What if you’re trying to do something and getting no rewards?

I’m on Clearwater beach right now getting ready to start my 5-day Retreat tomorrow. I don’t have my normal video set up with me, but I’m going to do my best to shoot something on my phone to say hi while I’m here.

In two weeks my show comes out on NBC.

In just three weeks my book comes out in North America.

All this means that my current schedule is pretty unrelenting.

As I write this my trainers are all sat around me on the top floor of the hotel, working on content before we go into action mode for the next 5 days.

Here’s the view from where I am:


It’s always strange the day before going on stage. I sit and think about all of the things I want to convey, and I go through my training manuals to make sure I’m on my game. One of the most important things to do before a speech is to emotionally connect with your material. If you don’t do that you can have the best material in the world but you won’t speak from the heart.

I work incredibly hard and I think about my work a lot. Often people tell me to take a break or to go on holiday. But what they don’t realise is that this IS my holiday. I’m doing what I love. There’s nothing else in the world I’d rather be doing. Maybe that’ll change one day. Maybe I’ll go in another direction altogether. But until it does, I’ll keep doing this all day everyday, because my life is focused on doing what I LOVE.

When I talk to people about their lives and whether they are doing what they love, I often hear this response: “Yeah but for you it’s easier because the successes you get validates the work you’re putting into it. It reinforce your efforts so it becomes easier to work hard.”

There is a lot of truth to this. The successes I’ve gotten HAVE reinforced my behaviour and provided much needed motivation at times.

But here is where this idea misses the point:

I was doing this LONG before there were any successes to report.

For those of you who have been following my work for years, you may remember this video:

I filmed this over 3 years ago when I was living in my apartment in London and none of this had happened. I have even older videos from 3 years before that (which were pretty terrible by today’s standards) when I was really only starting out in coaching. When I first started I was in survival mode. It really wasn’t easy. There was a ton of rejection. Lots of doors closing on me from people who said I was nobody, that I had no experience and wasn’t established enough.

But I did it anyway because, well, what else would I do?

See it’s true that on some projects in life you stop when you’re not getting any rewards.

But when it’s your love, your passion, you do it regardless of the ‘validation’, because you know you wouldn’t be doing anything else in the world.

If your love in life was business, then you wouldn’t stop creating businesses just because one project didn’t pay off. You would just change your approach. If you love business then you know you’ll be creating businesses till the day you die, because that’s what you love.

A painter who is a painter in her heart doesn’t stop painting because no one is buying her work. She paints because that’s who she is at her core – a creative soul who expresses it through her paintings. She doesn’t do it for the money.

I love the lifestyle I get from my public speaking. I love the fact that I get to travel. I love the amazing individuals I’ve been able to meet as a result, and the opportunities it affords me in life. But I was doing this before I had any of that, and I’ll still be doing this when the TV cameras go away. I’d do this if there was NO money in it and I had to sustain myself working in Mcdonalds. I’d be doing this if I had only one person to give a seminar to each week, because I F*****G LOVE learning about and helping people. It’s my obsession.

Everything else is a just a wonderful bonus (most of which I never even anticipated, let alone got motivated by).

Oh and do I need to point out the obvious parallel with your love life?

  • Flirt because you LOVE flirting.
  • Love because you LOVE loving.
  • Be courageous because you LOVE being courageous.

Don’t do it for the rewards – those are all just wonderful bonuses.

I want to leave you with a video today from an up-and-coming artist who is also carving his space out in the world. His name is George Watsky and he’s another great story to follow. His new song is called Cardboard Castles. I have no reason to promote his work other than the fact that his song sums up so much of this blog post, and that I love to help someone succeed in doing what they love.

My favourite line of the song:

“I do things on a shoe string you couldn’t do with a cool mill”.

Because that’s what we do here on this blog. We work with what we have. You don’t have stone? Then build your castles out of cardboard.

I’ll finish with a question aimed at you…

What do you do in your life for no other reason than you LOVE it? If you have 30 seconds tell me by leaving a comment below. I can’t wait to learn about your passion in life.

Massive love to you AND your wonderful life.

Matthew

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  1. Dania says:

    My hobby is to put makeup on others, it pleases me to see them happy about the way they look! I’m currently studying Medicine but that won’t stop me from being a makeup artisit someday!

  2. Hannah says:

    Matthew, you are great at helping people by the way! & I paint because I like to, even though I’m horrid. I sing because I love too, even though again, I’m a horrid singer. I run because I love to run, & surprisingly , I’m a great runner, not horrid. I am starting a club at my school where the High school girls help the middle school girls with their confidence & I’m doing it because I love to make people feel good. This was a fantastic article. Thank you very much. – Hannah

  3. inez says:

    Hey Matthew
    I wish i had the time to do what you do . But i do on a smaller scale iI work with adults with learning difficulties (the under dogs) such inspiring people I love them…
    My passion is painting this is a greater part of who i am! And im beginning to sell my work which is beyond my wildest dreams! my outer confidents is pretty thin But WITH YOUR CONSTANT POSSITIVE MAILS and my constant self improving THE OUTER IS QUICKLY CATCHING UP
    WITH MY INNER CONFIDENTS!! and SOON ILL BE LOVING IN EVERY AREA!!
    NOT QUITE READY FOR THE GUY YET BUT V SOON..

    SUNNY HAPPY DAYS TO YOU IN NICE AND ME IN BRIZZLE!

    X

  4. Yvonne says:

    Cardboard Castles ~ What a great video :-)
    Thanks for sharing Matt.

    I follow your posts with much interest. Yet, what would you advise a woman who lost all hope, because having been in long-term relationships and things never worked out for good?

    I get in contact easily with men to an extend that I found myself tuning-it-down a bit ;-) The reason behind this is that I am now in a point of my life where I started to ‘run’ from these connections due to the heart-break experiences I’ve had.

    There is to say, I also am a mom and I do it truly all alone, which means I haven’t gotten out in years. There is no more freedom to go out and meet new people par se. I can’t see myself just flirting around in a supermarket basically because I am not that type of ‘flirty person’ any longer. I don’t necessarily hold up a STOP-Sign but I have stopped the “Happy-Go-Light” Expressions due to just NOT FEELING IT ANYMORE.

    I found, due to personal life experience, that relationships are usually really great at their beginnings and then things wear off, at least for the male part, because most men truly lack depth when it comes to daily life. Any discord, an argument or a fight, difference in some interests (no-one is exactly the same, or likes all the same things) could send them cheating on a woman in no time …

    I am truly curious about one issue:
    “Does the cheating happen first, and then home life turns into a hell of ignorance, lack of communication, long faces, time spent apart etc… – or …. does every day life create an unrest in a man that he then starts to cheat?”

