Fall in Love With Your Life [Love the Journey: Part 2]

I get asked a lot of tough questions – from how to attract amazing guys, to why they disappear, to what say to get a commitment – and after coaching women for years, I have no trouble answering them…

But there is one question that is, surprisingly, the toughest of all for me to answer: “Where do you live?”

With all of the traveling I do for my live tour, I’m rarely in the same city for a week at a time.

But no matter where in the world I am, the moment I step on stage to coach thousands of women like you, I’m HOME.

And that’s what happiness is all about, isn’t it? Loving your life right where you are…

This week’s video blog is the second part of my mini-documentary series, “Love the Journey.” In it, I take you with me to New York City as I prepare for my live event there.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments! x

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  1. Shannon Hooper says:

    Dear Matt,

    I envy people like you so very much — people who know what they’re supposed to be doing with their lives. But, I’ve never felt a calling to do anything. Not one thing. I’ve never had that moment in my life where I’ve felt that “yes, this is what I’m supposed to do” feeling. I’ve tried before to explain to other people that not everyone feels called to do any particular thing, but people who feel that calling think I’m just too scared to follow my dream. My ex thought it meant there was something missing inside of me, that not having a purpose made me deficient or broken in some way. He’s an ex for a reason.

    Anyway, I’m 44. I’m not a spring chicken. I’ve done many, many things in my life. So many things. I’m the sort of person who almost always does what it is I feel like doing. But not a single one of the things I’ve done has ever given me the feeling that I’d like to spend 40+ hours a week doing that thing for the rest of my life. I wish very much that I had a calling. I wish I felt a purpose and had a dream to follow. I imagine that following that dream must bring such an amazing sense of well-being and accomplishment and fulfillment. But I just don’t have that. I don’t imagine that I ever will. I grew up thinking that I’d find my dream, just like I grew up believing that I’d meet at least one guy and fall madly in love.

    But the truth is that for many of us there is no calling. And, so far, I haven’t ever fallen madly in love. I’d think there was a link between the two except my mom never had a calling, but she did fall madly, deeply, forever in love. I don’t know. I don’t know what my point is anymore. I guess that I’d hope that anyone who does have a purpose and makes it a point to go out and try to achieve that purpose — I hope they do find moments to love and appreciate that journey because not everyone gets to experience it. And those of you who do are very, very lucky to have that.


  2. KS says:

    Hello Matt & best mate Jameson,

    I normally do not post online for these things, but I LOVED this piece for the candid, vulnerable & laugh out loud moments.

    Not long before stumbling across your facebook page, I randomly bought a book based solely on the cover. This video reminds me of Daring Greatly’s reference to Theodore Roosevelt’s quote: ” It is not the critic who counts…”

    Despite the trials, tribulations, please know that your advice invaluable. It is one thing to possess EQ, but is amazing and informative to watch how you apply/mold it to speak to an individual and reach others on a broad scale. Behavior/introspection are the hardest things to learn/remake. You and your family are changing lives. So thank you for being genuine and sharing your journey! And, please catch some shut eye!

    Take care,

    P.S. If you release 50 shades of Hussey, it is bound to produce many smiles and rolls of laughter.

  3. Doris Chan says:

    I travelled a great deal around the world with my job in IT for over 20 years. I always know where home is even I have 2 homes, one in Hong Kong (where my family is) and another in London (where my mail go to and always glad to be back there). I like my job (most of the time) because I am meeting new people, new challenges all the time and I embrace changes. I feel I was there to help people to do their job in better ways (process) with better tools (system). Often I get very tired with insane jetlag, long hours, came across business champions who do not want change but only see it as a corporate decision for me to be there. They will sat through workshops, training and meetings without real participation. So let alone hoping they will lead their teams to learn and make use of their new tools. So there are a lot of follow up sessions, conference calls to push them to the direction of ‘greater good’. It is the challenge to make business teams to work closer and open their eyes to the bigger picture makes my job enjoyable. And a great deal of it is also pain and frustration. I tried not to let go of trying. This is the part I love about my life journey.

  4. Jess Ghinis says:

    Yup, Sexy Sweaty Girl in the white top, dark hair, crazy arms, at O2. Women; if you haven’t gone to an event yet, please just f@*%ing do it!

  5. Alexandra says:

    Matthew (and team),

    “Love the Journey” is such a treat for us, thank you. Part 1 and 2 are just awesome to watch. Jamieson filmed it beautifully and the videos are so well done!

