What Does It Mean When A Guy Just Wants To Be Friends?

So you’ve found yourself in the dreaded friend zone with a guy you feel attracted to, this is a place where no one wants to be – man or woman. However you don’t need to worry because it doesn’t have to stay like this, but it definitely means something NEEDS to change!

When a guy starts seeing you as a friend, it simply means he isn’t seeing you in a sexual way, than he would otherwise see another woman. Here’s how to get into his mind and give him a reason to start liking you more than just a friend.

1. Stop acting like one of his “guy” friends

This is probably the most common reason for a guy not fancying you when you’re friends, if you’re similar to his mates then chances are he’s not going to feel that spark.

2. Stale mate!

You need to break out of your shell, what’s happening is he’s seeing you as a little boring – maybe even like a sister which is obviously a bad thing. So you need to show him that you’re not boring and you can let your hair down.

So over the upcoming weeks, start changing your old patterns of behaviour slightly here and there. He will notice this and providing you follow the advice above he will start seeing you in a different light.

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22 Replies to “What Does It Mean When A Guy Just Wants To Be Friends?”

  1. I don’t want to say that this is the normal, but sometimes it simply means: “Sorry, you are nice and all that but, I’m really not interested”. I think one should keep that in mind

  2. Hi this video really opened my eyes! But i’m having a sort of different problem

    This guy and me have been talking and flirting obviously with eachother for about a year now, he told awhile ago that he liked another girl but she was in a relationship. Although he told me that, he continued to flirt with me and continuously offered to come over. He always complimented me and he’s a very respectful guy. He is going on a mission in a year or so and he told me he wasn’t sure if he wanted a girlfriend right now because he’d be leaving. Anyways, he came over to my house and we had a lot of fun and eventually while we were laying on my bed, he kissed me not once but twice. I was so breathless that I didn’t know what to say. Embarrassingly enough, it was his first kiss. Well it was awkward when I drove him home because no one was saying anything, I wasn’t because I was so speechless. But a couple days later, he sends me a text saying that he thinks I’m beautiful, funny, nice, and smart but he doesn’t want a serious relationship at this point in his life (I never even mentioned one anyways!) He also said that he just wanted to be friends and apologized if he made me think that he wanted to be more than that. So what does this mean? You don’t kiss someone you don’t like! Does he still like me even though he just wants us to be friends? I understand that he’s going on a mission soon and he doesn’t want to jeopardize this but is it because of his mission that he said that or because he really does not like or have any interest in me at all?

    1. well maybe its because of your reaction, you see you two were friends, and when he kissed you and that moment was awkward, maybe he simply doesnt want to lose you as a friend =)

  3. Hi Matt! I love the video, it’s kind of saying my situation.
    I’ve been liking this guy for about a month and we were really good friends. He was a year older than me and he was in his last year of secondary school and I was the year below, but that didn’t mind me at all. He said that he respected girls and that they are not toys to be all of a sudden dropped and get bored of.We would meet after school in the library and do coursework/homework and we bonded really well. We would talk to each other on Facebook everyday and for hours and he really liked me and I really liked him and when we were talking on Facebook, he would send really sweet and flirty comments, which didn’t mind me at all, to be honest I felt I was in love.He would say I love you and that made my special and that made me feel that he was the only person I want to be with. Then this week I was talking to my friend and she knows the guy I like and and she knows I like him and she said the that the guy I liked was online and I was quite happy because I could talk to him. I said to her what are you talking about and she said ‘about you and …’and then she said ‘… says that you are only friends and that’s what he just said’. I was really upset and really confused because we got on so well, in some way I felt really hurt that he said that even though he said we are only friends because yes we were friends but I felt that we were more than that.
    The girl that was talking to him, apparently as been talking to him for a bit, which is making me confused, angry, upset and I’m feeling really jealous. I don’t want to confront him because that would just scare him off and lose him more as a friend and I might lose him a friend for good. I just don’t get it! :'(

  4. Hi Matt!

    I love reading all these stories and listening to your video advices…so keep up the good work! ;))

    This really cute guy obviously flirted with me the whole summer during our internship at the same firm. He wrote me messages during work, we went to lunch together, he even brought me homemade creme brulee once. At the end of our internship after the goodbye-party he takes me to my subway station, but nothing happens. I didn’t get the chance to ask him directly, because my subway was already there, so I wrote him a text if this was flirting between us. And his response was “for me it’s just something coy between friends”. ?!
    The next time we saw each other was at the Christmas party (so we didn’t really have any contact for a couple of months), he was my +1 because somehow he didn’t get invited. So we spent the whole night together, laughing, dancing…even during dancing he only had eyes for me. So suddenly he pulls me closer, touches me on my hip and we dance really close. But, you can’t fool around at the Christmas party from work, so nothing happened. He takes me to my nightline station which was the total other direction than where he lives, waits with me for 25min for my nightline…and says “hmm…I don’t even know how I get home from here”…but I thought he better initiates something from himself…so I get into the nightline, he smiles at me and says “if I don’t call you tomorrow, I didn’t find my way home”. But he didn’t call…haha…
    Now we only wrote a couple of messages, but I always started.
    I don’t get it…we have so many things in common, we laugh a lot, we are both funny and entertaining people and I feel so comfortable around him…I just feel like I found my second half. How come he doesn’t see that? He already knows that I’m into him, is that some stupid guy-thing, so he doesn’t have to track me anymore…?! But even a friend would call and say “hi”, wouldn’t he? haha…I don’t get it…

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