3 Simple Ways to Make Tonight Count!

In the video below I talk about one of the things I love most about my new show: that you can go out the very same night and practice what you learnt on the show.

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Well tonight is Friday night. And I want to ask you a simple question:

Are you going to spend tonight analysing, or taking action?

So many times in my events women will spend their time analysing a current situation, instead of figuring out how to go and take action that might bring them a new situation. Or at least figuring out what action they can take in their current one. Analysing is often just another form of waiting, and you know what I say constantly:

At any given moment you are either WAITING or CREATING.

Will you stay in or make something happen? (Photo: AehoHikaruki)

I want to make sure that this Friday night you are out there creating. So here are three ways you can make this Friday night count.

1. Go somewhere you wouldn’t normally go.

Choose a place to go this evening that isn’t on your normal list of top places to go. Women are always asking me where to meet good men. Well you might just find somewhere with a better quality of man than your average place. At the very least you’ll meet men you don’t bump into usually because you won’t be at your regular. And if it sucks, well it’s one more place you’ve been to that you know not to go to again.

2. Choose one thing you want to get better at tonight.

You may decide your eye contact isn’t great, that your glance needs to be a little sexier, or more prolonged. Great! Focus on that. You may decide you’re really bad at being approachable. No problem. Just spend the night getting closer to the people you’re attracted to, maybe even just saying the word ‘hi!’ when you’re standing next to someone so that they have a cue to start. Just focus on doing one thing better tonight rather than adding 10 new tools to your belt.

3. Introduce rest times.

Treat it like you would treat a productive day at work. You can’t work for 8 hours straight and remain productive the entire time. Nor is it easy to stay out all night and remain sociable and proactive the entire time. Work in 10-15 minutes bursts. Make it a game i.e. “For the next 10 minutes I’m going to talk to people, then I’m going to chat with my friends, dance, relax… whatever”. This is also a good technique for ensuring you don’t look desperate. When you know you’re not going to be chatting to some new guy for the next hour, you look more confident and in control because you know you’re not sticking around.

Question of the day!

What are your plans tonight? And how are you going to try to use them to move forward in your love life? Let me know in the comments below.

Enjoy your night lovelies!

Matthew xxx


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  1. Marie-Anne says:

    Thanks for the 3 tips, they’re simple, concrete and most importantly, down to earth. Great way to introduce a change!

  2. Stephania says:

    hey matt i have been a great fan of yours since well more than 3 years ago and i don’t know, I’m a bit disappointed, not with you or your program, I’m sure it works, but i live in mexico which is literally next to th US and well i can’t get your book, no live events and sometimes not even the small videos you upload…i know because of the language is not easy to open yourself to this market, but there are thousands of mexican women who love you, understand you and most important, need you. please, consider it, the world goes far beyond the US.

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  4. Celine says:


    I took your advice and ended up changing my plans entirely :P. I ended up on a trip out of town, and then went to my first wine tasting at a local vineyard – I ended up meeting a tonne of awesome people!
    Here’s to a weekend I’ll never forget!


  5. Jane says:

    Hey Matthew,
    Really like your advice. Just pre-ordered your book a few days ago, can’t wait to read it!
    Just wondering, are you ever going to come to Australia to do your live events? :)

    • gettheguy says:

      Thanks so much Jane!

      Right now we’re setting our sights on the US – one big continent at a time :) But I really hope I can come over in the near future, so stay tuned.


  6. mildred says:

    Hi mat i just want to say a big thanks for mentoring me its just that i think to hear from you on phone i have alot to talk about ,thanks once more

  7. Yuetching says:

    Hi!Matt!! Thanks for your tip as always. I don’t think I will master them straight away, but am working at it. Thanks as always!!!x

  8. Louise says:

    Great exercises but your video isn’t avaible in Sweden :(

  9. Audrey says:

    I am going out tonight, but deciding with friends/acquaintance where to go – movie for starters.

    I am going to go with the flow, but make better eye contact.
    Wearing a new dress and going for the polished. elegant, sophisticated look. No cleavage wars with this other woman who dresses sleazy. I am going for class :)))

  10. Learning says:


    Where I am kind of interested in maybe going on one of the retreats. Where can I find the cost break down? I live in MN, but am kind of looking at the Florida one in October as the dates are right for my work.


