#1 Tip For Finding Love: Go On FEWER Dates

You do not need to go on more dates this year to find a great guy.

Yes, you heard that right.

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  1. Ellie says:

    This really resonates with me! Spending an hour a week doing one minute dates would be so much more fun! I’ll take it on for a week and see what happens

  2. B says:

    MH, you really are a godsend. You take away those awkward eeewww moments. I’m 38, recently divorced and feeling the pressure of my age to find someone and still have children. You make it seem more than manageable; you get me excited to try it out. Thank you.

  3. Marisol says:

    Totally agree.Thats exactly what I have been doing. This so far is my number one topic and the best advice from Matthew.

  4. SQ says:

    It’s so true, and save us times! GOOD TIP!

  5. Maria says:

    One of my favorite videos, thanks Matt!

  6. welleducated says:

    what happens when your husband invests all his time and energy dating his coworker, taking her out for valentines day each year while the wife is working, and the coworker is investing her time in him too because they are cheating together without the wife’s knowledge. And the coworker actually thinks that this is her husband or steady boyfriend because of all his time and effort and attention to her. YOu did not address a married husband that has a great wife but is dating his coworker and investing time and money and energy cheating and the coworker of his is trying to steal him from his wife by dating/having sex with him

  7. Karen says:

    I read somewhere that one way to emotionally let go of “Dan” is to change his contact name in your phone from “Dan” to something like “please get rid of me” or “jerk”. That way whenever he calls that’s the name that comes on your phone and it sends a message to the brain and the emotion that this guy is not good for you and we’re less likely to remain ‘addicted’ to him.

  8. Gamu says:

    Matthew hussey I saw this guy and he was following me on instagram so Itexted him and then he read it and didnt reply and this was the first time id ever attempted talking to him HELLPPPPP

  9. asal says:

    yes I agree with you matt
    I knew that and thank you for reminding me
    thank you very much

  10. vicky says:

    I have had many guys online I have asked for phone calls refuse them as they think its too much or they are too scared and don’t like phone calls. I agree with your advice but how do you deal with the people that won’t take a phone call?

  11. Laura Crosby says:

    SPOT ON!!!! But NEVER spend 3 hours on a first date (sorry Matthewt!). 1 hour is plenty, even if there is amazing chemistry. Leave early and let it wait until date number 2. That’s the real test.

    Definitely never go out unless you have spoken on the phone first. I’ve learned this one the hard way. What a time saver! And limit the first call to 15 minutes. You’ll know within the first 3 minutes if there is interest on your part.

    Read the book “Blink” by Malcolm Gladwell and apply it to your dating strategy. Your time with those you care about is so valuable, why waste it?

    Love this!

    • Jay says:

      I agree with MH so important to talk first but I’ve been talking too much- Great tip about 15minute call thanks I’m going to apply that, I’ve been giving time away on calls too. Will certainly invest in Malcolm Gladwell’s book. Great author- Best of luck in your dating :)

  12. Teresa says:

    I have found the opposite to be true. I have spent literally hours on the phone with a few men (mostly because they lived some distance away) and within the first few seconds of meeting I knew there was absolutely no “match”. In online dating (if the person is being honest in their profile) I know which things are deal breakers for me and trying to fit a square peg into a round hole is not going to work – period. I don’t meet many people because my time is valuable but when I am really hopeful that I am finally going to meet someone and fall in love…It is really disappointing when the person I meet is not someone that I am interested in spending time with. The older a person gets the less inventory there is to pick through also!! Keep on meeting people and be yourself – nothing else is going to get you to the end goal!

