Hey everyone!
I wanted to give you a little something from my tour so far, so that wherever you are in the world you can get a taste of what’s happening all around America right now.
As I’m sure you know by now, in celebration of my new book GetTheGuy, and my new show on NBC ‘Ready For Love’, I’m going to 10 major USA cities to help women across America find love.
This video was taken from a question and answer session at my LA event (the first stop on the tour). I still have 9 more stops to go, and there is still time to get tickets.
I hope you enjoy the video. You’ll see me answering questions asked live by the audience. Amongst the questions I answer are:
–How do I deal with it when a guy is blowing hot and cold?
–What if I shut down with new guys because I’ve been hurt in the past?
–Is it ok to date multiple men at the same time?
–How do I figure out if he has a girlfriend or not when I first meet him?
–What should I do if I keep attracting the wrong men?
Enjoy!
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Great stuff Matt. Your the Einstein of attraction. You ooze it, you preach it, you help create it. You are brilliant my friend.
Thanks, Matt, for that extra video. I really appreciate it. Yet, I am in a slump right now. I haven’t been on a date for a while and I am not even close to my goal – love and marriage. I see so many of my friends married and I do wonder what they have that I don’t. They seem normal and no more special than me. What is it that brings two people together? it is like a HUGE mystery to me. I really do try to learn about all this yet there is something missing. I doubt myself and wonder if I will ever find love.
Too Bad I live in Mauritius… I would have definitely come to your event!! You’re awesome!
Hi Matthew
I can’t wait to see you in New York. You are doing such an incredible job and I adore you passion and enthusiasm! More men should be like you! Ever since I came across your page and got your program over a year ago my entire life changed!! Your system of making friends first and be the person everyone wants to know was the key to my success not only in dating but in my business world too! My career is booming, I make friends right and left with no effort whatsoever and its all due to milimiter change you teach in your program. on top of all that I did get three marriage proposal, serious ones, within last year plus one of a friends professing his secret love for me on Christmas! It was extremaly overwhelming and I wasn’t ready for any of it but now I’m open for love and real relationship and I’m dating three amazing high quality guys who are fighting for me while knowing about each other! The key is I do not sleep with any of them and they know it! That makes me to be a woman of high desire and value for them and they desperately want it! It is an mazing feeling to have options like that and all thanks to you Matthew!
Anyway, I’m coming to your seminar to personally say thank you and absorb more of your incredible energy! See you soon :)
God, Matthew is a STRAIGHT UP BOSS. He’s an “OG”. Lol. (Google it) Lol. I am happy for your success Matthew, you’re an awesome and cool person. I look forward to the tours.
Hi Matt,
this is a great video. Thank you very much. You have an unparalleled way of bringing your point across, and it is wonderful to see your enthusiasm. Your message really hit home with me. I especially like the “pussy” example. That is as if you had made the example for me. I have years of practice getting things done by myself, and I have to work on remembering that men love to help.
The fact that I have some health restrictions right now makes it a bit easier for me to ask for help since I am not allowed to lift anything. And I experience again and again that I preach to the converted when I ask for help. It is really easy – it is just that sometimes I am a bit stubborn.
I agree with you that it is better to ask a man whether he has a girl friend. In the past I had once made the mistake of assuming a man was single. We were working in the same company, and he had mentioned his ex gf twice (and had formerly referred to her as his gf), so I assumed he was single. After three coffee dates I found out that he was still with his gf and was dreaming about ending the relationship. I told him he was a characterless person and he should never contact me again. Ever since then I no longer assume such things.
Best of luck for your tour. You deserve the success.
Thank you for showing a video of your live workshop for us to see the type of questions and answers you cover. I love how direct your answers are but so sensible and practical ( and funny ). It’s no wonder you attract such a large following, you are brilliant at what you do.
I have ordered your book and can’t wait to read it. You light up our lives, thank you.
Xxx
woooww,bravooo.
i feel soo much confidence right now,hahaha.
i believe everything he said,i got a little distracted by the baby blue undie,hahaha..beside that,i feel like im on a new level.like i can do anything and be with anyone i want.i dont know if this is good! and im also pro active this days.i send a guy that i like a message,i only saw him once,and add him at facebook..when he liked my picture,i couldnt stop smilling.it feld really good :) i did that.i couldnt believe it because im scared of everything..what if this,what if that..a lot of what ifs..no mores
Matt,
I loved the video. I am from New York City and I want to attend. Where exactly will it be in NYC?
Thanks!
Hi Matthew!
