This Journalist Set Out To Destroy Me!

Hi guys!

I had to tell you this story, it’s crazy. This journalist came to write a story about how GetTheGuy didn’t work. Watch the video and see the dramatic twist!

Also, if after the video you want to read the final story she wrote, I’ve included a link underneath the vid!

Matthew x

P.S. There’s a BIG learning point in the video, so be sure to watch it through (and don’t forget to leave a comment : ).


Click HERE to check out the offer that Matthew talked about at the end of the video

“…it was meant to be an exposé of dating gurus and their empty-promise tactics. But then Nikki Bayley heard what dating pro Matthew Hussey had to say, and her love life changed forever…”


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  1. Emily Shepard says:

    BOOYAKASHA. That is the secret Hussey weapon–not being a bull**** peddler. The element of surprise is absolutely in your favour.

  2. Patty says:

    I decided to go back and watch your YouTube videos from the beginning. I’m so glad I found this article because it’s exactly what I need to work on my new goal to socialize more!
    What can I say after the retreat I need more of your words of wisdom! :)

  3. Liz says:

    I adore you, Matthew! I do believe in you and myself! To be honest, the article is very plain and not authentic. I understand that it’s typical for journalists to make some dramatic contrast. But this Glamour mag writing piece is unimpressive and shallow. I have to say it does not do your justice except the big name of Glamour!

  4. alexia says:

    Hi Matthew,i want to say that i have to thank this article,this magazine,this journalist and of course you!Actually it’s because of this article that i got the chance to know you!Honestly the more i was reading the article the more i used to get amazed by it!I’m really thankful that this journalist changed her mind and wrote this amazing article!!

  5. Anthea says:

    As per my previous entries, please come to Australia. Bought the ebook but it’s not the same!

  6. Ingrid Gräsbeck says:

    Wow! Just watched your video and read the article and I must say: that was truly inspiring and just simply amazing :)!

    Love, Ingrid

  7. Angel says:

    Hi Matthew,

    I NEED help!
    there’s this guy i like and he’s showing me some crazy signs he likes me !

    However i’m afraid he won’t aproach me because of his friend and i don’t know what to do anymore …

  8. Rosemary says:

    Hi Matthew,

    Any chance at all you’ll come to Ireland??? trust me we need you!!!!


  9. Bree says:

    Hi Matthew!
    Is there some way I can talk to you (email or whatever) a little more personally then in a comment here? I have a question that I really need some help with, and I trust your opinion more then anyone else’s. I’d love to come see your live event, but sadly I’m in the US (MO) and can’t go to London right now :(

    Thanks so much for everything!
    Bree <3

  10. Audra M. says:

    I have truly enjoyed watching any and all videos you have posted on YouTube. I love the emails I receive and I have put some tips to work and boy have the responses been great. thanks Matthew you totally rock. I just wish you could give a seminar here in Los Anegels, California but one day you will and I for sure will be one of many buying my way in into your seminars. If I had the funds to go to London I would so go. I wish you the best in this new year and hope to one day meet you.


    • Audra M. says:

      you were here in LA…lol now where was I when this all happened. Oh well…there is always next time. for the mean time I’ll just “keep on trucking”…one day I will meet you.


  11. faith says:

    Hi Matt,

    I’m curious. That GLAMOUR mag, what is the month issue? I kind of want to read it :)

  12. Dee says:

    I’ve already started setting money aside for when you come out to California. My goal for this year is to put myself out there and get the guy!! Thanks for this offer!!

