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218 Replies to “I Suck. Here’s Why…”

  • How nice of you to reply to so many comments. I really liked the song choice. I would drive to this, or just when I wanted to chill out.

    1. Definitely. I’m doing my best! Fortunately I’m working from my apartment today and made some time to get back to as many as possible. Glad you liked the song x

  • Thank you for all you do Matthew! I truly enjoy listening to you. You have taught me so much! I did not know you were on twitter and Facebook. I will have to look for you.

    Love from Sweet home Alabama, USA <3

  • Hi,
    This was an amazing song Matt; and definately a song I would listen to in the car on my long journeys between London and Durham (which don’t happen as often now). May try and find it on itunes later.
    Finding the newsletters really helpful in everyday confidence too. The tips don’t just have to help boost your confidence in your love life I’m finding.
    Jennifer x

  • I am seriously cracking up laughing at you in this blog, Matthew. :) In the best, kindest way. Love that you put this out b/c yea, was kind of wondering if you’d gone all gamey on us. I had 2 emails from your team that had an element of “hustling” to it that stood out as being in stark contrast to the genuiness you generally demonstrate. I thought “uh oh, the dude’s got his peeps speaking for him.”

    It is, indeed, nice to see your face and know you are still out there being you. But no one expects you to respond to every comment. You are building a business that is truly helping people and the people that you’ve helped thus far WANT big things for you. So, I’m chuckling to myself scrolling through this comment thread that you’ve replied to every comment on this post (cos’ yea, probably not going to be able to maintain that momentum … but freakin’ awesome that you even tried. very cool.)

    You are doing realllly good things in the world, Matthew. Truly. I started a personal research project a few months ago (a.k.a. my clever distraction/excuse to avoid dating a little longer: haha) called <3::Solo Me and I've been personally interviewing amazing men and picking their brains and learning more about what differentiates that kind of guy (and how he thinks and chooses to behave toward women) from the rest of the dudes out there. B/c I HAVEN'T been able to trust most of the dating advice out there. I find most of it just stupid and insulting and bullsh*t, if you'll forgive me for being frank. So, I said "Forget this nonsense … I'm finding out for myself what I want to know by asking actual men whom I actually know in my actual real world." The process has been amazing. My gosh the things men will tell you when you show up with a well-intentioned heart and really listen to them. BUT … MY POINT IS … all "dating advice expert" distrust that I have. You are the one voice out there that I AM listening to.

    I found your work one night about 2 months ago. Don't even remember how. And I kid you not … I stayed up until 5am trailing through every single video and article I could find online that was yours. I was genuinely that impressed with what you had to say. {And your accent made the late-night bender a little easier to get through, so thanks for that. haha.}

    So, as you grow. PLEASE don't stop being exactly as you have been. Put out the programs. Blow up HUGE! You deserve the exposure. But wow, it would be so refreshing if you stay real. Cos' that's what drew us all to you in the first place. Not just on the dating stuff. Your message in general is just good + good + good! The world needs more real people in it.

    Great to see this post. It was very cool to reach out to your people that way. And very happy for you for all the exciting things that are happening.

    :)

    1. WOW, this was so helpful to read. Thankyou Cris, really. You’re right about it being overambitious to reply to everything, but it’s fun to when it’s possible,a dn TODAY at least, it’s possible!

      The business keeps growing and growing and more people are coming in all the time. I’m getting used to the fact that I have to grow and evolve my thinking as things get bigger, because change is so rapid and sometimes you can be stuck with old practices that worked when we were small but don’t work now with the size that we are. But certain things hold true:

      1. I love growing the business
      2. I love helping the women that the business helps everyday
      3. I love staying me throughout the process and not becoming an idiot.

      Hopefully I’ll be able to maintain these things as it progresses if people like you can keep me on the right track.

      Thankyou again.

      Matthew x

  • Thank you for doing this for us! I am trying so hard not to pass up on opportunities. I have this new mindset and I’m loving it! <3

  • Hi Matt,

    I am not offended, no way, but it is always fun seeing your videoblog. Also nice comments to Neon, very helpful for many of us too.

    Anna x

  • Thanks for that video! I was really surprised to see that comment judging you about the video. But very happy to see your answer, not getting in to it, not letting yourself controlled by your emotions. Writing back even to the comments that are not going your way and staying nice. Very good example! ^^ Well, i actually think the opposite of what she was complaining about. I love it because you were just so honest. You don’t put a distance, make us feel like you know everything and do everything perfectly. I don’t thing you would have as much success if you didn’t have that great quality of being honest because then it would seem out of reach for us. You are honest about your own mechanics and yourself and that makes it so much more constructive. You don’t show off. You remind us that we are all on the same boat, the same mystery of life and that you are human too reflecting on yourself. You are sharing out what you have learned from your own experiences and understanding and by doing that you are helping people. So, if one thing, nobody can say you don’t put yourself out there, because when you chose to create all this you totally PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE and took the risk! THANK YOU!! :)

  • I love the song! From now on I will include it my playlist when I run, to motivate me more!

