Men are terrible at picking up on signs of attraction. Absolutely awful in fact. When trying to attract a guy you can cackle like a witch at all his jokes, give him unrelenting eye contact at the dinner table and even stroke his arm when you talk to him and he’ll still be none the wiser!
So why would you want to be subtle?
More often than not, whilst men may not be the most astute of creatures when a girl is interested in them, nine times out of ten they will pick up on the signals that are directed towards their friends, and inevitably this information arrives at it’s intended
destination.
A big factor in men being so oblivious to your interest is self-doubt. They repress any attraction signals from you and come up with other explanations as to why it’s happening. So if you want to attract a guy while keeping him on tenterhooks, you’ve got to see the obvious signs of attraction from men or at least enough to get him questioning what you’re saying, but you also want to make sure you’re keeping those around him in the dark.
Sounds easy right?
A lot of women like the idea of attracting men without the guy initially knowing of their interest, and so many adopt the approach of trying to attract a guy by being extremely dismissive. They stop smiling or giving him any eye contact, they turn their backs to them if ever in a conversation and they just generally ignore him thinking that guys will jump at the chance of trying to win over such an ice queen.
Doing this will stop even the most relentless of guys in their tracks, so if you continue to do this, I wish you good luck in getting him interested! I assure you that to attract men, it’s imperative that you remain warm and friendly (whilst not giving too much away). And the best way to do this is by giving a guy mixed signals. Women generally don’t understand this when first discover how to attract men, but it’s essential – so keep it in mind.
Mixed Signals
It’s okay to give a guy mixed signals. In fact it’s great! Mixed signals make a guy curious.
When a guy is 100% certain that you’re interested in him (which only really ever happens after some serious convincing from his friends!) he often becomes disinterested. You’ve shown too much interest and so he no longer considers this exciting. Remember that guys like a challenge – not an impossible expedition (like the bitch mentioned earlier) but thrilling excitement brought about by creating curiosity and intrigue.
Alternatively the feeling of certainty becomes too much for him. If he really likes you, in many cases a guy will do nothing about it just because he experiences so much anxiety. If he knows you’re really interested in him, and he still manages to mess things up, imagine what that would say about him! It’s too big of a risk to make.
Be a Bit Flirty With Everyone
Perhaps the best way to disguise your advances is by becoming a generally more flirty person. If he see’s that you’re playfully flirty around other people, it won’t dawn on him (or his friends) when you’re a bit cheeky around him. There is also a massive benefit of winning over the other guys around him – they will start to talk about how playful, funny and attractive you are. The more guys do this amongst one another, the more they reassure themselves of it and the more of a challenge you become!
Now rather than destroying his ego by potentially rejecting him, he’s getting a massive ego boost as in his mind he’s beat a whole host of other guys to be with you. And thats really the secret to attract a guy without him catching on. Myself and the team really enjoy reading your comments and feedback, so if you’ve ever been in a position where you’ve had to attract a guy without anyone else noticing, perhaps at work or at the office, then do let us know!
Hello!
I’m just 14 years old and I really like my best friend. He really like someone else though and he always talks to me about that girl who happens to be a friends of mine and -ouch, it seriously hurts.
What should I do?
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I’ am 14 years old and i am having a strong crush on a guy of my colony he stares me and tries to look at me and that make me feel more lovable i like him a lot but i don’t know that that he likes me or not so what should i do now ?
Hi , I am 17 year girls. And i love to travel so i use a travel website called “CouchSurfing” . there i found a guy he is 23 and i stayed at his couch for 3days. And i started liking him a lot. he live in a city which is not ao far from my place. But we are in touch with social networking. Please tell me how do i make him fall for me.
I am very beautiful, attractive. When i went to party with him and his friends started attracting towards me a lot. But he haven’t paid much attention. I think that it is may be the fact that he knows that i am very young according to his age. Because when i haven’t told him my age, that time he was quite interested i feel. But now he’s not. Please tell me what i should do.