    How can any relationship last if men are as they are? … In my opinion always seeking adventure and excitement, seeking the new and therefore it’s interesting until it wears off …. So I have to admit that I truly have become someone who isn’t willing to put forth the energy any more … After all I have my own agenda and my daughter to take care off.

    I do feel incomplete … and the truth is that I am still heart-broken over my ex-boyfriend due to the fact of how it all went …. When a guy accuses you of cheating, and you know for a fact that you didn’t still he insists, without presenting any evidence, doesn’t even want to reveal what brought him to think that …. I feel he is the one who actually cheated … and/or uses this phrase as an excuse to break-off the relationship for his own reasons in a very dis-honest way. Yet he played his role so very well, as the accuser, even crying, letting me think that he believed his own made-up-story about me.
    I am still devastated about it all, yet I used to find him flirting here and there with his EX on Facebook. So who is the real cheater? … and has been all this time? – I’d say it’s him, because cheating starts in the mind ….

    What do you advise men, dear Matt, who never are truly sure who IS THE ONE for him? How are you helping them stop toying with many women all at once? – Men like this are the ultimate reason why women start to go in retreat and are actually not really interested in the ‘dating-game’ anymore … There are too many “Jack-Of-All-Trades” out there, and a girl won’t really know until she has started to open up to him, has fallen in love with him and already has given so much of herself.

    I have seen it, heard it and I have also experienced it over and over again, that the minute a woman finally dares to show her love, the man starts to pull back and becomes less and less interested in her and in the relationship.
    It almost seems like a coarse :-(

    I truly believe men are to understand how much suffering it causes women to ‘put on a show for him’, to suppress her feelings, to having to constantly being careful not to get hurt … and then when we finally start to feel emotionally safe, DANG – there comes the ‘jerk-reaction’ on his behalf …. as if so the ‘feeling safe with him’ is a sign to let go of her because he got what he wanted and that’s that!

    Concerning your question what it is that I would do and who I’d be in life just for the love of doing it, feeling it, and being it …. I have to say it’s my artwork (painting or digital), singing (maybe I should pursue it more seriously?) and wanting to help women to stop feeling beat-up over men who seemingly aren’t ready to dive into the deep-felt and loyal love-business. I am also more-so on the spiritual path, religious dogma feels toxic to me ;-) so I am interested in all types of topics that revolve around Quantum Physics and the Science of Creation. I’d love to travel as I used to but that’s not possible with a small child. I’d be just happy right now to get out here and there to events that are of my personal interest (and that has absolutely nothing to do with ‘meeting a guy”)

    I’ve realized that in life there is never any guarantee for any relationship to last …. It has saddened me much …

    I wish I could meet THE ONE, my true Twin Soul (Twin Flame) cause that’s the only way, I believe, an openness and willingness to truly stay together would occur on a mutual basis. Only strong relationships would work through issues coming up … and never ever would any of the Soul-Partners betray the other one’s trust in such a way that he/she would force her/him out of his/her life … because loving communication would always be established – no matter how bad the argument (often caused through misunderstandings/misinterpretations) …. Unfortunately most men are just NOT that DEEP … They easily feel overwhelmed and prefer a superficial life-style of shine and glamor, thriving of competition …. then they turn around and complain that they only attract women of the same Vibe.

    A man is to understand that if he truly wants an Angel in his Life it is his duty to create a Heaven for her …. and to keep it up too. –

    ~ Let your heart be your eyes and ears, and not your eyes and ears be fools of deception! ~ :-)

    …. and this goes out to all women ….
    STOP believing that what he shows you at first, or what he says … Actions speak louder than words! – Most of all pay attention and make sure to find out IF HE FEELS IT, too ….. NOT ONLY YOU! ♥ Wishful thinking has lead many of us astray, just because he was nice here and there, said the right thing, here and there …. Men are the ones who love to play games, they often say things NOT BECAUSE they care how you feel, but because they love your positive reaction to what they have said or done in the moment, because this way they get to stroke their Ego … as in “I am great!” Men are so into themselves and full of it ….. which would truly explain why they lose interest after they know that you are also in love …. All they truly wanted was THE PRIZE … Women are nothing but trophies to be placed behind glass after they scored …. No wonder they then start to reduce their attention ….

    Sorry Matt, up to this point no matter what I have heard and read online, in books, talked to people, nothing at all has yet convinced me that men could actually be turned around into “LOVE-PUPPIES” based on how a woman interacts with him authentically, unless she takes on a role that she fake-ly plays to please him, always being highly alert and living in her mind ….. which will eventually BREAK HER DOWN and wanting to leave, because she will never be able to be open and honest about her deep, loving feelings for him without losing him too.

    Just my opinion built on what has transpired through life! – It is very rare that people meet their Twin-Soul where the attraction is so strong and everlasting in ways where one could not be without the other in their life any more. Society prefers to lives through superficiality, unfortunately.

    Love & Peace Everyone ~ ♥ ~

  5. Michelle says:

    Hey Matthew! I love singing and music, I have talent and studied music a long time now..LOVE to sing!!! People have said so much that I would never succed in music that I would never get into a music school..But I did..got in to the top musicschool here in finland and now I’m trying to go over to a music college in Boston USA…Did the audition in january this year and waiting for an answer now..!!! That is what i want so much in my life..just to be on stage and sing..That’s when I am myself and smile more than ever :D I really don’t fit in around regular people, coz they don’t understand me..and I have been struggling with that my whole life. But When I am on stage and sing I fit in more than ever in life. I write songs and That is like my diary, but I wanna share my soul with the world and change things for people in life. That means everything to me.. I paint too when I get a feeling that I wanna express on paper other than music. And when it come to love..I am being really positive now, But my friend always seems to get the guys attention more than me.It hurts coz she knows I like him, but she wanted to ha him. I would not do that to her, she has another guy too… she gets everyone…what is she doing that I am missing out on to get the attention..I was just as happy as her and smiled all the time talking, being myself..I always end up as the 3 wheel.. that hurts. My lovelife has never gone anywhere and I am so scared that I will be alone my whole life now..Im 25 and have never had a realtionship or know how to get a guy. Hurts.. Love your work, but please help me! Need it and I want help. XO /Michelle

    • Yvonne says:

      Dear Michelle,
      I just read your post.
      I seems to me that your friend and you are on two different levels when it comes to personal interests.
      Are you often tagging along and let her determine the places to hang out? Are you feeling yourself ‘standing in her vibration’ as she is assertive and you are more so of a follower concerning her?
      If so, I’d say the reason why she ends up with the guy is because you both gather at places she is drawn to, which means there are guys that more-so fit her style and whereabouts.

      From what I can read between the lines it seems that she likes to play ‘catch’ and isn’t very serious about any of the guys she is dating? – while at the same time you are more looking for a serious relationship?
      Well, if both spend time at places where superficiality is the underlying ‘vibe of the day, or night’ then of course she will attract the guys because those are her places to be!

