It goes without saying that everything happening right now is all a dream come true.
In the last couple of days I filmed for Inside Edition, Katie Couric, and The Today Show. All to talk about my new GetTheGuy book and ‘Ready For Love’ on NBC. This week, there is A LOT more to come.
And yet, while my dreams are coming true, it’s still hard.
People often forget that when trying to achieve their dreams. And that there will be ways in which life is still hard once they’ve achieved them. My life right now is hard. It’s hugely exciting and rewarding, but it’s still hard.
First, there is the pressure to perform. The next few days are going to be the biggest (and most nerve-racking) of my life. I’ll be appearing on somewhere in the region of 12 different TV shows, 10 different radio stations, and in more articles than I can keep track of. Performing is something I’ve done for years now, every weekend at my events. I can speak for 50 hours over 5 days straight (a long way from not being able to give a 5 minute speech in class at school!). It’s become second nature to me.
Except that all of this hasn’t been a ‘performance’ for me. It’s been me. It’s my love, my passion, my baby. My ideas, my thoughts, my stories, my personal experiences… everything is me. As I evolve and change, so does my material. As my story gets richer and more diverse, so do my ideas.
I believe that a great deal of my success has been due to my authenticity, my candidness, and the fact that I’m congruent with my material. So it’s something of a bind. The more authentic I get, the more successful I become, whilst simultaneously deepening the extent to which I let people into my world and my life.
Tomorrow, the number of people who will be exposed to me in that way will be beyond anything I have ever experienced.
And that’s a little scary.
Last week a delightful journalist by the name of Amanda Stern interviewed me at my hotel in New York. She gave me one of the most interesting interviews I’d ever had. She was honest. She was tough on me, and didn’t let me off the hook on anything, but I really liked her.
As the interview was nearing a close she said, “I’m a little worried about you”. She expressed her concern for everything that was about to happen to me. I mentioned to her that although I was scared, I was resigned to staying true to who I am, to what I believe, and not getting sucked into becoming something I’m not. I also said that my friends and family were there to keep me sane and be my rock through all of it. And they do, everyday (I remember when I went back to London to see them recently, I couldn’t so much as ask my mum for a cup of tea without my brothers saying, “Oh look at this guy, he’s gone all Beverly Hills already…pathetic”. I love them so much!).
As I was thinking about what constitutes my ‘rock’ in life, or rather WHO, I began to think of you – my readers, my viewers, my clients. Recently I released our book trailer video, “Kids Talk Dating Problems” – which I’m told might be the most viewed non-fiction book trailer of all time, though I’m not sure. When I released this, alongside the lovely comments from people who saw it as the light-hearted bit of fun it was supposed to be, we also had our share of very strong negative comments on Youtube. Now it’s not that I mind the negative comments. I really don’t. They are part of life and they certainly make things more interesting. If anything they spur me on to create more. But these negative comments do remind me of something…
That when I come back to my own blog I feel like I’m home.
Because I have you. You are my rock. You welcome the new things that I put out with open arms. You celebrate it. You share it. You support me. There is something that to me is extraordinary about this little world we have created together here. It goes beyond you just liking the content of the blog. You actually want the best for me as a person. And that is a rare thing.
It means more to me than you know to have somewhere I can come back to where people know me and love me, and the knowledge that even once the show and the book have come out, you will still be here fighting forward with me gives me so much joy. Let’s face it, there will be new people who arrive here, but I love more than anything that you will be crusading with me on the journey… my original crew : )
All this is to say that you are more than my clients and followers. You are my friends. And I love you.
We are a team, and we stick together. I will keep making videos and articles to support you. I will keep writing posts and staying honest not just about my triumphs, but my flaws, my insecurities, and my doubts. There is nothing we cannot achieve as a team.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being there for me.
Always here for you.
Matthew xxx
P.S. I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming tomorrow. There’s an email that’s coming for you at 7am. Stay tuned.
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Dear Matthew
One thing I love most about your blogs is that you always speak from heart. When I first saw your videos, few months ago I really wish I could attend one of your live events, it is finally going to happen this Saturday so excited. It sounds like you are very excited and nervous at the same time. When I see the ads of Ready for love on buses here in Manhattan I feel very happy. You are helping many women like me. Great things are waiting for you.
Cya
I read your letter and many of the responses and don’t think any words could say ‘right back at cha’ as eloquently or truthfully as these ladies have expressed it. I’m thinking of your Mom right now and imagining her as she reads this (bawling her eyes out and so proud-not that she wouldn’t be any ways-Moms are like that ;)
I have a wish for you, and I think your friends and family would agree, I hope you find your 100% right person soon. You’ve given so much to the masses and I hope all the love you have shared and helped create for others comes back to you ten fold/100 fold (+).