    I discovered Get the Guy through my mother after she heard you speaking on the radio two years ago. I am a 22 year old student living in Toronto, and to this day I still reread your book, follow this blog, watch your Youtube videos, and follow you on other forms of media. After watching this series, I felt so inspired and realized my first comment was long overdue.

    I just want to say thank you. You really, really are an inspiration and one of MY idols. Your book, videos and the posts on this website (Stephen is extraordinary!!) continue to change my life. You have been one of my biggest influences by helping me GROW and helping me love myself for who I am. What really strikes me is how truly authentic you are in the videos. It doesn’t feel like you are just selling something for money. I see that you truly believe in who you are and what you say, and for that reason (and because it works!) I keep coming back and putting your advice into action. You have a life-long supporter here, and I will continue to spread the word about your company.

    Thank you for not being “too cool for school”. It makes me feel like I can trust you. Also, only you could talk about a button shop and make it entertaining…

    See you at the next Toronto show!

  6. Elaine Mathews says:

    Matt, thanks to your advise and positive outlook in life, I am now in a healthy beautiful relationship. From being confused and always in bad relationships to the day I signed up and receiving a phone call from Raj, you and your team have inspired me. I found myself again. Cannot wait to attend your seminars.

  7. Vavavoom says:

    Matt maybe you could answer the question “where do you live?” with “I live whereever the work is”. Henry Cavill did this in an interview and worked really well. What do you think?

  8. Kathleen Brown says:

    Matt! You have a lot of Elvis (Presley) in you! – from one who knew him when… Thanks for the presentations…journey well and deep, dear man…

  9. Christina S says:

    I believe falling in love with your life is very important. It not only solidifies my belief in myself but shows others around me that I truly care for myself. The problem for me is I still am scared to even try to look for someone in fear of getting my heart crushed and hurt again after so many times. Am I meant to be alone? And I am horrible at making friends even with an outgoing personality.
    It is nice to know others get giddy and nervous meeting their hero’s or idols. If I ever had a chance to meet Gordon Ramsay I think I would laugh then cry.
    Kudos to you on your journey it helps us connect with you on ours.

  10. L says:

    Great video! Part 2 has really shown us the incredible friendship and working relationship you and Jameson have together. With each video you’ve made since working together I have noticed this connection shining through even brighter. This is truly special.

    Thank you for reminding us all to “Love the Journey” along the way. So often, we forget to, or simply don’t, celebrate the small wins, reflect on the hard times, enjoy the quiet and modest moments, and recognize it all as one incredible ride.

    Big hugs X

  11. Kathryn says:

    We should definitely love life right where we are. I just read what I think is a lovely line, “the present is all you really have to deal with”.
    New York is a great place, my little boy is saving up to go there. Not put off by his difficulties in flying and the constant pain, he has found out by looking on the Internet, that you can cruise there and back. He has planned the trip down to the last detail and was so cross the other day he wasn’t born American as they have all the best stuff there! His friends are happy with going to Legoland.
    How funny, I too saw a little old shop on a cobbled street and thought how romantic it would be to live there.
    Thank you for sharing your journey, it’s definitely not without a lot of pressure for you. You handle it all amazingly well, it’s inspirational.
    Kathryn xx
    ps I love my Nespresso, not meaning to advertise, but I’ve honestly never looked back, lol.

  12. Ashley says:

    I was impressed that you touched on the dips in this video. One thing that I’ve realized about truly happy people and couples is that they have negative experiences and feeling, but they deal with it efficiently and always rebound back to happiness. They don’t indulge and wallop in the negative, rather they work through it and get back to loving life and each other. When I describe the kind of relationships that I want, I talk about somebody who loves me through the good AND the bad, the ups AND downs. Somebody who acts loving toward me even when they might not be feeling it because they know that if they act that way, then that feeling will come back that much faster. When I’m down or bummed or feeling meh, I go do something that makes me happy, even though I don’t feel that way at that moment. Why? Because I know that the happy feeling will return that much faster. Well done Fusy Hussey

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  14. Miriam says:

    Just wanted to say, this is genuinely one of my favourite videos out of the ones you have made. It shows you are human.