      You said you love music and you have a serious goal to actually pursue this professionally. I take it that you are a person who actually wants to live life through a higher purpose than to ‘just meet guys and flirt’. Am I correct with this? Please feel free to state otherwise, in case I may be wrong.

      My suggestion for you would be to hang out around places of Art & Music (not night-clubs for quick pick-up. I am sure you know what I mean ;-)

      Maybe it would be good to get to know people/guys in an area that are serious, just like you, about same interests and make friends there …. I think this should be an easy endeavor for you, since you wrote that you smile a lot and are open to interact with people of all type and sorts?

      You may wish to follow Matt’s suggestions concerning ‘breaking the ice” type of clues, adjust your body-language in case you find a guy attractive. BUT, do it in those places of ‘mutual interest’ and not where your friend is taking you. You may want to consider doing things on your own some type so you won’t have to feel competitive in reference to her, or she in reference to you.

      I hope my thoughts are helping you a bit in order to try something new in your spare time.

      ~ Love & Peace ~
      Yvonne

  6. Misha says:

    I love to read. P.G Wodehouse is my favorite author and if some day i am able to write like him i would consider myself very lucky.A doctor by profession i get very little time to do what i love.

  7. Dee says:

    Writing. I love to write and one day I hope to become a successful novelist. I’ve written two novels so far, but I haven’t got the – sorry – balls to send it to a publisher. I feel like I’m not ready, just yet ^^ but that’s what I really do love. Very passionate about it. It’s my sword and shiled.
    Matt, you need to upload more, man! I love to hear from you! Congrats on everything you’ve accomplished so far. You are awesome, my friend :D

  8. Marie-antonine Woutaz says:

    I love it when you write that one of the most important thing (…) is to emotionally connect with your material. If you don’t do that, you can have the best material in the world but you won’t speak from the heart”. That is what I’ve always done with my Tango Djing and I keep doing it… I would stop Djing if there were no emotional connection.
    Again thank you Matt for your support and inspiration. Keep doing what you love. Take care! Marie-Antonine

  9. Hadasha says:

    Anthropology. It is the one thing I have wanted to do since I was 5. I have fought to maintain my grades because that is the only way I could get the money for college. I didn’t quit when I was told that being female I should go into nursing or some other sexist occupation by older, male colleagues (who then proceeded to hit on me). It is one thing that I would rather do for free and be homeless than not do at all.

  10. Carol says:

    Your ethos, regular messages and book have been a great inspiration and motivation for me in love, work and life in general. Keep up the fantastic work! I’m hoping it will be possible to catch some of your US show on the web as the clip was great :-)

    Carol
    x

  11. Helia says:

    I LOVE helping other people. I get really happy with helping somebody through a random act of kindness, or just listening and giving advice to my friends.

    It feels good to be able to help :) My own sense of self value is deeply connected with what I’m able to do to on behalf of someone else.

  12. Rachel says:

    Wow! So many comments in just a few hours! It just goes to show how you words speak to so many people…

    Ok what do I love? I’ve managed to combine 2 of my biggest passions!

    I make jewellery,I’ve always been a creative person and always found a great feeling of achievement when I’ve produced something people enjoy. I sell the jewellery and the profits go to charity. This is where my second passion comes in. The money goes to animal rescue organisations. I’ve always had an obsession with wildlife. I actually recently adopted a jaguar too!

    Keep up the good work and good luck with NBC and your book release!

    Rach x

  13. Angela says:

    I love, love, love what you wrote Matthew! In fact, I alwas say the exact same thing about what I do. I am a Graphic Designer, and from the day I started designing, not once did I feel like I was straining to get the work done, I have so much fun doing it! It is my passion, my life, and the way I earn my bread! But that’s not the only thing I love, like you said I also love love, I love my family even if they don’t love me back, I love my boyfriend, even if he is at times fickle, I love people even if I don’t even know them, and I LOVE you for finally explaining what I could not express in words! Love in fact is an absolute, and knowing as such will always constitute our every fiber of our being!

  14. Charlie says:

    My passion is dressmaking – it’s amazing to make myself beautiful clothes that are totally unique! xx

  15. vinka says:

    Hi Matthew,

    i really love to cook and bake eventhoug it fails for the first time but i’m still doing it no matter how long i will stay in the kitchen just to finish a dish. my mom thinks i’m kinda crazy but i love spending time in the kitchen. after that, dancing and swimming is two things that i can’t live without. i learn latin dance at campus and i lovee it!!! it’s like my dream on a movie by Antonio Banderaz, “take the lead”, and i do dance on club at first i am not confident because i am fat but thank God i have really good friends that support me. and now i can all 3 things that i love freely.

    oh by the way, i’ve tried your advice about to attract man nice and easy but somehow i’m still afraid if i am just gonna be his friendzone perhaps because i’m fat and taller than him?? :(

    if u read this, pls make a video bout that. thank you so muuuuch for such an inspiring blog.

    xo

  16. Anna Moody says:

    I live on the Greek Island of Rhodes, have you been here? It has an energy like no other, it’s like the island out of LOST!!!! I’m passionate about my island (I’m British but feel Greek) and it’s people. The sun is shining here, the food organic, the sea turquoise….wanna visit, get in touch ;-)

    YOU Matthew are AUTHENTIC, COOL and UNIQUE!

  17. Kathryn says:

    Thank you Matthew for writing this blog. That view is amazing :)
    This is not a sob story when I say my son is terminally ill and I don’t get out a lot! So the Internet is great for me.
    The situation in my life has made me feel love more intensely, but there is always the feeling that maybe I should numb it down for when the inevitable happens. I’m storing all your wise words in my mind for when I might need to use them!
    It’s a pity your tv programme is only on in the States, it looks great fun. I wish you all the success with it . In the meantime I’ll keep reading the blogs, you are one in a million : )
    Kathryn x

    • Anna Moody says:

      Love your son Kathryn and love yourself. So much pain can be healed when we give unconditional love. Strength to you from across the seas.

  18. D says:

    Really love that you added your favourite song of the moment. I wholeheartedly love discovering new music and love that you are backing a new artist through this blog. Lot of respect for that!

    Good luck with the retreat, show and book launch in the US. Can’t wait to read your next blog!

  19. Rosalind says:

    Thank you very much for sharing. Right now I’m in the process of realising my dream, my passion and I have no funticktets (means money) at the moment. I decided that is not going to stop me from doing what I love proffessionaly.I’m working with the resources I got and it’s working. I always said I don’t want to work. I want to play and it feels like that cause I love what I do :).Not to say It isn’t a challenging road, but I’m sure I’m on the right track and that every roadblock belongs to me.

