She thought about him every day when she got home, remembering that perfect moment on the boat trip when he took her hand and pulled her tight to him.
But then… he never called…(I know, it’s horrible, right?)
The truth is, this often happens because of some very simple mistakes we make when it comes to falling in love. In this week’s video, I’ll show you how to avoid them…
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This is GOLD. Thank you for saying what I needed to hear today. I will be re-listening!
Big <3<3<3s
xx
WOW…. needed to hear this although I already knew it!! Will remember this and play this again when I’m struggling with a situation!! You are awesome at getting to what our minds know but hearts struggle
with:)
Hey Matthew,
I have been watching your videos the last couple of months. Just want to say thank you. Your videos have helped me in my self worth especially in the area of interacting with men and keeping my standards. But it has also helped me to understand their side too and not be a snot when I have been one lol. Anyways I really liked this video today it really spoke to me, and the part that keeps speaking to me over and over is: Are they putting in the investment? I appreciate that point you keep driving home so I don’t waste my time on those who are not interested in a relationship.
So true!!!!! Thank you, Matthew for reinforcing self worth and mutual commitment
I do not agree that we (women) are reading too much into a situation or a man’s feelings, (or that we are considering it a “sign”) when we make a connection with someone. That is not a sign, it is the typical progression in the development of a relationship. ….and when it does not progress as is typical, and a woman is hurt, it isn’t because her expectations are too high or she is emotionally starved and grasping at straws, it is because the guy is being dishonest in some way. Either, he is already invested in another relationship, likes the girl, but likes someone else more, is afraid to get involved and hurt, has problems with intimacy, etc.
I like this explanation alot. It puts the blame back where it originates from, & I think it would be fair to say it goes both ways, this and what Matthew said. Let’s face it, it does get lonely out there. The players know exactly what their doing and hide as much from you as possible to get an easy NSA evening with a nice, interesting, fun girl. They also keep thinking they can always do better, having found the right chemistry, and feel they aren’t ready to settle down. Take care of YOU.
agreed
Everything in this video is spot on. Look at actions over the long term. If there isn’t reciprocal investment overall, walk away.
About time truth be heard
I love this video – it’s one of your best! Helps so much to understand more about why I do this. Being starved for affection and attention, and wanting to fall in love, are two big reasons. Also, thinking about the fact that the guy could just be good “in the room”, a.k.a. he’s charming with everyone, helps. This is a great reason to go slow and see if he is actually going to invest or not, which in my case he did not invest very much and our distance (2 hours apart) was the reason he gave. It’s taking me months to get over him, even though I only knew him for one month, because I fell so hard.
Thank you so much for your advice and encouragement! :)
The same thing happened to me girl! And what makes it harder is when when they come back (again and again)! (I feel like they always do!) But then I just look at the list I wrote to remind me how I felt when he dissappeared and why he’s not good for me. ;)
I said wow so many times while I was watching this video. Not just because I am in the situation that you are talking about right but I also admire how you are so clever seeing through things and make it super easy to understand! Thank you Matthew. This is my favorite video of 2018! You saved me!
Hi Matt.:) I love your videos. Followed for couple years now. Your content is a breath of fresh air. :)
I’ve noticed a common theme among several pieces of advice you’re constantly giving is for women to stop investing when they’ve stopped being invested in. It seems like you’re asked this repeatedly. I apologize for people who haven’t understood that, maybe some never will.
I saw a post from a girl on your Facebook, she mentioned aunthenticity in your videos like you had couple years ago. I agreed to some extent…
So, we don’t want you to feel like you’re repeating yourself. You have made a difference in of course not all but in large amounts of people.
To keep you going, should you change things? Write another book?- for the more advanced learner? Focus on different goals? Start coaching men again? We love your content, and we want to take care of you too:).
Loved the video.
A dedicated follower of your team,
Meggan Stewart
Well said Meggan! I found Matt back in 2011 and absolutely love his content! He has really stepped up his advise to match dating in 2018.. which is distracting & confusing!
I too would like to hear more real life dating advice from the male perspective. I think when Matt speaks to single men dating the way we are, it is quite helpful!
Be Well!
