thank you for blah blah blah. I wanted to wish you all the best. Take good care.” Then ignore any desperate voicemails or text-backs. You give and girl, they will just take take take and bleed you dry and you will have done it to urself.
I actually said something to him on the phone this evening.
I said I deserve a very good spouse. And I added that he knows me somewhat, bits and pieces, but that he’s unaware my total value because he isn’t around enough to benefit from it.
*of my total value
Hehe, Matt, what brilliant energy, humour…
such fantastic guidance…
I feel the call
to **be** ‘that woman’ with full heart
(and no longer settling for a dime less!)
“Go do it!”
Matt, you covered some key Q/A here and did it with your usual no-nonsense, down-to-earth approach. Keep it up! Looking forward to seeing you “live” when you are in Toronto!
Hahahaha I think I would shudder if I have to ask a guy direct if he has a girlfriend or not. LOL x & I love this video of yours. It showscases your charisma!!!and it’s a joy to see you speaking =D I think the points you make are very relevant. If you attract douchebags,it doesn’t say anything about your worth. That’s definitely a positive point to reframe in my mind. Thanks for overdelivering. You are definitely delivering your worth. =D and it helps a lot. Love x
I love your video, Matt. Once I was hurt by a guy who just stopped talking to me. I had a really though time getting over him and through all those years didn’t even look at other guys. When I finally got over him, I started to pay attention to other guys again and a few months later got really close with one. We went out on lots of dates for at least 3 months and then he started to suddenly stop speaking, calling and texting me as much. In the end I even felt like he was avoiding me. I don’t even know what I did wrong (if I did anything). I then decided to just not bother myself with him, because this was really starting to lower my self esteem. I distanced myself from him as much as possible, even though I really like/liked (not sure yet) him. After a while I decided to make a drastic change in my appearance and now I feel a lot more confident again. The best part about this was that when I did this, I got lots of good reactions from other people (praises, people telling me how beautiful I look and stuff like that). Before the change I asked him if he wanted to acompany me to an event and he said that he didn’t know and had to think about it. I was seriously mad at him (still kind of am)and decided to just ask somebody else. After the change of appearance I haven’t talked to him anymore. I only say hi to him now. The funny part about this is that now he is looking at me all the time, also trying to talk to me and I just kind of ignore him. He just lost his chance with me, especially after his last answer to my invitation, because we used to talk about going to that event together. I actually feel better now after realising that he’s just not worth it and am hoping to find a better man soon. I feel like I’m even more scared now than I was the first time I got hurt, because I really trusted this guy (even more than the fist one) and thought he was different than the first one. I really hope that the next time I meet somebody I will still be able to open up to them and won’t build up a wall and also that I won’t get hurt by them. Wish me luck!
Excellent video excerpt.
I first came across you from the article in Metro newspaper some years ago. I’m so glad to have read that article and to know about you & ‘Get the Guy’.
But tell me, what do guys think about you and what your revealing to women? Do they like or hate you?
wooo hooo! great video…yes that was value. and reallly nice comments in response to it also. go. go. go. Matt!
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