  20. novalee truesdell says:

    i am passionate about following your ever inspirational advice as part of working on becoming a better person every single day of my life. i am saving up to go to the next retreat , i just know it is what i want to do . for now i am in the beginning stages of the fight for self confidence and have found myself improving strides in both mental and physical health by getting a personal trainer and showing him a pic of the woman i want to be!!!
    lol
    taking your lead
    love, nova xox

  21. anna says:

    I love my self no matter what happen, love my family sister and brother, leaving alone far away from home is teaching me a lot..

    but honest i learn many things from u matt. so ILOVEYOU too.. :) GOD BLess you more…

  22. Vic says:

    In regards to passion I love traveling, food, cooking, painting, working with numbers and anything competitive. But…

    Matthew, I’ve been on sooo many dates the past year, so many people I’ve met, so many guys I’ve had to get over. Just when I start to be excited about someone new , out of the blue it is done. I know it’s just not out of the blue but I am so sick of this. And as your video states I put my best self on and still!

    I don’t find it hard to pick up a guy, but for some reason they do not stay. And I know most of your tips and pay for your videos… but when the 40th billion time someone this year has just stopped talking to me after asking for my number, being on a couple of dates, or even dating for a bit – it really does make me wonder what I am doing wrong.

    Ugh if I could tell you my life story I would, which is this nonsense for 24 years. I’m giving up hope, as I just started to get it back :(

  23. ampvie says:

    I love and really appreciate what you have been doing because it is showing that you always think about others. Also I have learnt and grown up a lot because of you. Thank you very very much. With massive love from a Thai fan.

    Take good care :D

  24. OLGA says:

    Hello, Matthew!
    Everything that around me makes ME happy. I think cheerful people will save the world;)I adore listening to music that touches my ear. I can even wake up with a song in my mind and sing it all day long;) besides to get rid of problems i open a book, and just “fuck” the reality, sorry;) if it’s summer i’m fond of riding a bike, hiking, just being alone with nature, roller skating, feeding pigeons, you know, some simple pleasures. And of course my pupils make me happy daily, i’m only 20 and i believe i’m on the right way!

    joyful Olga
    keep smiling;)

  25. Ruthie says:

    Hi Matthew! I guess at the moment I really do not give myself a break because I just got a new job of getting which I started pursuing already in July when the owner of this place just had a tiny idea of opening that shop in that location. I heard about that idea then and jumped on it by sending him a letter with my resumé in it. A month later I randomly saw him in his other shop in another city. He went out to drink wine with his friends. As I told one of the young guys working there that I sent and e-mail he encouraged me a lot to go and talk to the owner. So after being convinced for 15 minutes I out of characterly went and had a chat with him. All this happened in July and August 2013. In January 2013 I saw an advert of them officially looking for employees in that location I had applied for. Therefore I sent him an e-mail saying hey it’s me, I’m still interested and available. So now in March 2013 I’m an proud employee of that company. we opened our boutique in that location exactly a week ago. So long story short: I never thought that my dreams, nevermind how small or big, could come true, but obviously they do. In addition last week while working I met a customer that responded extremely accurately to my idea of the man I’d really really like. For the first time ever I actually felt that a guy actually is as interested in me as am I in him. At least according to the signs. Anyway since I might not see him ever again I’ll always remember the feeling. Such a confidence booster.
    AMAZING!
    But I LOVE my job!

    I absolutely LOVE going to theatre in order to watch plays, ballets, musicals… Actually I’m going there tonight! Therefore I must finish writing a part of my bachelor thesis and another uni paper before I go. :) :)

    But it’s amazing how life changes! The 2013 is absolutely wonderful! I’m sure it’s an beginning of a new awfully happy period of my life when the last 12 years bloody horrible.

    Keep up the good work, Matthew! Keep chasing your dreams!

    And big big thank you! :)

  26. Laura says:

    I remember when I accidentally came across your videos (about a year ago) and I liked what I learned. What I like and I do regardless of what would happen is quilling and maybe one day I will be able to make a competition with people who do quilling, is an art and not everyone has that talent.

  27. yuetching says:

    You must be Love Cupid in your previous life.:-P You are so incredibly passionate about what you do that your zest gets me moving and impresses me!!!:-) Thank you for your post.It really touched me.x :-)

  28. Lucy says:

    Thanks for the love and support Matt!
    I LOVE to travel, sing, dance, laugh, go to the beach, go to concerts and listen to music!
    I have been trying to recover from chronic fatigue syndrome for five years now. It’s a tough one, trying so hard to get rid of it. There have been some rewards and improvements however most of the time it is more trying to get rid of it and recover and now being rewarded.
    I guess how can I get past this?
    I’m doing everything I can that’s in my control and will look at my achievements and improvements.
    Good luck with the retreat :)
    X

  29. Learning says:

    I LOVE your blogs. : ) What am I passionate about? I am thinking about doing some kid of ministry, maybe go on a missions trip or something.

  30. Lisa says:

    Passion is my passion. My whole life, people have called me words like “fiery” and “loud” and “enthusiastic” because I do nothing by halves. I’m either fully passionate, or completely indifferent. I don’t seem to have a dimmer switch.

    In the past, it scared off guys (but attracted gay best friends in droves!). The advice I got from people usually amounted to them saying, “Tone it down.” But then I didn’t feel true to myself.

    It took your videos for me to realize how amplified my natural assertiveness was, and you’ve helped me redirect my energies into a more playful and teasing expression.

    Can’t wait until you come to NYC next month! Already have my ticket!!

  31. CelesteK says:

    When my husband died three years ago, I realized I had two choices: 1) Stay stuck in the passenger seat of a life I loved but that was limited to the things we BOTH wanted or 2)Take the chance that everyone around me would think I was nuts and do what I really wanted to do.

    I’m opening a bed and breakfast (which I’m building from the ground up) so I can combine a love of taking care of people (on my own terms) by offering them a comfortable, peaceful, interesting place to stay and also allow myself to spend my days playing. Playing in my garden, playing with my animals, playing music, playing with words and ideas…just…whatever I want. And I love that my daughters will get to grow up watching their mother do that.

    I’ve reached an age and a level of life experience where I just don’t care if people think I’ve lost my mind. If I’m the crazy outspoken environmentalist artsy hippie woman on the hill who writes songs but doesn’t want a music career and refuses to eat her animals, then so be it. I’m spending my days being present inside what I love. Anyone else’s ideas about what I should do with my precious time be damned.

  32. Priscille says:

    I love working out. It has been a fundamental part of my life the past 6 years. It has transformed my body and my confidence. But unfortunately it doesn’t replace having a man to love, which is what I’m struggling quite alot with at present.

  33. Caryn says:

    I love the environment. I have been fighting relentlessly since I was 12 to educate people about why caring about our world and the people in it is the greatest calling of all. But it is really draining when I give and give and people around me take and take and never understand my passion. I hope one day that will change.