~Sharon
Thanks for this video, Matt (and Jameson!). It’s been very healing for me. I had one of these “perfect moments” in 2014 and thought this, plus a few flattering messages afterwards, were a sign he felt the same. He didn’t. I found out later he did this regularly and I sank into a deep depression for the best part of a year. I felt freakish and foolish on top of lonely and isolated. I then resolved to create a great life for myself which eventually led me to the retreat in Dec 2015. As my Father still says, it was the best thing I ever did. I value myself now and have a much, MUCH fuller life. I’m at significantly less risk of something like this happening again, although it’s reassuring to know I wasn’t alone in this experience. I’ve learnt a lot and know I need to have stronger boundaries. I hope other women heed the message and can make it to the retreat if it chimes with them.
Thanks for your comments Tara! I just had to call it off with a guy I’d been seeing off and on for 8 months or so. The same stuff in this video happened, but he always came back to me so I kept lying to myself that it would be “different this time”. Now here I am emotionally scarred and hurt by a guy that honestly isn’t someone I’d normally choose (player as you referenced) and never intended to put in the effort all bc I didn’t hold to my boundaries. They are so important.
Lol you said onus.
Thanks Matt. I just want to say; I love you,you’re really awesome and what you do for us ladies is ridiculously spectacular.You’re in my prayers and I just wanted to take today to really appreciate you. Thanks once again. Cheers!
Thanks so much for the Advice, I’m sort of in a relationship with someone who has been hurting me emotionally.. I’m trying to come to terms with myself to be okay and I sh9uld probably let him go… What advise would you give me to communicate with him to end the relationship and reclaim my self respect andd gain emotional strength?
Thanks in advance for your help!
Matt god bless you for your valuable advice on relationships. There are so many obvious things which we tend not to see when we are in love. And being in love is also being in the most vulnerable state and your advice is life saving.
Please continue your wonderful videos. Thank you so much
Love and hugs
Hi Matt!!! Love all your work you have done!!!! I wasn’t really in relationship, but I liked this guy! & he told me he liked me too, but he wasn’t ready for relationship because he just got out one. He said he doesn’t like to jump from one to another . Meanwhile we were just talking and hang out at the restaurant that I owned. After 5months of taking one day I went to his house. He was ready to have sex with me . I took your advice and I told him if we do this , is this going to be just me and you because I don’t sleep with other people. And he said of course it’s not safe out there , and I know you’re not like that. I am just not ready for relationship . I didn’t know if I was ready for relationship either I’m very busy with my life owning a business and getting my son ready for college . But I really liked this guy. I thought we agreed. And we sleep together one more night after a week. I know this’s he was being a little distance and I told him I don’t like the distance behavior that’s not what I’m looking for in my life. He said to me again that he wasn’t looking for relationship and he just wanted to date and sleep with other woman . And I told him to go and f him self… I said that’s not what you said that night. I thought he was Mature guy coming to the restaurant with his 2 kids he is divorced too. So after that I did apologize that was senc April. We didn’t see each other any more. And now he’s with someone . I thought he wasn’t ready. How they ready for some other girls in 2months??? And I waited for five months . I am just really Hurt but all this . I don’t know if I can trust any man ???? Please help me. Love Dina.
I’ve been married for 14 years I just got divorced from my husband because he was on drugs. I started falling out of love with my husband about 5 years ago. I started having feelings for my coworker / best friend. Now I’m divorce pletely divorce I started having more feelings towards him. He texts me every single morning he tells me good morning we text all day long will even talk after work you text message all the time I tell him how I feel that I started having feelings towards him. He tells me he does have feelings for me but he said It’s too dangerous area I get feelings like that… he spends a lot of time with me and I really like this guy I don’t know what to do I don’t know what else to say to him. His best friend is a female I know her personally for 12 years I’ve been friends with her she’s upset and mad because I’ve been hanging out with her best friend the best friend that I like now she stopped talking to me she also tells him that stopped hanging out with me I don’t know what to do I really like this guy he’s amazing and I don’t know how to express the feelings please help thank you
My friends always fail me. They betray my trust
Hi. Newly divorced seperated over 1 year met a man 6 months we talked on the phone.. finally met up 5 months ago. I was lonely. He swept me off my feet we live 100miles apart. We traded off weekend s to be together now he hardly texts any more and never calls I do all the traveling he promises but always something comes up..I Love this Man. Please help.
He tells me he loves me and only wants me. He’s not honest. Should I move on?