Do you ever feel like you’re missing out on the best parts of life? That ‘connection’ isn’t what it used to be? Or that technology has created distance between you and people you were once close to?
In this week’s video we ask: Is The Internet Bad For Your Social Life? And discuss what can be done about it…
*Grab Tickets To Come See Me In-Person On The Get The Guy Tour Here*
Question Of The Day:
–Does the idea of going without internet for 48 hours make you uncomfortable?
Matthew is right , I spent the weekend on a getaway witj my guy . Switched off my emails and internet and only read the texts from my family . It pretty much feels like you’re getting to know the actual person underneath all the appearance . I felt human , instead of being obsessed with the cyber world .
With all this said, I’d loooooooooooooooooove to come to your live-event :)
Matt, can you make a video about “How to buy a ticket to your live-event?” :)
I’d loooooooooooooooooove to buy it :)
If I knew how to buy it, I could have been the first one who bought it :)
Maybe I’m lucky this time :)
Will you come to Germany too :)
That would be so looooooooooooooooooooooooooovely :)♥♥♥♥♥
I laughed when I saw this. I couldn’t have put it better that social networking sites are the fast food of communication. Nothing better or worse sometimes than real life interaction. It is far more challenging. It forces you to be real and in the moment. I was guilty of creating something I perhaps wasn’t when online. I could be more funny, more popular a leader. I’m not a natural leader by nature but could be more influential online. I know I’m not the only one guilty of this falseness. I had a break offline for a year. I came back to who I really was. The good and the not so good but above all the real. I find it’s not myself I need to convince of offline communication it’s other people. So many are so hooked.
When I went home for Christmas my sister told me one of her friends families has a bag that all phones go in when they have family get together. I really wish my family had done that I think majority of the time I was staring at everyone staring at their phones. With all that said I think it can hinder our social life greatly it’s so easy to misunderstand a message when you can’t at least hear the voice of who you are talking to.
Hi Matt!
I really enjoyed this video. I don’t always get a chance to comment because I find it takes a lot of time BECAUSE I agree with you. While, I do feel very “naked” without having my phone with me or around me where I know I can get to it, I don’t always want to be on it or communicating through typing everything. Good news, I will be seeing you a couple of times this month :) SO I do have purpose when it comes to communicating with you via social media ha! With that also being said, I wanted to also I comment by saying I have definitely gotten away from texting and twitter. I do Facebook, but I have also gotten away from spending time on there as well. I like it for keeping in touch and updated with the people I don’t get to see every day, BUT I refuse to spend hours on it. So this is good news of course. I also find that if I do step away from my phone, it seems that is when everyone wants my attention and if I do not respond right away, these people will get frustrated with me. I actually did have a friend who proceeded to get in a little “fight” with me because I told her I was busy with school work and didn’t want the distraction, so I put my phone away where I couldn’t access it.
I thought to myself, “of all the times I DO have my phone on me, I never hear from you, but then I have a legit reason for not answering and you get upset?” and this friend is not the only one that has done this. AND the biggest thing is IF it’s that important to talk to me, CALL me! No one calls they just text and text and don’t hear back and then get mad and give up. These are the same people that are upset when I don’t want to write my whole life story through texting when they want to know what is going on in my life. I offer to make a phone date soon(because they are out of state and I can’t just go out to lunch with them) and they find every reason to tell me they are too busy to talk on the phone. BUT yet you have time to text? I don’t understand it. I agree the social interaction has run away from society. Social media and internet is very convenient and I appreciate it in many ways because of that, but I also find it frustrating that too many people rely on it so much they are not comfortable without it. The same goes for when you are dating. I love getting a text from a guy I like, but if he never actually calls me to talk to me or better yet, asks me out so he can see me…then it is a huge turn off. Anyway, that is my rant.
I will see you in L.A. next weekend!
Hi Matthew,
Your latest video said it all. I recently came back from a vacation in Mexico, and it’s amazing even in paradise people are on their devices. One day I was walking on the beach enjoying the most beautiful view, and within five minutes I found more than ten people on their devices. I think we have forgotten that the internet is just one form of communication, it’s not the ultimate tool. I will admit that I need the internet for my job to keep up with the latest, but I also make a commitment to keep the internet usage to a minimum. One of my standards is not being on a device while on a date or out with friends. That person has taken the time to spend time with me, not my device. I’m not saying the internet is poor way of communicating. It has allowed us to explore new interests, and it has helped us keep in touch with people around the world. When it comes down to it, we need to find balance. I would rather take time to talk to someone on the phone or meet them in person then sending an email or text. Nothing beats a conversation like hearing someone’s voice or seeing their spontaneous reaction to your comments. My longest without internet was two weeks when I was backpacking on Baffin Island in Nunavut, Canada.
