How To Not Let Your Mistakes Ruin You

Have you ever found yourself in the position of making a really bad mistake?

We all have, and such situations are unavoidable in life. The more important question I want to ask today is: How did you handle it?

In this week’s video I share a story of how I screwed up last week in front of *millions* of people.

(To see the full Today Show clip click here.)

Question Of The Day:

What mistake have you made so far in 2014? Tell me in the comments below!

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  1. Faith says:

    Very timely Matt!! Yeah…uh… who is this girlfriend in LA?! Hope she enjoyed her not on Valentine’s Day experience with you… I know she did. I believe you are not the type of guy who needs to be told twice…

  2. Viola says:

    love this video

  3. sharon says:

    Responded to a fb message from my exes new gf…told her everything ie… Inc the fact he still came to my place when he first started seeing her!! Ouch!!! He ginw beserk and of course denied it. Maybe it was a mistake replying!!!

  4. angela davis says:

    My latest goon move was talking to a friend about her beautiful scarf she made – trying to convey how amazed I was because of the detailed knitting she did for it I said “that is amazing because I could never do that because I would be bored in three min flat” so as soon as that hit the air I said let me try that again “you did an amesome job of knitting the scarf but I am too scatterbrained to stay that focus to knit like that so can you make me one and I apologize for making it sound like what you do in knitting is boring” my friend said starting laughing and said thanks and sure I would be glad to knit something for you

  5. Shen says:

    team get the guy, thank you for posting this. it is so timely! i was having a good cry yesterday for a mistake i did. your team are all very wonderful people. i appreciate everyone’s effort for putting up positive videos for people. i wish you would all visit asia on your tour.

  6. Stacey says:

    Matthew, this video is brilliant. I just started a new job as a vice principal and had to give a speech infront of a gym full of parents with my new colleagues behind me. I royally messed up. Put on a brave face until I got home, burst into tears doubting my ability. My cousin help talk me off the ledge, but I did start to think focus on what you can do and do it well. I will continue to work on my confidence. Love your motivational post. Xoxo

  7. Tracey says:

    I am actually learning from a recent “mistake”…you commented on the tone of my voice at last weeks GTGLive event in Philly (you actually called it “sexy”) and I instead responded how it was annoying – all this after hearing you tell us not to put down the parts of us we didn’t like. I replayed that moment in my head during my drive home. In the week following I made a conscious effort to acknowledge positive comments and compliments…a smile and Thank You really do go a long way :-)

  8. C. says:

    This morning in church, the music group that I’m part of went on without our leader and pianist who just had a baby. We were using recorded music and somehow got out of sync with it–during the service! It was obvious. We stopped and allowed it to play a while before we could find ourselves again. But Thank God, the rest of the line up went very well. Phew!

  9. Christina Marie LiBrizzi says:

    My mistake? Acting needy!

    People are always telling me it should be easy for me to attract men, and that I wont’ be single long. Well, let me share this, it is very difficult. I’m not approached by many men, at least not the men I want, and it’s really frustrating. Since my divorce, after a 25 year relationship, until now, I had only met one man I thought I could move forward with. Apparently, I blew it because I act “needy”. I’m currently in a speaking on the phone / texting relationship with a man I believe I’d like to get to know better. I’m trying be better this time, so I’m trying to be more aware of my comments/texts as to not sound needy. I feel that sometimes I’ve already done it, however, this time I’ll back off a bit and wait for him to come to me. He’s still around and it’s been almost 2 months, however, we have not met yet because he lives in Texas. He’s due to come to California at the end of this week and we’ve talked for weeks about spending time together. It seems though, that the closer it’s getting the more anxious I’m getting because when I ask about it he isn’t answering. It feels like he’s avoiding the conversation. I’m not into games and he says he’s not either, however, I don’t want my heart broken. About 3-4 weeks after we connected I decided to not respond to emails from other men, and I’ve declined dates because I’m focusing on him. At this point, I’m not sure what to ask or say….

    • Sam says:

      Your pathletic ! It’s clear he is playing you and just what’s a piece of ass . Apparently he got want he wanted . You are nothing to him, but go ahead and like his pictures and comments … It’s sad and u do look pathleticly needy

    • Shery says:

      Please stay away from my husband. I love him and want my marriage.

