I must have read the same comment 1000 times now: “Matt, all your advice tells us women we have to do everything, while men get away with being lazy, useless, selfish, etc. How is that fair?”
If you’ve ever even vaguely felt that the dating game is rigged unfairly against you, I really need you to hear this…
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So happy to hear “good enough” isn’t good enough for someone other than me!
I love what you say Matthew and I couldn´t agree more!! There´s a beautiful quote, it´s “don´t treat people as bad as they are, treat them as good as you are”. And I won´t stop following it, because I want to love myself each and every day and treating people in a warmhearted, kind and loving way, that´s how I can look into the mirror and love what I see. Thank you so much for everything!
Hugs from Vienna
I have never felt that the dating game is rigged unfairly against me, as a woman.
Thankfully!
But I’m surprised to hear that other women feel this way …
Hopefully by listening to messages like this one you can realize that it’s not so.
:)
Thank you Matthew for another great message – you’re so sweet and kind and it comes across so well in your videos that it often makes me teary-eyed. In a good way!
Keep it up.
Wonderful Matthew! We are all PEOPLE, who should strive to be the best version of our selves. If for nothing else, than for making the world a btter place. Just like you are :)
…randomly put in an “e” to make it better ;)
Loved the video…we should always be the best we can be…;)
Mathew I don’t take your advice only in one prospective…i just want to be kind and humble and a bit more understanding in every type of relation I share … I never have miss understood you ..you are my teacher and my guide …if I have become kind and understanding towards the people (strangers as well as towards the people I know) just because of you.. so lot of love stay happy stay blessed .
Misunderstood *
I just left a relationship where I was investing more in it than the guy was… and as I was going through the process of realizing that my efforts were not being appreciated or reciprocated; I kept thinking about Matthew’s advice to not put more energy into it than the other person. That a person who is worthwhile will contribute to develop a relationship. In fact, as this guy let me down quite a few times, I could almost imagine what Matthew would say along the lines of “Don’t do more! This guy isn’t worth it – move on!” I don’t regret that I made that effort – because I believe in being kind and generous. And I’m glad that I moved on.
And am looking forward to giving compliments to someone who will appreciate them ; )
Thank you Matthew Hussey!
The longer I follow Matt’s videos and teachings, the more I realize how happy I am on my own. The dating I’ve done and relationships I’ve been in were only because it’s what others seemed to think I should do. I’m tired of being what everyone else wants me to be. It’s miserable. I have a life to live and I’m done seeking others’ approval. Thanks Matt
Amen! I second Cassie’s comments. I started watching casually, while curious to put myself out there more, and make more of an effort. Matt, you’ve really helped me discover my inner confidence, but also acknowledge habits and flaws that I can improve on – most importantly – without beating myself up.
And that has given me HOPE, encouragement to work on MYSELF, which makes it easier to be alone for the most part, but more confident when a guy DOES strike my fancy.
I don’t know who these people are, it seems sad to be so bitter. I’ve never had a problem paying a compliment – even to someone I didn’t like – if I thought it was due. I don’t see your advice as telling us we have to do all the work at all – if anything, I feel like it shows us where to invest and where to not try so hard.
Your encouragement has been absolutely priceless, and even though I’m still working on me, I’ve noticed more attention due to the confidence you’re helping me find. You rock! <3
Thank you, Matthew, for being an incredible, caring and accountable man for your audience. This Thanksgiving Week I’m thankful for you as a person of integrity. Linda
Hell Yes, and that is what I’m talking about!!!! Boom !!!!. That is why I love about you. The essence YOU. A beautiful caring, loving genuine soul. thank you for this video I’ve always known and understood that this is your intention. But some people do not understand the strategy’s of business and what is needed to share your passion. It like fishing for fish. How in the business world marketing is like casting the hook into the pond to catch your fish. You are brilliant and thank you for today’s Video. Forever a follower of you and love of what you create. Your soul Sister from New Zealand – Liz Hoffman
Thank you very much for interesting subjects video!
I have been showing some of your videos,
I really impressed and decided to change my life.
Thank you
Hello Matt,
I would love to meet you face to face but I don’t think that would ever happen. I’ve been watching your videos for about almost a year now. I’ve learned so much from you and also about myself along the way. I want to write to you this time to affirm the core message in this video.
Earlier this year I started texting and hanging out with a crush. In the beginning, I didn’t know how to act (given my lack of experience in romantic relationships), so I fell into the trap of analyzing every text received and trying to figure out how to respond to keep him interested. It was exhilarating! My mood would changed depending on his response.It was like, I was at the mercy of his behaviors.
This game of over analyzing and reacting started to become exhausting to me. One of my core values is authenticity and I realized that I wasn’t being my real self with him. I was afraid that he wouldn’t like me anymore if he sees my authenticity. On the other hand, while he was attracted to me, his attraction was merely hooking up level. I was open to exploring whatever was happening but his texts were always short and came weekly. It drove me nuts because I’m a talkative person by nature and I text the same way I talk (meaning I send long texts). A few months after we started texting, I gave up trying to be someone I wasn’t and started to reply the same way I would reply to a friend: Long texts or carrying on conversations. My thinking was, it doesn’t matter how he perceives my texts or how I behave, I want to be me. Being me means I engage without expecting anything in return. If he reciprocates, wonderful. If not, I won’t be disappointed. I felt liberated when I made that decision to be authentic, regardless of his judgement or perception of me. I am the only one who who wear my shoes and I want to be the best person I can be.
Thank you for sharing this video.
You are incredible. Love the message and the warmth and depth with which it was delivered. I find myself coming here continually to have my thinking challenged and I’m never disappointed! :)
I don’t want to merely live by the golden rule. I want to do more unto others than I want them to do unto me and I know I can do it. Took me a while to get my “force of nature girl” attitude back after the death of my husband but living proof it can be done! Matt- your info is terrific. Insightful and makes you think. Thank you!
That was very consider but for me a married women that had stumbled w/ partner i can used your advices here to lead my step ahead. Which i have been asking tons of times to get divorce but still stuck. Been shared from 1989/ get married.frustrated
Wow, Matthew. I’m surprised people have made these comments to you. I’ve always found your videos, blog posts, podcasts, etc to be so encouraging and helpful. I have always appreciated your focus on helping women understand men, and have always viewed your insight as helping me to learn how to date better. Your advice has helped me become more confident in the way I interact with guys I’m interested in or dating, and more confident in walking away when a person isn’t right. And honestly, if I’m into someone, I WANT to put effort into making him feel appreciated without chasing him away. I’ve never felt like you’ve told us to do all the work. I’ve honestly felt like you’ve told us how to interact so that we get treated well and get the interest we deserve. I’m so grateful for your insight. And also, as a person with 3 jobs who struggles to make ends meet, your array of free help has been a godsend. Thank you for what you do, and please don’t get discouraged. You are helpful and funny and kind and sincere and have truly made a difference in my relational happiness. Cheers!
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Matt, pls do a video on how to deal with bf/husband who checks out other woman. I understand that they will always be good looking people around but still sometimes the way they look at girls is just disgusting, it’s like they are undressing the girl in front of you.
The girl will also be thinking she must be really awesome if a guy with a gf/wife beside still checks her out. It also says ike if she flirts with him he will go home with her.
And what if even after talking abou this issue he still does the same.
Love the message, Matthew! Yes, who we are at our core should not depend on the behavior of others. We should always strive to be the best version of ourselves no matter how other people behave/don’t behave/react/don’t react. Thank you for the reminder: “Who do you want to be?” and “Personable responsibility and accountability.” Love it!
Well said Matthew
My outlook entirely Be The Best You you can be always