  15. Noelie C. says:

    Oh ,my god, you made me laugh so much at the beginning… Do you really tell people that you don’t know where you live? And with that tone? :-) ( I don’t mean that in a bad way… that would actually get me curious to know more about it… while making me laugh too)

    Cartoons look like the perfect way to disconnect your mind from worry mode. :-) I love watching cartoons too! Though don’t watch them that often.

    Your mum looks like a wonderful woman!

    Loved seeing more of you and your personal journey & challenges!

    Much love to you, Noelie

  16. Kristina says:

    Awesome! Mathew when are you coming to Hawaii. I can help set it up.

  17. Rebecca says:

    You’ve made me realize I too often look to others to tell me how to be rather than me telling me how to be. I loved your 50 Shades of Earl Grey, btw. I laughed out loud (truly!) the whole time. Genius, is what it is! Thank you, Matthew, for being you.

  18. Patrycja says:

    Hi Matt!

    I started watching your YouTube videos at the point in my life when everybody was keep asking me “why are you still single?”. Obviously each time this happened I felt like there was something wrong with me.

    Thanks to your videos I realized that being in a relationship is not a measure of success. They key to success is to have a happy life and I’m having one, no matter what other people say.

    I totally love the journey and love your inspiring videos!

    PS. Maybe you’ll travel with your coaching events to Poland? i’d love to see it live.

  19. Paloma says:

    Very much agree that happiness is enjoying those moments in life, whichever point in life you are at and enjoying those little moments, the puppy in the window, the way you like your tea made.

    It’s about falling in love with your life, making sure you find in yourself what you seek for in your partner– that to me is a wonderful lesson Hussey.

  20. Arianna says:

    Dear Matt,

    A few things struck me about this video…

    First off, let me say, I am loving the ‘Love the Journey’ videos. I have always been the kind of person to ask, “what is going on behind the scenes?” I am a bit of a commentary junkie. Just a small glance in brings a richness, and authenticity to your character, and this whole process. Seeing you struggling, and irritated, makes seeing the polished and collected version of you so much better. It deepens your relatability.

    I also want to comment again on your family. It warms my heart to see how much you all love, and support, each other. You all seem to fun and sassy – a joy to be around, I am sure. The more I see of them, the more I fall in love with them. I believe those relationships are crucial to happiness along the journey.

    The last bit that I want to say is, “Yes! Jamie”!!! A friend invited me to see Jamie at a small venue a couple of years ago, and he blew me away. He was hands down one of the best performers I have ever seen. If someone could sell that man’s energy, they would make a fortune! He is incredible, and I talk about that performance on the hill often. What makes him one of your idols?

    Thank you for sharing, and being so transparent with the world. You are truly a force of nature, Fussy Hussey! ;)


  21. Anju says:

    Love, love, love this! Very real. You are such a nice man, Matthew – with good values, vision and observations in life:) A happy sunday indeed. Thank you!

  22. Mona Kaur Rangar says:

    Totally loved your blog this week Matt. You talked about adults getting lazy at making new friends and people sometimes feeling that the ultimate measure of success is often defined by their relationship status? Totally struck a chord with me. I suppose I often feel it more because of my cultural background where unfortunately you are made to feel like you;re totally on the back shelf if you’re not married with kids before 30. Its something I want to explore more myself right now: striking a balance between appeasing the parentals and wider family and living life for me. On the establishing friendships front though- totally feel for you with all the travelling but for whatever this little nugget is worth I think you probably have a zillion more ‘real’ friends amongst the international population of women you reach out to every day through your work. Happy sunday and keep them coming!

  23. Maria says:

    Love these videos!

    Matt, you rock.


  24. Agatha C says:

    Great video-kudos to Jameson! Wonderful insight, I ecspecially love the Button Shop idea :) Continue to enjoy your journey!

  25. Daniella says:

    Your journey seems to be lonely…

  26. Paula says:

    I think Matthew wants a puppy but probably can’t have one since he travels all the time.

  27. Gale says:

    This was the BEST, I am going to call it, SHOW, EVER!! I watch cartoons, sometimes, too. I think Matt’s mum is spot on. I didn’t read the book or see the movie, 50 Shades. I heard what it was all about and I was NOT interested. I think, Matt is an alien. I wonder if he knows how unique and beautiful he is? The girl that “Gets That Guy” is going to be one LUCKY woman. Gale

  28. Elena says:

    My life got cooler just by watching this video. Fabulous work guys!