  10. Susanne says:

    ♥***:)Dear Matthew :)***♥

    I see the wonderful human being you are :) &
    What matters is the message in your heart ♥

    I believe the answer to the second question was in your heart ♥ :)
    Deep deep deep in your heart ♥ :)
    Lovely Hosana knows for sure ♥ :)

    I believe you wanted to say something beautiful
    with all your heart ♥
    To know that is wonderful :)

    Even if you could not speak out the words,
    I see your heart ♥ &
    your LOVE for millions of people :)

    With all my heart I wanna thank you for everything heart-touching you have said & done :)

    You are lovely :) wonderful :) fantastic :)
    because you loooooooooooooove human beings :)

    Wow You said something beautiful today :)
    I will remember it :)
    I hope you can always say everything beautiful in the best way :)

    If you have done your best, with all your heart ♥
    That’s amazing :)
    Maybe you get a second chance to answer the second question ;)

    what’s next? :)

    Your next videos will be so so so so so amazing :)
    That is what I believe :)



    • houda says:


      I loved so much your reaction and the way you handled the embarrassing situation . This is what people will notice the most and not the mistake , for this is something human .Your reaction revealed how self-confident, skillful, and nice person you are.
      Thank you for the moral Mathew.


  11. Janie says:

    Fab Matthew, I have your book and bought a copy for two of my friends :)
    I dreaded making a fool of myself publiclly for year, crazy what we worry about eh? I guess as I’m older(in my 40s) and wiser it doesn’t bother me so much now and I laugh it off if I happen to embarass myself unwittingly.
    You’re such a down to earth guy and I could listen to you for hours, please don’t ever change!
    I messages my friends on valentines day and wished them a happy one. Especially the single ones… “It’s better to be single and happy than be with someone and completely miserable” I told them, plus you get the tv remote to yourself …lol…
    I’m a settled singleton with standards, still on the look out for a lovely guy but in no rush.
    Still talk to everyone I meet per your advice, amazing how you see people’s faces light up because someone has taken time to listen to them even if only for a few minutes. Makes my day.
    Keep up the good work mr x

  12. D says:

    Hi Matt! your “mistake” didn’t come across badly on TV… dealt with it really well by just moving on quickly to the next thing.

  13. nabila says:

    you’re so right it’s all about how we react :)

  14. Jill says:

    I can’t believe you didn’t just make something up. I’ve been told I’m really good at interviewing and to be honest most of it is made up but it’s believable. Now that I just told everyone my secret :)
    Mistakes are what make us human and are here to help us learn and grow. The sooner you learn to laugh at your mistakes the funner life is going to be.
    P.S. I don’t lie in interviews I just make up situations and they believe me :)

  15. Janice says:

    Only one more week for mercury retrograde! Hang in there!

  16. amanda says:

    This video couldn’t have shown up in my inbox at a more perfect time.

    I’ve been worrying so much lately about mistakes I make at work to the point where I just want to stay in bed the day after and just ruminate all day about it.

    Watching this has brought me some encouragement for sure.

  17. Suzanne says:

    Thanks Matthew for showing us that you’re human. I agree, we’re all too hard on ourselves when we make mistakes….we’re human and we have to just move on!

  18. saadia says:

    Hi Matthew! This Video is amazing and it’s wonderful how you find the topics and ideas which helps me in my daily life! I watch every video from you and it inspires me to live a better life! Hope you read this cause you are really amazing! Keep it up! Your follower saadia from Germany :)

  19. Michelle says:

    Handled beautifully. :) Thanks for the amazing advice, as usual! I hope you realize how much you help us all!!!!

  20. Susan Marie Davey says:

    So needed! to hear this! I’ve been overreacting to “mistakes” made at work and it’s been drawing undesirable attention. Thanks, Matthew!

    This reminds me that I’ve been wanting to tell you from the beginning, I’m not sure how I stumbled onto your site, but it had nothing to do with trying to get or keep a guy and I recognize that the advice you give is simply good advice for being a better and more gracious person. That’s why I keep coming back! Thank you

  21. Maria says:

    I loved this video because too often I think we’re made to feel shame for the mistakes that we make. You’re so right! It’s about the way you handle those mistakes. I made more than a few mortifying mistakes in graduate school last semester when I had to present or even when I spoke to my esteemed professors but I had to just brush it off and get over them quickly and not draw negative attention to them.

    Such a great message! Thank you Matthew!


  22. A says:

    Aww, Matthew, it was good to see the full Today Show video. One thing I like about you is that you have humility. I hope you never lose that as you get older and enjoy more success. It’s the one thing that guys seem to lose when they are older and they don’t realize how important it is.

    I haven’t made any memorable mistakes yet in 2014, but I made some in 2013. But I moved on from them as you say.

    Gosh, I’m like Hoda. Distracted. I want to know the other two things that one can do to enjoy one’s single love life again!

    —Prefers to be called ‘A’.

