My Love Letter To You…

 (Photo: Camerabee)
The eve of the storm, I’m thinking of you… (Photo: Camerabee)

It goes without saying that everything happening right now is all a dream come true.

In the last couple of days I filmed for Inside Edition, Katie Couric, and The Today Show. All to talk about my new GetTheGuy book and ‘Ready For Love’ on NBC. This week, there is A LOT more to come.

And yet, while my dreams are coming true, it’s still hard.

People often forget that when trying to achieve their dreams. And that there will be ways in which life is still hard once they’ve achieved them. My life right now is hard. It’s hugely exciting and rewarding, but it’s still hard.

First, there is the pressure to perform. The next few days are going to be the biggest (and most nerve-racking) of my life. I’ll be appearing on somewhere in the region of 12 different TV shows, 10 different radio stations, and in more articles than I can keep track of. Performing is something I’ve done for years now, every weekend at my events. I can speak for 50 hours over 5 days straight (a long way from not being able to give a 5 minute speech in class at school!). It’s become second nature to me.

Except that all of this hasn’t been a ‘performance’ for me. It’s been me. It’s my love, my passion, my baby. My ideas, my thoughts, my stories, my personal experiences… everything is me. As I evolve and change, so does my material. As my story gets richer and more diverse, so do my ideas.

I believe that a great deal of my success has been due to my authenticity, my candidness, and the fact that I’m congruent with my material. So it’s something of a bind. The more authentic I get, the more successful I become, whilst simultaneously deepening the extent to which I let people into my world and my life.

Tomorrow, the number of people who will be exposed to me in that way will be beyond anything I have ever experienced.

And that’s a little scary.

Last week a delightful journalist by the name of Amanda Stern interviewed me at my hotel in New York. She gave me one of the most interesting interviews I’d ever had. She was honest. She was tough on me, and didn’t let me off the hook on anything, but I really liked her.

As the interview was nearing a close she said, “I’m a little worried about you”. She expressed her concern for everything that was about to happen to me. I mentioned to her that although I was scared, I was resigned to staying true to who I am, to what I believe, and not getting sucked into becoming something I’m not. I also said that my friends and family were there to keep me sane and be my rock through all of it. And they do, everyday (I remember when I went back to London to see them recently, I couldn’t so much as ask my mum for a cup of tea without my brothers saying, “Oh look at this guy, he’s gone all Beverly Hills already…pathetic”. I love them so much!).

As I was thinking about what constitutes my ‘rock’ in life, or rather WHO, I began to think of you – my readers, my viewers, my clients. Recently I released our book trailer video, “Kids Talk Dating Problems” – which I’m told might be the most viewed non-fiction book trailer of all time, though I’m not sure. When I released this, alongside the lovely comments from people who saw it as the light-hearted bit of fun it was supposed to be, we also had our share of very strong negative comments on Youtube. Now it’s not that I mind the negative comments. I really don’t. They are part of life and they certainly make things more interesting. If anything they spur me on to create more. But these negative comments do remind me of something…

That when I come back to my own blog I feel like I’m home.

Because I have you. You are my rock. You welcome the new things that I put out with open arms. You celebrate it. You share it. You support me. There is something that to me is extraordinary about this little world we have created together here. It goes beyond you just liking the content of the blog. You actually want the best for me as a person. And that is a rare thing.

It means more to me than you know to have somewhere I can come back to where people know me and love me, and the knowledge that even once the show and the book have come out, you will still be here fighting forward with me gives me so much joy. Let’s face it, there will be new people who arrive here, but I love more than anything that you will be crusading with me on the journey… my original crew : )

All this is to say that you are more than my clients and followers. You are my friends. And I love you.

We are a team, and we stick together. I will keep making videos and articles to support you. I will keep writing posts and staying honest not just about my triumphs, but my flaws, my insecurities, and my doubts. There is nothing we cannot achieve as a team.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being there for me.

Always here for you.

Matthew xxx

P.S. I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming tomorrow. There’s an email that’s coming for you at 7am. Stay tuned.


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181 Replies to “My Love Letter To You…”

  • Congratulations, Matthew!!!

    So happy for you and your success!! I know the book will be a bestseller!! I’ve learned so much already from your Get The Guy Program and have seen success like never before!! You are amazing!!
    Can’t wait for Keep THe Guy!!

    All the Best and Enjoy!!


  • Dear Matthew
    You have us all caught up in this whirlwind of emotion and warmth. You have created such a depth of positive, protected energy that we all feel inspired to take up your ideas and run with them and you. An amazing achievement.
    I hope Amazon in UK will soon offer this launch we seem to have missed the unveiling ceremony.
    Sending the love back to you

  • Matt,

    This is the first time I’m posting a comment though I’ve been reading your blog for quite a while.

    You’re an amazing writer/blogger/counselor and I think is very cute how you show concern for your fans and we do want you to be around, even after the book release and the show airing.