  13. Nory says:

    I wish to find that guy who devotes for his girl without unexpected change later on

  14. Amanda says:

    I had a first date with a man on Wednesday. We had a great meal. He commended me for my great memory and being able to recall facts from prior conversations. When I thought I was talking too much, he assured me that it was a conversation and was happy that he didn’t have to do all the talking like he usually has to do on dates. That night he texted me and said he had a great time, and that the 2 hours flew by, and we arranged a second date. It was going to be Saturday, but we wanted to see eachother, so we arranged to see eachother on Friday instead. Again, conversation flowed greatly and we had a good time, we had much in common, but also a lot of differences which I always appreciate in a partner. But I could tell he was still shy as he didn’t make a move to hold my hand, show me with his body language he was interested, etc. I thought he was just shy, and we were having a good time and laughing, and I wanted to get to know him more. So after our date on Friday, we both said we had a great time. I prefaced our conversation that I wanted to get to know him better, but didn’t want to make him uncomfortable. He said I was very cute, smart, funny, kind.. but he didn’t feel a romantic connection. But, as Matthew has stated, connection is not nearly as romantic as investment. This is someone I saw as someone I could make a strong foundation with. Is there anything I can say to keep him interested, even as friends, as we try to get know one another and see where we fit? Or should I just move on?

  15. Alex says:

    Mattew! I just saw your video where Tanu called you out and I was noticing her attitude is a bit passive agressive. At first it was okay and then it scalated up pretty quickly. My question is, is passive-agressive attractive and if so, to which level?

  16. Laurie says:

    Interesting. Ok, I’m open to it! Thanks, Matt for another great approach to finding love :)

  17. Emily says:

    I love this!! I’m going to start considering every little flirtation a 1-minute date!!! It’s low-investment and fun! Thank you Matthew!!

  18. Blue says:

    This is Barney’s Lemon Law rule! If after 5 mins of meeting the person you know there isn’t any chemistry you say thanks ,so long , no hard feelings and walk away

  19. Lizbeth says:

    Hi matt, thank you for always sharing, though personally I find it so difficult to even go out with someone, when I’m asked out I normally find myself coming up with excuses and i would ask for a raincheck which does not even happen, m I the one with a problem or what?

  20. Edem Bediako says:

    Is there any other means of making payments??? Do you have PayPal??
    My bank is not allowing access to the site for the payment to go through

  21. Selene says:

    Yep, I will never invest on a “hey what’s up, entertain me ‘cus I’m bored and boring” guy never again.
    I think the “Twilight Phone” video have some tips to cut them and/or make them invest more

  22. Julia Kocke says:

    What do you say to the guy with the coffee to be able to get a date or phone number?

  23. K says:

    What if it feels like everyone I randomly meet (or am drawn to) is married or taken? This is a big reason I’ve stopped chatting with guys in public. It feels like everyone has put a ring on it. Sigh.

  24. Kelli says:

    Great advice as always Matthew!!!! I am going to start to put this in practice more !!

  25. Kate says:

    Matthew, I think you have to give this talk to the men. Men are MUCH fussier than women about looks and clothes. This video seems to be telling women to lower standards. I think women need to raise their standards. I agree the phone conversation is most important. It tells you if the guy is serious about meeting someone and putting thought into it or just screwing around. I think you should ask for their phone number and set a time if you think there is any chance of meeting. Give it a set time maybe 6-7 months to move forward if he does not talk about anything regarding a relationship, MOVE ON. Try not to go to bed with him right away. Ask what he thinks of dating until you find someone special to be intimate with. If he thinks a date means you do not talk to other men, MOVE ON. Another thing – the no drama no baggage guys. More likely than not, they have some but choose to ignore it like it doesn’t exist! Everything is about their kids and their desires. Dump guys like this girls, these men are not worth your time.

  26. Carolina Aguilar says:

    What is the best way to get them on the phone? Would you say something like – do you have a few minutes to talk so we can see if there’s chemistry?

  27. Julie MacKenzie says:

    Great advice…;)

  28. Rachella Bennett says:

    Yeah,I haven’t gone on many dates,since I never seem to have the time to browse dating sites.Still,going on dates can become monotonous.
    Thanks for the advice, Matt.

  29. KJ says:

    Thanks, Matt — love your videos. This idea is so helpful, but raises a big question I have: How do you recommend saying “no, thanks.” After an intro call or really anytime in the filtering process. That’s something I’ve always struggled with, and if I’m honest, I avoid and miss out on a lot of opportunities to test the waters because of it. Thanks! Oh, and pie and ice cream retro date is a win.

