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Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory

Are you struggling today? Does it feel like the universe has dealt you a s**tty hand?

If the answer is yes, then let’s talk….

Let’s Celebrate the Small Stuff Together. What’s Your Tiny Victory?
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Being at the top of your game. Peak performance. Maximizing your potential. Being the best you could be. Living your best life. Nothing could feel more off your radar when you’re in a place of depression, deep anxiety, deep hurt. When you are feeling shit. I’m interested in that person today. Not how do I get you to live an extraordinary life, how do we transform you? But how do we start celebrating the tiny victories? Because I believe that when you’re in that state and when everything in your life I know the feeling everything in your life feels tinged with pain or hurt or darkness, nothing, literally there is nothing you want to do. When you’re in that state, eating breakfast feels like a big deal, going and taking a shower, simply getting out of bed feels like a huge thing. Forget the rest of the day because when you’re in the place that I’m talking about right now, the rest of the day feels like a marathon.

You can’t even process getting through the rest of the day, so let’s not focus on that. Let’s focus on the next 20 minutes after you watch this video. So what could you do in the next 20 minutes? Feed your body something healthy. Do something physical. Even if it’s something small. Read a page of a book that you feel might nourish you. You don’t even have to guarantee that it will. Don’t obsess over what book it is. This book might help. Read one page instead of looking at social media or whatever else might not help you. It could be watching a video, a video you’ve proactively chosen because you believe it might inspire you or it might spark an idea or it might have you think about something differently. Or maybe you feel like everything I’m talking about right now, even the smallest things, are too much.

Then great, do fucking nothing. Take the next few minutes to sit there and do nothing but do nothing slightly better than you normally do. Decide for a couple of minutes, “I’m going to put that problem to one side while I get really mindful about my breath and if I feel it coming back, I’m just going to note it and then get back to my breath.” Just training your mind and your focus on your breath for a couple of minutes is a tiny victory. It’s a form of training your focus. And by the way, this isn’t just about doing things in the next 20 minutes that could create tiny victories. I also want you to think about what tiny victories have already happened today. I want you to find a five minutes from today where you felt neutral because those things are reference points. Those things become these little hooks of potential on which you hang this sense that things can be better. This idea that it can be better.

If five minutes today was okay, was neutral, let’s make more of those minutes. Let’s worry about creating another five minutes like that. And what we’ll begin to do is create some small momentum. It doesn’t mean you won’t backslide, doesn’t mean you won’t feel pain again, doesn’t mean you might not feel it again tonight. But let’s create more of those minutes. Today, give yourself a break from the big shit and all the things that you wish you could be doing if you could only feel better or whatever.

Let’s start with the most humble, modest, nothing things that may to everyone else seem like it’s ridiculous to celebrate that, but we will because we’re celebrating the tiny victories. What’s a tiny victory that you didn’t celebrate today that you should? Something that if you are embarrassed at how small it is, write in the comments, I want to read it. And if you can’t think of anything, take the next 20 minutes or even the next five and do something to create that tiny victory, and leave me a comment letting me know what that thing is. I’ll see you guys next week.

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160 Replies to “Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory”

  • Thank you for this video Matthew! It feels like I have a big brother listening to you even though I’m older than you. I recently recovered from a severe relapse of depression so I know just how important those tiny victories are (e.g. getting out of bed, making it to work, showering). Unfortunately my boyfriend broke up with me just as I recovered almost a month ago. Today I was in my head about how I was missing him and feeling sorrowful (distinctly different than depression!).

    I forgot about my victories today. I actually went zip lining at one of the world’s 10 best zip lines and all I could think about was how much I wanted to share the experience with my ex. I discounted the fact that I went and the victory that is to “fly” across a jungle and how freeing it was. It was a big victory and it was easier than getting out of bed when I suffered from depression. Now I am also present to the little victories that added up and helped me get out of depression too, and I know I’ll be alright.

  • I made it thru the day with my 3 young Grandsons here. Babysitting daily is no joke… especially when you dont feel like doing anything at all…they are my small victory. They get me up out of my bed. Grandma life…

  • I’ve been in this “place” you described for far too long…Years. It’s nice to read a helpful article that actually applies to a state of mind that no one wants to admit to. Thank you, Matthew.

  • I got the dog walked and breakfast made and to work on time. Today that was a tiny victory because sometimes things just feel sucky.

  • Love this :) It may be a small and simple thing, but I meditated for the first time in a long time – quietly , peacefully and alone this morning. It gave some reflection time and some huge insights on ‘who’ and ‘what’ there is to appreciate in life. Also,I realized, (congratulating my logical mind by the way, which can sometimes be quite negatively charged) that with every knock down, there is always an opportunity to make the most of the situation. To put these thoughts and feelings into words is a moment in my day that I am ultimately Thankful for. The crushing stress suddenly feels slightly lighter and the energy shift is a welcomed one! Thx Matt :D

  • Powerful Matthew. Thank you so much. Thank you for going outside of the usual dating coach Mantra I’m really getting to the heart of the matter. As a single woman recently divorced trying to celebrate just a tiny victories each moment each second this video spoke volumes. I Hold On To The Promise that I will be loved truly loved by the one that I was supposed to have the first time around I know he’s out there and I’m living my life being the best me that I can be waiting hoping and making myself available to meet him thank you.

  • I struggle everyday not to be so sad. The saddest is overwhelming. No one around me knows how truly bad it is. I opened my window and listened to the birds

  • It sounds like a small thing but I have several health conditions which make me feel rubbish on a daily basis but I get up and go because I am grateful for each and every second I’m here…last week I developed an infection which knocked me for six and I had to call in sick to work. Hate doing that! I’m a nurse and I love my work so my tiny victory was going to work despite being unwell and on antibiotics but making it through the day and helping the people I could. When you see just how much other people are suffering you soon realise you’re not suffering you’re just feeling emotions which is still hard. Celebrate your lives ladies…think about one thing that made you smile and smile again! Thank you Matthew for your words and passion-it makes me feel lucky to be a woman to have you reach out to us! Tuhina Xxx

  • Thanks for the reminder. It was a tough day… but it wasn’t without some success. I got to promote a wonderful lady into a opportunity that I think will be a great investment for her and those we work with. Yep… the other of several setbacks and long hours at the desk are just a little easier to cope with on reflection. Nobody said it was going to be easy!

  • One of my biggest victories was when I finished my first book. It was something I’d wanted to do forever. But that was when I discovered the people in my life that were my real friends. They were disinterested, unwilling to discuss it, didn’t want to read it. I did eventually self publish. However, I found that when I looked for it amongst the other books of its kind I could never find it. I could find it, however, when I searched with its name. But how does that help when no one know my book exists? I’ve found most of my victories have been like this. What am I suppose to do?

  • I DO feel like shit & I SO appreciate this! Thank you, Matt. Going to take a shower & change the sheets! That always makes me feel better-fresh sheets!

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