  34. Samantha says:

    Matt,
    I love how passionate you are about your work. How do you suggest I find my passion in life?

    Thank you,

    – Sam

  35. Dina says:

    I love myself. I love my family. I love my friends.
    LOVE giving love, LOVE receiving love.

    P.S. i love you too Matthew!

  36. Helen says:

    I work as a speech pathologist, and I flippin’ LOVE my job. thank god for small miracles, huh? I also create paper cut-outs and stencils which are nothing too impressive but they are my artistic release!

    • Helen says:

      Ohoh and I adore playing jazz music on my trumpet – i have been playing since I was ten and on a rainy day the first thing I go for is my shiny bugle! :D

      Also I would like to say to you Matthew that you helped me gain my first real date at 19 as well as many more wonderful male friends and continue to help me put aside shyness for openness (which is tricky for me I can tell you now)!
      WHOOP WHOOP THREE CHEERS FOR YOU!
      Best of luck with your future Matthew,
      You made it on your own! :)

  37. Michelle says:

    I love graphic design. That’s what I am studying at college. I actually switched to graphic design/art after fighting it for years because everyone was telling me that I could not make it my life or my career. I made the switch shortly after I found your videos. Then I found a story in a book i was reading about the bumble bee. It said there is not reason that can be proven by physics that the bumble bee should fly. It flies because it has to. With both your videos and blog and that story, I changed the plan for my entire life. Keeping in mind that you do what you love and love what you do because sometimes you just have to be a bumble bee.

    Thank you so much,
    Michelle

  38. Old school says:

    I bake bread! I have not bought a loaf in 3 years!! It’s waaaay more work than driving to the store and plonking down a few dollars … But I love it!

  39. Senaida says:

    I love my job police dispatching & 911 call taking. Best thing I have ever done in my life and I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. I love helping out our citizens, educating them and helping to make sure our officers have everything they need in order to do their jobs effectively & efficiently. It makes me really happy.

    Unfortunately due to the hours and stresss that domes with the job my love life has fallen on the back burner, this I have decided to change. I am going out more, working out, eating right and I feel amazing!! I have been taking what I have learned from you and put it into play. Just this weekend I was out with friends and created an opportunity. There was a guy at the club that I caught looking at me sobefore iI left I approached him with my name & number… We will see what happens! But the fact that I did it with nothing but pure confidence and his reaction of a raised eyebrow and a smile when he took my information was priceless and if it served as nothing more than to boost both our confidence, that makes me EXTREMELY Happy as well! :)

  40. Lynne Burwell says:

    Wow! I’m super excited for your amazing success, Matthew!! Especially since I remember when you were a “nobody.” teehee. Just kidding. It was obvious that your knowledge, insights, drive & ambition to make a difference would take you far.

    … and the good looks helped a wee bit too. ;)

    Congrats!

  41. Ruth says:

    I would create a brilliant movie

  42. MM says:

    You Matthew, have a very similar gift with people as does my younger sister. I love that about you two :) I love learning, whether its in piano, photography, writing, building confidence, enjoying life, and learning how to build good relationships with your advice!

    Thank you for always sharing with us fans!
    MM

  43. Nurul Ghaz says:

    i love to learn something and started sharing it among my friends or people around me at a time. Either in the car when we re heading to some where, or when we were hanging at the coffiehouse or somethings. I love sharing things about what i read, what i watched lately, what is happening around me, any good imformation that i think it might help them in their life. By sharing the imformation with them make me feel good, is like showing my love and corcern towarss them. The more deep the conversation, the more loved i felt. The funny thing is, sometimes is them that asking me whats new that i can share with them. Isnt that lovely?? Yeah. Like seriously, i will just join any talk without getting any pay. Like seriously lovin it.

  44. Catrina Metzing says:

    I love working out. Particularly Crossfit. It has become my passion in the last year and I can’t get enough of it… It is also where I’ve met the man of my dreams.. But the problem is that he is a trainer there and there is a rule about dating clients. So though we’ve always been flirty, nothing has ever happened. Now I’ve actually started to take steps to become a trainer there and since then he and I have hung out a few times but though he flirts with me and other people have made comments about how he is obviously crazy about me he has never said anything to me about how he really feels.. I know he can’t break that rule.. But is it a bad sign that he still hasn’t made his feelings known after all this time? Should I wait and see if things change when I’m not a client anymore.. Or let go now?

  45. Iris says:

    Hi,

    I love living and creating my life and learning from it. The first 30 years of my life I pretty much spend it in fear and my life was lived by it.
    It turned pretty nasty for a while and decided that there is only one way to live.

    TAKE CONTROL AND FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS.

    So I packed up my things and left dreadful Holland.
    It’s not always an easy road since most of the time when I get a new project in my mind of what next I want to do with my life it means that I have to let go of some other things. But when I finally manage to manifest my new life, the payoff is amazing. It makes me realize I can do anything.
    Since I’m seriously running out of time, my new big (long term) project is becoming a mother. Next to that I’ve got lots of other projects in my heart as well, like finding a second home on a warm and sunny island next to my lovely home in beautiful but rainy, misty and cold Ireland.

    x

  46. Kelly says:

    I love to coach people in nutrition and exercise, to walk them through the weight loss process to find a healthy weight, and even more important, a healthy lifestyle. I like to help them understand that there are no “bad” foods, just bad relationships with foods. I like to encourage them, to listen to their struggles and to help them find a way through them.

  47. Manon says:

    While I was reading you, your video appeared at the bottom and I went “Oh I know this one so well” ;)
    Believe it or not, a lot of what you give are ‘my thoughts – your words.’
    I would like to gently poke at your word choice on two things though, it is not a “holiday” it is a trip… And we are on board with you, so keep enjoying it thoroughly, cuz we do, thanks to you! :) This said, I totally get what you mean and am genuinely happy for you in every aspect of the way.
    Moreover, it is the first time I have seen you use the word “obsession” when in fact PASSION it is. You are a true definition of passion. To cut it short: “It requires a passionate person to generate the strength and enthusiasm to apply the effort needed to achieve and create, which requires they “make great demands of themselves.” http://bit.ly/WIunfJ You better relate to this, because that is totally what you have, a passion you honour ;) So even if this one ends, and selling cheeseburgers is next, I would still buy. :p
    My passion is putting a smile on other people’s faces (whether I know them or not). :) I am starting to think, that I have a real inside urge to make people feel better about themselves and life. Life is not a b*tch, life is wow… It all about the intonation of the ‘wow’… (Ok my other passion is the ocean, but people keep getting it wrong by always saying “Oh yeah right, you wanna save the dolphins and the whales”. When in fact it is much deeper than that…)
    Now, this might sound blunt, as you wouldn’t really say that to someone you have met once, but I have respect for you Matthew. You HAVE come a long way and yes in your case it is sometimes good to step off the treadmill and look at how far you have come (that’s a healthy approach). Be proud of yourself, for not only guiding woman how to get a guy, but for all those you inspire in becoming a better part of themselves (like you), for that today you are not only showing us a 3 years old video but a ‘you’ who has transformed itself over the years. You remind me of the ugly duckling lol.
    M x