  13. Jinny Chahal says:

    Just wandering why such rules/regulations/tips only work in the western world and not for example, in the Indian culture, or can someone prove me wrong? Speak to a bloke and he will ask, ‘what caste are you’? and when you respond with something that doesn’t suit his background then its, “Oh my parents won’t be best pleased, forget the coffee’…….such is life

  14. N says:

    “Yes Matthew! I’m serious about finding the man I’ve always wanted and creating my dream relationship with him and I want to be part of the Women’s Weekend Live experience!” of course!, but I checked the offer and I don’t have the money for Friday (if I don’t have the money means I am not serious?: of course not) Well, I will figure it out, maybe I would buy your resources by pieces separately in the future months or will save money for visit London and the Camp… in the meantime good luck to the other 1000 girls ;)

    • Julie says:

      I am in the same boat (or atleast the same lake) as you. Cant really afford it but doesnt make me less serious. Hope you get have success. Ps like how you wish the other girls luck.

  15. Karen says:

    Hey Matthew

    Firstly, I must compliment you on your very humble and supportive nature to everyone.

    The first time I came across your website, I bought your ebook and kept it aside but every time I see one of your videos or any newletters…it’s like a breath of fresh air. I met this guy I really like but it seems like everything is being stalled for some reason or the other.

    I did contact gettheguy but could not afford it then. I am planning to get in touch 3 months down the line.

    I just can’t wait.

    But Good work Matthew,

  16. angie says:

    Hi Matt,
    sadly,will never be able to take part in your events because I’m living and working in Hong Kong….a bit too far away!too bad!
    sorry in advance if my English might sound odd at times,but I’m not a native speaker.
    In any case,just wanted to tell you how great I think your advise is….I’ve always thought that just sitting and waiting I would never have got the guys I wanted, but your videos really revolutionised all my ideas about guys….Now that I know I can approach them without coming across as desperate I really feel more powerful….
    I’ll share this story to give more evidence your tips wotk out!…
    Over a month ago,I was paying my rent at the agency and there was a cute guy doing the same…well,Think he noticed I was looking at him from the corner of my eyes because he started talking to me…he was done before me and I would have really wanted to ask him to meet again in some way, but I hadn’t watched your videos yet and I lost the chance.
    Well,this afternoon I was at the library with a friend and I went get some water at the bar…guess who was sitting there????him!!!!in a city of 7.000.000 inhabitants it’s a strange cohicidence,isn’t it? SO I decided that I had to take action. Came back to the bar, ordered a coffee and set at the table nearest to him (well, in between there was another occupied), waited for a while,then said :”excuse me….”he turned his head and recognized me straight away,then I said: “yeah,I was just wondering whether it was you!” and he started a conversation. a couple of minutes later he said to me to sit at his table, and we carried on talking for half an hour (he was talking about his job-hunting, his aspirations, his Portouguese flatmate and asking me questions about my life,etc..) until I had to go back. In the middle of the conversation asked for my email,said he was going to write me about something I said before to him(it was about job), and later he said that we should have gone out for some drinks sometime.Before I left I found a very easy and non-suspicious way to discover whether he was single and he
    said that he had been going out with someone for a while but that it isn’t working out (;-)). When we said goodbye he said that he wanted to introduce me to his flatmate Carla coz we really have the same character.
    I came back home tonight and he had already got in touch. Said it was great to meet me today, apologized for rambling on during the conversation and said we should really meet up soon (he didn’t mention job at all) and that I should really meet this person. Well, it isn’t a date, but I guess not a bad beginning, considering that i can start working at the thing (you created a monster!;-)).
    Well,of course I’m gonna give him my number in the reply.

    take care!
    ps. I’m recommending your site all my single friends!

  17. Nuria says:

    What a beautiful story! By the way, I am journalist tooo.. :P

  18. Julie says:

    The saying ”never make quick judgements” ran so true. Glad to see more happiness has been made.

  19. Vee says:

    I so wish that I could make it to the event, but I am in an accelerated program here in the states and I have to wait until I’m done to be able to travel… however I had a question… there’s a guy that I like, and I have read that he likes me too as well. Only thing is that he plays hot and cold with me many times, and recently I read jealousy from him because I am close friends with his brother. It is as though he thinks that I am attracted to his brother instead… should I tell him that it is him that I am attracted to and not his brother, or would that seem to forward!!!