  30. Dana says:

    This video could not have come in a better time!! So helpful! Am ready to find him this year…
    Thank you :)
    Dana x

  31. Sherry G says:

    Gee, you have been stalking me the last few weeks?! OK, if I give this a try, how do I tell a guy on the phone after 10 minutes that I am not interested without being mean (and yes, I have been guilty of judging the mismatched clothing pic)?

  32. Nicole says:

    This is great advice. I never go on a date without at least 1 phone call and you get better at filtering out people you just don’t click with. I’ve also found that the more men I talk with, the better I have become at working out what’s important to me.
    Thanks Matt!

  33. E says:

    Love this video! Thanks Matt!

  34. tigress866 says:


    You stole my strategy!
    Do I get a bonus for this??!!

    Keep on it Matthew!

  35. Betty says:

    Yes, you opened my vision to my correct moves. You are so awesome with your thoughts and advice about dating and relationships. Kudos to you!!!!!

  36. Zsuzsanna says:

    I couldn’t have agreed more with this message, probably the most effective of all the tips I have heard about dating for a long time. The only limited resource we have on this planet is time and to get everything out of life we all dream of we need to deal with time the most effective way. You have just re-enforced my experience about dating all of last year, where I was going on dates with about 20 men who on paper were compatible with me but yet I still not managed to find chemistry with anyone. “Be generous with your minutes but selective with your hours” is already ingrained in my brain. Thanks Matt xx

  37. Priscilla Roodman says:

    Dearest Matt

    I just love to watch your videos.

    Keep it up. You are very special. May you also find the love of your life…

    Kind regards
    Priscilla from SA

  38. Lene says:

    Hey Matt,

    I got to know a guy during my birthday in Nov last year and we have been chatting everyday on text and we did hang out quite a fair bit before I leave the country on a short term assignment in Jan. One thing he tells me is that he really likes me but he doesn’t do relationship. But why is he talking to me everyday then. I am puzzled. Should I give up?

  39. Carmen says:

    I have been doing this for a while now. My time is precious and I want to use it wisely. However, I also primarily use online dating sites. I find that used wisely they can save you lots of time and effort.

  40. Rhetorics says:

    Love this!

  41. Christine says:

    OMG Matthew, I LOVE this! Brilliant about the phone call. I actually had a guy who stood me up a couple of months ago. We DID have a phone call, where I was a bit on the fence about him and he ended up standing me up. I should have just listened to my gut reaction from the phone call, but I was like “maybe the chemistry is better in person?” My 2018 will be about being generous with the small interactions and not the big ones! Thank you ❤️

  42. Cleopatra says:

    Wow. Just wow. Thank you!!!

  43. Lauren says:

    Hi Matthew and team! Really enjoyed this video. But it does bring up a question. Let’s say you get on the phone with someone and you realize that you do not want to meet the guy in person. If there’s little to no chemistry on this initial phone call what would be the classy and respectful way of letting them know you do not wish to take it any further?

    • Julie says:

      I’d keep the call short and sweet to begin with, give yourself a time limit and state this in the start of the convo that way you’re at no obligation to stay on the line and then after say your half and hour you can just thank him for the call, it was nice to chat but you’ve got to go.
      If after half an hour it’s going well and you stay chatting longer then wayyyhayy .. you’ve got some chemistry that can warrant a second phone call :)

      • Corinna says:

        Wow, half an hour is “short and sweet” in your books? :) Anything longer than 5 mins and I would be drained. I am always very hesitant when Matthew talks about phone calls, because I personally HATE being on the phone. It is like my personal nightmare and I know I am so much less charming and more awkward on the phone than I am in person, so I’m not sure that judging a person by their phone performance is a really good idea.

        I do get the point, but if people judged me by my awkward stuttering on the phone, I would never be asked on a date, and I’m sure that this applies to many other people as well.

        I love the concept of “Be generous with your minutes but selective with your hours”. Because when we meet someone in person, we know if we enjoy them after a few sentences, instead of wasting a whole evening with someone we don’t actually like talking to, just because their profile seemed great.

    • Zsuzsanna says:

      Lauren – in my experience most guys can read that for themselves so I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Just like us women most men also know when the conversation is flowing and when it is not. If however you come across with a man who does not know this and wants to go on a date but you don’t want to waste your time I would always just be honest. Honesty after all is the best policy.

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