Maybe it’s happened to you before: you knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him.
How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction…
Showing off my self after love
When he realized at our first date that was actually my birthday night. He took me to a coffe shop after dinner. Ordered a sliced cake with candle (secretly..but I knew he did and I didn’t mention it till the cake arrived). Everything after that went beautifully for four months now.
He told me he is barely 28years old and he was along me for Interior design ideas since he was planning build a bungalow by 29years.
I just loved how fucused and determined he was.
When we went shopping and as we left the shop he automatically took all of my bags out of my hands, and carried them on top of his own bags like it is the most normal thing in the world. He didn’t think or hesitate for a moment, didn’t even stop telling his story. For him it was nothing, for me it was everything. In that moment I fell in love a little bit. :)
Every year on the anniversary of my Dad’s death, I get breakfast at McDonald’s. It was a Saturday morning ritual for my dad and me when I was young. A few years ago, I mentioned to the man that I was dating that I was going to McDonalds the next morning and why. That following day, he texted me a photo of a McDonalds bag. He had gone there too, to honor me honoring my dad. It’s probably one of the sweetest gestures anyone has done for me.
My X hub was embarrassed to cry in front of me during a movie. I was crying so hard and caught him tearing up. I looked over and said it’s beautiful and totally ok if you cry. It shows strength not weakness.
My ex BF and I were going to a horse thing. I was running out of the house with my gear thinking I was making us late and found he’d gone and loaded my horse and tack in the trailer for me, and secretly poured me a coffee and had it waiting in the truck. AND he was completely relaxed and not concerned about the time. I was floored and completely hooked just like that :-)
I would get this fuzzy feeling when I noticed how shy he got when I spoke about something and he would turn a light pink and smile uncontrollably.
We were at a diner when had first started seeing each other. He saw an old military photo on the wall and recognized it as the man behind the counter. The man appeared to have some physical disabilities and couldn’t speak well. My date asked him if the photo was of the other man, shook his hand and thanked him for his service.
He told me it was when he had a nosebleed and I told him about the nasal gel that my son uses to help prevent them. He said that told him that I cared.
For me it’s when someone actually brings up something I’ve said because to me it shows they are listening to me instead of just hearing me talk
I love
When he told me that his most enjoyable work is when he was a Country manager of a seed company and teaching the farmers how to plant hybrid rice. His other jobs after that are more for heavy industry. I just have soft spot for people who find the values of farmers and treat them well.
How terrible is it that no one has ever said anything like that to me? I’m 51 years old and have never experienced most of what Matthew discusses as positives.
While volunteering to clear the tables of dirty dishes at a friend’s wedding after the second course, the best man got up and offered to leave the head table to go around with my serving partner and I to hold the heavy container and take it back to the kitchen.
I had a serious exam which if i passed it i could be medical intern and we had so many troubles in our relationship and used to argue and break but in whole 2 months i was studying whenever i want to be mad and break , he controled me and himself , made me relaxed and afterall warned me that we have time to argue and was taking care of me and my studing all the time .
at the last minute, I decided to bring a bottle of wine for us to share on our first date on the beach and that’s when he knew I was someone he could see himself spending his whole life with
He stayed with me for sometime and he did the dishes. I made him coffee once and put a heartshape chocolate granule topping just to be creative and the next time he made it for us he also did the same. So sweet how he reciprocated my gestures and I didn’t expect how much it made my heart happy. I instantly fell in love with him.
I am 63…going out with someone for 3 years ..he is not an emotional/touchy/ feely person….but 2 things have happened in the last 3 months which have made me see him differently….and I realised what a kind person he is and what a connection we really do have
i knew a guy from online dating…became friends through chatting exchanging our life experiences…he is oldee than me 13 years..first i don’t like him as a partner i am even want to him to escort a auntie of mine…but he said don’t pass me to anyone..it is you i like not any other woman…he started seeing me personally from other country he travel just to meet me for so many times…i saw how serious and clean his intension and how he respect me and i realized that i already liked him…like him not because he has a great job and status in life..i liked him because of how he show me character and behaviour