  20. Danica says:

    Hey Matt,
    That was very interesting story! I’m very glad she found it helpful for her too and changed her life. And yes Matt, I’m from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia and I have AlWAYS wished for you to come here and give one of your life events. I so want and ready to change my beliefs and have faith in something to get me moving on forward and create my own success in this world! Can’t wait for the link!:)

  21. Raeesa says:

    Hey Matt
    I am from South Africa and have been following your advice for a while now and I have no doubt that it works, Its so refreshing to finally get advice that works rather than being overwhelmed with advice about playing games (eventually I got so confused and gave up).
    You truly are one of the genuine gurus out there.
    Thanks for all your help and may 2012 be a great year for you and your team.

  22. Freda says:

    Hi Matt,
    Thanks for sharing such great videos. they’re very enthusiastic! I have a little question for you … I like this guy at my work who is very friendly but I’m not sure if he likes me too! We don’t have much opportunity to chat as there is no lunch time or such things and our jobs are not related!! We just occasionally meet in the kitchen area and that is for short… I always give him my friendly smile or talk to him whenever I get the chance. I’m a bit nervous in flirting as he’s my working colleague!!!! How would you think I can approach him?!! I live in Australia, can’t wait to attend your live events in here :)

  23. Maja says:

    Can’t wait to see what you have prepared for us :)
    I live in a country where there are only 2 million people. Half of those are elderly, half of the half are women, half of a quarter are married, and so on and so on…
    So you see, there’s really not a lot to choose from :)
    Ohh well…maybe I will have to go abroad to find my match :)
    Take care and I wish you a lot of success in 2012! :)

    Love from Slovenia
    Maja x

    • Diana says:

      I totaly agree with everything that Maja wrote. I’m from the same country and here’s NOTHING to choose from =/ very sad actually. :/

  24. Rachel says:

    Hey Matt,
    I live in Singapore and girls are generally more conservative and dont chat up men so readily. Speaking to any stranger is already hard as it is. However,I have tried some things you talk about and have become more confident on dating websites where we get to send messages and I have found that men do respond more positively to it. I’m close to getting a date with a guy who said ‘ he likes my confidence’ and now i realise that the advice you give transends culture too, something I was quite skeptical about when I first started listening to your videos.

    I really hope to attend your seminars one day and look forward to what you have to offer women outside the UK. Have a great 2012 and hope this year will be the year I find that special person. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!

  25. Brittany says:

    Q for Elham in Iran (above)!! Do they have arranged marriages in Iran?

  26. Angelica says:

    “This Journalist Set Out To Destroy Me!” ??

    Was “A Glamour Editor’s Desperate Attempt to Get A Date With Matthew Hussey” not a title that would get readers to read it? lol

  27. anna says:

    Owesome matt.. love your video, wish i can travel to UK ASAP… Happy New Year…

  28. Passion says:

    I wonder if that was the same Brazilian guy that recently broke it off with me by telling me that he was going to go still search for his dream girl and he wished me the best in me finding my dream guy? lol Do Brazilians have a special way of breaking people’s hearts called “stick a knife in it and then twist it”? lol

  29. Liz says:

    I love this!! It’s definitely inspiring. I actually find that I do a lot of this, but am too shy and get overwhelmed easily. I panic, just like the journalist said, when things are going good. It hits me and overwhelms me, so I panic. “Be brave, start conversations all the time”. So true! ehh, but sadly all this is easier said than done! such a challenge >:(
    Best regards.

