Are Men REALLY Turned Off By Intelligent Women?? THE TRUTH!

It’s often believed that there is an unfair bias against those women with high IQ’s in dating. Women are attracted to smart men, they say, but guys feel threatened by women who challenge them too much in the brains department.

But is that stereotype actually true??

In this week’s blog video, I’m going to reveal the 100% honest answer based on my research on men and attraction. If you’re a smart person and have ever felt compelled to hide your knowledge from guys in conversation, then you REALLY need to hear this advice…

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  1. Clara says:

    Love the VDO. But sexy & adorable dimples also do the tricks:)

  2. Kelly Tempest says:

    Thanks Matthew. Not really fussed with intelligence, but the advice to get out and meet more people was appealing. That’ll work.

  3. Primala B Subramaniam says:

    I love you marry me

  4. Hayley says:

    I love watching these videos and seeing the different clothes and settings you choose for the topic at hand: smart suit for a conversations about “smarts” ;-). And I love that you distinguished the difference between intelligence and knowledge. It’s time to get real and accept that how we act determines how we are perceived. Now, I just have to maintain the level of confidence and social intelligence that I have on a first date throughout the relationship.

  5. D says:

    Thanks for the insight. I guess if mean are turned off by intelligence, you probably don’t want to be with them anyway!
    People have always recognized that I was intelligent even when I made an effort to hide it, but often times I find that men are either intimidated by it or they lack the ability to appreciate it-in which case I feel like less than a person and it is intellectually unfulfilling. I agree with many women here that it is hard to find a man equal in intelligence that I’m attracted to although I think this goes back to what Matt was saying about finding the right “venue” to meet intelligent guys.
    …And THAT I realize is my biggest problem. Is this what online dating comes in handy for?

    • D says:

      I see myself speaking of intelligence and I forgot to re-read before posting…”I guess if **MEN** are turned off by intelligence…”

  6. Rebecca says:

    Matt I rarely comment on your videos, (not because I don’t love them, because I do!) but because I rarely have anything useful to say in return. This video really made me think about the way I speak to people and the type of energy and intelligence I bring to conversations and I’m so thankful because I’m guilty sometimes of being the “pompous academic”. I also have lots of moments where I really do vibe with people so I know I’m not always that way, but I can definitely do it sometimes, especially when I’m annoyed at somebody (oops). Thank you so much again for your invaluable insights and wisdom! By the way I’m digging the long hair.

  7. jocelyn choi says:

    I think your advice is always insightful. Yes, one very intelligent person (who I know is more book smart than I am) always makes me feel good when I do something well.

  8. Alexandra says:

    I have a bit of a problem. I keep on bringing one of my problems of one of my old relationships into my new relationship. How do I stop that?

    I used to be with someone, on and off, for some time and when he finally kind of ”broke up” with me I was crushed. He saw the love of his life and pursued her. He is happy in a serious relationship. I want that too, for myself.

    I had other relationships since then, but I can’t commit myself. I am the cheater in almost every relationship that I tryed since then. I am the one that keeps hurting people.

    It is been years since then, I’ve moved on but. Also, I keep sort of running for the hills when things start to get serious.

    So, I would really love to find out what can I change about me.
    Thank you very much, you are a life changer. you helped me enormously since I’ve descovered you.

    Take care, Alex.

  9. jess says:

    never thought of it this way. helpful

  10. Sarah says:

    This is SO very true. I’ve had all of these same thoughts/ideas running through my head.

  11. Dinorah says:

    One of my favorite videos! In fact, it prompted me to leave my first comment. I hope that I fall into the “social intelligence” category. One problem that I encounter with that is because I can make people feel comfortable and have an ability to be genuinely accepting of many types of personalities, men equate that to mean that I am into them. I make it a practice to respect physical space and not be touchy-feely and to be aware of my body language. Unless I am being social wih a guy I’m interested in—then I allow myself to be natural and flirtatious with him because that’s how I’m feeling. How does a woman walk that fine line of being socially intelligent and still attract her type of guy?

  12. Isa says:

    Relationships are not only about “conversation”,you have your peers and colleages for that. We have to find our inner “Marilyn Monroe” and learn to connect emotionally. A lot of very high IQ people have problem with social skills. Social skills and dating skills can be learn. Thank you Matt, I appreciate your ideas.

