It goes without saying that everything happening right now is all a dream come true.
In the last couple of days I filmed for Inside Edition, Katie Couric, and The Today Show. All to talk about my new GetTheGuy book and ‘Ready For Love’ on NBC. This week, there is A LOT more to come.
And yet, while my dreams are coming true, it’s still hard.
People often forget that when trying to achieve their dreams. And that there will be ways in which life is still hard once they’ve achieved them. My life right now is hard. It’s hugely exciting and rewarding, but it’s still hard.
First, there is the pressure to perform. The next few days are going to be the biggest (and most nerve-racking) of my life. I’ll be appearing on somewhere in the region of 12 different TV shows, 10 different radio stations, and in more articles than I can keep track of. Performing is something I’ve done for years now, every weekend at my events. I can speak for 50 hours over 5 days straight (a long way from not being able to give a 5 minute speech in class at school!). It’s become second nature to me.
Except that all of this hasn’t been a ‘performance’ for me. It’s been me. It’s my love, my passion, my baby. My ideas, my thoughts, my stories, my personal experiences… everything is me. As I evolve and change, so does my material. As my story gets richer and more diverse, so do my ideas.
I believe that a great deal of my success has been due to my authenticity, my candidness, and the fact that I’m congruent with my material. So it’s something of a bind. The more authentic I get, the more successful I become, whilst simultaneously deepening the extent to which I let people into my world and my life.
Tomorrow, the number of people who will be exposed to me in that way will be beyond anything I have ever experienced.
And that’s a little scary.
Last week a delightful journalist by the name of Amanda Stern interviewed me at my hotel in New York. She gave me one of the most interesting interviews I’d ever had. She was honest. She was tough on me, and didn’t let me off the hook on anything, but I really liked her.
As the interview was nearing a close she said, “I’m a little worried about you”. She expressed her concern for everything that was about to happen to me. I mentioned to her that although I was scared, I was resigned to staying true to who I am, to what I believe, and not getting sucked into becoming something I’m not. I also said that my friends and family were there to keep me sane and be my rock through all of it. And they do, everyday (I remember when I went back to London to see them recently, I couldn’t so much as ask my mum for a cup of tea without my brothers saying, “Oh look at this guy, he’s gone all Beverly Hills already…pathetic”. I love them so much!).
As I was thinking about what constitutes my ‘rock’ in life, or rather WHO, I began to think of you – my readers, my viewers, my clients. Recently I released our book trailer video, “Kids Talk Dating Problems” – which I’m told might be the most viewed non-fiction book trailer of all time, though I’m not sure. When I released this, alongside the lovely comments from people who saw it as the light-hearted bit of fun it was supposed to be, we also had our share of very strong negative comments on Youtube. Now it’s not that I mind the negative comments. I really don’t. They are part of life and they certainly make things more interesting. If anything they spur me on to create more. But these negative comments do remind me of something…
That when I come back to my own blog I feel like I’m home.
Because I have you. You are my rock. You welcome the new things that I put out with open arms. You celebrate it. You share it. You support me. There is something that to me is extraordinary about this little world we have created together here. It goes beyond you just liking the content of the blog. You actually want the best for me as a person. And that is a rare thing.
It means more to me than you know to have somewhere I can come back to where people know me and love me, and the knowledge that even once the show and the book have come out, you will still be here fighting forward with me gives me so much joy. Let’s face it, there will be new people who arrive here, but I love more than anything that you will be crusading with me on the journey… my original crew : )
All this is to say that you are more than my clients and followers. You are my friends. And I love you.
We are a team, and we stick together. I will keep making videos and articles to support you. I will keep writing posts and staying honest not just about my triumphs, but my flaws, my insecurities, and my doubts. There is nothing we cannot achieve as a team.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being there for me.
Always here for you.
P.S. I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming tomorrow. There’s an email that’s coming for you at 7am. Stay tuned.
181 Replies to “My Love Letter To You…”
I love and consider it a very special privilege and wonderful treat to receive emails from you with delightful videos… I could listen to you forever… I love your accent and you’re so terribly easy on the eyes and such a lovely, authentic person. I absolutely love your blogs, your love letter is so very special… I’m so excited for you… I am really excited and looking forward to your live event in Seattle and finally getting my hands on your book.
Best wishes to you always and thank you so much for all the wonderful ways you touch and bring good things to our lives… you are such a wonderful person and we do love you.
I just want to give you a hug right now :)
You are such a wonderful person in you videos and blog. As I read this post tears started to go down my face because of how beautiful your words are. I’m glad that you consider us your friends because I’ve also considered you mine. In many ways everyone has to face negative comments from others, I know I have this year and your posts always brought a smile to my face because they re-charged my belief that it’s okay to be different. Tomorrow is a big day and things are going to change. I believe for the better.
I have to admit that I have felt worried for you-that you would change away from the person that you are now in a negative way. It happens to the best of us, but I’m glad that you look at us to be what will keep you grounded.
As for what happened at your home, don’t be scared. If you have always asked your mom for tea, ask it! Family should be the people with which you can be your true self and nothing should change the family dynamic. Yes, you now will be Matthew Hussey with greater international audience but you are still Matt.