  30. Ashley says:

    when I had come across get the guy I was really excited to get the guys point of view on dating; I had NO idea how to date or even how I approach the idea of either asking a guy out or inviting a guy to ask me out. see I have recently got out of a 8 1/2 year relationship with a man that I had been with since high school and needless to say you can’t count high school as dating experience. I am a very confident women in my career and in my self image but originally the idea of approaching men now that I was single was a scary idea. watching your videos and reading your blogs help me realize all I needed to do was transfer the confidence I already had in myself towards talking to men, I just needed to be my natural flirty self and everything else would fall into place. I had found that most of my fears were based on misconceptions about dating and that all I needed was douse of reality from the male perspective. I now have been out a few dates, even one with a ‘hot’ Matthew [good looks must run in that ‘family’ name ;) ]
    Thank you Matthew for helping me get out of my head and just enjoy the company of men no matter if it turn into something or not. I now absolutely love been my flirtatious self and I am now confident in taking to any man!
    Thanks again Matthew and I look forward to 24hrs from now to hear what you have going on!

    Kindest Regards

  31. Mary says:

    I’m eighteen and I live in the states. I’m subscribed to your emails, and I’d love to get to one of your events, but I have no money to go. No money to buy your book, either. If it’s not too much, could you email me? I need a lot of help.

  32. erica says:

    Thank you for your advice!.
    I was married for 8 years, got a divorced at 26, and I thought I was going to stay single for ever because of my experience, however I read your articles and saw a couples of your videos… I change my mind, I believe there there is someone for me, I just have to be prepare.

  33. S says:

    Hey Matt!

    I stumbled across your website a few months ago while trying to get over a bad break-up. I’ve always shied away from dating/life coaches – thought it was too desperate. But, I was at a point where I knew I had to change something, ’cause what I had been doing for a few years just wasn’t working. So, I started watching your videos. I immediately liked your style. You are so real, so authentic and don’t give any bs ‘rules’ to follow. And, I love that ‘getting the guy’ is just a bonus that will most absolutely happen when you make fundamental changes to your confidence and self-esteem. When you start putting up standards and boundaries and really just focus on having fun and enjoying life.
    I would love to attend one of your seminars. Do you have any plans to come to LA?



  34. Christine says:

    I can’t believe you actually respond to these comments! That’s such a considerate thing to do…I just found some of your videos on youtube on the first of the year and talk about a great way to start the year! I particularly liked the video response to the girl whose guy was “blowing her hot and cold,” because I am in a similar situation. If only I’d found the video a couple weeks sooner…actually though, I took some of your advice and put it to use and found that the “damage” I had caused was NOT irreparable! I am still talking to the guy and he’s become more and more responsive…I really want to go to the LA womens’ weekend since I live in San Diego, it’s the closest one…we’ll see if it gets booked up before I can get tickets!

  35. Irina says:

    Dear Matthew
    Happy New Year, I’d love to come to London and be one of the thousand, but right now I’m in Greece. Although I’m saving money and I’ll be there in September, I promise.
    My problem is that the men I fall in love with don’t see me sexually and consider me just a friend. I just got rejected from my crush of 3 months and it’s really painful. I really think he is Exactly what I always wanted in a man. Although he did flirt with me and gave me some signals that he was interested. The thing is he told my best friend ( a guy friend) that he would never have sex with me and doesn’t see me that way plus we are co-workers so it would be awkward. He, my crush, doesn’t truly know how I feel and thank God because he would distance himself and/or feel sorry for me.
    Anyways, another weird thing is that my friend told me I should have made the first move and that my crush gave me many opportunities to advance things to another level. People here I guess, they don’t date instead they have sex first then maybe date. I’m originally from Santa Barbara, California.
    It’s not the first time I’m rejected, especially the last three years I have been rejected so much that I’m starting to think men will never love me and I will be single the rest of my life. Maybe I’m not meant to be loved.

    At least I’m Grateful that you exist Matthew!