  13. Mary says:

    I think you missed the mark on those of us who are introverted and yet intelligent. No we don’t take any joy in working a room. But have a quiet intuition ( applied intelligence, perhaps) that shows up more as nurturing, the ability to seek win/win and advocate for others, that many men can appreciate. It’s not quickly evident of course. Society however values personality over character…. but character is what takes relationships the distance.

  14. ilana erlich says:

    hey matthew I’d love to come to one of your classes.Iv’e been trying to contact you about this on the email but you didn’t answered. so I’m waiting for your answer
    thank you
    p.s I really loved what you said on this video I really could relate to that.
    my email –

  15. Simone says:

    I don’t think that intelligent people are also socially intelligent. Socially intelligent is not the same thing as intelligent. That’s just having good social skills and doesn’t necessarily mean that a person is “intellectually elite”. There are those of us (like myself) that are very intelligent people that have high IQs that find it difficult in social situations. Sure, I can have an interesting conversation with fellow intellectuals and then have a conversation with the average Joe (if I can get past my awkwardness). But I don’t think that’s the issue. I feel like there are a lot of very knowledgable and smart people out there that end up almost “waisting” their time with people who can’t compete with them intellectually. I can tell you that no guy I have ever dated has been anywhere near my level and those relationships weren’t very gratifying at all. And I’m not trying to be mean, but they just weren’t capable of having profound academic or social conversations. It’s very hard when you’re interested in a guy and you find out that every guy you had a chance with simply can’t keep up, even when you’re not making it difficult. And it also sucks when the guys you like are out of your league socially. Like there are people that are “too cool for me”, and not necessarily because everybody in the world knows this person but because their personality and the way they carry theirself is too cool for me. For me personally, a lot guys avoid me because I think they can tell that I won’t be easy and because of my maturity. People like to say that I can be wise beyond my years, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like to have fun! I just never have the right people to have fun with! With all that being said, I find that it is so hard to find good HOT guys that will match you intellectually but also know how to have good time. Like where are they!? I’ve never seen one! I feel like they’re so rare! At this rate, it’ll take me forever to find the guy I’m looking for!

    • Julie says:


    • Julia says:

      I appreciated your response. I think I agree with you that not all “intellectually elite” are also “socially intellectual”, but, I think that what Matt is saying is that a person shouldn’the try to talk above people and if someone finds that they are doing this, then they should meet that person (or people) on “their level” and it may elicit a different response. I think this is also a way to “learn” social intelligence.

  16. Vera says:

    I guess I’m quite intelligent. Everyone says so but maybe I’m not really. I guess my “problem” is that I’m very very picky on men (which might be a result of my intelligence). I just cannot bother having a man by my side that suffocates me… I’m kinda rather on my own most of the time and in the meantime I love meeting my girlfriends. I even had guys assuming I’m lesbian. But I guess this is not true. I like men. Good, Im almost 30 now, I never had a boyfriend yet I’m a woman that turns heads. This is all very weird.
    And it is really weird because I use to attract men (or boys) that think, oh my, she is pretty, then again I don’t want a man (or boy) that likes me just because I’m pretty or something. I kind of also tend to like men that are out of my league or better said, TAKEN.
    Okay, this all has nothing to do anymore with intelligence. But I spend ages reflecting and reading on relationships, trying to better myself– and I kind of have the notion that the better a person I become the less men are a match for me (meaning, that they could help me evolve).
    We live in times now, where one can choose what kind of live to live and at times I ask myself, yeah, why having a relationship with a man? For security? I’ve become a master in making appointments with my girlfriends. The only real thing that I’d probably realy want a an is so he can push me forward… this is what men are capable of… VERY complicated. Yeah. This is my and I believe the reason I actually am bad at having a relationship is really myself ;)
    Anyways, thank you for sharing your knowledge with us women!!! Your videos are nevertheless fruitful!!!

  17. E says:

    I have never thought intelligence was something to be ashamed of. I have always thought it something to aspire to, hence why I read so much and try to educate myself and learn…

    Listening to your comments though its finally made sense to me why some think I am intelligent when reality is that I have a long way to go… Seems my “faking it” is working!

    I have found that many who consider themselves to be intelligent are actually pompous asses… they blame intellect but its basic manners that are lacking… I love that heady combination of brains and a bit of daftness. Its so dull to have your head shoved up your own backside all the time and it doesn’t smell of roses either…

    Thanks Matt.

