Why don’t you have a man yet?!
Oh…you’re still single? But why?
Uh-oh. Better find a relationship while you still have time!
Any of these sound familiar? If you’re single, I’m sure they will.
Whether it’s in Hollywood romcoms, glossy magazines, or even just your mother’s nagging, there seems to be a constant assumption in the world that being single is the WORST THING EVER.
Maybe you even secretly feel this way yourself.
But you shouldn’t. Being single is totally underrated. In fact, it can be so much fun that you wonder why anyone would ever want a relationship to begin with. In this week’s blog video, I’m joined by a very special guest, my friend Lewis Howes, former pro-athlete and host of the School of Greatness podcast.
I’ve followed Lewis’s work for a while now, and I’m thrilled he agreed to come and share his top 5 reasons why being single can be the opportunity of a lifetime, and why you should savour every second of being free and unattached while you can. It’s a really fun and insightful video, with some genius practical tips for making your life extraordinary so that you can truly appreciate yourself and have a world that bring you happiness and fulfillment.
As you know, I don’t have guests in my video blogs very often, so you can trust me when I say that Lewis provides incredible value.
Click Here to Purchase Lewis’ Book, The School of Greatness
I really enjoyed this pod cast with Lewis Howes. I’ve been single for 8yrs. Five of which I was in an on off situation. I like the ideas you shared to enjoy being single. My favorite one is to take time to get really good at something. Another favorite is to spend a weekend away from home, meet new people and explore new places. Thank you!
Thank you so much Matthew and Lewis! What impresses me most about pro athletes is their mindset, I think that’s what really sets them apart. Can’t wait to check out the blog and book! WHOOP!
I’ve been single forever lol but what I enjoy the most is that I can do and go wherever I want without “asking for permission” from my partner. All of my friends are in relationships and when I tell them of an event Togo as a couple or alone they have to ask for permission.
I completely agree with everything you guys have said and my sixth comment would be:
For me it’s about spending time on my own and being comfortable with myself. This has been the hardest but most rewarding part for me. It means that no matter who comes into my life and what happens I will always be able to go back to moi :)
Great video guys–best one yet!
You asked for add ins from us and I would add volunteering or giving back to others. I’d also add devoting time to your faith if that’s important to you. Some people loose that in a relationship.
Thanks
Matt and Lewis,
I think you are spot on with your observations and tips for being happily single.
Another important thing, which I think you left out, is understanding your own unique personality type and “doing the work”, to gain insight and wisdom into how your own mind works, to work on any underlying issues you have, to be the best you can be before you align with someone else — and also, make sure that other person has also done self-reflection and transformation. I was analyzed using Meyers-Briggs many years ago, and it’s a fine system, but just recently was introduced to the Enneagram types, which is helping me much more because it helps me get to the root of how I deal with stress (I get autocratic, and my decisions become very black and white).
The thing is, the man I married and I both had underlying issues in our personalities, and since neither of us had done serious self-reflection and transformation, we were absolutely the WORST for each other. In different circumstances, if we had both gone through personal transformations, we may have been a very good couple. So I seriously recommend that single people do self-reflective work, with the help of friends or professionals or support groups, to become the very best they can be to align with someone else. And I’m so much happier now that I’m doing the self-work, even as a single person.
Yours always,
Lisa
do something alone.. dinner, movie.. sometimes go dancing.. a place you can but I dont like going out all the time.. dancing I love but I only stay out to midnight when I do go out and I dont drink much.
I what to be with my ex. I know I dont need him. He is not open to it and right now its a crazy situation. I am following my heart so I know I look crazy. I also realize that matthew tells us that guys do think like guys.. I am learning alot.
Dear Matthew,
You became my coach :) so I would like to thank you my coach.. why? because you really made my day with your words and your spontaneous character.. I love your vedieos it have different style and the fact that you keep the thing going in simple & spontaneous way is really beneficial and powerful to spread your message.. My favourat videose are( the radieo”love life” , the trip , the conference when you deliver some part of your events , and the one on this page. Did I mention everything =) =) Oh by the way I print the article of your brother& am working on its process to ) thank you for that also I know its not easy as you said to deliver your own secrets , since am studying Psychology.. Good luck with your life, career , wish you the best of everything..
your client,
MALAK
Great Matthew,
I was just feeling a bit de-motivated about the dating life and this has given me a boost. I love being single but I want more things to be happening. You’ve made me remember that I need to enjoy the process as one day I won’t be single and will miss the time I had with myself. I will definitely be checking out Lewis’s book :)
My favourite point is reconnecting with your vision personally & professionally.
More videos together please :)
LOVED this video. Lewis is fantastic. The two of you together have so much wonderful insight and advice that it would be amazing to have Lewis guest star again. P.S. Lewis just purchased the book :)
I meant, Lewis, I just purchased the book! haha
I really had a hard time paying attention to the hotness because there was too much info on that sofa.
My favorite thing to do when single is:
play hookie from my work and have a “ME” day: either: a full on, feel good, pamper myself spa day, or… take myself on an uber feminine day-date: includingtake dance and yoga classes, hang out at hip cafe where I can people watch, flirt with the baristas, get hit on by attractive men, then thrift store shopping….. Look cute, do things that allow me to feel great in my body and mind, and hang out in great people watching places, feeling great!
PS: thanks for this video! You helped me remember that there is so much that I actually LOVE about being single!
I’m loving hitting up the gym. I enjoy pushing my body and the burn in my lungs when I’m really going for it. I used to be so embarrassed to get sweaty or breathe hard there, but now I don’t even feel like it was worth the trip unless I’m dripping in sweat and my muscles are quivering! Lol! I also don’t mind being the creeper watching all the hot guys lifting and flashing a little shy smile every now and then. Being single is so nice; there is a whole world of possibility out there.
Really enjoyed that Matt and Lewis. Great information. :-)
Hi Matthew. I’m a 29 years old woman. I’ve started to watch your youtubes when my date left me alone after 2 months. I was a needy and boring girl. I was looking for a relationship desperately one year ago. I started to listen to your advice and think about them. I was kinda depressed also because of my moving to the U.S. I’ve dated so many many people to get more experiances. I do what you say and follow you. I have my self confidence again, my ex wanted to marry me, my other ex begged me to be in a relationship with me. I can get any guy in a room! I’m sexy, funny, I flirt with them a lit, I talk about my career… Matthew I don’t know how I can truly show you that I Am so happy that you exist in the world to mentor me! You saved my life.
Thank you so so much <3
Lida
Reason to Love Being Single: Spend more time with God and developing your spiritual life.
Hey, I watched the video on how to get the “How to talk to men” Book and each time I hit on the download button it says empty shopping card, buhuhuhu
I would like to order it.
Thanks for your help dear M. Hussey team
Eliza
For girls: DONT STOP HAVING GIRLS NIGHT OUT ;))
Oh and thank you for taking the time to do this video, a very good reminder to keep being your beat version in a relationship :)