  36. BRENDA LINDEN says:

    Yes,yes,I want to be one of 1000

  37. Sandra says:

    Matthew has seriously been the only man I actually trust listening to when it comes to this advice and I eat up everything he says. I soooo wish I lived in the U.K. so that I could attend his weekend seminar!
    Matthew, it truely is the way you speak to us and the softness and words you choose (not to mention you are VERY easy on the eyes as well ;)
    I have applied alot and am now putting myself in those arenas to watch it unfold!
    Much love and many thanks,

  38. Love says:

    I love you Mathew… You are very cute and handsome!!! ;)

  39. Alice says:

    I read some of the blog things you have done on YouTube. I liked them they were good I’m a student so I can’t really afford to go to your meeting things, however if there was one in Brighton and hove I’d go. From what your blogs have said like going out more I have been doing lol I haven’t really been doing it for the guys it’s more for me and socialising I go swimming every week which is good and I’m getting more confidence in myself as a person erm well lol I wanted to write to ask something I’ve noticed the more confidence I ha e the more guys look at me I was walking down the street and this guy checked me out it was embarrassing because I couldn’t tell whether he was looking at the fact I had very short, shorts on and I had a dress top on the top but you couldn’t see my shorts but also I’ve been called names by guys such a’s a bit of all right whatever that means and sexy so yet I’m happier thanks for the blifs they have helped!!

  40. Catherine says:

    I first heard about Get the Guy a couple of years ago..being advertised in Glamour magazine! Would they really try to do an article trashing Get the Guy if they have previously done positive editorial on it? I smell a rat, Matthew, I smell a rat…;)
    Anyway, I’ve been to one of the days in London and there was some good advice which I have taken on board. However, I do loads of activities outside of my work and socialise a lot and I haven’t met a single man in my vague age bracket for years that I’ve been interested in (I’m 28). I work in a public-facing job and as a consequence I’ve been asked out – but by men that are either not single or you just wouldn’t go there (ie alcoholics twice my age for example!) I’ve tried to stay positive, I look after my appearance and try to force myself to be more outgoing when meeting new people but I’m starting to think that it’s a myth that there’s someone for everyone.

    • Nikki Bayley says:

      No rats. Just honest reporting. I’m freelance – I write for lots of different titles – and hadn’t encountered Get The Guy before, so I went along as a fresh pair of eyes – and ears. And yes, was TOTALLY cynical about it. The feature I wrote is exactly what happened… If you’re a regular Glamour reader, you’ll have read other dating and relationship stories from me over the past years and know that I am 100% no-holds-barred-honest when it comes to sharing my experiences in my work.
      I’m still enjoying being out there and talking to EVERYONE.
      oh – and Biddy – I’m neither crazy nor drunk!

  41. Severine says:

    I have attended one to the Women’s weekend in December last year.
    Besides the high energy and enthusiam from the participants and the GTG team, Matt has helped me shifting my thinking on the Mysterious and Complicated World of Men!
    My life has started to change in only 5 weeks, putting some tips into practice: my social network has never been expanding so fast, I meet so many interesting people EVERYDAY, I have a few options… but more importantly I am enjoying all these rituals and challenges :-)
    This article is a big compliment to you Matt, well done!
    But thinking about the situation in which it would not have worked out in 7 days, for 2 things to keep in mind:
    – The most important and enjoyable part is the journey: you learn so much about yourself and others. I’m not worried about the result anymore, I know it will happen soon (and I don’t mean in 3 years from now)
    – And Matt, even if you were the journalist’s cup of tea at all, what really matters is all men and women you are inspiring, helping and making happy :D! Who cares about the rest?
    I want to be part of the 1000 Women by the way… bring the challenges on!
    Severine x

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Severine,
      You’re right, the most important part is the journey, and it can be so much fun and so rewarding! Thankyou for your support!
      Matthew x

  42. N says:

    mmm…. Ok if you want big challenges, I am definitely one challenging case… So, I will be one of the 1000 let’s see… Frankly, I usually think love coaches tend to exploit women desperation, but I’ve been following Matthew’s videos randomly and he speaks in a logical, confident and positive way, it sounds very honest and serious to me…. Let’s see I will try it, I am very stubborn sometimes I have resistance to change some parts of my personality that I fought a lot to build… Matthew remember the cultural barriers for some ladies some things are extremely complicated because the way we had been raced in our born countries… Ok count with me, new year, new challenges… 6 months is good :D I want to do a lot of gym and new things this year! I am tired of singletown…