Loved the video! You made it all seem so simple :D I guess that’s the point most women don’t get :D
Anyway, I have 2 questions, but because I am an 20-year old student in Belgium, it’s not that easy to go to one of your sessions :D
Ok, so my questions:
– I am trying to put myself out there, to have fun and meet new people. But when I am meeting a cute guy, I am not the flirty type of girl. Even though, he might be really handsome, I still need to get to know him well enough to feel attracted to him. So at first, I just talk to him, no flirting. As we continue to talk, I want him to do the first moves. And by first move, I mean like asking to hang out again. The thing is, most guys don’t. They act as if they are interested in me the entire evening,and that’s it. It’s just that I have been called a pretty girl a couple of times, and I don’t want to be seen as this easy-to-get-girl if you know what I mean. That’s why i don’t want do the first move.
how can I let the other ‘good’ guys know I like them and get them to do the first moves, without having to be all flirty?
– Are guys intimidated by virgins?? Because i am one and i’m already 20-years old. It makes me really insecure..
Sorry for the long message but I hope you will find a little bit of time between your sessions to answer my questions :D
greets from Belgium !
xx
20 years old is not actually that old :)
(MY RESPONSE IS IN THE CAPS-SO DON’T THINK I’M SHOUTING. I’M NOT.)
– I am trying to put myself out there, to have fun and meet new people. But when I am meeting a cute guy, I am not the flirty type of girl. Even though, he might be really handsome, I still need to get to know him well enough to feel attracted to him.
FLIRTING IS A CONFIDENCE ISSUE. BUT FUN TO BE AROUND IS A TYPE OF FLIRTATION AS WELL. AND IF YOU’RE STANDOFFISH TO THEM, THEY AREN’T GOING TO THINK YOU’LL WANT TO TAKE THINGS TO ANOTHER LEVEL.
IN OTHER WORDS, IF YOU’RE ACTING LIKE THEIR FRIEND, YOU’LL GET TREATED LIKE THEIR FRIEND. YOU GET WHAT YOU PUT OUT. JUST SAYING.
AS FOR ATTRACTION, I’VE NEVER KNOWN 100% THAT I LIKE A GUY UNTIL THE THIRD DATE. BY THAT TIME YOU SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN ENOUGH OF A TASTE OF WHO HE IS, AND WHAT HE’S ABOUT BEFORE YOU HEAD OFF INTO A RELATIONSHIP. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO KNOW SOMEONE BY LOOKS ALONE BECAUSE *NO ONE* EVER GIVES YOU A GLIMPSE OF WHO THEY ARE AS A HUMAN BEING IN THE FIRST MEET. EVER! I’D GET OVER THIS IDEA AND QUICK OR YOU’LL BE WAITING ON A MAIL ORDER GROOM TO BE DELIVERED VIA POST WHO ACTS MORE LIKE A ROBOT THAN A MAN!
PERSONALLY, YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT MAKES YOU SEXY AND WHAT MAKES YOU SPECIAL. AT 20 I BARELY KNEW WHO I WAS. AT LEAST YOU’RE SOMEWHERE IN THE FIELD ATTEMPTING TO FIND OUT! I DIDN’T FIGURE OUT WHO I WAS UNTIL I WAS 26! YOU’VE GOT SOME TIME!
So at first, I just talk to him, no flirting. As we continue to talk, I want him to do the first moves. And by first move, I mean like asking to hang out again. The thing is, most guys don’t. They act as if they are interested in me the entire evening,and that’s it. It’s just that I have been called a pretty girl a couple of times, and I don’t want to be seen as this easy-to-get-girl if you know what I mean. That’s why i don’t want do the first move.
I’LL BE HONEST, YOU NEED TO MAKE UP YOUR MIND. EITHER YOU WANT HIM TO MAKE ALL THE MOVES OR YOU DON’T WANT THEM TO SEE YOU AS AN INANIMATE OBJECT. ACCORDING TO WHAT YOU’VE WRITTEN, YOU’RE THE INANIMATE OBJECT THEY SEE AS A NICE FIXTURE, NOT AS A HUMAN BEING. CUT THAT CRAP OUT! YOU SAY YOU DON’T WANT TO BE EASY TO GET, BUT HOW IS HARD TO GET WORKING FOR YOU? GUYS WILL NOT, CANNOT, AND DO NOT THINK SOMEONE WHO’S STANDOFFISH (AND NON-TALKATIVE, CONFIDENT, NOT FUN, ETC…). LEARN TO BE EASY GOING, HAPPY AND FUN TO TALK TO AND FLIRTY COMES NATURALLY BUT IT TAKES PRACTICE. YOU’D BE SURPRISE HOW SIMPLE A TOUCH ON THEIR ARM AS YOU’RE RESPONDING TO SOMETHING A GUY SAYS CAN DO.