It’s the same reason why I talk to my parents multiple times a day to let them know where I am and tell them that I love them. Just because I live hundreds of miles away doesn’t change that they worry about how I am doing, they trusted me enough to go away to college and I should uphold the values that they taught me. When I am back home, life goes back to business as usual.
I can not refrain of feeling submerged by all the emotions in your letter. Your anxiety is totally understandable in your situation. I suppose things are getting bigger than you have imagined it would ever be and I can understand that your scared. But be sure of one thing : you deserve all the good things that are happening to you.
You worked hard and always with a good heart and the attention of helping people. Your authenticity, your love for people and your passion in what you do are exactly what we like about you. You’re not alone; we’re behind you.
I’m really touched by this letter and I am very happy to be part of your team, even if I’m just following you.
I wish you all the best (Again, you deserve it) !
I am excited for you & look forward to your much anticipated release! You are refreshingly honest & have a natural talent for making things easier to understand & am gratful to be here to share with you the success that has come from al your hard work & just remember that you deserve this & have helped so many women & now your going to be reaching millions more & imagine how many hearts are going to fix & the tru impact you are making is bringing love and commitment to couples not just in the uS but in the UK as well…..that is absolutley phenomenal!
Definition~ A phenomenon (Greek: φαινόμενoν, from the Greek word ‘phainomenon’, from the verb ‘phanein’, to show, shine, appear, to be manifest (or manifest itself)), …
I just want to say thank you, sincerely on behalf of all your faithful friends here on your blog. Thank you for your help, your sincerity, and your guidance. I don’t know about you, but to me those three things are some of the best things a true friend should offer, and for that I thank you. Good luck on your journey!
Keep your head up! We’re not going anywhere. ;) And I, for one, am happy to be along for the ride. You’ll be great!
Thanks for being here. I support you. xx ～～＾＾～～ xx
A massive warm virtual hug for you! That was the loveliest thing I read today. Just remember to take care of yourself and give yourself a bit of quiet time to stay balanced through the whirlwind to come!
First of all, thank you for consider to us (your readers and followers) at your blog and giving us the best dating advices for our love lives. I think the best thing in the world is to help others to get not only love but also success in everything we ever wanted, and that my dear friend is heaven on earth.
I have great news for you: now I have boyfriend :D and it was crazy how we get together but I apply some of your advices and techniques and work out very well. Thank you again for everything and I can’t wait for get your book.
Matthew, THANK YOU. I found you after a bad break up. Just before you emailed, I found out that the guy in question, who I had been dating very seriously for 2.5 years before he dumped me one Christmas without explanation before we were supposed to go on holiday has actually been seeing someone else with a child, probably since before we broke up. But your chirpy message has brightened up my day. I have bought your book and it is great. Thank you for helping with new beginnings xx
Your letter is so moving. I wish you all the success you deserve because You Are Amazing Matthiew.. Luv from Algeria.
Matthew, We feel so privileged at being the people who’ve been with you since even before this new surge of fame. It is so awesome to read your posts and feel close to you, feel like your friend even without being with you in person. You are a celebrity now, but you are not like any other celebrity. Not at all.
(You did meet me. Oct 2011. I was the person who gave you 35 pages about myself slipped under your door. And barged in on dinner & lunch. Thanks. Changing my name in this post so my family doesn’t know for sure this is me:) Turns out I probably am an Aspie (aspergers) which explains a bit of my obsessiveness/persistence/only learning social skills in the second half of my twenties-with which you help, etc. (will keep you in my prayers :) ))
Imagine lots of hugs and kisses from us!!!
two years ago I came across one of your videos on youtube and since then I watch and read anything you produce.
I think from tomorrow your success will become much bigger and you 100% deserve the recognition of your work!
Good luck my friend,
take a breath and appreciate all this success! You deserve it!
I’m sure your book will be best-selling!
Lots of love!
We all love you too.
Aww Matt you’re so sweet!! You’re right, just stay genuine through it all, no matter how tough it might get. And we’ll always be here for you:)
P.S. so excited for your book & show!!!
No Fear, Matthew, reach for the stars, Blaze your trail. You are going to be even more AMAZING!
Uncle Matthew so mushy! ;-(
I wonder if you didn’t have your family or network as a rock, would u be able to deal with success and all of the circumstances?
Btw, what would be the point of watching this show if Uncle Matt wasn’t in it? Umm none.
Matthew my friend,
Im a huge believer of that idea that “everyone wants me to succeed”. That this is a very friendly world, and that we are all here to help, support and love each other. By wanting someone else to succeed, you are also helping yourself.
You have honestly changed my dating life so drastically. Your advise is real and honest. Not some mental “game”. You have not only helped me to “get the guy”, more importantly, you have helped me get the opportunities in life. I am confident that I am a much more fabulous woman because of you.
Thank you for your kind words, and for beaming with gratitude.
I want you to succeed, my friend.
Congratulations on the new adventures ahead. Yes, they can be scary and nerve racking, but in a good way. You have been such strength for me/us and I’m so honored that we are that for you in return. I appreciate you as a coach and friend. I will continue to follow you and see where this journey takes all of us.
Stay strong, you believed in us and we believe in you!
i love what you said
god bless you
you are a great man ever :)
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