    Thank you for the videos. I’m so happy that there’s a person like you to turn to when you need some inspiration & advice. My problem is I haven’t met a guy yet for me, maybe I’m too picky and shy specially when the guy is good looking. Maybe I need to have more confidence in me so I can be more braver. But sometimes, I would hesitate coz I don’t know who should make the first move. what do you think? Btw, I am also interested in your life coach events. Hope you post some videos of it too.

    Anyways, don’t worry you are doing great. I am also following you on twitter. Your passion to help women with the lovelives is amazing. Hope i can attend in one your live seminars but I’m from Singapore… Anyways, more power to you and your team.

    1. Hey Janet,
      I think both should be capable of making the first move, but neither should rely on each other to do it!
      Since you’re in Singapore you’ll love what I’m bringing out in the few weeks! x

  • Hi Matthew

    I’ve been on your mailing list from 2010 and have always been interested in your posts but never compelled to post a comment until this one. I’m glad that despite the (rightful) growth of your business you have remained humble during the process which is a feat in itself. I suppose it’s easy for women just to feel like impersonal ‘customers’, but I can see that you’re just an every day fellow human being trying your best to remain connected with everyone out there. And that intention is more important than actually being able to answer every comment/post regularly etc.

    Anyway I’ve been happily in love for over a year now but still find your input as helpful and enlightening as ever!

    So don’t feel guilty for not being able to constantly satiate the thousands of women out there as, after all, you’re a perfectionist, not superman ;)

    Toodles! xx

  • Good day Matthew,

    Thank you for taking the time to put yourself out there. I appreciate that you took the time out of your busy schedule to connect with us your followers and fans. And yes I have seen you more on Twitter and on BBW as well and I’m excited.

    As for the song, it depends on your mood, it could be for a drive to clear your head or in the bath with a glass of wine. It works either way. :-)

    Mickla aka Littlefoot

  • Hi Matthew, I’m so happy I got your program. Your advice literally changed my life. Not only I got three guys that I’m interested in but my social circle expended beyond my believe! I’m getting invited to parties, upscale events and benefits where I meet even more people and like you said they all talk about me! What a boost of confiedence that is. Thank you do much for all your work, worth every penny! xoxo

    1. WOW that’s amazing to hear Aga! Thankyou for being a customer of ours, I look forward to continuing to support you in the future x

  • I love you!! I mean your videos you are so much help and i watched probably all your videos on youtube and it is great to be on your mailing list. You also made think of so many other ideas that i wouldnt have thought of before :). My relationship just ended after a year and seven months..so i’ll watching you more :D i wish i could come to one of your seminar’s but i live in Edinburgh and im busy all the time. Hope you’ll be coming here soon or in the summer i could go down. :) XX

  • Thanks Matthew for putting your self out there by being open and vulnerable, it was quite beautiful. And I believe you may have blushed once or twice! It is good to know you are human too!!! :)
    The information you freely share helps in so many ways, one day soon I will meet you in person. Cheers!
    Definately a driving tune!
    xoxo

  • Matt, you are too hard on yourself! You do a great job. For the record, I never thought you had gone anywhere! LOL
    The song…not my type of music but definitely a driving song.

  • Being humble is a fantastic quality.

    Haters will hate, but ultimately it is their anger that is the uncoming of them.

    Since seeing you, I have been fortunate enough to move past all the anger and hate that I felt about my awful past.

    I did try emailing you but it seems your team never pass them on! lol. So I will say here.. I finally got my man, thanks to your advice, and we have decided to try for a family! When we make it, I will email you some pics. It is thanks to you teaching me to let go after all. xx

    1. I did indeed get passed your email Hayley, one of the many that was on the list to get back to but hadn’t quite gotten there yet. You’re story is inspiring, and I would love for others to learn from it. Maybe we can do an interview sometime to pass the lessons on to others!
      Keep doing what you’re doing x

  • Matthew you are such lovely man ,thank you for the good advice,although I have wonderful relations with men ,its good to be reminded and learn new things ,when you become a widow you feel you have to learn every thing from scratch again and your advice are good and genuine thank you .I met a wonderful man on line .would love to come to one of your seminar but at the moment I am living in beautiful Bulgaria .i wish you all the best you deserve it .

  • Thankyou for what you do and what youre about. I think youre brilliant. But disagree with the song. Don’t think its a summer drive or bath tub….

    More like me cooking a storm up in the kitchen drinking wine and jamming out too….thats what I think.

  • I look forward to your videos and great advice. I like that you are being honest. I think that’s a wonderful character trait. That’s kind of what we should all be looking for in a good partner/relationship.I vote summer driving song. Have a great day, Matt :)

  • I hate your beautiful hair :)) Couldn’t take my eyes away from it.
    The song is something I’d listen while gardening. But I guess your ideas are also O.K. Both ideas!
    On the topic: yes,I also thought you were on some kind of break, thou, as someone said before me, there were some mails…let’s just call them “out of the ordinary”. It’s good to see you back on “screen”. It’s the first time I reply, but…I’m watching you *making the 2 finger gesture, pointing my eyes, then yours and back to mine*
    Stay well and inspired!XO

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