Here’s a clip from my recent appearance on Katie Couric where I’m joined on the couch by the Ready For Love gang Tracey McMillan and Amber Kelleher-Andrews.[SlideDeck2 id=9283]
From the video…
1) Meet more men
Most women aren’t meeting the quantity of men they need in their everyday lives. It’s often not easy as we get stuck doing the same things over and over.
How can you mix things up? (From Tracy) “To meet people with similar interests, find the things you love to do, then go out and do those things.”
And while you’re at it, don’t worry about the outcome. (From Katie) “You’ve got to be a little creative girls… and if it doesn’t work out, that’s okay, because you don’t want to be with someone who’s not attracted to you anyway.”
Make it easy for a guy in the first 10 seconds as most guys don’t know how to talk to you and you need to be able to give him licence to come over and approach you. As a general rule, don’t BE easy, but in the first 10 seconds, be easy.
2) Layer your approach
The thing that makes us nervous around people we’re attracted to is intent.
Here’s a way to get over nerves I’ve used with clients – one of whom went on to get two dates and four numbers in one afternoon!
Take on each stage until you’re fully comfortable doing it.
–Ask a guy for the time
–Ask a guy for the time and when he gives it to you tell him you like his watch
–Ask a guy for the time, tell him you like his watch, and then say that you need his ideas on what you can get as a present for your brother/friend/nephew
This is a guaranteed conversation starter that you can have some real fun with.
3) Simple speed-dating tips
–Address the awkwardness
–Keep conversations emotional not logical
Question of the day:
Do you agree with Katie? Are there really more cool women than men?
The person with the best response gets to ask me anything : )
UPDATE: Congrats Lisa! Your question and my answer can be found here.
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