How Small Standards Transform Your Relationship

In this week’s video, I speak to women in Washington DC, where we reveal a cool, subtle technique for changing a guy’s behavior when you feel like you’re not getting what you need (in a way that actually makes him want to be better for you).

See how this is a win-win? ;)

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  1. Dimples22rat says:

    Does this only pertain to straight people are you LGBTQ friendly. I listened to alot of your videos and feel it’s amazing advice but wasn’t sure if you feel it works for gay people as well?

    • MH Team - Sara says:

      Great question! We truly believe that our content can be used for everyone in any relationship regardless of sex, gender, or sexual orientation. If you have any more questions or want to learn more about the programs we offer, please reach out to us at

  2. norah says:

    hi Mathew I really enjoy your coaching,when are you coming to Zambia?

  3. Teddy says:

    Hi so 3 months back i met my guy we work in the same company he proposed me and i said yes things went good we got intimate then ignoring and not talking or replying came into picture one fine day i got to know he is divorced to which he too accepted he asked me to do whats best for me and i brokeup wid him and a month after that my department at work was moved with his and we now work together on the same floor the first time we saw eachther after breakup i hav started feeling for him i love him so friend adviced me to say a casual hi to him which i did that was good got a positive reply but then his best frnd at wrk asked me for my number and i accidently gave it all of it happened on the same day 2 days later my ex msgd me asking me to stop spreading around i am his ex we had an argument and finished i never spoke to him after that we see eachother at work daily my bestie says he stares at you but when i see him he is always ignoring never messaged no text nothing his best friend who i shared the number with also has suddenly stopped talking i want my ex back please help i really dnt know what to do next

  4. Najat says:

    Hi!am really enjoying your coaching. Good work done,Matt but always prefer write-ups to the videos. Thank you

  5. praise says:

    please I need an advice, I have been dating a guy in abroad for four years now never believing he will come back, I started dating someone else but now my guy in abroad is back now. the question is who should I continue with and who should I quit

  6. Liselle Osmond says:

    I’ll like to ask a question. Is there a right guy. Our do we create right relationships.

  7. Dasa says:

    Thank you, Matt :) for this e-mail. But I’m starting to feel you’re my pen pal

  8. Dumisani Nkala says:

    When are you coming to SOuth AFrica Matthew?

  9. Christine says:

    I am so guilty of this! In my last relationship, I let him dictate everything and he still dumped me. It was hard to go through, but it taught me some really good lessons. I let my standards go. I stopped doing the things I loved to do. All because this man liked me. Now I have a clearer understanding of what my standards are, and I won’t let them slip again. If that means being single and happy so be it. Thank you Matthew for another wonderful video, I look forward to these every week. You rock !!

  10. Diana says:

    I liked the video.. but What are the standards. We need examples. For different scenarios.

  11. SK says:

    Thank you Matt,
    I have both books and trying to cultivate good habits to be my best self and hopefully get to share that best self with someone special.

  12. heather says:

    what do they mean by “small standards” ? The video never did explain that term .

  13. Melissa Brown says:

    So I watched the DC video and I’m curious is there a follow up or more to how to increase my small standards. Because I am my own worst con artist. Please advise.

  14. Patricia Stacey says:

    You really are a guru with wisdom and not empty promises or advice. What I love about you is that you care. This is not about manipulation. It’s about empowerment to find a genuine life.

  15. Marissa E. says:

    Thank you Matthew for making a video on dating in DC! It has also been my experience that men here are very ambitious and career-oriented (for better and worse), often to the point that a date can feel more like an interview or a networking event! The transient nature of this town is a challenge too; but, it also means there are always lots of new faces to meet :) Looking forward to next week’s video!

  16. Karen says:

    Hi, I am 68 and a widow after 42 years. Lost my husband l 1/2 years ago. Where do I go and what do I do to find another man? Am not a bar person. I have dated and they are interested in me but I am not in them. Example:10 years older who has had a lot of health issues, over weight, a kidder, no looks at all, younger but looking for a cougar, etc. I have listened to your videos and it appears they all pertain to much younger women.

  17. Julie MacKenzie says:

    I absolutely loved this video…it’s great to hear from women about their opinions about dating & how they resolve things for themselves…;) Keep the videos coming. Thanks Matthew ;) Hugs!

  18. Jo says:

    Is it ok for your boyfriend to continue to reply to his x girlfriends even have there number on silent so when they call or text it doesn’t sound ..

  19. Jojo says:

    My boyfriend thinks it’s ok to reply to all
    If his x lovers sees nothing wrong with it whatsoever…. I find it disrespectful example : this woman found out we were dating so she texts his telling him let me know when you are single again and by the way heres a pic of me …. then she says thanks I try !!! I’m guessing he told her she looks nice ..

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