    • Matthew says:

      Hey N,
      Thankyou for putting your faith in me, I feel really grateful. I’ll do everything I can to keep giving you all the support you need to get out there and make it happen!
      Matthew x

  43. swati says:

    when i came across get the guy, i had a similar view point that the writer has. been through a patch of bad relation, having failed at bounce back relation, and gone through many such ‘dating gurus’ had let me grumpy.

    the initial few videos and tips that i got via mail, changed my view and as i went to get more inputs and as i started to implement them in my life, i started to see the change and i eventually bought the ebook. which, hands down, was the best choice i ever made. it not just changed my view on relationships, i changed my view on life, and of myself.

    I am now a much more happy person, who is not desperately looking for a man to fill the hollow of my life. I live a happy, exciting and satisfied life, and I can see how it has changed the way men look at me. I am constaly flooded by compliments and attention. All my friends are surprised at the change they see in me. Its impossible for me to go to a place and walk out without friends. Best part is, I dont just have guys asking me out for date, I have many new friends who are wonderful people, and i would have never met them, had I not followed Mathew’s advice. Its great to go to a place and have talking to people and walk out of the place few friends richer.

    So in case I have never done it so far, I want to say, Thank you so much Mathew, for all that you managed to change in my life, and my view by your book, letters, videos and lessons. I cant wait for 24 hrs.

    Ohh and Mathew, you sure are hot looking, the reason why even i started watching your videos :)

    • Matthew says:

      Swati, you are so lovely! I’m so glad you enjoyed the book. As time goes on I’m going to continue to create new resources which I hope will help you just as much as the ones you have used so far. I’m so impressed with everything you have achieved. Congratulations for being one of life’s action takers and truly making it happen. You rock! Matthew x

  44. Amandyne says:

    I will be one of the 1000 women because I changed my belief and I know it will happen :-)

  45. Biddy says:


    Absolutely loving this video. I think the woman is crazy or drunk for doing such a stupid thing!

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Biddy. I guess we all go through cynical patches at times. I think she was great for having the courage to try it in the end and see what it could do. She really was a great sport, and I’m grateful she gave me the opportunity. Matthew

  46. Martina says:

    Hi Matt!

    This is an amazing story! It shows how honest and successful your work is! It’s amazing!
    I live in Austria and it’s not possible for me to attend your live events at the moment. But i’m reading your blog and watch your videos because they make me feel better in so many ways! My confidence got much better just by watching your videos!
    It’s incredible!
    Thank you for everything! I wish you all the best for 2012 and I’m looking forword for new videos and blogs! you are amazing and i hope that I can improve my lovelife as well as my confidence soon!

    All the best

    • Matthew says:

      Thanks Martina! Great to have a follower in Austria! Maybe i’ll come there one day : ), I love to travel and have never been. In the meantime, keep following, more good stuff on the way! Matt x

  47. Si says:

    I’ve followed Matt during his mens courses, but I just had to admit that I am gay… The mens materials are great but I want to learn more material that helps me with a guy who responds to ‘female’ tactics as I have no problems with guys who want to be with an alpha male but some guys like to be alpha too and two alphas dont really make a good couple . I realise I cannot go to the seminars but really want some DVD ‘s / ebooks.How do I get this stuff Matt ?.

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Si! Great to have you here! The best thing to do is sign up for the GetTheGuy newsletter. Through that you’ll get a chance to get a copy of the ebook. I think you’ll find it fascinating and really helpful to learn that perspective. Let me know what you think!
      Matthew x

  48. elham says:

    hey Matt,I’d love to be one of those 1000 women,but unfotunately I’m not in UK,I live in Iran.
    If you can do anything for me,I’ll appreciate
    thank you

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Elham,
      We conduct one to one coaching all over the world via Skype, I can put you in touch with someone on my team to discuss if you would like? Simply send an email to and someone will be in touch!
      We look forward to working with you!
      Matthew x

  49. sharrollene crow says:

    this sounds good to me too. thanks.