  29. Leecis says:

    THE BEST! You have found another way to connect with and send your message to all us who now use “Mathew Hussey” as a verb.
    Love love love.

    Jameson, YOU ARE AMAZING!

  30. Olga says:

    Hi Matthew!
    Thank you for this video. I wonder if you could give us tips on how exactly to love and enjoy the love we’re living now instead of living in the past or the future.
    Watching your video I realized that I am not nearly as happy as I’d want to be.
    I am a journalist but feel like I’m failing at my job, doing less than everybody else.
    I do not live in the country where I want to live and moving to where I want to live seems like an impossible goal.
    I’m in love with a man who lives in a different country and who despite really liking me doesn’t want to commit.
    Most of my friends have left the city where I now live.
    And to top that a year and a half ago I was diagnosed with a serious illness that has forever changed my life – on bad days, weeks, months, I can hardly walk.
    I really look up to you and hope that you can help. How do I break through these barriers: have the man I care about fall in love with me and learn to enjoy life again?

  31. Janice bain says:

    It’s great to see behind the scenes, I felt Mathews loneliness, sometimes you can be surrounded with people and doing a good deed and be appriciated and appriciate where you are, yet still feel lonley x
    Big hugs Matty x

  32. Annette says:

    Hahahaha. When Matthew said that he sometimes looks at cats/dogs and thinks to himself “wish I was you today”… LOL. I think I can relate to that more than anyone on the planet… Saying this cause I’ve actually written a children’s book called The Girl Who Wanted To Be A Cat. It’s not published yet.. but it’s exactly about that. I’m amused that Matthew had the same thought. :P

    PS I’m really enjoying these documentary vids. Matthew seems like such a wonderful person, and it’s so much fun getting to know him better! :)

  33. Sonia says:

    I totally got the tea bagging joke, and thought it was the best/brilliant!

    There’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing a video for yourself and for your fans either.

    Yes, love the journey, flat tires and all…

  34. Adrienne Arton says:

    Hi Matt,
    I have not contacted you before but have certainly listened to many of your talks.
    Question: Who says ” I LOVE YOU ” first.
    Waiting for your response


  35. Lea says:

    It was great to watch you , your mum is a fantastic woman now we know where you get it from ,I’m from England but I live in Dallas , hope to see you there soon :-)

  36. Des says:

    I enjoy seeing how you are morphing from dating coach to life coach, utilizing the consistent underlying theory that to be happy in your life is to be attractive. It is interesting to see how you negotiate your own life and the stresses and triumphs it entails. Your authenticity, kindness and drive are what make you trustworthy and inspiring. Thanks!

  37. Sharon Bilyard says:

    Thank you for the journey my lovely xxx

  38. Kitty London says:

    What you said about making friends is spot on. I meet so many women who are just fixated on meeting a man and don’t invest any time in self development or making female friends. It’s like their lives are on hold until this “Prince Charming” comes along…and who will probably be scared away by the pressure heaped on him (yes, this was the old me too! )
    Thanks in big part to your coaching, I now have some great like minded friends. I realised I was in desperate need of some single friends as well as married. I’ve been on a fantastic activity holiday, my weekends are always busy and even my work attitude has improved to allow me to better cope around frustrating people and situations!
    And guess what? My ex -the one who broke my heart, and led me to finding yourself – is DESPERATE for a second chance with me. Of course he no longer meets my requirements so he’s having to put in a lot of work and I’m still on the fence. Because I’m a different person now. And you massively showed me the light!! I could never thank you enough. But as always, it’s still a continuing journey. I’m in no rush to settle down at my age (mid 40’s)!!!
    And your shades of Earl Grey….outrageous but brilliant – glad you’ve kept your British sense of humour along your travels!

  39. jen says:

    Loved this video, part of everyone’s journey is to do stuff, whether is challenging or mundane, or the fun show and spotlight stuff. I think we all forget that life is not all roses and sunshine.
    This reminded me that I need to keep pushing, keep working and get stuff done or the highlights are not going to be highlights…
    Thank you x

  40. Emily says:

    Ah. Puppy love ;)

  41. Beth says:

    This was great Matt! I loved seeing behind the scenes of you getting ready for an event it makes me appreciate the amount of work goes into something like that. I agree we need to be happy with the journey we are on and I have to say I am quite happy with my journey and look forward to what happens next!! Good luck with your journey I am sure there are many more exciting things to come for you!!

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