  48. Pèta-Jane says:

    Hi Matthew, thanks for all the bloggs. I’ve started reading gtg & think it is great. Keep up the good work, your doing brilliantly.
    My passion in life is Mediumship & Spiritual Healing, it feels really good when you know you have helped someone by being a chanel for Spirit & helping to pass a message or to help with the Healing process :-) xx

  49. Rita says:

    I love to loose myself in something creative. Photography, chainmaille or some sort of creative endevor where I can loose myself and just enjoy the process. I am always tinkering and learning new crafts, I love it so much. This past weekend I took part in a local craft fair (my first one ever), it is rewarding to see other people enjoy the things you put together. Thanks for the blog post, it makes my day reading such positive things. Good luck with all of your exciting upcoming releases!

  50. Claudia says:

    When we get caught up in a piece of music, we don’t search for rewards, we’re in the moment, intense and loving, and we enjoy …See the parallel? ;) Your job is to teach us to get “in tune” lol
    Thanks :)
    P.S. Really wish you could come in Montreal next time :)

  51. Michele says:

    I really needed encouragement today and receiving this email was perfect timing.

    I love everything about independent filmmaking, writing, shooting and editing films is truly my passion. I love writing screenplays, mainly dark comedies, because that involves another love of mine, the love of laughter. Being able to laugh and having a sense of humor has got me through the hardest times in my life. If I can make someone laugh and have a better day through my films then my mission is accomplished.

    I’m working on a dark comedy right now about a blind date gone bad, called “Invali-Date.” Probably not the best advertisement for what you do…lol. Anyway, the people who have read my screenplay and have seen the footage shot so far laugh and think it’s really good.

    I’ve decided I’m not going to mess around with other work in between films to pay my bills and this time I’m determined to make a living in film, no matter what now…FTW !

    Cheers!

    MIchele

  52. Sandra says:

    I love my life!

    I love helping people through design. Through design I am able to help a business owner grow his/her business by creating their brand. I am to create social consciousness and support many causes through thought provoking posters or illustrations.

    I love doing this so much that I would do it for free if I didn’t need to make a living ;)

  53. Erin says:

    Well, this is cool… While I was watching your video that’s 3 years old, a commercial came on the tv and it was NBC promoting your NEW tv show coming up in March on love!!! Haha, I thought that’s amazing… How far you’ve come Matt!!! Very proud of you!!! ;) love all our videos!!! Keep them coming!!!!!!!

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      That’s the most insane out of this world thing ever! Isn’t that crazy!!!

      Thanks for telling me Erin, that is mind blowing.

      x

  54. Shelly says:

    Wildlife conservation. After volunteering in Africa I came home to California and started volunteering in wildlife rehabilitation. I love it and am in the process of selling my business (which I spent the last 10 years building and now realize adds nothing to my life) so that I can focus on what I really should be doing.

  55. Ashley says:

    I love to read. I like to lock myself in my room and just dive into a new book. I enjoy making connections with the characters and if I am really into it, I become emotional and start talking or yelling at the what’s going on. Reading for me can become an emotional roller coaster and after I finish it I usually want to reread it or remember my favorite scenes. Reading a book is my personal oasis where I can pick out my favorite book if I am feeling down or need something to make me laugh.

  56. Margaret says:

    I love playing with my nephews. They are so funny and happy. And way easier to flirt with and tease than adult men :)

  57. Ella says:

    Hello lovely,

    I absolutely love making people smile – so event planning and directing/acting are my passions – really enjoy both of those!
    Talking to anyone about anything…anywhere! So, I’m going to sum that up as ‘being extremely social and generally hilarious,’ hehe
    Another song you might like is ‘King’ by Lauren Aquilina. It’s all about being happy with who you are, etc. I absolutely love it! Have a listen to it :)

    Take care and good luck xx

  58. Celine says:

    Hey Matt,

    I really liked the fact that you showcased some of your older works.
    Your dedication is inspirational! To answer your question, I play the acoustic and electric guitar for no other reason than the enjoyment it brings me. Though I know I will never persue it as a career I couldn’t picture my life without such a simple pleasure.

  59. Laura Fitzpatrick says:

    Hello my name is Laura Fitzpatrick and i’m a Urban photographer in London.

    I’m currently working on a project called Reflections of the Street (London).
    “These images are bold in both colour and form as this is how I see London, as a bright , strong and exciting city to live in. Enjoy!”

    I just LOVE wondering the amazing city which I live within. And how one like myself can show a new and interesting prospective on this city. One of the best bits about doing this is being able to share my work with Individuals and groups all around the world.

    IT MAKES ME WHO I AM AND FOR THAT REASON ALONE I JUST LOVE DOING IT !!! ;-)

    Matt, Thank you for sharing your life with us you are a inspiration to me and many others all around the world. I wish you all the best in your near and far FUTURE. ;-)

  60. Suzanne says:

    singing!

  61. erica says:

    MMatthew,just because we dont comment all the time doesnt mean we dont appreciate u-to the core!
    Bt

  62. Jen says:

    Hi Matthew,
    I’m a massive lover of nature and the great outdoors! I love strolling along a beach or a gorgeous meadow! Taking in the beautiful scenery, the sounds and observing the amazing wildlife! This truly makes me feel alive and empowered for I think to be part of a world as diverse and fascinating as this….surely anythings possible! :) X

  63. Annie says:

    Hey Matthew,
    I’ve been feeling really low today and this post just made my day, u have no idea. So thanks for that :)
    I absolutely love learning and trying out new recipies and since I live in France now, its pretty amazing. I also love a good read, if u have read anything good lately I would be happy to hear about it.

    Bisous, Annie

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Annie,

      Glad to have made your day. Stay with me and we’ll create many more great days together.

      Matthew x

  64. Clair de Lune says:

    I sing for myself because it is a great stress buster, especially with law school!

  65. Rebecca says:

    Brilliant reminder of the power of passions Im a therapist and social entrepreneur like you i love seeing people heal and fulfill their potential have no doubt you are doing an awesome job of helping me in the one area I’ve always had trouble with your commitment and encouragement is phenomenal your really helping me work this stuff out, heal my heart and love my interactions with opposite sex and i keep telling everyone about you. I haven’t got there yet but everyday im learning facing uncomfortable truths and learning how to live the beautiful life from the bottom of this heart huge thanks and so glad your success has come in for you don’t you dare forget us ;-) Rebecca x

  66. Brian says:

    Great post Matt. I’ve been following your work for a couple of years now. I’ve watched numerous of your seminar video’s and you have always been one of my favorites. since i started working on myself, i’ve completely changed my life. I’m more confident in myself, I have a better understanding of the big picture, i’m very successful in my career, and i have a great girlfriend. I have to thank you for indirectly helping me change my life. The great thing is i’ve made what i learned my mentality and lifestyle and the sky is the limit where i’m headed. Much like you.