All the best to you,
take care of yourself,
and when it gets hard don’t forget to lean on those who love you, (there’s no better honour than to carry a weary friend/family member when they are in need)
Have a FanTasTic ride,
Kristi
Dear Matt:
I’ve never posted a comment not because I wasn’t reading them but I must confess that I was still skeptical. Not of your work for whatever little I’ve implemented did yield tangible results. But you see, having lived in the States for almost 20 years and having been on a “soul search” for that long, I have encountered many teachers, instructors and so called “gurus” of all kinds and in the end, no matter what their approach was, they disappointed me. Their teachings were in most cases tremendously helpful but when the moment came to interact with them (via email, live questions, etc etc) they were utterly detached and “out there”. In other words, they didn’t seem to be aware that with such teachings, they-as teachers, had entered a very sacred aspect of us: our hearts and our souls. And believe it or not, there’s this sense of “intimacy” that is created (at least in the mind of the learner) because of that, that seemed foreign to them. There was this tremendous gap between what they were teaching and our experience of that. Their teaching had become this formulaic abstract things “up there” whilst for us it was very much still in the very core of our experiences and hearts! So, to reach out to them and find this very commercial, marketing oriented, rather superficial side of them was disappointing at best, devastating at worst.
Reading your letter tonight inspired me to believe again that there’s still people out there that are motivated by a great cause and that in the process of achieving “fame” or notoriety, they haven’t forgotten what is truly important. Your letter seems to reveal that all this new things that are happening to you have not gone to “your head” yet and that you still are honest and real. Your words made me believe that it really isn’t about the money- which I have nothing against you getting tons of it! but hope you do it remembering that you are touching humans hearts and lives. Your words made believe that you truly love what you are doing and for that, even if you discovered that your approach and teachings need some tweaking, I’d still follow you! I much prefer an honest and perhaps “inaccurate” teacher who never forgets to connect to his students from the heart than an “all knowing” one who sees you with a dollar sing on your forehead.
You said you love me in your letter and I so hope it’s not just a marketing strategy for I, after reading your letter, love you to and wish the absolute best for you! Your honesty and dedication are an inspiration to me!
May I have your permission to tell you when and if you ever become “too commercialized and detached”? Fine! I’ll do it over a private email but I hope that never happens. ;-)
With much love,
Your fellow human being….:-)
You are such a beautiful guy. I hope that by using your methods I find another you! Cheers sweetie:-)
Hi Matthew,
There are tons and tons people trying to grab money on line and when I started to subscribe your newsletters and courses, I was not sure what wil be the difference of this course and other courses.
However, it becomes such a delightful thing to receive your blog post and enjoyable videos. It is amazing to think how you are having so many meaningful relationships with the many people reading your blogs. And every time I read your writings, I feels like growing as a person.
It is a pity that I have never received a personal consulting slots from your team. I am not sure is it because my questions are not appropriate or I am still too young to get a hand on love issues without some trying. But I still hope to get in contact with some of your awesome team members.
Wish the best of you.
Hi Mattt,
Am sorry that I have to sound different from the rest of the good people here. Truly for my case, I didn’t understand why you sent me this love letter. I have been reading and acting upon everything you send me via my email but things haven’t worked out at all. Truly I have strugled with this guy because I love him but he never felt the same as I did towards him….and now I give up. And I don’t think that I will ever be able to openup my heart to any man again. Iam 25 going on to 26 six but not even one relatioship in my life have I had…not even once.so I give up on love. May be I wasn’t meant to be loved by others (men).It hurt a woman so bad to be rejected by a man more than twice. I makes a woman like me (a PISCES)FEEL like committing sucide. Am sorry for having to put you through all this mess of mine.
Thank you,
ElizabethMercy
You really need to buy the book Elizabeth.
Lots of love
I have to thank you personally for this “letter”. I have to admit that my love life isn’t what I expected to be, but hopefully with your tips and advices it will get better. Anyway… This letter was very touching for me as performer. Lately I’ve been having a lot of internal conflicts because I’m afraid of not being able to achieve my expectations. You made me grow so much, you encourage and help not just me but all of those women. For that, I’m the one who has the obligation to say THANK YOU!!!! Even though I’m far away from making my dream come true, I completely relate to you. You just awoke my passion for performing on stage once more. I’ve been facing hardship from everywhere but when you have a reason to live is when you gain strength to fight negativity with love and smiles. One of my favorite quotes is ” Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.” And everyday when I look myself at the mirror I see shining stars, but sometimes I don’t allow people too see it.
Matthew, you opened my eyes, and now I will open up yours… Don’t EVER be afraid of acchiving your greatness!!!!! You are huge inspiration for me and the rest of the world. Yes, you will be exposed to a lot of people, but you wouldn’t be on that position if you didn’t deserve it!!! Personally, I think you deserve more, but right now all I can do is to give you my respect, admiration, recomendation, positive energy, love and thanks. I could hope the best would happen to you, but I KNOW IT WILL HAPPEN!!!! Trust in yourself because all of us trust in you ;)
PS: I can’t wait for the event on this Saturday in NY!!!! I’m hoping to get an authograph!! ;) I’m so exited *-* <3
Dear Matthew,
It’s an inspiration to see how many people you’ve helped along the way. Your passion and love for the work you’re doing really shines through and I can only wish that you will find the same happiness and love in your own life that you have so willingly shared with us. Although I’ve never been in love and propably will never be, I still come back to these writings to remind myself that love is around in abundance.