  11. Madalyn says:

    Just saw the commercial for your new show…how exciting!!! Congratulations on this new venture!

  12. Paige says:

    I watched your videos and subscribed to get tips from you a few weeks ago but finally,after reading this today I decided to go out with some friends tonight. I tried to keep all your past tips in mind and to practice these “3 ways to make tonight count.” I can’t recall the last time that a guy I just met in public asked me for my number and the first night I really tried your tips, I got asked for my number by 2 different guys!I was feeling so confidant and great! Thank you so much for the help. I’m seriously shocked it is so simple and really worked for me so far! I can’t wait to read your book when it comes out!

  13. Caroline says:

    Hey Matt,
    I love your tips – the point is I already have someone I fancy but this guy has a girlfriend now. Any tips for getting him back?

  14. Lisa says:

    I love your enthusiasm. I am definitely a people
    person. I never have a problem chatting with
    strangers. I had to laugh when I saw your comment
    on analyzing a situation. I find I do that because
    I am an investigator work wise so it tends to
    spill over into my personal life but tonight I
    won’t be sitting at home to analyze anything.
    Heading into Boston to meet an old guy friend &
    I haven’t seen in 15 years & meet some new ones. Life
    is just too short to be sitting it out. I have the great guy &
    we have a great relationship but new tips always
    go along way so I make it to our 2 year & more.
    Thanks for this, it’s great.

  15. Alexandra says:

    OMG what a coincidence! Today is my birthday and I’m planning to hang with my friends at a place completely new!! I needed these words to put an extra effort to make this night memorable! I don’t want to analyze every single situation anymore! I’m tired of being on the background making assumptions on every guys that crosses my path! Tonight I’ll make it official to be a woman who creates opportunities rather than waiting for then to happen! Enough waiting!

    I know my biggest problems when I go out are; first, I feel like I can’t be free and be myself. For some reason I hold back a lot just because I’m afraid to apear crazy to the eyes of the American people! I mean my Latin fire can be very intimidating! Second, for some reason I get very shy when I want to talk with a very attractive guy and so on.. So today I’ll start to live freely! I’m not scare anymore! I’m 23! !! Let’s enjoy life!

    • Hillary says:

      OMg me too I’m exactly like you I’m latin and always afraid to appear crazy in the eyes of other people and can never be myself with new guys! Love You have fun

      • Alexandra says:

        Thank you Hillary! I had a great night and I think as I grow older that shyness goes away! So I pray that one day I’ll have none. :) good luck friend!!

    • kelly duffy says:

      FEAR NOTHING…!!!…., BUT GOD!!!…23…be you , become your best, worry about noone elses opinions…n let that fire side come out!!!

      • Alexandra says:

        Thank you Kelly! I will! I am already doing it! It’s just a matter of time to get more comfortable about it.

  16. N. H says:

    Thank you Mathew, I learned a lot. I have a great smile and eyes, but my problem is that I am shy and I attract wrong guys! I have dated tons of men and I haven`t liked them. with each guy, I found a fault. I guess I am scared to get settled down! lol
    Have a great night,

  17. bela says:

    Hi Matt
    I’m amazed by the skills and knowledge you always present.
    I’m just wondering which course and Uni did you finish?

    Bela xxx

  18. sarah says:

    Well tonight!I’m feeling depressed and things out of my control.

  19. Kathryn says:

    Evening Matthew,

    You must be right about small shifts making all the difference, as you have always had a lovely warm smile but you seem more radiant than usual. We can see how important it is to look engaging. Not sure it’s important to have lines, how do you deliver them whilst sounding sincere. Maybe that’s not the point : ) think I have a lot to learn Lol

    Kathryn x

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Kathryn,

      It’s ALL about the delivery. That’s what people pick up on.

      Thanks for commenting!


  20. Ildiko says:

    Tonight i will practice the “let go of the outcome rule”. So I am in creating mode and will go to a new place.

    Just don’t know what to do with the overflow of attention… So I’m taking my girlfriends with me ;)


  21. Lee says:

    Hi Matt,

    I’ve just got over my jet lag, which is good because I’ve just been invited to a house warming party – I’m going to talk every guy there!

