I think we get bored in life when we stop surrounding ourselves with things, places, books, films, music, activities, and people who inspire us.
That last one is the one we always forget: people.
Yet it’s actually the most important.
Finding people in life who challenge you, yet who also nurture and share your best character traits is one of the great treasures in the world.
It’s easy to feel frustrated if you don’t feel like you have your ‘scene’, your movement, your trusted cabal of friends who share in your beliefs and understand your point of view.
The common advice is to seek out people who are different from you, and although that makes sense when you’re ten years old and don’t know who you are yet, eventually you get to a point in life where you think: I really want to be around people who like the things I like.
When you find your scene, the world makes more sense
You don’t feel constantly isolated, lost in a crowd, like a fish out of water, or a fish who was plopped into the wrong pond and now wonders why all the other fish seem to like the wrong movies and watch football all the time when all it wants to do is stroll through art galleries and drink pretentious coffee.
Yes, variety is the spice of life, but when it comes to people, there’s something to be said for just filling your plate with what you already love.
All the great artists, the great comedians, the great musicians or tech entrepreneurs, thrived from having been part of a scene of like-minded people who shared the same goals, the same sensibilities, the same inspirations.
They could pass on recommendations and share war stories, or explain how they solved problems and trade knowledge. It’s these commonalities that create great movements where every individual spurs each other onto greater heights.
I’m not exactly one for sticking with one crowd all the time, but I do believe that we can all benefit from having a Braintrust of people who think like us.
We all need people in life who remind us who we are.
People who turn us on to new things because we trust their opinion. People who understand what we are trying to achieve so that we don’t have to explain it a million times because they just see where we’re coming from. People who encourage us that what we are doing is worth pursuing because they share in that pursuit themselves.
Your crowd is out there. And they need someone just like you to make their group complete.
What are you doing right now to find them?
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Stephen Hussey helped co-write the Get The Guy book and is a wealth of knowledge on dating and relationships.