  50. Olexa Capili says:


    I will not only be one of those 1,000 women, but will also be leading the way for the group!!! :) I loved your video and admire that you had the integrity and gave of your time to help out the journalist, even after she confessed to you what her original intentions were! You are a true leader by your actions. I will be a lifelong friend and fan.


    (P.S. – Like the journalist, I too have picked up a guy at the Apple store! It is a MECCA of hot, techno-savvy guys with money to spend on the latest gadgets! I will be offering to take the ladies from the Women’s Weekend in NY down to the central Apple store in Manhattan and coach them on picking up men! :)

  51. Conchita says:

    Love it! And back in the day, I was completely adept at operating the way Matthew recommends. But there came a time when I had to focus on other priorities, like child-rearing and making a living, and the male attention I was receiving was mostly unwelcome. So I devised this sort of cloaking device that, sadly, works only too well–I am almost completely invisible! But now I am resolved to fight my way out of this “shell” and be myself again. Good luck to us all–Cheers! :-)

  52. Emzi says:

    I would love to be one of those 1000 women to get the guy I want……..I’m a lost cause though :0(

    • Matthew says:

      Far from it Emzi, I’ve never met a single women I believed to be a lost cause, and I’ve worked with thousands! x

  53. Anna says:

    Love it! I read the article and became very interested! This is something much more.

  54. Sophie Thorpe says:

    I have attended Matthews’ Women’s Weekend, back in November 2011, and can confirm that it does work. I’ve put into practice a number of ‘new’ behaviours and rituals over the past few months, including going out more and with like-minded women, talking to more men, smiling much much more than I used to, using more physical contact, complimenting men, being gracious when they help (like holding a door open or letting me go first – and lets face it, how often does that happen in London!!) and using the Texting technique to encourage responses. I have now found myself ‘courting’ a younger guy who i’ve had my eye on for about 6 months. He’s super hot and super positive and lots of fun – I have no idea where or what it will lead to, I’m just enjoying his company right now. And, if it leads to nothing then I know exactly what I have to do to create more of the same.
    Thank you Matthew!
    Sophie x

    • Matthew says:

      Woohoo, yet another woman out there killing it! What an amazing mindset you have. Soon you guys are going to be running these courses without me haha xx

  55. Daphne Boer says:

    I get exited every time i see one of your video´s… and what a amassing article. I gif it a go.. see what it brings me!!!! and I´m relay curious now about the link you promised… and I will come to London to see it so count me in!!!

  56. Abbie sunter says:

    After coming out of very bumpy relationship (to say the least) I cant wait to get back out there and just talk to more guys and have fun with it. Matthew your videos and newsletters always give me a little boost after reading them so i cant wait to see what you have up your sleeve this year! SHOW ME THE LINK! SHOW ME THE LINK! :D

    – Abbie x

  57. Saša says:

    Really amazing. I’ve read your eBook and I must say I’ve tried some of your advices,but after avile I stoped trying and i don’t know why. I didn’t get any date but at least I’ve chat with the guys. Now I read Nikki’s article and i decided that I will also (again) try your 7-rules. This weeked I’ll go skiing and it’s a great opportunity to try it. Hope I’ll succeeded to!

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Sasa,
      “Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around”. Let’s get out there and create some new results!!! Keep going!
      Matthew x

  58. Ximena says:

    Still confused becacuse I have a lots of books that advised you the play hard to get, even grandmothers!… now my behavior is between hot and cold with men in general, Thanks.