  18. Steph says:

    Matthew, thanks for your 3 tips! Yes, it’s almost depressing how the pool shrinks when trying to find a peer. But I’m optimistic. :)
    I realized about a year ago that I had to do #1 and #3 in order to increase my odds. But I recently met a very intriguing man and went for it with #2… I stepped well outside my comfort zone to begin talking with him, and we’ve been having great conversations and he’s really pursuing it all! My concern is that he may be well “out of my league”. I’m a Mensan, but after a few conversations with him I see this dude is not the 2%; he’s the 0.02%! I’ve never been the type to try to win a man over with my intelligence, and understand we just need to connect and me be my truest self. But I find myself fearing I’m inadequate and that he’ll get bored with me. Logic tells me he knows he has few mental peers on earth, and that he wants a woman he can talk with but who doesn’t have to impress him. And yet I keep slipping back into that fear and the posturing that follows it. Any advice? Thanks!!!

    • Yulia says:

      Hi, I’d like to say congratulations on going outside your comfort zone for #2, that’s great! But, as reading your post I thought I’d relay my 2 cents. You mentioned that he is pursuing you (also great!), but, he is .02% and you are worried he may get bored. My thoughts are… first (and not necessarily in this order), he may. But, second perhaps you just need to “tweek” your worry into motivation. Maybe, you could ask him questions and learn from him, thus making you smarter, but, also connecting with him on a level that is (hopefully) genuine!

  19. Krista says:

    Matthew Hussey, your outfit is on point in this video! You’re killing it!

  20. Sarah says:

    Great advice, Matt. The poet Maya Angelou said “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
    It’s a tough world and humor and kindness are never wasted on anyone, (even if you don’t want to date them.)

  21. Barbara says:

    Thanks for this topic Matt! I’m so glad to hear that not I’m the only one struggling to find the matching partner in intelligence! Do you have maybe some ideas how to find that special group where similar minded people are? I’m wondering about it for a time now…

  22. Maria says:

    I think he’spot on. It kind of reminded me of what my mother used to tell me when I made snide comments when I was younger: if you really are smart, it will show. No need to rub it In. “Everyone to whom much was given, of him much will be required”. If you truly are the smartest person In the room, the onus is on you to contribute to the situation, it’s nobody’s job to entertain you.

  23. Marie-France says:

    Really like the distinction you make in the types of intelligence. I consider myself socially intelligent in that respect that I can have conversations with everybody independent of their social or academic background. The other remark on the size of the pound to fish in, is very relevant as well. My boyfriend made exactly the same comment last week, we are both (socially) intelligent, but in a relationship we like to have meaningful and deep conversations on all kinds of topics and this makes it much harder for us to find the right partner to settle with.
    However, I would like tp point out that it is also very challenging to be intelligent in a relationship as we (especially women) tend to overanalyze everything (and get frustrated) as well as tend to talk from our mind instead of from our hearts and try to connect on inttelectual rather than emotional level.
    I believe the main issue is thus not actually being intelligent and whether or not men are threathened by it, but the fact that many intelligent women try to connect on an intellectual rather than an emotional level which will never lead to a long lasting relationship (except in business).

  24. JJ says:

    Hello Matthew! I thought your comments were spot on. You find smart people where smart people enjoy being.
    I have a good I.Q. and I am a pretty 5’9″ woman with a lovely figure, but I’m too tall for many guys. As you can guess, they like to look, but that’s as far as it usually goes. My dating pool isn’t as large as I would like, however, I have the advantage of not attracting the truly insecure.
    Once I do get to know someone, this odd thing happens. The man in question starts respecting me…a lot. I get friended, however, they still seem attracted. Which means the only men who seem to feel they deserve me….are total narcissists. Ugh! This is my dilemma.

    • Barbara says:

      Thanks for this topic Matt! I’m so glad to hear that not I’m the only one struggling to find the matching partner in intelligence! Do you have maybe some ideas how to find that special group where similar minded people are? I’m wondering about it for a time now…

    • Emily says:

      Hey JJ,
      I’m 5’11” and I consider “too tall” merely a social construct. Whoever decided that “the man” should be taller than “the woman” I don’t know. I’ve never allowed height to limit my options when it comes to dating (believe me, I have plenty of other deal breakers) and have found men get excited to date me–it’s like the height difference is an extra challenge. Many of my boyfriends have been shorter than me, the shortest of which was 5’6″

  25. Mary says:

    What a perfect way of dealing with the intelligence question. Totally agree with what you say (and I don’t say that often to anyone :)).