  23. Cathy says:

    Matt, this video is such a gift for me today! I got emotional in a parent-school meeting this week, in front of a team of 6 educators, including the principal, and it was extremely embarrassing to me. The next day I wanted to cower at home but made myself go to the Principal’s Coffee Hour, to be seen and touch base with the principal in another setting. I wanted him to see that I can be articulate and calm, and a team player, and I was able to achieve that goal through my engagement at the Coffee Hour Lecture, and by approaching him afterward to thank him for his support at the meeting the day prior. I still have a joint meeting with him and the teacher with whom I have the greatest conflict this coming week. Your encouragement to keep trying, keep engaging, and strive to add an additional layer to their experience of me is spot on. I am not comfortable being in an adversarial position with the teacher, and I need to find a way to build a bridge of communication with her despite my anger at her for her treatment of my child. Thank you so much for your perspective – it helps me normalize the fact that I screwed up. Hiding in the past has just kept me miserable and isolated. Today, I want to look at my averages instead of just my mistakes, so I can accept that I am, indeed, enough.

  24. Zoe says:

    “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

    Such an inspirational and insightful concept.
    ‘Get in the game’, be prepared to make mistakes, they are inevitable but its what you learn and do following the experience that counts. Sometimes failure and mistakes can be a blessing in disguise as they can make us richer for it.

    Matt, on another note, this relationship material is fantastic, however, unless a woman loves herself and is content in her own life before meeting a man, this attraction formula can only go so far – Thoughts? Do you think a woman should work on building up her life before she becomes preoccupied to find a partner or do you think she should find the partner and then work on herself…

  25. Irene says:

    lol – That’s true, I like that one… check!

    I like that fact that you took it with humor, tried a second time and laughed it off. The Ladies supported genuinely and brought an ease to the situation. This was fun the watch!

    Haven’t watched “The West Wing” but I would say I’m a “what’s next”-person. I totally have the bouncebackability. It’s important not to take oneself too seriously.

    Loved it!

    • Irene says:

      Just watched the full Today Show clip.

      It’s hilarious!

      Still laughing…

      The only couple interviewed in that clip were really cute! All the guys were trying to man up lol. I liked the guy who genuinely said he’s not a valentine’s day type of guy and asking why there is a special day to show how much you love your partner. It really shouldn’t rely on that one particular day.

      Thanks for sharing! :)

      apropos: We devolpe further from mistakes and failers. That’s what makes us human.

  26. A says:

    This is much easier said than done, Hussey- especially in times of conflict. But it’s good way to start. Keep up the good work! And keep cutting that rose garden with stationary scissors! :-D

  27. Maya Morgan says:

    Yes yes and YES!!! :) You said it! It’s all about how we deal and react to things. Isn’t that amazing? This means we are no longer depending on situations to feel worthy or good. We can live an awkward moment and laugh at it. I experienced this yesterday so many times. I was doing some promotions in a store and I had to hand out flyers and explain the product and after talking to probably 100 of people I would say “have a good evening” when it was afternoon, or ask twice the same person or the worst was this one: There was a group of guys that came in and I gave them my little speech and than 5 minutes later guys that looked very similar came in and I was sure they were the same so I wanted to make a joke by saying “Hey again you guys” and they looked at each other like “Again? what is she talking about?” There were not the same guys! Haha but like you said, some time ago I would have felt so stupid but this time I couldn’t stop laughing and thought I was hilarious :) The amazing thing that comes with this new way of living is that you are more stable in any situations and can count on your ability to make it okey to screw up!! :) :) :) Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic Mat and showing that we all have those moments ;)


  28. Van Le says:

    Hi Matt, thanks a lot for posting this video. I find it very useful and I love the three things that you mention when it comes to dealing with mistakes we make.
    Regarding the mistakes that I’ve made so far this year, quite a few, I gotta admit. As a teacher, sometimes I say something silly in class and I’ve learnt to try to laugh it off and forget it to focus on what I have to do.

  29. Shannon says:

    Hi Matthew,

    I just want to say that I love you and men like you who care about women! You are so cute, I love your personality, you’re funny and fun and you give such valuable and supportive information and with such uplifting energy. I come away with good information and feeling much better for having watched your videos because you always make me laugh too!

  30. Kathleen says:

    Hey Matt,
    The video was extremely funny and insightful!
    As for the mistakes I’ve made so far in 2014, well there hasn’t been any that I would perceive as a mistake, though it is only February.
    I will say my biggest mistake in 2013 and back has been being a doormat and excepting crumbs from the men I have dated oh and lets not forget the lack of personal boundaries I once had.

  31. Christina P says:

    hahaha, should’ve saw that coming! But the timing of this video is good. I’m gonna have to apologize to my friend as soon as possible now.

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