    Regarding your question, i have a few passions in life. One being my career, which is I’m working to take a small company to exceptional growth, which not to mention is super successful thanks to me instilling a lot of the mentality into it that i’ve spoken of above.

    I’m also passionate about working out and playing poker on a semi professional level.

    Anyway, keep it up Matt. You’re only getting started. :)

  67. Natalie says:

    I love baking even though it doesn’t always turn out the way I want it too and I continue baking and cooking because I love to share the good stuff with my friends and family. :)

  68. celeste says:

    I wanna dance. Not for like Broadway or anything. For Team EZ.

  69. Caroline says:

    Oh dear!! l cried when l read the question “What do l do that l love” Nothing is what l do….lv always fancied writing somedays theres all these thoughts and ideas going around and around in my head but then this voice in my head tells me not to be so silly and who would ever read anything of yours. Damn it your right Matthew, it doesn’t have to be for money but pleasure – lm wasting my time going on dating sites l need to be more productive. Thank you Matthew its a light bulb moment for me.

  70. Brittaney Rigby says:

    Hey Matthew, I enjoy music and I love to help and inspire people because the expression on their face when they realize something and they set out to do what they want is absolutely fascinating. :D
    Thank you for everything you have done, you changed the way I see life ( in a good way).

    To do what you love takes courage and sometimes that is all you need.
    Have a nice day :)

  71. Maggie says:

    I’m a singer and an actor living in New York City. I do whatever I can for a living, short of anything immoral. I’m not too good for any job. The thing that most people don’t know is that I went to college on a full academic scholarship. I had law schools and advertising agencies recruiting me before I even graduated. But that’s never mattered to me. All I can think about doing as a career is finding opportunities to act and sing. I’ve had some limited successes so far and I think there are good things on the horizon for me, but even if I knew they would never happen, I would still sing every day. I sing while I’m working, while I’m cooking, while I’m scrubbing the floor. I sing when I get ready in the morning. And I will do it every day for the rest of my life. It balances me. It makes me happy. And I’ll never, ever stop…even if people on the train look at me like I’m crazy when they catch me inadvertently humming.

  72. Mercedes says:

    RUN! I love running, I like to say I sweat endorphins, and it makes me so happy. And when I’m done, I feel like I just had 2 shots of tequila.

  73. kraken says:

    I love DRAWING!! I love observing and learning about people, then putting it all down on a page that reflects what I feel. I hope to be an animator one day, and to have the ability to tell the stories in my heart through art.

    I haven’t seen results yet, but I don’t care. Maybe I won’t get into college, and maybe my work will stay on my barely acknowledged tumblr page, but I’ll keep creating because for me, without that, there’s nothing.

  74. K.B says:

    I absolutely love educating women in the areas of health and beauty. I love living the healthy lifestyle and being an example. I just wish I had this boldness to talk to this guy I like. I turn into such a tard when he is around:-(

  75. Debz says:

    I love writing! Especially poetry. I also am obsessed with learning languages. I have been learning Spanish for a little more than two and a half years now and I am enjoying it so much that I’m already teaching it! I have been dabbling in other languages too. And I never knew that I had any special capacity for language learning until 6 or 7 months in when I took it up at university, but I was enjoying it all along despite the struggle of learning it alone. And in August, I’m moving to Spain!!! People are like, ooh isn’t that scary?? And I’m like “NO!!”. I’m not scared at all. I’m too excited. Thank you for your posts. They are always so wonderfully uplifting. Especially as I am going to need a lot of confidence for meeting new people in a new country, new culture. Can’t wait to put your tips into practice on those Spanish hunks haha!

    Love,
    Debz

  76. Lisa Cherry Beaumont says:

    Truly inspiring blog piece this time, Matt, and so terrific to see how we’ll you’re doing. I’ll always remember how excited I was that day you called me at work in response to one of my emails – Matthew Hussey rang me up! Amazing to see how far you’ve come.

    My passion is being an agony aunt and, like you, payment or not, it’s what I do so I set up my website a few months ago and it’s going great – when you follow your passion it pays off in fulfilment.

    Have a beautiful retreat.

    All the best,
    Lisa from ChatToCherry.com

  77. Suzie G says:

    Hello Mister,

    I enjoyed your blog A lot and it just reminded me to keep going no matter what even if others don’t or do support you. My passion is helping people whether it be friends, famiy, or strangers. Just knowing I made an inch of a difference in someones life for one second means the world to me and I’m pretty sure you understand that as well. I also love to color pictures and ride motorycles and bring love back into peoples hearts through emotional healing or just by being there for them.Its something I believe I was born with and although sometimes it backfires because not all the world is dandy I still keep it going no matter what. Can’t wait to meet you in Los Angeles. But I don’t know where in lA its gonna be. Thanks again and God Bless your soul! ;)

  78. Julia says:

    My big dream is to get a chance to model, also I would love to try acting and dancing is my big passion. Even though I wouldn’t describe myself as a good dancer, i like doing it. I don’t really have experience in any of those areas, but I think this is what makes me happy!

  79. Happy says:

    I also have a job that I love that involves helping people with their problems on a daily basis, I love doing but, and sorry if this is a little off piste, what is your advice for the times that taking others problems on becomes a little suffocating? It happens to me once every couple of months- it’s definately difficult helping others all the time – how do u take a break from the emotions- to ensure that you can provide the best possible assistance to the client?A private email response is fine if you don’t think it is appropriate to put the answer in this thread.

  80. Danijela says:

    Hi Matt,

    Love your message! I’ve been going through a lovely transition in my life over the last few months where I have been taking great chances in life and love. I’ve been following you for a few years now and it’s amazing to see you grow in your career. I find it inspiring because I remember watching your apartment videos on you tube : ) Congrats!

    Danijela

  81. Natalie says:

    I love getting a laugh out of somebody, whether it be to cheer them up or just telling them a silly joke/story. For example I attempted to make pancakes & ended up very confused as to why they tasted like an omlette (yeah I know). Laughter is a great and powerful bond.
    Keep up the good work! :) x

  82. AB Nardi says:

    My NOVEL

    I’ve been writing a novel the past year.
    It started as a love, but just like relationships, after the inital attraction, you have to have a system in place to keep the magic going. I had a massive surge of motivation in the beginning; ideas, stars, rainbows and whirlpools of inspiration to dip in to whenever I wanted.