P.S I NEVER WON AS A NICE GIRL. BEING THE NICE GIRL MAKES YOU THE BEST FRIEND IN THE MOVIE OF YOUR LIFE AND **EVERY WOMAN** DESERVES TO BE THE LEADING LADY!!!
how can I let the other ‘good’ guys know I like them and get them to do the first moves, without having to be all flirty?
KEEP YOUR SHIRT ON AND WEAR A CAPE OF CONFIDENCE AND APPROACH HIM. IT’S LIKE YOUR LOOKING FOR SOME SECRET CODE OR MAGIC POTION THAT WILL GET THEM TO WALK OVER TO YOU AND SAY, “HEY BABY!”. LOL! THAT’S *SO* NOT GONNA HAPPEN! EITHER YOU WANT IT OR YOU DON’T AND NO ONE IS GOING TO JUST HAND YOU WANT YOU WANT (AND IF THEY DO IT’S NORMALLY SLOPPY SECONDS–NEVER THE PICK OF THE LITTER!). YOU’VE GOTTA GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT. SO CUT THE “I WANT HIM TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE” AND MAKE AN OPPORTUNITY FOR HIM TO TALK TO YOU INSTEAD. THAT MIGHT INCLUDE YOU SAYING SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS “HI.” IF YOU’RE LOOKING FOR IDEAS, CHECK OUT MATT’S YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR SOME “IDEAS” THATS WHERE I STARTED ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF AGO AND THEY ALL WORKED!
– Are guys intimidated by virgins?? Because i am one and i’m already 20-years old. It makes me really insecure..
SORRY, BUT AS SOMEONE WHO’S CHOOSING MARRIAGE OVER INTIMACY (AND I’M 30 YRS OLD AND *NOT* A VIRGIN) I CAN TELL YOU THERE ARE GREAT GUYS WHO SEE THIS AS A VIRTUE. IT TELLS THEM THAT YOU DO NOT TAKE INTIMACY LIGHTLY. BUT I DON’T RECOMMEND YOU JUST GIVE YOUR VIRGINITY TO THE FIRST JOE SCHMO WHO WALKS IN THE DOOR. PERSONALLY I THINK THAT IT’S SOMETHING THAT SHOULD BE EARNED AND THERE ARE MEN WHO VALUE SUCH DISCRETION.
P.S YOU’RE “ALREADY” 20 YEARS OLD? PLEASE! YOU’LL BE FINE! LOL
Hahaha, I know! 20 is not old, but it seems like everyone around me has done it.. I’m like the only one that is a virgin. It kind makes me really insecure…
Believe in your worth enough to trust that THEY love you as much as YOU love them.
There is no loss when it comes to love. What you put out you receive in return. It may not be THIS particular man at THIS particular time but it is law that the boomerang always returns.
Don’t do things expecting to get another to validate your actions, do things because they are FUN. Flirt with guys because it’s FUN Go out on dates because it’s FUN To get to know each other, to share a meal, to become passionately involved in any activity together… When you love yourself to the point where you make it your objective to keep yourself happy (no matter what) – guys will be attracted to you like moths to an open flame. No. You will be a bonfire. Your love life starts inside your heart. Inside your own heart.
Love,
Sydney
P.S. Be shy for as long as it feels comfortable to you and break out or step out when you feel like it. Life is all about choices.
P.P.S. sex is overrated anyway, unless you’re in love. most people who are having sex in their short-term so-so relationships are missing out on what you potentially will have if you wait for that loving relationship to come into your life.
(and totally irrelevant) please immediately go eat some chocolate on my behalf :-) or post me some imaginary truffles speedy delivery
Thank you for your response!!
The last one made me laugh :D
And I know, I am totally not stressed or pshy about myself for being a virgin. It’s just that I want to know a guy’s opinion. I don’t what a guys view is about virgins..
And about the flirting, thing, I’m no good at it at all, but I don’t care about that. I am hang fun and that’s what counts, but it just doesn’t seem enough .. It’s like I NEED to be flirty to get a guys number, but that’s not the way I want things to happen..
Anyways, I appreciate your responses a lot ! And I’m keeping my head up high! Sometimes it just feels like it’s not enough… :)
Many imaginairy Belgian chocolates for you and everyone else :D
xx
When you are sexually intimate with someone, it will probably have more meaning for you than for those who had sex more casually, without waiting.
Some guys really like if a girl is a virgin, but sometimes in a creepy way. They really don’t need to know whether you are or not.
I’m a virgin, but I don’t tell guys that, except my closest male friend. It’s not their business, and the right guy will like me without regard for whether or not I’m virgin.
