Women often ask me, “Matt, you give all this great advice for women to be high-value, but how do I tell if HE’S an incredible man worthy of a relationship with ME?”
Ok, I’ll bite.
80% of a happy relationship is choosing the right person in the first place, so this issue couldn’t be more important for women who want to find lasting love.
In this week’s video, I join forces with my brother Stephen Hussey (co-author of Get The Guy) to talk about the 6 SURE SIGNS you’re dating a high value guy, so that you can spot when he’s truly someone worth investing in.
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He shows an interest in the things that are important to you (vice versa)!
He does not use deamining language towards others much less for you.
A guy that takes the time to argue with you about things that matter to to you or both of the people in the relationship. It makes you feel that both care about what the other person has to say, and shows that they are both interested and are actually listening. Also it shows that even if they don´t agree still can have a mature discussion making or keeping things interesting.
Yeah…this takes courage and care!
Great list! I would add…
This goes along with the idea of not putting the relationship on the line when you bring up a problem or hurt feelings… I would go a step further and say he’s strong enough to not be punitive in ANY way. He doesn’t use it as an opportunity to pull out his sack of grievances and blast you back or insult you with it. Or, even if he needs space to calm down and think about his response, the energy of that isn’t passive aggressive – silent treatment, distance, feigning indifference, stonewalling, etc…
He knows how to resolve a conflict or disagreement with dignity and respect toward you and himself. Heroes do this !!
He listens to you. Pure and simple. If he can’t take his eyes away from the Tv, phone, game, or sodding Rubix Cube then he’s not worth the time.
A man who doesn’t let his pride get in the way. I know I tend to do this, and it snowballs into other destructive habits that end the relationship.
Hello,
I really like the video about how to recognize a high value man that is worth investing in.
One trait I hope to find in a high value man is that if I ask him to watch Turner Classic Movies with me, he’ll do it without whining and complaining. He do it because he just wants to spend time with me.
Someone who’s a good judge of character.
Especially if you’re in a long-term relationship with him, this will alter the quality of your life.
For me,a guy who is a true gentleman. Not a man who puts on airs but has a caring heart behind his gentlemanly ways. Sincerity in his actions relaying his true intentions.
Hell yes!!!
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He has to show respect when speaking to you and others.
Someone who knows how to say I’m sorry (and GENUINELY means it-emphasis on genuine:D)! A lot of people have difficulty saying this and most often than not, they evade and try to apologise in some other way. Nothing beats “I’m sorry”. And when a man can say these two words, that’s what I call a real MAN. It does take a whole lot of courage for many to say I’m sorry.
A high value man listens to the woman he loves simply because he values what she has to say, good, bad or indifferent.
I know that I am dating a high quality guy when he is a gentleman. Opens doors for me. Walks on the street side of the sidewalk. Pulls my chair out for me. Puts my coat on for me and pulls my hair out from under it. Etc. Old school ways are very charming and shows class.
He would never use foul, hurtful or derogatory language no matter how angry he is, even in the middle of a fight. he is respectful because that’s his nature. Even if the content of what he is saying is hurtful facts, he still uses his words carefully as to not be hurtful on purpose like by calling his partner names, etc.
True true true!
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I can’t add to this — just want to tell you, Matt, and also Steven, I just Love your presence on-camera haaa. I do, and I feel very comfortable watching and listening to your content. You rock, no doubt — Great Job.
lynelle
My high value man should be able to laugh at himself. That he knows it’s ok if things don’t go according plan. he follow through with what he says he’s going to do. Respect. Respect for self and others.
A high value man takes care of little things that are important to you such as checking tires on your car or changing light bulbs at your home.., it’s the little things that as women don’t come natural to us.
Once you express that you like something he tries to continue that same behavior because he values your happiness as well as his own.
Everything in your video sounds like my man. One thing I think is good is when he can share a deep dark secret and also if your man sees and is attracted to another woman and is willing to point it out but no make you feel like she is better than you!!
A high value man:
1) Is transparent and direct about how he feels or thinks about you.
2) Has his own life and also respects you have one as well.
3) Can expect change, accept routine, and be comfortable with opposition in the relationship.
4) Never stops trying to fight for your love and impress you during the relationship (sorry guys, once we breakup and you try to do this after the fact it is simply pointless)
5) His words match his actions
6) His world isn’t all about what he needs, thinks, or feels…He actually checks in with yours and tries to lighten or brighten your day if he can.
7) He isn’t afraid to negotiate, disagree, or fight with you in a healthy and constructive way.
8) His criticism is constructive, loving, and supportive. He wouldn’t ask of you what he doesn’t ask of himself.
9) He is on your team. (This means he defends you instead of trying to make himself look better around others. He thinks you are the best think since sliced bread and doesn’t complain to others about you. He is there when you need him and can also be a silent partner…Etc)
10) Healthy doesn’t try to isolate you, control you, or cage you. He understands sometimes you may need your own happy place away from him sometimes to decompressee and recharge.
This is excellent!