  26. Ning says:

    I’m happy for this topic from you sweet Matt.
    Thanks for an intelligent advice.
    This is what i was wonder and a bit afraid to show how I am sometimes,
    but i already know when i feel not comfortable to show how I am with that peoples means he/her are maybe not suit me, and like you say when we are intelligent it’s attract to peoples intelligent around you, that’s so good :))
    And i think everybody that feel happy with this topic are intelligent ;)

    love you <3

  27. Katherine says:

    Thanks for addressing an issue that is not really brought up by most. Formerly I wondered as to if this intelligence with attraction combination really worked,or was true. Great video. Very helpful. Please post more of such videos in the future.

  28. Nat A says:

    Bril! Loved it, totally makes sense :)

  29. Sydney says:

    where’s your martini, Gatsby?

    • Sydney says:

      between the martini and the pipe, for a healthier alternative – I will get you some apple juice in a martini glass.

  30. Cass says:

    Interesting, made me feel better about having a brain

  31. Angela Davidson says:

    Love your videos and this makes sense. Thank you for this enlightenment.


  32. Georgia Alexandria Johnson says:

    I thoroughly enjoy the way you articulate the differences. I think social intelligence is so overlooked but even more so emotional intelligence. I would love to hear your thoughts on being emotionally aware of ones self as well as emotionally aware of others. Though social and emotional awareness may share similar qualities, they differ drastically as well. I’ve met many men who are funny and confident and all around good men l, yet their emotional intelligence is that of a young boy. I find the most frustrating part the fact I see the dysfunctions and they do not. Thanks for your insight. It is refreshing and sobering.

    • Barbara says:

      I agree! It would be helpful to see some thoughts about emotional intelligence, and how to recognise the lack of it!

  33. Julie MacKenzie says:

    Awesome advice ….as usual…Love how you broke it down… many different types there are…Thanks for that Matthew! ;) <3 I think you are very intelligent…& you definitely know how to work a room…Saw it first hand at The Retreat! So sexy…& so smart!

  34. Vanessa Vallozzi says:

    Love the video. It is spot on. It’s not intelligence that turn men off but how you apply it in different social situations.

  35. Vasiliki says:

    This evening I am going to “borrow” this poetic phrase coach:

    “He, whose thoughts are right and like the amaranthine bloom”


  36. Lani says:

    I liked this video.

    I know I need to meet more people seeing that dating is essentially a numbers game.
    This video is a reminder that you shouldn’t settle for a guy that bores you either.
    An interest can be attractive and have lovely personalities in general, yet you find them boring or it is a like chore to be around them when you are alone.

    I currently have a lot on my plate with working and studying part-time, it is insane the variety of people we are exposed to, I find networking refreshing. I am so thankful that I have reached a space in my life where I don’t need to endure bad company. If i don’t enjoy a party or event then I leave.

    Have a good week!

  37. Neethu Vimal says:

    So true. Intelligence for me really means knowing the peopleand applying it accordingly so that you can always be a giving energy. Most people can sense if our intelligence is a crooked one or if we use it for good

  38. Marta says:

    Brilliant! Never heard anybody going into this subject deeply and in a such intelligent way.

  39. Slm says:

    Hi Matt…well done Lad…the ‘other’ intelligence (which cannot really be confused w/ social intelligence) is emotional intelligence…and when one is accomplished in this area – the ‘numbers game’ just isn’t feasible or Fun. It is not Fun because more often than not, men fall for me and it is not reciprocal…I love men and just cannot lead anyone down the primrose path – though men don’t seem to have many issues w/ this – I can’t help but have consciousness around it..golly this may sound egotistical, but rest assured, dear Matt – this could not be further from the truth. Thank you for your time..

  40. Deborah Arrison says:

    Thanks, Matt! I kind of figured this to be the truth. I’m an academically intelligent person, and I am attracted to the intellectual type of guy. My dilemma is that I rarely feel physically attracted to the intelligent men I meet. The physical attraction is super apparent with the “not so smart” guys. Where can I go to find men like yourself?? ;)

  41. Elizabeth says:

    Thanks Matt! A very nice and interesting perspective. I was really struck by your comments on a “smaller pool”. And, expanding this is something I am working on. I realize it is critical in finding someone to build a long term relationship with.

