How Small Standards Transform Your Relationship

In this week’s video, I speak to women in Washington DC, where we reveal a cool, subtle technique for changing a guy’s behavior when you feel like you’re not getting what you need (in a way that actually makes him want to be better for you).

See how this is a win-win? ;)

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  1. norah says:

    hi Mathew I really enjoy your coaching,when are you coming to Zambia?

  2. Teddy says:

    Hi so 3 months back i met my guy we work in the same company he proposed me and i said yes things went good we got intimate then ignoring and not talking or replying came into picture one fine day i got to know he is divorced to which he too accepted he asked me to do whats best for me and i brokeup wid him and a month after that my department at work was moved with his and we now work together on the same floor the first time we saw eachther after breakup i hav started feeling for him i love him so friend adviced me to say a casual hi to him which i did that was good got a positive reply but then his best frnd at wrk asked me for my number and i accidently gave it all of it happened on the same day 2 days later my ex msgd me asking me to stop spreading around i am his ex we had an argument and finished i never spoke to him after that we see eachother at work daily my bestie says he stares at you but when i see him he is always ignoring never messaged no text nothing his best friend who i shared the number with also has suddenly stopped talking i want my ex back please help i really dnt know what to do next

  3. Najat says:

    Hi!am really enjoying your coaching. Good work done,Matt but always prefer write-ups to the videos. Thank you

  4. praise says:

    please I need an advice, I have been dating a guy in abroad for four years now never believing he will come back, I started dating someone else but now my guy in abroad is back now. the question is who should I continue with and who should I quit

  5. Liselle Osmond says:

    I’ll like to ask a question. Is there a right guy. Our do we create right relationships.

  6. Dasa says:

    Thank you, Matt :) for this e-mail. But I’m starting to feel you’re my pen pal

  7. Dumisani Nkala says:

    When are you coming to SOuth AFrica Matthew?

  8. Christine says:

    I am so guilty of this! In my last relationship, I let him dictate everything and he still dumped me. It was hard to go through, but it taught me some really good lessons. I let my standards go. I stopped doing the things I loved to do. All because this man liked me. Now I have a clearer understanding of what my standards are, and I won’t let them slip again. If that means being single and happy so be it. Thank you Matthew for another wonderful video, I look forward to these every week. You rock !!

  9. Diana says:

    I liked the video.. but What are the standards. We need examples. For different scenarios.

  10. SK says:

    Thank you Matt,
    I have both books and trying to cultivate good habits to be my best self and hopefully get to share that best self with someone special.

  11. heather says:

    what do they mean by “small standards” ? The video never did explain that term .

  12. Melissa Brown says:

    So I watched the DC video and I’m curious is there a follow up or more to how to increase my small standards. Because I am my own worst con artist. Please advise.

  13. Patricia Stacey says:

    You really are a guru with wisdom and not empty promises or advice. What I love about you is that you care. This is not about manipulation. It’s about empowerment to find a genuine life.

  14. Marissa E. says:

    Thank you Matthew for making a video on dating in DC! It has also been my experience that men here are very ambitious and career-oriented (for better and worse), often to the point that a date can feel more like an interview or a networking event! The transient nature of this town is a challenge too; but, it also means there are always lots of new faces to meet :) Looking forward to next week’s video!

  15. Karen says:

    Hi, I am 68 and a widow after 42 years. Lost my husband l 1/2 years ago. Where do I go and what do I do to find another man? Am not a bar person. I have dated and they are interested in me but I am not in them. Example:10 years older who has had a lot of health issues, over weight, a kidder, no looks at all, younger but looking for a cougar, etc. I have listened to your videos and it appears they all pertain to much younger women.

  16. Julie MacKenzie says:

    I absolutely loved this video…it’s great to hear from women about their opinions about dating & how they resolve things for themselves…;) Keep the videos coming. Thanks Matthew ;) Hugs!

  17. Jo says:

    Is it ok for your boyfriend to continue to reply to his x girlfriends even have there number on silent so when they call or text it doesn’t sound ..

  18. Jojo says:

    My boyfriend thinks it’s ok to reply to all
    If his x lovers sees nothing wrong with it whatsoever…. I find it disrespectful example : this woman found out we were dating so she texts his telling him let me know when you are single again and by the way heres a pic of me …. then she says thanks I try !!! I’m guessing he told her she looks nice ..

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