Personally, I have refrained from sex before marriage for religious reasons but even someone with different values can understand that they will value sexual intimacy more if they wait for the right time.
P.S. Not every guy would have a creepy attitude. :) (Not my male friend for example) Some guys are creepy, but some are good.
Dear Bianca :)
YOU are 20 :)
I hope YOU truly enjoy being 20 & all wonderful years of your life :)
How amazing YOU were born 20 years ago :)
& YOU are virgin :)
I hope one day YOU meet your lovely sweetheart who truly loves YOU :) & I believe if a man truly loves YOU he loves YOU BIANCA :) He loves YOU: ♥ BIANCA THE BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING ♥ :)
I believe a man with a very good heart will truly focus on YOU & not only on how many times YOU had sex in your life :)
If YOU as HUMAN BEING are in his heart, I believe he will think positive of YOU :) No matter how many times YOU had sex in your life :)
Looking forward to the wonderful sweetheart who truly loves YOU Bianca :)
& maybe YOU know Matthew Husseys YOUTUBE videos? :) Best videos on this planet :)& get the guy book, I have not read it yet, but I believe it is ♥♥♥ :)
Hey lovely HERO :)
One of the best videos on this planet :)
Why ? :)
Because it’s YOU Matthew Hussey, it’s YOU :)
I kiss Lovely Hosana for creating YOU & for all beauty in your HEART :)
Enjoy all the loving & touching HEARTS ♥&♥ saving peoples lives dear lovely handsome HERO
Susanne
This is amazing! You are so young, Matthew, for your wisdom. There were no answers yet that would disappoint me. You seem getting to that level of knowledge which seem rather complete. I really want to hear more and see more of your videos; it is never tiring but filling. Your techniques work and I experienced it! But too sad though that not all women know the secret that you’re revealing to us. All of us are taught about far-far away country in which there is a tower with a princess in it; and that princess is us. We ought to sit there and wait until the man in a shiny armor come and rescue us. But he doesn’t come; and we wait, and wait, and wait. Sometimes, he arrives but is distracted by the castle view on the mountain top, or by another tower that stands on a hill. Sometimes gypsies steal him away; but we are still there waiting. Some of our sweetness turns into bitterness, hair turns gray, but we wait and pray for him to come. Soon, the tower window is getting sealed by the flow of despair, and the building turns into a mold. But then Matthew Hussey comes and screams from the top of his lungs: “Get out of that molded tower!!!” Thank you for rescuing us all! :)
Beautiful love story Viola :) Very oh very nice :)How wonderful true heroes always love to come to rescue in the best way :) After all, to love & save lives is a heroes passion :)
We are so incredibly lucky :) Matthew is here :) and if he is in our heart, he will never be far away :)
Because he is here :)in our heart :)
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Ps. Truly enjoyed watching your video :)
Here a little something for YOU as well :::
Enjoy Alberta moments dear lovely HERO :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=ThFCg0tBDck#!
I like listening to you.. Maybe not only have a book, but have a DVD of your seminars too! Really good Matt, wish you had been around years ago!
You’re quite cute too ;o)
X
I am wondering how do you get someone to offer help even though you know you can do it. I am able to do a lot and men know I can and so dont offer to help. I dont want to have to act weak and ask them to do eveything for me but I wud like d enjoyment of them doing it for me :)
Great video and advice. I would love attending one of your seminars!
Do a tour in Australia! We want you down under!
I love your blog!!! I’ve been here for a year… It’s time to say how I appreciate your work and your love for doing it!! All the best in your book release!!
Matt, you are intelligent, smart, funny, talented, sexy, creative. I wonder if you’re a nice person, too and if this advice works on YOU, too!
Hi Matthew :)
I really want to come to your NY event on April 13th but I would like to know where it is in NY before buying a spot because I have to take train in from another state (which I’m trying to figure into my poor college student budget haha). Any info would be appreciated :)
The event is right in Manhattan–
Stepping Out Studios
http://www.steppingoutstudios.com
37 West 26th St. 9th Floor
New York, NY 10010
Awwww matty :”-D,
I enjoyed this video soooooo much :)
Well first i will start off saying how much i trust in your opinion and just for that reason alone, i look up to you and respect the things you.
Watching that video made me laugh, cry, filled me up with confidence, all in on
go.
Well mathew hussey, i chose to be a strong, confident, feminine women all for the love of good man.
I know i’m all worth it because i have pretty eye’s, a cute smile and a figure to be proud of but most importantly i’m truly beautiful at hear.
YOU are my living proof that good men egzist, so for that reason, for every man i meet will be a stepping stone on my path to success with men.
Have a great day :)