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Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory

Are you struggling today? Does it feel like the universe has dealt you a s**tty hand?

If the answer is yes, then let’s talk….

Let’s Celebrate the Small Stuff Together. What’s Your Tiny Victory?
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Being at the top of your game. Peak performance. Maximizing your potential. Being the best you could be. Living your best life. Nothing could feel more off your radar when you’re in a place of depression, deep anxiety, deep hurt. When you are feeling shit. I’m interested in that person today. Not how do I get you to live an extraordinary life, how do we transform you? But how do we start celebrating the tiny victories? Because I believe that when you’re in that state and when everything in your life I know the feeling everything in your life feels tinged with pain or hurt or darkness, nothing, literally there is nothing you want to do. When you’re in that state, eating breakfast feels like a big deal, going and taking a shower, simply getting out of bed feels like a huge thing. Forget the rest of the day because when you’re in the place that I’m talking about right now, the rest of the day feels like a marathon.

You can’t even process getting through the rest of the day, so let’s not focus on that. Let’s focus on the next 20 minutes after you watch this video. So what could you do in the next 20 minutes? Feed your body something healthy. Do something physical. Even if it’s something small. Read a page of a book that you feel might nourish you. You don’t even have to guarantee that it will. Don’t obsess over what book it is. This book might help. Read one page instead of looking at social media or whatever else might not help you. It could be watching a video, a video you’ve proactively chosen because you believe it might inspire you or it might spark an idea or it might have you think about something differently. Or maybe you feel like everything I’m talking about right now, even the smallest things, are too much.

Then great, do fucking nothing. Take the next few minutes to sit there and do nothing but do nothing slightly better than you normally do. Decide for a couple of minutes, “I’m going to put that problem to one side while I get really mindful about my breath and if I feel it coming back, I’m just going to note it and then get back to my breath.” Just training your mind and your focus on your breath for a couple of minutes is a tiny victory. It’s a form of training your focus. And by the way, this isn’t just about doing things in the next 20 minutes that could create tiny victories. I also want you to think about what tiny victories have already happened today. I want you to find a five minutes from today where you felt neutral because those things are reference points. Those things become these little hooks of potential on which you hang this sense that things can be better. This idea that it can be better.

If five minutes today was okay, was neutral, let’s make more of those minutes. Let’s worry about creating another five minutes like that. And what we’ll begin to do is create some small momentum. It doesn’t mean you won’t backslide, doesn’t mean you won’t feel pain again, doesn’t mean you might not feel it again tonight. But let’s create more of those minutes. Today, give yourself a break from the big shit and all the things that you wish you could be doing if you could only feel better or whatever.

Let’s start with the most humble, modest, nothing things that may to everyone else seem like it’s ridiculous to celebrate that, but we will because we’re celebrating the tiny victories. What’s a tiny victory that you didn’t celebrate today that you should? Something that if you are embarrassed at how small it is, write in the comments, I want to read it. And if you can’t think of anything, take the next 20 minutes or even the next five and do something to create that tiny victory, and leave me a comment letting me know what that thing is. I’ll see you guys next week.

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160 Replies to “Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory”

  • Hi Matthew
    Well first of all
    Thanks for caring about mental health, it’s hard coz people don’t understand why and how can you be depressed? And when no one else is around.
    I’m having a hard month, my dad passed away, his and my birthday on this month. Father’s Day
    And no having a clue of what to do with my life.

  • I took the dog out to go to the loo. I am going to take a shower, just got to muster the energy, I know I will feel better, but what does it matter if I do? I’ll just be feelin shit again tomorrow.

  • I had bigger victories today. But the one that means the most: I chose to breathe through the sadness. The “he didn’t choose me” thoughts kept coming, and I kept breathing.

  • I made a decision to take the long view look of a great living situation on a day I was tempted to complain A LOT.

  • Hi Matt, I asked for something I needed from my partner this morning, verbal affirmation, and told him that it is important to me because it’s how I feel cared for by him. He listened, heard me, and responded as I needed. You’ve taught me how to set my standard, communicate my needs and wants in a loving manner, and have value for myself.

    After my divorce from a man I met when I was 18 years old (spent 30 years with, 19 of those married), to say I was terrified to get out in the dating world is an underestimate. I took time to heal and began following you to gain my confidence and skills in getting myself out there and meeting people. After some crazy online dating situations, I have found someone I really care about and we have been in a relationship for three years now. I can’t tell you how much you have helped me through this journey and I am extremely grateful! Thank you!

  • My tiny victory for x20 mins…..I didn’t cry. Today is the anniversary of my fathers death, 22yrs ago on Fathers Day. I’m divorced, I’m a single mum, I have x2 kids & this year I have felt totally overwhelmed by the loss of my father.
    Watching the video while laying on my bed after a painful lunch with my ex & children, helped me feel less ‘shit’ & less alone.
    A tiny victory.x

  • Today, all my meals were healthy. But more importantly, I didn’t cry at any point during the day even though life seems bleak at the moment. This video came at the perfect time for me and even if its just me and Matthew celebrating, I’m getting there :)

    Thank you, Matthew. You keep changing my life. For the better.

    Zena

  • Took tons of photos of Roses in garden close up.Watched this video and cried for first time in along time, feeling “sh….t” felt so good :) thank you Matthew for being honest and real

  • Thank you, Matthew, for this video! It came in the right moment for me, when I thought nothing could get better today. Thank you for giving me a reason to smile.

  • I went to hot pilates/HIIT class then to get an acai bowl, I sat alone & ate it outside, enjoyed the beautiful weather, didnt think about much at all, just enjoyed how good it was & the quite time.

  • I was letting life overwhelm me and this was exactly what I needed to hear today! I’m building on my small victories and allowing myself time to do absolutely nothing! Thanks!

  • Matthew, thank you for being my unofficial coach! I love you and your words of wisdom. This video was absolutely wonderful in the sense that this is a very enlightening message to all of us out there who are going through heartache. My boyfriend dumped ms about 2 months ago today actually and I do as a matter of fact celebrate the tiny victories through this difficult period in my life. So I started to tear up thinking, yes! Exactly! Just being able to do nothing and then work on small steps of recovery to get to a place of normalcy sums up my life at the moment. Thank you so much for this video I felt it sent a message to all who feel this way that’s ok. One step at a time type deal. And yes your videos do help me so please make more like these. I could really use a daily dose of this from you coach!!! Lots of love! xoxo

  • I have continued to achieve my exercise goals every month by running 100 miles a month and going to 15 barre classes a month. Did all this despite how difficult the last 6 months have been.

  • I deal with major Anxiety and today i dropped of my boyfriend off at the trainstation. There were millions of people around me and i felt my heart racing, got blurry vision and just had a feeling like i was gonna pass out.
    Even though it took all my energy i stayed because i wanted to properly say goodbye and so i stayed till the train came.
    This was a big deal for me because i usually run away from everything.
    People with anxiety and panic attacks can relate..but to me that was a victory

  • Going to a DIY store to get done masonry paint…. my husband who left me on Jan would have done this.

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