Thank you Matthew, keep up the great videos!
love this and so true x
One day I just forgot my mobile at home!!! My office colleagues were shocked. I did feel weird about not having the phone but then I did get a lot of work done. Plus it was less stressful :)
Someday I would love to meet you :)
<3<3<3 Dear wonderful LOVELIFE hero Matthew Hussey <3<3<3
May I say:
I loooooooooooooove your life-event :)
I believe it's one of the best events on this planet :)
Your event is in my heart & I believe God knows if it's possible I'd be there in a heart beat & <3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3
After all, I looooooooove heaven too & I wanna live forever :)
I believe good-hearted people will live forever & God knows all the best possibilities :)<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3
I've not been to so many places, but I looooooooove them :) How wonderful it is possible to looooooooove your live event & heaven :)
Looking forward to everything that is possible :)
I looooooooove your live-event because I know I’ll see you and your beautiful team :) & we will have one of the best days of our lives :)
I looooooooove heaven because I know I’ll be with God & live forever :)
<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3
May everybody enjoy seing you and all your live events & hugs & kisses :))))))))))
What a heart-touching topic again :)
Fantastic Matthew Hussey :)
May God bless us that one day we will meet in person :) I believe we will :) Hope everybody here will meet you in person :)
Hi Matthew,
Thanks for trying to help so many women around the world! It’s amazing that you have achieved so much at such a young age! I’m curious though…what are you like in your own relationship? Do you find that because you know about the psychology behind dating and relationships that you tend to overanalyse your partner’s behaviour? Or have you managed to balance it all? :)
you are cute! :) thank you!
Last summer I went on a pilgrimage in France, Spain, and Portugal, for seven weeks. I left my phone at home in the U.S. I found that it made it a lot easier to converse with my fellow pilgrims because I didn’t have something to hide behind if I was feeling shy.
When I came home, I decided not to get internet access in my new house. I live out in the country, so my phone is super slow so I can read email and that is about it. Forget watching a you tube video. It’s great! Since I have to go into town and find a wifi hotspot if I want to connect, I now use the internet deliberately. No more browsing for hours, which means I have more time and more money for spending time with people face to face.
I can live pretty well with no internet!! Actually, I don’t even have internet on my mobile, by choice, and sometimes I spend more than two days without taking a quick look on facebook!!!
I try as most as I can to use internet only to arrange meetings with my friends and I don’t like it when people start taking pictures (like in a restaurant) only in order to upload it on facebook – I hate it. It pisses me off!!!
Thank you, Matt!!
xxxx
Alarmingly, I’m watching my friends who are older like myself begin to text and e-mail on the phone. I am one of the few humans left on this planet that doesn’t text. The reason I don’t want my phone constantly beeping is to have calm and peace in my brain. An extra benefit is that these non-distractions allow me to ’embrace the moment.’ That doesn’t mean I’m not on my laptop at home as hours easily fly by watching everything Matthew has to say or Stephen has written, working with animal rights, finding songs to sing for karaoke, etc. Life is about balance. When I was younger, I remember my mother saying to me, “Don’t forget to smell the roses.” Since I’m older than most of the women here; I’d like to share with you to savor your time LOOKING at the roses. Time is something we never get back. (I had to change my name so it doesn’t show up on google.)
Hi Matt,
I was just curious what you thought of Tinder. Do you think it’s possible to meet someone of quality there or, is it basically as they say, just a hook-up place?
You are so right. I believe that people will eventually start feeling the void, and we will go back to being physically social again. Like most things, it will take on the pendulum effect. It goes from one extreme to the other and then balances out somewhere in the middle.
Oh and did I mention that you’re gorgeous – because I mean to… lol.
Just came back from a 2 week (school) trip to Japan – no internet, I don’t even own an smartphone, no problem. It’s much more relaxing, actually.
Some classmates were going crazy, though. And apparantly a former participant staying in the same guest family as I was playing around with her phone all day (like, you know, the people back home in school), which is rather ridiculous.
So yeah, I can do without the internet for a while
Great video. I was surprised to discover how many of my friends, (and yes they’re real friends who live close, not random people on fb) that view my Facebook page. Surprised because in the past I’ve asked them if they’re up for going for a drink/ cinema etc but very few respond. They just want to view fb pages or send messages rather than you know, actually go out in the world. That seems endemic..when I commute to work on the train, it’s like everyone is terrified of social interaction. Very sad.. I’ve only just found your sites & find your insights & wisdom inspiring.
I love your shirt :).
Now I’m going outside.
“I wish there were a way to communicate with people…” HA! Love it. Yeah it’s called a phone!!
:)