First off crushes are not infrequent beings. Meaning just because you have a crush on someone does not mean you should act on it. You are young and will have many more crushes. I’d say the sexiest thing you can do is focus on your education. There is nothing more attractive then a woman who can think. Second of all you’re a minor. So focus on graduating and then if you’re still interested you can strike up a conversation with him if you like. Don’t kid yourself, no respectable guy would flirt with a minor if they were not one themselves. I know it’s hard to hard to wait but Rome was not built in a day. Good luck!
Hi, im 16 years old. I have a crush on a guy in the 11th Grade. We don’t talk to each other, or anything like that. He often stares at me at lunchtime. I like him sooooo much, its just that I don’t know if he likes me. I wanna be friends with him first, I don’t know how.. We’re both popular in our grades. How can I start a conversation with him and be friends??? Please help me.
hii I m 19 years old I have a girl she is my frnd and the girl also have boy frnd…..okk. as a frnd I fight with a girl in few days later …..she upset with me…..but I say sorry to him and she talk with me and happy again……but his bf tell him that not to talk with me….because of reason I fight with the girl……so the girl ignoring me……what can I do
hi i have a crush on my neighbor but he doesnt even know my name. i saw him often but we never ever talked.
btw.. im 18
How come every time I lesten to your video in my email your talking all about your books and. Other shows you are on and. All about your tores but you never seem to get to what the title of the show saids . you never. Give me the secret texts or anything . it’s sad I really want to know this stuff but . you seem so busy with everything else going on .
I know this is unrelated to the article here, but I just had a conversation with a man I’m dating. My question is, should I tell a man I’ve just met and dated a few times, that I’m dating other men? As in, “I would love to, but I’m going on a date at 7:30…”. He didn’t actually receive that well. But we have just met and there is no established exclusivity.
Flirting with everyone is a terrible idea, if that were me id think she doesn’t like me she likes flirting forget about her, if all the other men were talking about how she was flirting with them id assume one of them was slicker than me and he would get her instead so id forget about her, id also thin she was after anyone and would assume one o the other men would be slicker than me so id forget her. Mixed signals are a terrible idea, id just think she is playing games or she did like me now she doesn’t and forget about her and try and find someone who liked me and didn’t want attention from other men !
This is an interesting article, in that it pretty much hits the nail on the head. The facts: I have been divorced for two years. I look younger than my age of 48. People think I’m in my 30’s. When I first started my job there was a guy at work that was hitting on me hard. I was just getting past my divorce so I wasn’t ready and he moved on to another lady, but broke up with her last year. I am now very ready to move on with my life. I find myself very attracted to him and I think he is to me, but we just don’t seem to connect. I don’t know if he has put me in the friend zone or is no longer interested. Another dilemma is that I’m 48, he’s 36. I find myself not obsessing about him, but not really interested in anyone else either. He makes me laugh and when we do talk, it seems like we have a lot to talk about. I’m trying to ignore the whole thing and just enjoy being single, but things keep happening that put him in my path and I find myself getting more interested. So, what should I do, should I show him I’m interested or am I obsessing and being crazy. LOL. I’ve been out of the dating game a long time. I was married for 22 years. Husband packed his bags and left after cheating and lying for years. HELP…I’m clueless
Really interesting tips about giving off mixed signals! It’s true that they lose interest when they know you’re into them.. Love your tips!
My husband died in May.. cancer. A 10 year relationship and 7yr marriage. In August decided to go onto Tinder and make guy friends. One of which he and I met up, attracted to each other quickly. Found out he lost his wife to cancer 7 years ago. He was looking for his new partner however since knowing mine past away he says he is scared I will hurt him and backed off.
Also still tells me how amazing I am. If it weren’t for what I have been through it would be easier to commit. But since it’s new for me he doesn’t want commitment.
He also checks up on me all the time and my 2 sons. (He has 3 daughters). When I ask why. He says he can’t just switch off his feelings.
I am talking to other guys.
I really like this man. I’m 33 he is 45. Doesn’t look or act it at all. He does a lot of charity. I am involving myself in more charity.
I am a positive get up and go person.
Any advice?
Happy to have my lover back after 3 months of breakup, thanks E-mail: (Robinsonbuckler11@ ) gmail com……………..
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Start a conversation with the friend then u can get into their group but know what your aim is ALL THE BEST