  42. Cassie says:

    Thanks for this! I always used to think there was something wrong with me. My friends would do the “just go out with him; he’s a nice guy” thing. I’ve wasted hours and hours of my life trying to force myself to have interest in people I had absolutely no interest in whatsoever. There have really only been two I’ve ever met who’ve truly intrigued me and turned me on–and I’m 32 years old. I definitely need to get out more. I just find it so discouraging trying to meet people since there seem to be so few I truly enjoy being around–men or women. I don’t want to be an arrogant jerk about it, I’m just tired of wasting time.

  43. carla brandan says:

    Every day i feel so so diferent with all this new life i want to live, Thanks so much!!! It is so simple!! Thanks u make things so much easy, i can not wait to be in December in the retreat!!

  44. Kathleen says:

    The witty cutting woman – yep! That was me for years. I prided myself on it, and so did my friends. I mean I was REALLY good. I could have and unwanted creap of a man who approached our table, gone in less than 60 seconds. I was also single for that decade because I didn’t turn it off for the nice guys. I finally realized that I was bitter and angry towards me because of events in my past and got some counseling to address them.
    I’m still single, but I’ve learned to keep my cutting wit to myself and challenged myself to use my wit to build someone up with witty compliments instead of insults.
    Life is better with the bitterness left in the past and positive wit is more challenging to my intelligence. Win – win for me . . . and those on the receiving end of me.

  45. Anais says:

    Matt you are so intelligent, seriously! I’m a PhD student of sociology, and in my arrogant opinion, I think I’m the kind of socially intelligent person you described. xD

    I recently met a guy in a bookstore and we were able to connect immediately. We never run out of things to talk about, and we can be serious, funny, and sarcastic all at the same time. But we can also stare together at the beautiful moon for 30 minutes without talking. And we both agree that a shared silence is different from silence alone. It’s just wonderful, to the degree of making me scared.

    I just want to let you know that I’m your fan. And the lessons I’ve learnt from you helped me meet him and probably is helping me keep him right now.

  46. Julie says:

    Matthew you are fucking brilliant.

  47. Tasneem Daniels says:

    I like Mia’s response below too. Referring to the superiority vs. Inferiority complexes of a man when they interact with intelligent women. Also related to gender roles in society, yes. Would love to hear your thoughts on this too Matt. Please go into more depth!

    • Maria says:

      And while Matt is at it, how about adressing the money issue? I finally learned how to frame the intelligence issue to stumble into the “I make more mOney than you” issue.

  48. Tasneem Daniels says:

    This video was so insightful! I like it when you touched on taking risks with intelligent people in the smaller pool of life. Please elaborate on that specific point next time. Thanks Matt! Xxxx

  49. Lynda says:

    Thank you… So helpful. Love the statement

  50. Jennie Roberts says:

    Thanks Matt! I’ve never held back my thoughts or opinions just because I like a guy and I don’t think I’m pompous or cutting in how I share but now I’ll be more mindful of it. I figure if I’m kind about how I share my thoughts and it’s intimidating to a man, they’re re not the guy for me. (ps. I just corrected the wrong use of they’re…perhaps not as smrt as I thought)

  51. Mangalavati Citra devi dasi says:

    One can’t really give a generic answer to this question, which you also didn’t do. Some men are fascinated by intelligent women and others feel intimidated, so the wise woman (the socially intelligent one) will know exactly when to show her intelligence and when to play foolish. If the woman is more intelligent, for the sake of the relationship, it is better to let the man think he is more intelligent, to let him think all those brilliant ideas were his ;)

  52. Linda Morse says:

    That was a really intelligent video… :)

  53. Madison says:

    LOVED this video…Like them all but LOVE this one!


  54. Amy says:

    I love the way you broke this down and explained how one may be perceived. i was once turned down for a job for using ‘too many big words’ and so I definitely grew my social intelligence. I am socially intelligent and my life is oriented to finding just this type of partner-so far no luck but hey-you never know what’s just around the corner.

    • Coral says:

      A precise mental wish will bring you the partner that you’ll appreciate the rest of your life. The key, precise!! Blessings Amy!

  55. Veronika says:

    Yes! Yes! Yes! Intelligence is the key to success to protect from oblivious and to thrive in life. Be nice to people who are not as intelligent as u are.
    P.S. I like ur hair better this way -;) Good Share

  56. Isabel says:

    Yes! You have verbalized something that I have been thinking and feeling for a while. I enjoy your eloquence and simplicity. Genius. Thank you for being honest and for caring.