    • Matthew says:

      Don’t worry about engaging in tons of rules, worry about taking action! It can be simpler than you think.
      Thanks for watching Ximena! x

  59. Ashleigh says:

    Loved the video, very excited to see the offer! I live in the U.S. and just can’t make it to the weekends like I want to. Happy New Year! :)

    • Matthew says:

      Happy new year to you Ashleigh! I’ve got something coming up that’s going to be perfect for you. Will let you know asap!
      Matthew x

  60. Lourdes Valencia says:

    WOW! I read the article and saw your video: its amazing!!! Congratulations!!! She truly now became in a new different person!

    For me I what to be in one of those 1,000 but the thing is i live in a different country in the other side of the world, so, maybe next time. Later I put down what’s going on my “thing” with a guy (he doesn’t what to commit yet).

    I wish you the BEST Matthew :) I love yours videos and somehow you make me feel enthusiastic every time I watch them.

    =) Be well.


    • Matthew says:

      Keep watching this space Lula, I’ve got something on the way for you in February. It’s going to change everything for those people who can’t make it to London for the live event!
      Thanks for your support!
      Matthew x

  61. jenny says:

    I read Nikki’s article and have been reading and listening to things from get the guys since. Just from that I have already changed how I think about the possibility of being in a realtionship and I have joined a cycle club to create possible opportunities (that I have been talking about doing for 2 years). I am waiting with baited breath for tomorrow, thanks Matthew and gettheguy (and Nikki)

  62. brenda says:

    I have a simple little question… I transfered to another office… but there’s this guy that flirted with me at the last place… could I call him and give him my number or have a friend of mine hand him my number… with a little message call me sometime? or would that be too pushy

    • Rinnie says:

      I know I’m not Matt, but I’d say go for it! If you’re on Facebook or something, just send a little flirty message saying ‘I’d love to keep in touch. Here’s my number’. :)

    • Matthew says:

      Say to him cheekily “I always meant to flirt with you but ran out of time! Give me a call sometime” then give him your number with a playful smile!
      Matt x

  63. Erin says:

    Hi Matt,

    I really agree with your reflection about the journey being more important than the outcome of ‘getting the guy’- believing in yourself, having faith and seeing beauty and love around you in the simplest of forms has given me a sense of happiness, fulfillment and strength that supersedes anything I’ve ever experienced in a relationship. I’m in Australia otherwise I would come to one of your events. I love the emails though!

    Erin x

    • Matthew says:

      Hey Erin!
      I’d love to meet you in person, my cousins are in Australia right now and I miss them so much, so maybe I’ll make the trip sometime this year, who knows! Then we can run an event there : )
      Matthew x

  64. John P Morgan says:

    Nice work Matthew!

  65. Ilze says:

    Funny thing. I live in Switzerland and read the article few weeks ago. For a while I’ve been thinking – maybe I should travel to London for a weekend. But after seeing the video I’m putting the thought away for 24 hours!!! :)

  66. Hayley Parkin says:

    Loved this article :) Matt has personaly helped me out, probably a lot more than he realises! I will and have recommended him to anyone who will listen. Admitedly he ended up as more of a life coach than a dating coach at the time we met, which was what I needed desperately at the time. I was in a bad way, and may not have made it to where I am now without him, but things are now going brilliantly! A lot of his advice did not make sense at the time, but I persevered, because I had nothing more to loose, and it worked. I have yet to find my Mr Right, but with me happy, more confident and doing well in my life, he will come along eventually and I will be ready.

    And the reporter in the article is right! He IS gorgeous!

    • Matthew says:

      Hayley! The same Hayley who travelled into London to meet me?? It’s so exciting to hear from you!! Send me an email and tell me about your life, I’d love to hear it. This is so amazing to know you are doing so well, I knew you could! WELL DONE!!!
      All my love! Matthew
      PS Don’t forget to email me, can’t wait to hear all about it : )

      • Hayley Parkin says:

        Hey, just emailed your team asking them to forward the email to you. Hope you get it x

      • Stefanie says:


        I just watched one of your videos on youtube.. And I was wondering where can I get the DVD “get the guy” I searched all around the internet and didn’t find anything.

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