    Lee (aka the leader)


  22. RosaRot says:

    Hey Matthew,
    i´m from germany and i would love to see this video!!But for some mysterious reason it is imppossible to see this in my country. it would be great if you can change this.
    greetz :)

  23. Bria says:

    Matthew, you’ll be so proud. Some friends and I are hosting a chill happy hour tonight! This is something brand new (to me) that I’ve starting creating thanks to your inspiration. I’m forwarding this blog post to a few of my friends who are coming for inspiration. Have a great weekend!

  24. Shirley says:

    Hey Matt,

    Your email came at a perfect time! My mother and I are traveling in Chicago and decided to splurge on dinner tonight at the Michelin Star rated Sixteen restaurant in the Trump tower. We don’t usually go to places like this, so we hope to put your advice to good use and meet some new friends while we’re in town.

  25. Michelle says:

    I love your blog :)))

  26. Carmen says:

    Hi Matthew, have been reading and watching your videos.Also registered to see you in NYC in april. I found you at a right time in my life.

    Thank you,

  27. Petra says:

    Hey Matt,

    Great piece, thanks for that. Unfortunately I’m booked for tonight. Ringing a friend (New Ritual #1 – more in touch with my friends) and then going to my neighbour for some catching up and talking about last week haha! ;)

    PS: LOVE the cover of the American book, looks hot! – even though the inside is what counts and I love that even more!

    Keeping being such an inspiration!


  28. Amy says:

    It’s Friday night yipee and since I don’t get out as much being a single mom I get comments alot on my eyes , smile and legs so I will rock that but being very shy of a person I will start talking more adding with my smile like a quick hi or something , hopefully it will create something for me make me more confident in myself, so thanks Matt small steps , I will rock my assets then create a little more !!!

  29. laura says:

    We’re excited to watch it on Girl’s Night and cheer you on! We’ve already seen progress in working together on your tips and in encouraging each other to be brave – ready for more!

  30. Janey says:

    Ur funny Matt, it’s all well and good the flirting and eye contact & working on conversation, it’s tricky to know if the guy u like/want is married, has a girlfriend,. i’m at the age where most men are married or their girlfriend’s just had a baby! What are those signs, how would i know all my efforts will be wasted on someone already taken!

    Love J x

  31. Kerly says:

    Love you Matthew!
    Can’t wait to see the show! I’m sure it’s amazing..
    After all you’re in there!
    Wish u all the best! Xxx

  32. Graziela says:

    Well, after reading your advice about friday,night..i m getting much more excited to go out. I m a kinda of a perdon that loves comfortable zones and i m ready to leave this pattern behind. It never took me anywhere in life..so i m ready to move foward..i ll let u know tomorrow how my friday went…

  33. Star-Star says:

    Hi Matthew! You’re indeed my hero. Your mail came in right on time. I was in between discussion with a girlfriend about what to do tonight, and it was leaning towards dvd and wine at home, but that’s changed now! I’m bringing out a little black dress, my dancing shoes, and going out with my A-Game and will knock the guys dead with my killer gaze (not in a creepy way though lol) Thanks for the tip, have a lovely friday evening :)
    P.s- Couldn’t view the video :( I’m a fan from Lagos Nigeria.

  34. Thirza says:

    Hi Matthew i have one question for you can you answer my email
    That iv’e have send Bie???

    I you have Time affcours,

    Thanks for everything and lovely Greetz From the netherlands ;)

  35. Mary says:

    Dear Matthew,
    I was going to stay in tonight because of the cold weather but now I think I’ll head out – I actually have a networking event to attend (alas it is only for females)!! – but I could meet someone on the tube! you never know!

    Your tv show looks amazing – will we be able to watch it in the UK?
    many thanks,

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      So great to hear Mary!

      The tv may come out later in UK, but I haven’t got confirmation just yet. Fingers crossed!


  36. Wave says:


    The video can’t be viewed from Sweden (“the uploader hasn’t made this video available in your country”), any way to upload it so that we can see it from here too?

    Kind regards,

  37. Zara Brown says:

    I cant seem to watch the video because im in the UK :/

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