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Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory

Are you struggling today? Does it feel like the universe has dealt you a s**tty hand?

If the answer is yes, then let’s talk….

Let’s Celebrate the Small Stuff Together. What’s Your Tiny Victory?
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Being at the top of your game. Peak performance. Maximizing your potential. Being the best you could be. Living your best life. Nothing could feel more off your radar when you’re in a place of depression, deep anxiety, deep hurt. When you are feeling shit. I’m interested in that person today. Not how do I get you to live an extraordinary life, how do we transform you? But how do we start celebrating the tiny victories? Because I believe that when you’re in that state and when everything in your life I know the feeling everything in your life feels tinged with pain or hurt or darkness, nothing, literally there is nothing you want to do. When you’re in that state, eating breakfast feels like a big deal, going and taking a shower, simply getting out of bed feels like a huge thing. Forget the rest of the day because when you’re in the place that I’m talking about right now, the rest of the day feels like a marathon.

You can’t even process getting through the rest of the day, so let’s not focus on that. Let’s focus on the next 20 minutes after you watch this video. So what could you do in the next 20 minutes? Feed your body something healthy. Do something physical. Even if it’s something small. Read a page of a book that you feel might nourish you. You don’t even have to guarantee that it will. Don’t obsess over what book it is. This book might help. Read one page instead of looking at social media or whatever else might not help you. It could be watching a video, a video you’ve proactively chosen because you believe it might inspire you or it might spark an idea or it might have you think about something differently. Or maybe you feel like everything I’m talking about right now, even the smallest things, are too much.

Then great, do fucking nothing. Take the next few minutes to sit there and do nothing but do nothing slightly better than you normally do. Decide for a couple of minutes, “I’m going to put that problem to one side while I get really mindful about my breath and if I feel it coming back, I’m just going to note it and then get back to my breath.” Just training your mind and your focus on your breath for a couple of minutes is a tiny victory. It’s a form of training your focus. And by the way, this isn’t just about doing things in the next 20 minutes that could create tiny victories. I also want you to think about what tiny victories have already happened today. I want you to find a five minutes from today where you felt neutral because those things are reference points. Those things become these little hooks of potential on which you hang this sense that things can be better. This idea that it can be better.

If five minutes today was okay, was neutral, let’s make more of those minutes. Let’s worry about creating another five minutes like that. And what we’ll begin to do is create some small momentum. It doesn’t mean you won’t backslide, doesn’t mean you won’t feel pain again, doesn’t mean you might not feel it again tonight. But let’s create more of those minutes. Today, give yourself a break from the big shit and all the things that you wish you could be doing if you could only feel better or whatever.

Let’s start with the most humble, modest, nothing things that may to everyone else seem like it’s ridiculous to celebrate that, but we will because we’re celebrating the tiny victories. What’s a tiny victory that you didn’t celebrate today that you should? Something that if you are embarrassed at how small it is, write in the comments, I want to read it. And if you can’t think of anything, take the next 20 minutes or even the next five and do something to create that tiny victory, and leave me a comment letting me know what that thing is. I’ll see you guys next week.

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160 Replies to “Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory”

  • After doing every other job under the sun at home, I finally forced myself to sit down and finish writing my school reports

  • The page read has indeed helped me to get over the pain
    Your advice if focus is awesome it has made me stronger and confident
    Thankyou co
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  • I needed that today. Been a tough week for depression. Reminders are always important. This is one of the best I got in a very long time. Just celebrating small victories. Well I just brushed my fury dog and I took him for a walk. That is my victory today. Thank you! Make more of theses…. please…

  • Matthew,
    Good evening. Coach,about my tiny victory today is all about celebrating a Father’s Day without a father. Without biological father, without the fatherof my daughter without my brothers, without any man. Lately I go to mall just to give my self a break but I realized while having my lunch how lonely my life was.You know what Matthew in side of my mind tells me that Maureen you don’t have to be sad. Why because there’s nothing to be pity(self pity) maybe it’s not the right time for me to have a man again in my life and it’s okay. As I lay in my bed now I said again to myself that life is good to me. No more to complain but to be grateful and thankful. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring but the happiness that I look is always besides me and in inside my heart.

  • Thank you and god bless you for this post, Matthew! Today I will celebrate being able to walk again. I’ve been really sick since January when I lost the use of my leg and right hand due to a severe autoimmune flare. Over the past month however I have worked hard towards being able to walk 1.5 km per day. Today I walked around 2 km. My leg is really sore, I am exhausted and I was ready to cry just waiting for a cab to pick me up and take me home after this long walk. But right now I am sitting at home with my feet up, resting my poor leg and celebrating being able to walk. It is a huge victory for me and something that most people take for granted. So god bless you, Matthew, and thank you for this video!

  • My victory today was to stop thinking about the negative treatment I’ve received recently from someone. It was to stop playing over in my mind what I want to say to try to get them to stop. It was to remind myself that I can’t control anyone else’s behaviour but I can control my reactions and how much I hold onto the feelings resulting from that negative behaviour. Once I did that, I let it go for a moment and enjoyed just relaxing in my own space. Giving myself the space to let it go and just be was freeing.

  • Another brilliant video, Matthew! You may never know fully, the impact that you have on so many listeners…thank you.

  • Today, I got up at 6am, after working 11 hours behind the bar yesterday, Ive cooked a healthy breakfast and made a delicious cup of tea, now I’m reading a little before calling my Dad, wishing him Happy Father’s Day before work

  • Matthew I am consistently BLOWN away by your kindness and generosity! So moved by your genuine care for others and commitment to serv-I can totally FEEL it in your work. I am a psychotherapist in DC and I recommend your work to clients often because I know that you do your homework and are able to share important content like this on depression with compassion, knowledge and care. Please keep talking about what everyone is afraid to talk about, anxiety, self-harm, addiction, std’s, shame… You are a tremendous resource for women who are struggling and I am so grateful to have found your work. Thank you so much for your courage and dedication, know you’re making a HUGE difference.

  • Wow, Matthew it’s unbelievable how you find a way to be there for me when I need you the most. Thank you and a hundred more times thank you! My tiny victory today was watching this video, I feel so fortunate to have you in my life.

  • Tiny victory was not pushing the dogs away from giving me morning kisses or for me to pet them. Exactly what you said in the video is me at the current time.

  • I went out camping today. It was great. I am celebrating life after being rejected. I have started to see my worth and started to focus on improving. Thank you for your videos.

  • Last night, my friend’s reaction made me feel inappropriate and it hurt me.
    I sent a message to invite her for a lunch and take her out of the environment she’s in.
    I think she may need a break, and now I’m very happy I did it.

  • My ex and I managed to sort out a whole room in our joint house and pack it up WITHOUT arguing. And when I left I didn’t cry!!!

  • My tiny victory today was to start the book The School of Greatness. It’s been more than 1.5 years since I’m no longer with the man I love and it’s been tough. He chose to be with other people and no matter how intelligent, successful, strong you are this can hit your confidence soooo much! I still find it hard sometimes to get through it. This book thought gives me many reasons to smile and be better!

  • I think the tiny victory I had today was be able to sell something I loved to eat today my family dogs and me once at least for tody. I’ve been feeling really bad I even thought in killing myself cause the life we live in Venezuela everyday is a real struggle. I don’t have dreams anymore cause I can’t get out of here. But today I was able to buy something few but we are gonna eat.. And I still don’t feel well cause I just miss what I sold.. And I’ve no work yet

  • The smallest victory I accomplished was phoning a taxi in Milan and ordering a taxi at the right address and time to take me to the airport ( in Italian) … successfully

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