  57. Vyvian Stevens says:

    I’ve never had it broken down like that and I took notes it’s absolutely amazing I’m intelligent and want someone who is intelligent need to do your point surrounding myself and creating a lifestyle of intelligence and now that I’m a woman of a particular age who didn’t practice this at a younger age I also have a smaller group of people in my pool of options because of my age request to be over 48 years old

  58. Mara Greenwood says:

    Such a quality way to have spent my first moments of Sunday morning. Thanks Matt!

  59. Mia says:

    Yes of course you’ll have to have a social intelligence. But that goes for all most everything when you’re among other people.
    In a classroom, on work, being with friends and/or Family and so on. If you have a social intelligence it will be easier to get in contact with others.
    But that kind of intelligence can have a lot of difference outputs.
    You can be kind, sweet and carrying without “knowing your audience”, but still be a person who people will like to get know better.
    So this doesn’t answer the question wether intelligence scares guys off?
    I will have to say given the modern society, some guys are scared of by intelligent women, because of the gender roles. It can make the man feel like less of a man if the woman show to much intelligecnce, because he won’t be the superior sex – but then Again just a thought :-)

  60. Hilda says:

    Exactly what I need. To be around intelligent people which in my current environment are so few. I need to reach the high caliber population.

  61. A says:

    Matt: Beautifully spoken. I understand where I can come off as each of these forms of intelligent at times depending on my mood. After hearing this, I’ll definitely be more conscious of the way I handle myself in possible romantic and personal situations. Thanks much!

  62. Helle says:

    Hi Matt,
    Long time. You look great BTW.
    Great angle on the intelligence question. This applies to both men and women. I believe that the first two toxic kinds of display of intelligence is based in that persons insecurities. A truly knowledgeable and intelligent person uses that knowledge to enlighten others not to put them down. I find that you can have deep and fulfilling conversations with most people no matter the level of education. I would say if you feel you have to prove your intelligence to people you will alienate rather then interest.

  63. Mary K says:

    Hi Matt,
    Does making him feel needed compensate for this? Thanks!

  64. Chris says:

    Thanks for the sharing and could not agree you more on real intelligent people makes other feel good about themselves.
    Just curious on your last point regarding building a life-style that put us in the same venues as intelligent and interesting people?

  65. Jenny says:

    Matt! You’ve done it again! Thanks so much for your insight. This particular video made me feel like I’m actually doing everything right! I think social intelligence is something so important and we can’t learn it. And we often forget… People (not just the men we like or want to impress) will remember not what we say but how we made them feel. So thanks for th reminder and thanks for making me feel great today!

  66. Ana says:

    The only man that I found extremely sexy recently was more intelligent than I. I couldn’t believe how much it turned me on. However, I feel that I ruined it by showing him my admiration and giving up to his charms too quickly, and now I lost my chances.
    Before, almost always, it was the opposite. Men could be attracted to me but if I didn’t see them as being on the same level, I wouldn’t be interested.
    I wish I could find some happy medium in between these two options one day.

  67. Karen says:

    Thanks for this Matt. Its good to know there is a difference between being a pompous person and an intelligent person. I’ll be looking out for this. You rock, and keep the good vibes coming. Have an AWESOME week!

  68. Javeria says:

    Best video ever !!!

  69. Vicky says:

    Thank you for that video!

  70. Ashlea says:

    What absolutely floors me is this man’s perspective and way of delivering his research. I know some of us, women, focus on his looks because, well, we have eyes, lol. However, I’m constantly amazed how Matthew becomes my optometrist and gives me a whole new prescription on seeing the world. I’m a moderately bookish woman and have fallen into one of these categories either unintentionally out of sheer excitement for a subject or intentionally out of a place of fear and insecurity. Hopefully, I can get this dial calibrated right for my “next times.”

    Thank you again, Matthew! Fantastic job once again GTG team.

    • Jessica says:

      Well that is a subtle rebuke. I’ve commented here about half a dozen times and it’s the first time I’ve said anything personal about Matt. Fact it, it was totally genuine. That’s the best I’ve seen him look and I’m not against paying a compliment where it’s due. Isn’t that one of the things he teaches?

  71. Jessica Cornfeld says:

    Matt… This is SUCH a good look for you. I’ve never seen you looking so hot! The subtle check in your jacket really makes your eyes pop. Love the studious professor vibe, it’s such a yummy contrast with your physique and pretty face.
    Good comments too!
    Keep up the great work, brainiac…
    PS I hear Brian loves his madeleines.

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