    Then, as suddenly as it came, it went, and I was left with a half baked book.

    Persistence saw me through to the end…and a strong vision of the people I’d touch and positively impact through my words fed that persistence like water to a plant.
    I’m sure you can relate with your book too. It’s not easy, but if it were, everybody would do it.

  83. anne says:

    I love going to the coffee shop,making people happy,sitting on the grass on a hot day,playing with my dogs,eating great food,flirting with random men,getting presents,fixing problems,dancing,and flowers

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Anne!

      LOVE these! And I’m we share most of those (maybe not the flirting with random men one!)

      Matthew x

  84. Leila says:

    I just want to help people. I love to give again and again and again so that hopefully it’ll make a difference in their lives. That’s why I’m a teacher. :)

  85. Sana says:

    What a timely article! Saw the link via Twitter. Thought I’d stop by your blog and say hello! I recently shared with my friends that I’d like to make the pretend show I created as a running gag to amuse my friends into something to hopefully motivate others in an entertaining way where I’m able to incorporate my love for song and comedy. Still working out the kinks, but I said to them, even if all that amounts is a fun hobby, mainly via YouTube I’m thinking, I’ll be thrilled cuz it makes me happy. And I’m happy for all your success! Saw the promo for your show on TV the other day. Looks good! And didn’t realize you had a book that was about to release in the US. Pretty cool! Thanks always for the positive energy. All the best, Sana :D

  86. Mandy says:

    I love making people around me happy. I love surprising them, drawing a smile on their face and making them feel special. I love helping people as much as I can and more important I love listening to their stories. No judgments, no advices, just being where you are and offering a shoulder to rely on.

  87. caroline says:

    I love receiving mail from you Matt!! — hehe you’re so my type!!

    Im crazy passionate about writing, sharing beautiful insights and love with others and music.

    I am right at the beginning of my life coaching journey!! You’ve inspired me much Mr Hussey. Especially this entry.

    Jump in for the love of it!!!

    Have a fantastic 5 days!!!

    Ps the paralell is purrrfect

    Love to you!!

  88. Julie says:

    Cool song! My cardboard castles are writing stories, etc – mostly romance, LOL, but other things as well. I’m not published, but I write because that’s who I am. I still LOVE writing old fashioned letters to friends and family (very few people do that anymore, but I find it very romantic – now if I could just find a guy who felt that way! ). I can get lost in the pen and paper section of an office supply store for hours. ;) I’ve written all my life starting when I was 6 years old with my very own diary.

  89. Katrina says:

    Hi Matthew,

    Thank you, as always, for the inspiring words!

    I love to make people smile. I mean, who doesn’t, right? I try to go out of my way everyday to do or say something to make someone smile. Whether that means calling a loved one to tell them how much I appreciate them, being goofy to make someone laugh or saying hello to a stranger on the street and telling them that I hope they have a wonderful day (and truly meaning it). Putting a smile on a stranger’s face holds some deep satisfaction for me. I feel like that person is going to keep spreading that smile for the rest of his or her day. Ok, maybe I *do* get a little something from that. ;)

    Thanks again, Matthew! I hope your next few weeks go as smoothly as possible. Good luck with everything!

    Kat

  90. Nurse T says:

    One: I make my patients laugh all day. They act shocked. They couldn’t possibly be sick and laughing.

    Two: I make my students figure out the answer themselves…If they did the work they know the answer…they just don’t know they know it. In the end, I end up with renewed energy from their thrill of learning something new.

  91. Nicola says:

    About 18 months I created NCG Street Pole. I work in health, fitness and movement fields. I teach, create, do my best to educate and share all that i know about wellbeing and physicality teaching different styles from Pilates to pole fitness to now my NCG Street Pole method. I love working with people and doing my best to make them value their physicality and wellbeing!!

    if you get a chance check this little video out! http://vimeo.com/47483135#at=0

    Your great Matthew! Thankyou for this work that you do! I have just finished reading Get the guy and there is sooo much in there that makes sense to me!!

  92. Veronica says:

    I’m at university and I race for the ski club. I’m not really any good, but I love it so much & have stuck with it the past year and a half and now I’ve seen massive improvements in my skiing!

    I do it because I love it and I never want to stop.

    Thanks for your post :)

  93. Trace says:

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE Architecture ! it’s less about making cool new buildings, but more about making places for all aspects in our lives and spaces for people to have meaningful experiences. funny enough, any architectural project starts out as a vision (the big idea) then models (cardboard castles, for sure), becoming more and more real every step along the way. I really believe that ‘if you build it, they will come’ – I take the same approach to my love life – you have to make the space for something amazing to happen !

    thanks a million Matthew, for all the positive energy

  94. Anya says:

    I love to write, to play with words and be swept-up by the rhythm of their beat. I also know that being filled with love, sending love out, understanding others and, dang nabbit, just enjoying my soul’s calling to make a positive difference in the world, is the sweetest reward there is. Keep following YOUR soul’s calling, Mr H – and keep spreading that love and light! x

  95. Stella says:

    Love your articles Mat! Always inspiring and motivating!
    I have a fashion blog that I love and want to grow more.

  96. cassie says:

    I am pursuing a career in writing/journalism. I’m doing it now for free but hopefully one day I will be paid for it :)

  97. Christa says:

    Honestly, I’m in a place in my life where I am focused on my work, career and myself. And while I’ve utilized some of the advice from GTG, I am feeling burnt out because in the spectrum of things, I don’t want my love life enough to spend the effort of it.

    However, I am grateful because I can still use some of the advice in my work, career, and other ambitions. I love doing what I do, and I’m going to continue doing it. I love singing, I love helping people through Psychology and working, and I love my life. So while GTG may have not actually snagged me a man… it’s helped me so much in other areas of my life.

    x

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Christa!

      Keep using the blog for everything in your life, and when you’re ready to think about your love life, I’ll be here. In the meantime you never know who might walk into your life when you’re not expecting it anyway : )

      x

  98. lobna wassim says:

    I guess everything I do has no awards or appreciation or even a future but I love painting even though I failed into getting into the college I want, I haven’t stopped creating my ideas because they teach me a lot about myself..

  99. Adventure Girl says:

    I bust my ass in the gym being the only girl in the weights section and the fittest girl ;)
    Riding motorbikes and diving – makes my heart sing :)

  100. Wave says:

    Oh Matt I love this entry! Especially the metaphor with the painter who paints because its who she is at her core.

    I am passionate about being creative. i love doing acrylic paintings and sculpturing mini creatures such as Willow Swan. Link is there if you are curious –> (http://browse.deviantart.com/art/Willow-Swan-316120043). I’ve been doing it since i was perhaps 8-9 and i love doing it because it is so much more than just a sculpture/painting – its a part of who i am :)

    You have a lovely day!
    Wave x

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