All my love,
Anna
im soo inlove with you, thank you, for sharing this much I’ve learned a lot.
God really love you he gave you so much talent and helping people.. Keep if up matt..
always anna :)
Matt, you will always have followers who will love you.I love your determination to stay grounded and unassuming while riding on the crest of the wave. It is beyond rare. You respect what you have and that alone will ensure that you will always get what you want.
You can handle success and so it will come to you.
I Appreciate the grace.
Will always love you.
God be with you x
Dear sweet adorable Matt,
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s always so inspiring and endearing to hear you speak from the heart and not creating an ideal image of the impeccable mentor (isn’t it tempting at times?) I think it’s very unique when someone allows such opennes and even vulnerability. It amazes me! I want to be that bold and strong.
And we’re all with you) Go Dream Team!;)
Warm regards and hugs from Moscow
Thank you Matt ! The information you provide with such honesty and sweetness makes it all the more valuable to those of us in need! Hope beyond hope that you are even further blessed with success and happiness and that you continue to realize your blessings now and evermore. Life is such are ride, do all you can to love , laugh and enjoy the all the moments good and bad! Be humble but be proud of the accomplishment! Thanks again so much for all you have in your heart to offer.
Preciousness
Shasta
You really got us Matt, and yes! it’s a shared feeling, an invisible one, a magical one. And these mails are something else, not just words. :)
Dear Matthew,
Congratulations on all of the good things that have come your way!
You are truly an inspiration to us all. Not just because of your advice for getting the guy, but for being so true to who you are and what you believe in.
Ever since I started reading your blog and watching your videos on youtube I have not only been inspired by your dating advice for creating romance, but I’ve been inspired to keep creating in my life by building my self-confidence and strength and being the best me I can be.
Thank you for everything! I wish you all the best! :)
Hi, Matthew. Your love letter is so touching. Melting me from inside out. Thank you.
Wow Matt!!
The *love* we all feel for you here, is amazingly Electric!!
I feel so incredibly proud of you, right now, and so happy that you are living your life, the way you want.
Thankyou Matt, for staying TRUE to you, and for sharing your genuine love, with and for us. And for showing us how much you care.
You truly are a Kindred Spirit, a real Champion among men, and Incredible human being!
Your angel wings transcend beyond vast oceans, and fly high above boarders, bringing people together under a covenant of heart-felt *LOVE* and appreciation. Its a beautiful thing!
Thankyou for helping to heal our wounds, nourish our minds, and strengthen our hearts.
It takes a GR8 man, to have a woman begin to believe in herself! And for her to continuously grow, in her new confidence, better awareness, raised self-esteem, fresh direction, and new life tools, with his help.
And for that, from the bottom of my HEART…
**I Trust & Believe In You**
You’re the Best Matt!!
With Much *Love*
Positive Energy,
and Gratitude,
for all that you do
Tina x
Hi Matt! it’s always a pleasure to read from you. Your book is absolutely great! A couple of questions : have you ever thought about publishing your book in french? Unfortunately only a few of my friends speak english and I do believe french people need your advises :) I promise I would double like and triple share!
The content of your book applies to women but I think a lot would be usefull for men too (socializing, bring life to next level…). Do you have anything I could share with male friends? You’re maybe too busy at the moment!
Love.
Annabelle
Thanks Annabelle! On a French version – would love to, and it’s very much down to the success of this one.
On the men’s side, you couldn’t have asked at a better time. I’ve just launched this: http://dld.bz/cwwpV
Enjoy!
Dear Matt,
I know that what you have shared with all of us from the beginning is deep in your heart, your passion, your love. You are compassionate, caring and you truly work very hard to help all of us girls find love. We are so proud of your success and I am so excited to see what beautiful new things are going to happen for you in the future.
All the best to you in your endeavours.
We are here for you. Thank you for being here for us.
xo
Adria
Hi Matthew!
Thank you so much for your lovely letter! I had the pleasure of meeting you yesterday at Bar Americain (for those of you who weren’t there, I was at a business lunch when my coworker told me to check out the cute guy at 9 o’clock. And as I turn to look, it’s Matthew himself sat at the next table!! Crazy moment!). But anyway I just wanted to wish you the very best of luck again on the book and the show! I think I speak for most of the ladies on this blog that today is a bittersweet day for us. We’re all excited for the meteoric success you will achieve but at the same time, now we will have to share you with the rest of the world which will no doubt fall in love with you too! What you do is truly brilliant and has been an incredible inspiration to me.
Thank you!! :-)
-Tina