You wouldn’t believe how many women read every blog, watch every YouTube video, and follow every Facebook post I put out, and yet still say:
“Yeah, Matt… I get it. But there’s this one guy that I really like…”
And because they’re so head-over-heels for this man, all of the advice goes out of the window.
In this week’s video, I’m about to reveal 2 simple words that will tell you everything you need to know about men and how to get the love you really deserve…
Thank you so much for making videos like these, Matthew. I have listened and watched you for over 3 years now. Funny thing is, I’ve been married for over 4. The truth is, even when you’re married, you never stop dating whether you realize it or not. You’ve changed and improved my life for the better in so many ways you have no idea… From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.
Very interesting, respect over like for building long term attraction.
Men crave respect in relationship with a woman.
When it comes to a relationship with a man,
give yourself the chance to feel respect for him and give him a chance to be the Man.
Unless of course, he is completely useless as a man in a relationship.
Some men just like to walk through life getting easy sex and not caring about anyone. And they like to just check you out and they have no idea that human beings have feelings; and that all have a soul.
These men are probably not worth your time.
Being a high value woman is exhausting. I want TV and candy too. How do I navigate someone else’s want vs need when I can barely get a handle on it myself?
You’ve outdone yourself this week Matt!! This is the most I’ve rewind a video! I wanted to make sure I “got” every single point/thought! Thank you!! A must-watch video, minimum twice!
Makes so much sense!! Thanks Matt :)
Hi….. a friend and i got closer very quickly after my break up…. intially i just wanted to have fun, i mean I did just get out of a long term relationship … he knew that but we got carried away. Now i have fallen for him… and he explains that he now wants to take it slow and he has so many goals to reach in his carreer that if he continues at the pace we had going, his career will suffer. I understood and took to your videos for help. Now its just complacent….i am trying to give him space. And he seems to be pulling away. I dont know what to do. I dont want to overthink but he seems too quiet. Did i loose him??
Matt, I love this idea so much. Why? Because what you are really asking me to do here is ASLO question myself: when I am in people pleasing mode am I just seeking TV and Candy (the quick validation of the guy liking me, trying to get to the next step on boyfriend quest etc) or am I willing have to say no to myself and to my TV and Candy cravings so that I can truly enjoy myself by holding true to what it is I ACTUALLY need which is mutual respect and a connection based on honesty and reality. Not just a fantasy situation I’ve constructed to keep me in denial of the “relationship” dynamics I’m a part of. With this I can have a clear perspective of who the person is that I’m interested in, what their investment level is, their values and goals AND it helps me form an honest relationship with someone because let’s face it, if I’m doing things I wouldn’t normally do to get you to like me, I’m not actually myself. I’m a version that I think you want. So when things crash and burn or just fizzle, I might be sad but the reality is, I never gave you a chance to get to know me so things were doomed from the start because I didn’t show up for myself first and give you the respect you deserved to see me for who I am. Thanks again, love the phrase, because really who doesn’t love a phrase with the word Candy in it? ;) Love your videos and books, you’ve helped me resist the urge to overinvest many times and just be an overall smarter dater. You, Jameson, and your brother are quite the team! ❤️
Matt, I’ve been following you for about 6 months now, and I’ve never left a comment before. I just have to say I really appreciate your passion for people – you are the real-deal, and I can be cynical and skeptical, which is why I’ve watched you for 6 months! Thank you for your genuineness, your sincerity, your words of wisdom, your no-nonsense approach/yet you deliver it with such tenderness. I truly am grateful to you!
Wow, you always amaze me with your teachings, i love it so much When you make us understand more about guys. Thank you Matthew..
Hi, these tips and questions are very good to approach my crush. Thanks for sharing these tips. Keep Updating.