    We all know your schedule is getting tighter by the minute, but do know that we’ll always wish for a new email from you in our inboxes! :)

    Enjoy your succes! You’ve earned it!

    Big kisses,

  • Smile a big smile for yourself as you will be blessed with helping others with love which is a beautiful thing:) U are making our world a better place!!! May you be blessed.. Keep doing what U love and are passionate about and you will be successful, simply by seeing others be happy… Which I’ve already learned (thankfully) and U will know the true pleasures of life:)

    XO~ Laura

  • Matt
    You’re deep and wise enough to understand your own feelings, so I don’t want to be telling you something you already know; just a reminder…
    If you’re scared, it’s because you care so much about what you do. If you were an arrogant so and so, you wouldn’t give a toss. But you do care, you care deeply that your message remains authentic, and that you yourself aren’t portrayed as some Beverly Hills glitter boy – having followed you for a while now, it’s clear this just isn’t you. Perhaps the blog is also comforting because you also have more of an element of control over it, and the message, and what happens to that message. When your book and you are exposed to the big wide world and every journalist and talk show this side of Oprah, then I think it’s understandable that part of the fear may stem from what happens once it’s out of your hands. A bit like Chinese whispers – you can’t control the message once it’s out of your hands, and what interpretations people put on it. As a writer and a bit of an introvert, I can relate to feeling more at home with the blog. It’s more personable; you get to say exactly what you want in the way that you want to, and no one is going to glitz up, edit, re-take, re-word or cut down completely your message and its natural flow. Your blog comes from the heart – and that’s the way it should be, and why you have such a huge following. But you know that by now! So I guess it’s natural to feel more comfortable and enjoy the ‘intimacy’ you have with your blog and its audience, and why you keep coming back to it (and also keep producing those little youtube vids for us). They are the vehicles through which you have the most control over your message, and how it is delivered, without it being misconstrued, diluted, or, the “he’s too young” etc comments that we know you’ve been subject to. Write from the heart, when the mood strikes, when you have something to say, and you will nourish not only us, your readers, but also nourish yourself, because it is one of the things you most love doing.

  • Matthew,

    It definitely has been a privilege to get your emails. If I could, I would buy a million of your books! I have loved your numerous videos on YouTube, and I simply find it fantastic how human and spot on you are. I am completely blessed to have found you! I was going through a terrible point in my life and meeting all the wrong types of guys. Now I’m at a place in my life where I believe I can do anything I want to do! It’s cliche… But it took some time to get there, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. Tonight, I’m watching “Ready For Love” and smiling from ear to ear waiting for your appearance,!! I will always support, and you deserve every part of success you get! I hope to see you here in the U.S.! :)

  • Hey Matt,

    The passionate you put forth in your work has always inspired me, and has motivated me to put forth the same amount of passion in my own life. You have the wonderful gift of positively influencing and changing a life; how bloody beautiful is that? Never be afraid to share that gift. You’re headed for so many great things, and it absolutely brilliant to watch it all unfold.


  • Hi,

    I really like this post. It shows one more time the vulnerability inside you and how you go over your fears and doubts. I just like it.

    Best wishes,

  • Hi matt. U are just different, special and wonderful. Thanks for appreciating our little contribution. Thanks 4 ur interesting and educating article . Just believe in urself and do ur thing in ur best way. U are good, always love ur article and I love too

  • Hey Matt! Congratulations on your new show. I watched it last night. I was sooo excited to see you on the screen! You were awesome! I must say the show is going to be a lot of people’s favorite to watch every week. I preordered your book as well and I’m anxiously waiting to read it. Your advice is invaluable. Thank you for everything you do. =)


  • Matt!!

    All the best for your book! I know it’s going to be a roaring success!!!

    Get the guy is helping me at so many levels, I can’t even begin to you :) Can’t thank you enough. Really want to give back to you and your whole team too. Will figure out a way and call your office in London.

    Feels great to see how all the love comes back to you – with so many people rooting for you!

    And you’ve also launched get the girl! Congratulations!!! this is just brilliant :) You are brilliant! I bet you get that a lot, but you really are just brilliant.

    Thank you for being who you are and doing what you do. Even though you’ll be busier than ever and I’ve never spoken to you or met you, I feel like I know you. You deserve the best of everything in life. Really excited for you!!! I know your success is just going to keep growing because you’ll keep growing and still be sincere, grounded, fun and brilliant.


    Pragya xxx

  • Hi Mat,

    Thank u for staying true to yourself in any circumstances. We love u and the world love u. Go out there and rock the world Mat. :*

  • I Just Love you Sooo baad …you don’t know how touching your words to me …very lucky to have you <3 :*

  • Hey Slacker!
    Sounds like you are setting new records each day with your TV show and radio appearances!! They will feel as natural as a trip to the coffee shop soon!! So glad your blog feels like home. Having all these wonderful new friends from the recent retreat is like home for me and receiving support is something I am much more grateful for now as well as Thrift Shop :-) Sending you love and best wishes for the coming week.

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